Are you finding that the reasons your ex gave you for the break up don’t seem to be the real reasons for it and you can’t get these real reasons out of them?
Leaving you all confused and unable to repair the relationship as you don’t know why it’s really broken?
Well the first big thing for you and us all to understand is this… Unless there is a particular event or a buildup of them, this won’t have been easy for them to do.
With no event to blame the break up on, the true reasons for it are harder to come up with for these reasons:
- They don’t want to hurt you by saying what’s wrong with you.
- They really don’t know why, it’s just a feeling that they want out.
- They don’t want it to be messy and are avoiding the argument that would follow.
- They just don’t know how to tell you.
The hardest thing for you to do now is to just except the reasons that they have said, this doesn’t mean that what they said is all there is, this means you need to reflect on the relationship and see if you can come up with the reasons for it ending.
One of the best tricks is to place yourself in their shoes is…. you know their likes/ dislikes and all the issues you have worked through before. Take some time to see it through their eyes to see if you can find some reasons of your own.
The best advice for you at this point is:
- Don’t keep asking why!
- Except their reason and work out all the other ones yourself.
- Work on any flaws or bad habits you find.
- Think of this as an opportunity for them to fall in love you again!
I hope this has helped you today and don’t dwell on the past.
