Alright, I guess I’m going to go against the grain here by claiming that it is OK to beg and plead for an ex back. If you’ve been searching information for longer than 5 mins on “How to Get Your Ex Back” then you’ll find a lot of people preaching that you should NEVER beg or plead an ex to come back… in fact it is one of the deadly SINS to getting an ex back.
Well, it’s not quite that tramatic. The fact is, it is the NORM to be amongst the beggers and pleaders. In fact, if you were one of the few who DIDN’T beg or plead at all for an ex after your break up, I’d seriously be questioning whether you cared enough for your ex to begin with.
That’s right, the reason why I’m giving the GREEN for beggers and pleaders is the fact it’s NOT the devil, but in fact a sincere sign that you genuine CARE VERY DEEPLY for the person who is breaking up with you. And you as someone who cares and loves, have an intrinsic NEED to express those emotions when stakes are this HIGH.
People NEED to be and feel loved, it is a SURVIVAL mechanism for most, and if you take it away, people will do ANYTHING to hold onto it. That is human nature… LOVE sits at the center of our core and drives us through our daily lives… there’s no use trying to hold back on how you really feel because suppressing it will only cause those feelings to manifest elsewhere equally as unpleasant and uncontrollable.
Now I’m not saying you should CONTINUE to beg or plead if that has been your sole strategy to win your ex back. By all means, it has destructive tendencies if your Ex in question tells you repeatedly to “leave them alone”.
However, interestingly enough, begging and pleading (as the main strategy to get someone back) does and has worked for many hundreds of couples out there, you just don’t hear about them that much because these people end up “back together” so quickly, they don’t get the same opportunity to moan and bitch about it on Forums and Message boards.
The problem is for those less fortunate, when someone breaks up with you, in their mind it is for an indefinite amount of time. If that’s the case, continuing to beg and plead for an ex’s forgiveness will only grate on their nerves more than anything else. For these types of break ups, you really need to get smarter and learn the psychological triggers that will work even on those exes who appear to have “moved on”.
I’ve written a book that delves more deeply into the psychological tactics of gaining back an ex, but the point of this rant is to give you the OK for those worrying about already making the mistakes of begging and pleading an ex back.
It is OK, it happens to EVERYONE (just about), it means you CARE and want to fight for your relationship. Nothing wrong with that!
For those for didn’t beg or plead, you have to ask yourself, did you care enough in the first place? Why did you react differently? Has it helped, made worse or had zero impact on your currently relationship situation?
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I completely agree!