If you’re in a long distance relationship, you’ll know that keeping the attraction and romance going is quite a challenge. Long Distance Relationship couples don’t have the luxury to be physically together, you can’t just go to the movies, go to a restaurant or simply take a walk together.
Attraction mostly comes from in your MIND (through talking) and using your imagination. The aid of webcams can help also giving you a degree of visual and audio stimulation.
The problem is how can you REBUILD attraction if it was lost?
It’s difficult if your loved one is “avoiding you” which is certainly easy enough to do in a LDR. In this case, you might have to be more patient.
Rebuilding attraction online or on the phone needs to start from the mind first. But it has to start SLOWLY. Don’t expect that being romantic and flirty will instantly be taken well with someone who has drifted away from you.
Go back to what attracted you to each other in the first place. Your COMMON interests/hobbies or passions. The times when you could talk for hours about anything. Just talk and get your lover to remember the good times.
You can also try to:
- Play online games together.
- Ask them a series of funny questions about any random thing.
- Drawing pictures together.
- Watching a tv show or movie online at the same time.
- Participating in forum discussions together.
You don’t have to be “in a relationship” to do any of the above. Try to come up with inventive things to do when you ARE together online. But the most important thing is to start talking and rebuilding a connection through words.
The key is NOT to come on strong and make it obviously you want more than a friendship.
