No matter how bad your marriage may seem right now, the fact is you CAN stop your divorce. The most important thing is to simply believe it’s possible to do so. Once you believe your marriage can be saved, you’re halfway to actually saving it. The simple belief will cause you to unconsciously do things that will help make things better between the two of you.
Stop Your Divorce with the Power of Increasing Intimacy
Of course, belief is only going to get you part way there. In order to completely stop your divorce, you’re going to need to take a few concrete actions and make a few changes in the way you interact with your spouse. Don’t worry, though. The steps you need to take aren’t difficult, and if you’re really motivated to save your marriage, they won’t seem like a burden at all.
Level Of Intimacy
The first thing you need to do (once you’ve got the belief part down) is to think about the level of intimacy in your marriage. Chances are, it’s lacking. That’s not unusual, as lack of intimacy is one of the leading causes of divorce. It’s not just lack of physical intimacy that can ruin a marriage, either.
Lack of emotional intimacy can be just as damaging. Ask yourself, are you and your spouse open with each other about your thoughts and feelings? Or, do one or the other of you keep your innermost thoughts to yourself and keep parts of your true selves hidden from each other? These are more common problems in marriages than you might think, but ones that need to be corrected if you want your relationship to have a chance of succes.
Marriages work best when true emotional intimacy is there. So, one of the first things you need to work on is being more open about yourself with your spouse. Share your thoughts, feelings, fantasies, and worries with him on a regular basis. It might be difficult at first, but making an effort to do so is very important. If it’s your spouse who keeps himself hidden, gently encourage him to share with you by asking him frequently what he’s thinking and how he feels.
A spouse feels shut out if you aren’t sharing yourself with him. When someone lives with another person, it becomes easy to tell when something is on that person’s mind. If you don’t share what the things on your mind are, your spouse will feel shut out of your life, and that will drive a wedge between the two of you.
So, to stop your divorce, start being more open with each other. Many marriages have been saved from simply this one act alone. Even if your relationship has more problems than just lack of intimacy, adding it to your marriage will only help things.
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