Deciding whether or not to stay in contact can be tricky if you’re still in love with your ex.
In most cases, it’s often advised to minimize or drop all contact after a break up. With that said, if your aim is to get your ex back, this will not always work 100% of the time. Everyone is different so it’s hard to know exactly how your ex would react to you doing this. Below I’ve listed a few pointers to help you make the best decision:
It’s best to STOP all contact if:
- Your ex broke up with you due to something you had little or no control over.
- Your ex was cheating on you.
- Your ex feels very strongly about breaking up.
- Your ex JUST wants to be friends.
- Your ex wanted a ‘trial’ break up.
- Your ex tells you they still love you but they can’t be with you right now.
- Your ex is confused about what they want from a relationship.
It’s best to keep some form of contact if:
- Your ex has depression/illness.
- Your ex broke up with you due to ‘outside’ influences.
- You both agreed to the break up.
As you can see in MOST cases you really should minimise if not completely cut all contact with your ex.
If you still have strong feelings for your ex, each time you talk you’ll be reminded of your feelings and you’ll be tempted to confess your undying love and risk making a fool of yourself. This is great if you have strong inklings your ex returns these feelings but if not AVOID AT ALL COSTS.