08 June 2011 ~ 30 Comments

What Most People Don’t Know About Getting An Ex Back – Here’s 3 Simple Re-Attraction Steps That Will Get Your Ex Chasing After You!

In this video I reveal 3 things that most people are NOT doing when they want their ex back.. the steps to winning your ex back is actually fairly basic (revealed in this video and part 2 of this video). These are things most people don’t know about OR don’t know how to do correctly! It’s all here so pay attention!

To Watch Part 2 of This Video Click Here

(Take Quiz First To Get a Personal Evaluation Of Your Situation)

1st Thing You Need to Know to Get Your Ex Back

Going through any break up will be difficult so I want to make it as easy for you as possible.

First of all, you need to know that what you may have done so far to get your ex back is simply NOT effective.

This is because you’re likely to be driven by EMOTIONAL wants and desires.

When you’re emotional, you tend to exhibit a weakness that is simply not attractive to an ex partner.

Therefore if you’re a man and you’ve reverted to beta-like characteristic, this may be keeping your woman away from you.

And if you’re a woman, begging and pleading your man to come back will not be exactly attractive and appealing either.

2nd Thing You Need to Know to Get Your Ex Back

Remove your ex partner’s resistance from you and the break up first, before attempting to try any sneaky attraction tactics to get him or her back.

Removing their resistance is about using No Contact or Limited Contact CORRECTLY! A lot of people struggle with this because they don’t understand how to do it effectively!

The question I get asked the most are:

“If I don’t contact my ex, how will they know I still care?”
“I feel No Contact would be hopeless as it seems they don’t care about me anymore. What if it doesn’t work?”
“How do I contact my ex after a break up? How can I get my ex to talk to me again?”
“I feel I’ve made too many mistakes already. Is it too late?”
“How do I know I still have a chance with my ex?
“What if my ex is seeing someone else?”

I want to help you with all of these questions, through my blog (please have a look around and learn all you can) and through my free newsletter here. I also highly recommend you check out my complete guide to winning your ex back, The Ex Recovery System.

3rd Thing You Need to Know to Get Your Ex Back

Re-attracting your ex partner is not exactly the same as attracting someone new. If you want to get your ex’s interest, you need to show him or her that you have being making some progress and have CHANGED since the break up.

This can be ANY change, as long as it’s not something you usually do. This will get an ex’s interest. Eg. if you’re usually a stay-at-home person, now is the time to go out and get active and social. And if you’re usually a social person, who parties a lot, instead of going out every weekend, why not take up a new hobby and devote some energy into that for a change.

Re-attraction is a huge topic on its own, here’s some places for you to get started!

Once again, if you haven’t taken a look yet, please check out my video and part 2 of my video here:

To Watch Part 2 of This Video Click Here

(Take Quiz First To Get a Personal Evaluation Of Your Situation)

30 Responses to “What Most People Don’t Know About Getting An Ex Back – Here’s 3 Simple Re-Attraction Steps That Will Get Your Ex Chasing After You!”

  1. Larry 30 July 2011 at 2:28 am Permalink

    Hi My name is “Larry” just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email me on larryjms49 at gmail dot com to get the spell caster’s contact… Don’t give up just yet, the different between “Ordinary” & “Extra-Ordinary” is the “Extra” so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it’s truly worth it.

    • susan 18 August 2011 at 11:27 pm Permalink

      hi Larry thank you very much for your story. please let me know if there is hope on my situation. I have been married for like 10years and we have a 1 kid age 7years. Last year i come to know my husband had been cheating me for more than five years. i asked him if we can talk about it but at the end of it all he said that he was ready for two wives. I told him that i am not ready for a second wife since am a christian and he is not. Since we could not be able to solve the problem i move out now i stay with my baby and he was left alone. After a month he joined the other woman now they stay together. I need him and we miss him so much please is there possibility that i can win him back again. He does everything to us only that he does not come home. Please help me am very depressed and unhappy.

    • delano 9 March 2012 at 4:39 am Permalink

      Hey larry red your story. ive been seperated for 8 months now. we were together for 7 years and we have two children togther. she says that i cant fix what i broke and she has been done for the last two years and she says she doesnt love me any more i know she still has feelings. i love her so much and want to be with only her. could you please help me

  2. Bad Breakup 6 August 2011 at 2:32 am Permalink

    Hey there, I recently went through a really bad breakup as well. We are finally back together after being apart for 3 months now. I used some interesting techniques to get him back. One being complete cut-off, it totally worked. At the beginning I kept asking to get back together and this drove him away. As soon I started ignoring him it drove him crazy!

    • delano 9 March 2012 at 4:50 am Permalink

      hey i wish that you could give me some advice on how you did that and how long it took. broken hearted. plz help

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  3. nzephany 21 November 2011 at 10:32 am Permalink

    hi there Ashley, i just have a question about the letter you encouraged to write to an ex letting them know that you accept the break up. it’s been two months for me and since then i’ve been trying to do everything i can to get her back. now i recently learned that she is interested in someone else. she tells me she still loves me and that there is no one else but i choose not to believe that anymore. i still want her back though, so do i still write her that letter letting her know that i’ve finally accepted the state of things? thanks

  4. Joshina 2 December 2011 at 2:54 pm Permalink

    Hi, the problem with the videos you gave out the tips that has no closed captioned for me to listen to. I am deaf, I would like to know what you have said on the videos. Can you inbox me to my email with the script. Truly would be appreciate of your return of my message. Thanks

  5. firststep 18 December 2011 at 7:32 pm Permalink

    I had this problem in the past, and I must say that it’s really hurtful. My first step, was to accept the breakup, after that you can think a little clearly. After that I followed some of the techniques on this post, and a few others and in the end, I got her back.

  6. nick 20 December 2011 at 1:24 am Permalink

    my married girlfriend told me we were soulmates, we were frds for 2.5 years before getting toegther and starting a physical relationship. she can be a nightmare and admits it at times just like me we bth need reassurance but I truly love this woman and she knows it and she told me the same.

    I had agreed that she would starts proceedings to leave her husband when her daughter was 16 she is 14 now she never hid this fact and I accepted it she was worth waitng for.

    2 weeks ago we argue she is under a lot of stress she hates life at home the huisband has run up maiisve debts and she is now working all hours just to maintain the house and survive. I was basically sent a text to take abrether I didint listen then she backed away she then sent me a text saying she wasnt coping and was on the verge of a break down and needed to be left alone and she hoped I understood.

    I didint it didint make sense 3 weeks later I having text her and called her wth no luck pass her shop and see her kissing another man. I am mortified and obviously confront both. it transpires that its only 2 days old and they have juts kissed, the man knew ntg about me at all and the fact she wa married, she when he backed off and said he wouldnt contact her because she lied declared undying live for hi9m after 2 days and wanted ntg to do with me at all it just did not make sense.

    to top it all I had always maintained that if she ever cheated I would never forgive her unfortunately for me thjat juts didint transpire I was very angry and said some very abusive things to her and called her some terrible names and threatned to tell her husband abt the affair wth me and all the sordid details. A year ago she backed away from me but had no fling and did the exact same thing and I had threatened her then wrong I know but iun a mad moment because i know her and her irrational needy bahaviour I needed to shock her to stop what she was doing the sad thing is the threat wass there and in her head now I have done it again she has tld me the fact she had feelings for someone else means we are not soulmates. My answer was you looked for comfort when i offered none and you stress levels are through the roof to declare undying love for a man after 2 days is of the chart behaviour yet you think your logical in thsi assesment you were acting out ntg more I am not happy in fact heartbroken but I will forgve you.

    the problem is all thats gd between us the love the caring the closeness the physical side has been torn away, she will not hear a word I say because of her thoughts and the threat. I have no intention of following through on it I was just utterly angry and heartbroken adn reacting to what I saw and wanted her to feel my pain by hurtuing her the only way itwould mean the same I accept I amwrong here.

    I will forgve this woman anything I jknow we are soulmates we once walked though cambridge and was photgraphed and a gent came up and said hope you to are married I asked why and he said tha phot could and up anywhere but you look so in love you dont look married. thats was 8 weeks ago that love juts doesnt die. I feel engulfed in her I adore her love her and am broken insode and she tells me we have no fuuture I then try to see her last week and she tell me to go away I barge into a house where she is cleaning and she screams she will call the police I say call them I am going nowhere until you talk to me I am broken hearted acting like a delusional psychotic nutcase the problem is I said this isnt me its out of charachter yes I have a temper but nt to her its reactionary to hurt that has happend Iam mortified that its ended us completely I begged her to talk to me she just wante dme out the house

    i asked please this isnt me surely you dant hate me she asnwered I dont but you are scaring me now I said I ambroken hearted and hurt surly you can see that I asked her to throw me a bone she said back off until january and gv me space and I will talkk to you then I dont know whether tobeliev her or whether it was juts to get me out I know I sound like a nutter but I am just a man in immense pain to top it all when offering forgvness which i said I would bnver do she said because I said I would gv it to her and that I am now compromising on evberything i said she doesnt know me I havent a clue how any woman would nt want forgveness after this but she doesnt gv a damn I am now left broken at christmas she suposedly is gvng her husband the news she is putting the house on the market and starting divoirce proiceeding sin January I KNOW she has huge amount to deal wioth but how the hell do I make her realsie I am not to be scared of I will not follow through on my threats and how the hell do I win her back she is the love of my life and has said some beautiful things to me abt being my wife her soulmate and this just doesnt make any sense I am broken can anyone help me.

  7. kylie 23 December 2011 at 10:58 am Permalink

    me and my boyfriend broke up over a month ago. he said it was due to work wanting more from him and not having time for everyone in his life and he needed a break from everyone to work out what he wanted. after following all the advice i could no contact and working on myself and various other things, he came back after 3 weeks, promising never to leave again, telling me he was always coming back and that i would never have to worry again…he said he was going to talk to work and disscuss going back to his old job and hours etc…only when he did that they came back with another bigger and better proposal, confusing him about what he wants and now he again wants to be alone, after a week no cantact we talked and he tells me he just wants to be single. he swears he thought when he came back he knew what was going on and he wasnt playing me or tryin to hurt me.
    he says he wants to be single for at least a year but promises not to forget me, and if i ever need anything hes always there.
    we had a pretty intense relationship and from the start everything about it was serious and long term, plans we made, things wed talk about all very very much full on….
    ryan is 21 years old and i am 28, im worried because hes so young he feels like he will be missing out if we do this forever, and im ok with that he should experience everything he can in life.

    what i want to know is within or after a year, if i just support him and be there for him and behave normally without bringing this stuff up do you think if thats realy what he wants and he really meant all that stuff when he came back…is there hope will he come back again???

    what should my long term goals be in this (aside from getting out and living myself)

    please any advice.
    we also have a trip to thailand planned for late next year…it was a present i gave him for his birthday and he wont take it unless i still go with him although we havent talked about it since the second break up????
    i believe in us and what we had but i dont know what to do for a year.

    • Kevin 17 April 2012 at 5:01 pm Permalink

      Dear Kylie,

      My advice to you is to give him his space. It sounds to me that your ex doesn’t know how to juggle a relationship and his career (at the moment). It is likely he will eventually get a better hold on his career where he will have time for a relationship. I guarantee if you pushed him into another relationship he would not be happy, and you would not be happy.

      The best thing for you to do is get back to doing what you like to do. Don’t do anything that the two of you did because that might bring back feelings you once had. You need to separate yourself from your ex for the time being. Get a hobby, craft, or pass-time. Even if it’s focusing on your career. I think it’s healthy being alone. It’s even better to be doing something you enjoy doing. Hang out with old friends. Get new ones. Get another hobby that can fill the free time you are going to have because if you are sitting at home alone, you will become depressed, and want your ex boyfriend back. Don’t make that mistake.

      Sincerely Kevin

  8. Zabrinah's Love Blog 28 December 2011 at 2:34 am Permalink

    This was some really solid advice. I especially love the last part about “re-attracting”. We never remember how important that is when it comes to re-entering a relationship with somebody we’ve been with before. Something has to be new. We can’t keep doing the SAME things and keep expecting DIFFERENT results. No sir. We have to change.

    And I also think it is extremely important the change occurs because it is genuinely something you need to work on. And whether he takes you back or not, that change is vital for your life. That way, you learn something from the breakup.

    Best wishes from one blogger to another,

    ~Zabrinah

    [your everyday girl, writing about guys]

  9. mike missy 28 January 2012 at 10:53 pm Permalink

    I am Mike Missy, i want to say a big thanks to my very good friend who help me in finding solution centre to my problems.i broke up with my guy due to some little misunderstanding but i tried to make settlement with him but he refused,just because another girl fall in love with him.now i can boldly testify the powers of spell caster who my friend introduce me to Dr Okoase. i must say he is indeed a great spell caster, he help me in recovery my lost love………………..should you are interested in my testimony and you also want to say a big thanks to him on my behalf you can as well reach him on Email:templeofgreatspell@gmail.com

  10. victor 5 February 2012 at 3:21 pm Permalink

    ashley .. i think im in love with you ……………you are one beautiful asian woman … wow… when you talk your lips look so moist and sexy … mmmmmm mama…

  11. Help 29 February 2012 at 4:33 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago, but we have been talking every day since and he told me he wants to get back together.

    However, he said when we broke up that he hasn’t liked me for over a year and a lot of harsh things. It’s something I’m finding hard to get over, but I still want to be with him. I just have trouble trusting him and I don’t know where his priorities are. I want to be his one and only, and all he cares about again.

    Also, when we first broke up, I grudgingly accepted the truth that he didn’t want me and started the process of moving on. I ignored his texts for a bit, appeared disinterested (more so confused why he was talking to me in the first place) and I wrote him a letter saying that we had good times and I’d never forget them, and that I hope he does well in life.

    But I gave into him, and now I’ve been a mess of anxiety and stress since we’ve started talking. So worried that things won’t work out again. And we’re not even dating because I’m too scared to. I don’t know how to go about making him love me unconditionally again.

    The reason he broke up with me in the first place was because of my anger issues and how they annoyed him. He told me so. I don’t want that to affect this at all. We’ve talked about everything over and over, but I don’t feel comforted because I don’t know if he really loves me.

    PLEASE HELP. I didn’t know any other way to get in contact with you. I want to buy your book, but I don’t know if it applies to me.

    • Kevin 17 April 2012 at 5:11 pm Permalink

      I don’t believe anybody can ever “make” somebody love them. If someone is telling you they don’t want to be with you, it might be time to listen to them. I know it’s a hard reality being away from the one you love, but it’s not a bad thing. Many psychologists believe it’s best to be single after a breakup for at least half the time you were in your relationship. This is a very healthy and natural time to go through.

      Don’t let being away from him make you sad. Instead look at it as a way to get to do something you want to be doing. Start a hobby. Make new friends with similar interests. Attempt to get your mind off your ex and you will be much happier. Often times when a couple separates, that gives him a chance to really think about you and possibly begin to miss you. Just realize this is in no way the end of the world. It is actually the first step towards possibly having a chance to get your ex back.

  12. Pam 1 March 2012 at 8:31 pm Permalink

    hi
    every one here has a story, but i never been through this situation, but i can understand how one can feel when relation ends, and getting you ex back is like getting the world back, so thanks of this post, hope people use this and have there ex back.

  13. john 13 March 2012 at 11:05 pm Permalink

    Hi My name is “john” just want to share my experience with the world on
    how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for
    7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting
    ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse
    at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her
    change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and
    didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved
    out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and
    tried everything
    but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced
    me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I
    have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try
    reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no
    choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7
    days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had
    cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the
    kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child…
    I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the
    world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my
    experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can
    email him via ekpensolutionspellcasting@gmail.com Don’t give up just yet,
    the different between “Ordinary” & “Extra-Ordinary” is the “Extra” so make
    extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it’s truly worth it.

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  15. Confused Situation 23 April 2012 at 6:49 pm Permalink

    Hi, I have a very odd story to tell. Or at least to me it is odd. So I was hoping to get some opinions or advice. I had a girlfriend and we broke up about one month ago. We were together for about a month only though. Through out the relationship, she told me about no problems and I thought everything was fine and dandy. But to tell the truth, I knew I was being over paranoid and I got jealous quite simply, but I don’t mention it to her much. And then one fine day, she called and told me to ‘be just friends’ and that was the end of the relationship. To me the reason is not exactly very strong, and so far I’ve gotten nothing about why we broke up. At first during the first and second week, we both just clammed up. Then during the third week, she tried to talk to me, I ignored her. Then the forth week, I tried talking to her but she ignored me. And now, during the fifth and sixth week, we have gone back to talking like normal. I don’t understand what is going on and I’ve talked about it to her best friend and she said in her opinion probably she felt I changed during the relationship which I did. And as much as I hate it, my mind just can not take my mind off her. She seems to be constantly there and I keep thinking about her day and night. I don’t have much heartache and it has reduced by quite a landslide already, there is still heartache there but not exactly too much to make me crack. And worst still, there are other guys going after her now and every time I see her talking to another guy, the old wounds start to reopen. And I struggle to try and close them up. I’m not entirely sure if she has anything for the guy, but for now I don’t see much sparks flying. You can say, I want my ex back because over so many girls, she is that one person who stands out. And in my point of view, seeing as conversation has gone back to normal, I don’t know what she is thinking now. I think I might be showing obvious signs of feeling love sick towards her, I see her practically everyday and so it’s hard to hide or forget. To this point, I am confused with the situation, I don’t know what she thinks of me and I don’t really know my course of action to take. I know back before then I wasn’t the really leading type and I have quite a heavy guilty consciousns and I sometimes apologize to her about the smallest things. I don’t really know what to make out of it. We seem to have gone back to being friends but I want to take it up a notch. What can I do? I hope somebody can tell me what is the situation between me and her now and what I can do about it to get her back. Thanks.

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