08 June 2011 ~ 11 Comments

Why You Should Be Happy If Your Ex Blocks or Unfriends You On Facebook

The Facebook report I sent you the other day was a hit and a lot of you are using it and seeing results!

Now, if you’ve started following the steps, and found your ex to have “blocked you”, “unfriended you” or started posting up pics of themselves with their new love interest, then instead of being sad and thinking it’s all doomed…

BE HAPPY about it.


This is a CLEAR sign that they are BOTHERED by seeing you doing so well… and if they are bothered.. then they must CARE.

After all, if it was any other friend who was posting good things about themselves on Facebook, would they act hostile like this? Why would you act negative if it didn’t bother you?

If you tough it out through this “test” of theirs, you’ll see that they will contact you and things will turn around.

But you need to recognize when your ex is reaching out to you, and give them the benefit of the doubt.

It’s not easy for your ex to do that in the first place so if they happen to change their mind straight afterward or stop contacting, then it’s OKAY.

Your ex just needs TIME to absorb and take all this new change in!

Don’t RUSH!

Look, I know what it’s like when you can’t stop thinking about your ex, when you feel there’s a big deadline over your head, that you need to “Do something now”, to somehow get them back or you’ll lose them forever, or they’ll just forget about you.

I will tell you that in my system, the steps within are spaced out very methodically, so the tactics work the most effectively.

You need to know, WHEN it’s best to contact, WHEN it’s best to show interest and WHEN it’s best not to and WHEN to recognise “interest” on their end, or when it’s “something else”.

Being too hasty will make these tactics less effective.

So remember, if you feel “desperate” and on edge because you need to get him or her back quickly… then STOP.

Stop before you pick up your phone and call or text your ex. Stop and think about it before you send a letter or get too eager at the fact that your ex is talking to you and setting up “dates” with you.

Being too hasty will slow your progress or sometimes make you go backwards.

For Steps On What To Do, Click Here.

If you’re using Facebook, make sure you have this plan with you to help take you to the NEXT step.

I’ll be thinking of you,

Until then,

Ashley Kay


Remember to use the Facebook tactic with this plan for faster results.


Don’t have The Facebook Report I’m referring to here? Download it for FREE here.


11 Responses to “Why You Should Be Happy If Your Ex Blocks or Unfriends You On Facebook”

  1. moon 22 July 2011 at 3:18 am Permalink

    and what if he blocked me or deleted me on msn ?

  2. Bad Breakup 6 August 2011 at 2:33 am Permalink

    It is way better when they block you, it hurts to see their profile feeds, and they are thinking THE EXACT thing. That means that they don’t want to know you are going on and living a great life!

  3. Alex 24 August 2011 at 2:50 am Permalink

    My ex broke up with me via a text msg on Valentine’s Day. Actually, she just canceled our date with no explanation. I only sent one text back, asking her to call me if she wanted to talk. She never did. I stayed out of contact completely for 4 months. Then sent her a B-Day e-card, but she didn’t open it in a week, so I came to my senses and recalled it. She’d know I tried, but she wouldn’t know what I wrote…
    Then about 3 weeks ago we ran into each other at a club. I saw her first and was very friendly. She was shocked, but friendly back and gave me a looooooong hug. But then she wanted to leave. It was just awkward, but quick. Okay…
    Now a couple of days ago we ran into each other again. This time I walked by (unintentionally, she happened to be in my path), I waived hello, smiled, but kept walking. I did NOT stop for a second. Her friend saw me first and was making all kinds of faces to ‘warn’ her right before that.
    Long story short, the next day she UNblocked me from FB. We never even were friends on it, while dating. So her profile pic now shows her with somebody else. She clearly did that on purpose to send me some kind of message. She cares, all right. But it did hurt me.
    So… is Unblocking herself for me to see considered a CONTACT on her part? And should I somehow respond (I never sent that first handwritten letter you recommend). Or is this UNblocking just a stab for her to regain power and nothing else? Should I sent that letter? or message her on FB?
    One thing I’m NOT doing for sure, is changing my own profile pic any time soon. It will be clear to her that I saw hers and I really don’t want to give her that much satisfaction. I thought of just ‘laying low’ with that.
    Please advise.
    Thank you.

  4. Alex 24 August 2011 at 2:57 am Permalink

    PS: we only dated for 2 months. But we had a very strong attraction and got along really well. I was crushed, when she split! Especially so unexpectedly and coldly. I’m not 100% sure if I actually want her ‘back.’ But I’m still drawn to her strongly and in 6 months she’s been on my mind every single day. It got less intense with time, and I was able to enjoy my life. But it never went away. I started dating a bit, and there are some wonderful girls out there, but nobody seems as attractive as she was. I’m stuck on her, and confused again. Help!

  5. Alex II 24 August 2011 at 3:18 pm Permalink

    I feel your pain brother! I was in the same EXACT situation with the one I believed was sent from Heaven to save me. No reason other than “she suddenly had a new BF” and that was that. Months have also gone by, met some nice girls, but none of them were like her. I’ve been thinking about her everyday as well. Somehow I know we’ll see each other again before long, but I’m always thinking if this may, or may not, be the absolute end of this memorable relationship. One thing did happen to me, after this tsunami of a breakup…I have become much stronger mentally and physically because of this! Yes, a positive experience, but still one that can bring me heartbreak when I think of her.

  6. Carrie 29 August 2011 at 2:02 am Permalink

    Me and my ex dated for about 6 months. the past few weeks, we have been on and off. but then he ended it with no reason whatsoever. i know he’s depressed because he’s abused by his mother, and therefore he does really bad things to get his mind off it. but i’ve always said i wanted to help him get through it. a week ago, he broke up with me via text and never gave a real explanation. i heard “i just don’t wanna be with you,” or “i like someone else,” or “i like being alone.” he always changed the story. we had a very fast connection, and I can’t stop thinking about him. Yesterday, he came over to get all his stuff and I took him upstairs to talk to him but he wouldn’t talk to me. He got to the point to where he grabbed be, pushed me to get me out of his way, and left with complete anger. He blocked me on facebook and I even think he blocked my number. I know that I can do way better, but before all this bad situations, I fell in love with him. What can I do?

  7. move on or hope 9 September 2011 at 2:40 pm Permalink

    can somebody help me.. we’ve been broke up for a 10 days now. i emailed her last tuesday, saying that “i was shocked about the break up & we’ll just talk about what is good for both of us when i got back there this dec. for now i’ll give your space & i’ll fix myself also.” she did not reply back. we are in a long distance relationship. should i email her again saying that i respect her decision? by the way, she did this to me 3 times already & i always beg for her.. i also deleted my facebook

  8. jason 12 September 2011 at 5:15 pm Permalink

    me and my ex broke up 5 months ago after she cheated on me i forgave her and we got back together but she carried on seeing him. but also kept me hanging on eventually i had enough and said we must stop all contact ,she was crushed and begged me not to saying she needs me in her life but i stuck to it and she contacted me this happened a couple of times then out of the blue she unfriended me on fb and said we should stop contact which i was angry about as i said that would be the best option weeks before. she told me she wanted to be on her own so i accepted it until i saw with this guy ,im not proud to say i went ballistic as and txt her somethings that i regret now ,and a few of my friends sent messages to the guy which i don’t condone anyway a week or so later i apologized but she wasn’t interested that was a few months ago now i haven’t seen or heard from her but i got an urge to contact her i dont know why but its eating away at me its as though there is unfinished business i cant explain it maybe i just want to clear the air before i can finally move on or i still love her i wont know until i see her she works in a supermarket should i walk in there and see how i fell when i see her im so confused

  9. Alice Quijada 12 November 2011 at 1:46 am Permalink

    Okay, im alice, 15, and my ex broke up with me September 30, and officially October 22.2011… outside of my house :[

    We’ve dated for a year and a month.. he’s started hurting me, and i started to take it out on him, by crying, and feeling pain.. then i guess that he was always the guy that i showed my tears to him.. he eventually got annoyed, and even times where he said he couldn’t take it, or even feeling soo pissed that he’s with me. Right now, he just unfriended me from Facebook, and im’ so scared to see if he actually feels bad. i want him back.. but i’m so afraid because he might not love me anymore. could this be a sign? Franky is a very stubborn guy, and i feel like he won’t come back…

  10. kylie 23 December 2011 at 10:59 am Permalink

    me and my boyfriend broke up over a month ago. he said it was due to work wanting more from him and not having time for everyone in his life and he needed a break from everyone to work out what he wanted. after following all the advice i could no contact and working on myself and various other things, he came back after 3 weeks, promising never to leave again, telling me he was always coming back and that i would never have to worry again…he said he was going to talk to work and disscuss going back to his old job and hours etc…only when he did that they came back with another bigger and better proposal, confusing him about what he wants and now he again wants to be alone, after a week no cantact we talked and he tells me he just wants to be single. he swears he thought when he came back he knew what was going on and he wasnt playing me or tryin to hurt me.
    he says he wants to be single for at least a year but promises not to forget me, and if i ever need anything hes always there.
    we had a pretty intense relationship and from the start everything about it was serious and long term, plans we made, things wed talk about all very very much full on….
    ryan is 21 years old and i am 28, im worried because hes so young he feels like he will be missing out if we do this forever, and im ok with that he should experience everything he can in life.

    what i want to know is within or after a year, if i just support him and be there for him and behave normally without bringing this stuff up do you think if thats realy what he wants and he really meant all that stuff when he came back…is there hope will he come back again???

    what should my long term goals be in this (aside from getting out and living myself)

    please any advice.
    we also have a trip to thailand planned for late next year…it was a present i gave him for his birthday and he wont take it unless i still go with him although we havent talked about it since the second break up????
    i believe in us and what we had but i dont know what to do for a year.

  11. Anonymous 21 June 2012 at 4:11 am Permalink

    Hi Ashley! My ex blocked me on Facebook when we are not even friends.

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