23 August 2008 ~ 231 Comments

How to Make Your Ex Want You Back

breakup 300x199 How to Make Your Ex Want You Back

So you want to make your Ex want you back… tell him or her that you are different, your situation is different, you love them, you can give them the world, that type of thing right?

So let me ask you…

What is different now?

What can you give or offer your Ex now that you didn’t or couldn’t before?

Is your mind drawing a blank? Do you feel as if, they SHOULD come back just… well just BECAUSE? You love them right? Isn’t that good enough?

On the other hand you might know exactly where you screwed up or dropped the ball. You might have something to prove, that you’re “different” or you’ve “changed”. You also worry your ex might run off with someone else and completely forget about you. So you worry, panic, stress and end up doing a lousy job of ‘proving’ yourself.

In the end your Ex doesn’t come back, they do leave you and it might take you months or even years to completely get over them.

So what went wrong?

Your wish came true.

But wait, that wasn’t what you wanted!

No? How often do you sit and worry about losing your ex? How much do you think about your ex moving on without you and finding someone new? Compared to perhaps how you’re going to improve and better yourself?

It’s all to do with your mindset.

The mind is a powerful and mysterious thing. Everything that has happened in your life happened first from your mind. If you want your ex to want you back, you need to refocus your energy on aspects of your life that will move you in the direction that you want, instead of a direction you ‘don’t’ want.

Want to prove you’re a trustworthy person? Then start becoming honest right now starting with you. Prove to you first that you’re no longer untrustworthy, that you are changing and you’re not someone immature, misguided and misinformed.

Do this everyday, adding to the things you want to change and continue to evolve until you feel better and better each day. That is how you know you’re on the right path, that you’re willing to prove it to you first that you want this relationship back. After all you’re not a 6 year old anymore, you know that crying and moaning won’t get you what you want, to get results, you just have to do it.

But what about your ex? Won’t they move on and find someone else? You still want them back! How do you stop yourself from thinking about them and risk sabotaging your chances, what do you do!

Here’s the thing, we’ve been taught that if we want someone to like us, we need to show them we like them first, after all this is how we learned to make friends and how we get into relationships in the first place. So naturally your instinct tells you to show your ex you ‘want’ them back. But this isn’t what you ‘should’ do.

It’s hard to admit but your ex has essentially rejected you. Now if a group of people you tried to hang out with told you to get lost, would you beg them to remain friends with you? I highly doubt it.

In some weird way, you should treat your relationship with your ex the same way. No matter how the relationship ended, you should try to accept the break up as gracefully as possible.

Acting this way often will catch your ex off-guard and make them second-guess their decision to break up in the first place.

You will NOT believe this, but you have a TREMENDOUS amount of influence over your ex even if they give off the impression they’re “possibly” over you.

But WAIT, you can use this to your advantage! Find out why your ex still cares and how your actions can greatly influence their decision to come back to you.

Having a plan to get your ex back is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing because it keeps you from being overly emotional at the wrong times.

Thankfully, there IS a solution…

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231 Responses to “How to Make Your Ex Want You Back”

  1. Steve 7 November 2008 at 1:17 pm Permalink

    My girl freind just broke up wih me about two months ago after a nine year relationship. I was completely devistated and crushed. she is not seeing anyone else nor does she plan on it, is what she told me, she still left the window open to be friends, and has contacted out of the blue one day to say hi. Alot of my friends say they can see inside the circle from the outside and say that its no over and she will come back, because there are just to many memories after a nine year relationship, and she never gave me a valid reason why she broke up in the first place. Are there any subtle but positive signs that she would show me to say that she wants to come back. My friends say I dont see it because im inside the circle and their outside looking in.

    • laura 4 November 2010 at 3:21 am Permalink

      hi

      look the same happened to me. my boyfriend dumped me over a text we had been going out for 4 months i couldn’t believe it. he was hot as. what can i do to get him back?????

      i really love him if he sees this i love you sooo much jack xxx

      anonymus xx

      • Arrya 5 February 2012 at 5:35 pm Permalink

        Funny, I am in the EXACT same situation, his name is even Jack and it has also been 4 months for us! So odd haha. Well, I love him immensely, I wish I’d said yes to him earlier, and I cannot believe he left me. I want you to love me again Jack, please come back to me.

        • the bad boyfriend 18 April 2012 at 12:40 pm Permalink

          hi my names austin and i was dating my girlfirend for just over a year, and she dumped me becuase we were having too many fights and now its over and i need her back really bad, i love her so much, ive noticed i already have changed and matured alittle but not sure how long i should wait and not sure what i should do?

    • Lilia0900 21 August 2011 at 12:20 am Permalink

      Whatever happened between you and your ex?

      • april alde 30 January 2012 at 1:34 pm Permalink

        we have the same situation
        i was so shocked when my bf left me just two months ago.i really dont know whats the reason why he did it to me.the question is, does he still love me?

  2. BreAnna 20 November 2008 at 5:18 pm Permalink

    My ex and i have been broken up for a really long time. prolly 7 months, and i love him more then anything, he is seeing someone right now.. they arent offical but they act like it. He says constanly he wants me over him and that he hates me. idk what to do. is there still a chance?

    • Eusen 22 August 2011 at 6:25 am Permalink

      Hi am Eusen my bf dump me 2month ago wth no reason n i fail 2 copy wth d situation coz h ws my evrythng. N is sim as he has gf pls i wt hm back coz i hv strng flng 4hm. I luv hm wth al dt i hv. Evne my mother in law love me. I dnt knw wt 2 do coz her new gf cal me 1day n says stp clng my man pls hlp i wt hm back coz i hv drms wth hm

  3. Mike 2 December 2008 at 8:06 am Permalink

    Hi Katie
    Yea I followed all the material with NC and all that but my ex was getting over me. I love her very much but the thing is she keeps accusing me of cheating on her and she says she doesn’t trust me. I bought several makeup and get your ex-back on line books and the material is great but I put my own plan together with all the material I read. It took me two months of hard work and reading and doing all the things in the articles. I got my ex back but she broke up with me again yesterday. I did everything for her. She has two great kids but she has a hard time making them mind. I have helped her with everything. I guess I keep overdoing things for her. I thought thats what a relationship is supposed to be about isn’t it? Well any way my question now is should I give up on her or not. There have been other things going on in our relationship that could fill a book but now I am not sure what to do anymore. Please let me know what your thoughts are. Thanks and If you don’t get back to me I understand because you may be really busy.
    Thanks
    Mike

    • Mike 29 July 2010 at 9:22 pm Permalink

      Update. Just to let everyone know it has been a year since my ex and I have been broken up. We went out together a few times and she started doing the same BS. So I have moved on and she was dating a guy for about 6 months. He was playing games with her. She finally ended it. Now I am dating some one else and she treats me like gold. She even treats me better than my ex-wife and ex-girlfriend combined. I still love her and her kids but I have to force myself to let her go. Thanks for the articles and the information. Move on people there are other relationships out there probably better than the last one.

      • Mike 27 June 2013 at 12:02 am Permalink

        Update
        6-26-2013
        Hi everyone. I am glad I was able to post to this website again. My ex and I are completely done and I have moved on. I found out through her brothers ex-wife that she has been with at least three guys since she broke up with me 5 years ago. That goes to show you she is the one that has issues. I am still with the girl that I met 3 years ago and we couldn’t be happier. I suggest to you people out there if it doesn’t work the second or third time. MOVE ON! Get over your ex…there is someone out there better for you. Good luck.

  4. Jessica 14 December 2008 at 5:45 pm Permalink

    im with BreAnna.
    the whole thing. my ex says he hates me. and he always tells me to stay out of his life. but im deeep in love with him. he was my first for Every single thing. and he was my first love.. he says he dumped me cause i was immature and everything. but then he gets mad when i say i “like someone new” to see if he gets jealous.
    its just one big mess.
    what do i do?

  5. Jake G 7 January 2009 at 11:27 am Permalink

    My ex and I were togather for seven years. We had our ups and downs but always work it out. I was not crazy about her family and that caused a problem. We broke up and a week later she was with her ex best freinds ex boy freind. Now it has been five months and she will not speak to me. I have done NC and have not called , emailed or texted in almost two months.

    • Shannon 5 September 2011 at 2:21 pm Permalink

      Hi Jake, I feel for you. I tried everything to get my ex back but nothing worked. I tried no contact but like you its been 2 months. The fact that she wont talk to you after all this time has passed tells me its probably better you move on and spare yourself anymore misery and pain. It is hard I know, I also face the same issues. Try using no contact as a way to simply allow yourself to heal and move on. Try and see the reasons the relationships was bad and why its better to move on than to glorify it with only the great memories. If she wants to come back she will but it could be years, months or maybe even never. Thats just the reality of it. I started being honest with myself by telling myself that had my ex gone back to all his ex’s i would have never dated or met him. She probably went through several break ups but never went back to her previous ex’s or you would not have met her . Its a natural progress until we find the right one as sad as it is…..

  6. alvin ramores 11 January 2009 at 10:14 pm Permalink

    my girlfirend want to break up with me because I only make her life chaotic. she says that my rules are just absurd….but I promised her that I would change my character…what should I do??? PLEASE HELP ME……..I’M DESPERATE OF HAVING HER BACK…………

    • Mike 29 July 2010 at 9:25 pm Permalink

      Hey. I learned that if you act desperate it won’t work. You have to act like you don’t care and act like she doesn’t exist. This will help with the healing and help with getting her back at the same time. It takes a lot of work and practice. Try it. It will work it might take about two months or three to get her back but act like your life is so good that you don’t need her back it will help. I did it. it works good luck.

      • Pheel 29 October 2010 at 11:09 am Permalink

        Hey Mike,

        If you get this message could you send me an e-mail ? I’d like to ask you a few things about how you did it. Thanks

        • Mike 31 August 2011 at 8:48 am Permalink

          Hi Pheel. Yea it wasn’t easy. I had to look into myself and wrote down a lot of material that I wanted in my life. I put a lists of all the things I wanted and needed. I eventually started going back to the gym and lost about 20 lbs. I found a job and started school full time. After a year, visiting my mother and father at the cemetary, I prayed to God and I asked him what was it he wanted from me. I found my answer within 21 days. Two of my friends introduced me to the most wonderful women I have ever known. She treats me like gold. She has let me do what I need to do. I am a third degree black belt. She has pumped me full of questions about martial arts and she has now joined classes. She has already promoted four times in less than a year. With my help of course. The ex she has text me off and on. Now she has gained about 25 pounds and she still smokes. She looks like crap. Her brother told her that she made the biggest mistake in getting rid of me and doing what she did. He supported me as much as he could. He told me she has met a few loosers and she dumped them for treating her like crap. I saw her about three weeks ago at a club and yea I am done with her. I found that I still have feelings for her but not as strong as I did before. Don’t give up on yourself. Keep going. Keep praying and you will survive. Find the Movie The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. Best $21.00 I ever spent. Good Luck.
          Mike

        • Mike 2 September 2011 at 11:45 am Permalink

          Hi just want to know if you got my note? If not check the website. Waiting to hear from you.

          • Mike 15 October 2011 at 1:20 pm Permalink

            Hi yes I did. I appreciate the feedback. Like I said in my previous note. I have moved on but the feelings still are there. But after seeing her my feelings are not as strong as they were before. I still think about her alot. Friends told me it was the best thing that I ever did was lose the dead weight.
            Mike

          • Eric 23 December 2011 at 10:55 pm Permalink

            ok….so my now EX-gf has a babydaddy that used to beat her up and instill tremendous fear in her until he went to prison. Since we started going out she mentioned a couple times about him and how he contacts her saying that he’ll be home soon. Well, the other day i got off work a little earlier than usual and had a hour to kill before night school. well, on the way i drive by my ex’s job and see her car parked on the street. i figured i’d do something that will surprise her and let her know i was in the area while she was working (keep in mind we are still together at this point). i was going to lift up her windshield wipers, but instead chose an even more immature prank: Leave a note on her windshield pretending to be her baby’s daddy back home from his prison stretch. I expected her to see it was in my handwriting and think of it as a funny joke. But on the way to school, i felt bad and realized it wasn’t cool of me to have done that. I felt really bad so at breaktime i called her and let her know what i had done. she did NOT think it was funny. So i went back down to her car and removed the silly note. I didn’t tell her i took it off. But i did try calling her and texting her later like i normally would. She has been ignoring my calls, texts, and emails. The other night i asked what i did wrong knowing myself why she was mad but i had to hear it from her mouth. She simply texted me “i think i need some space. dont wanna do things that will hurt you sorry”. Space? Doesn’t that mean she broke up with me? I think so…..so anyway, she has completely ignored me going on 2 days now. I assume we are broken up. What should i do and is it safe to assume we ARE broken up? How do i get her back?

      • luvtobe dope 29 December 2011 at 9:52 am Permalink

        Ok so me nd diss boy liked each other for like 4months our relationship ended over dum reasons ok he called diss girl sexy after skool after skool so i wasnt dere when the incident occured at the timehe was callin the girl sexy i was walkin and hwe was standin at the corneer wit his friends nsnd c myalled the girl sexy out loud. So

  7. DarkenFox 18 January 2009 at 12:01 am Permalink

    Hey i was in a long dist relationship and my ex broke up with me yesterday and i still love him alot and dont no what to do.he isnt seen anyone else either.i said he was the most important person 2 me and thats when u acted,and he thinks its best for us to forget each other.i know he loves me still and i want him to b with me still…please help me

  8. Sarah 24 January 2009 at 3:32 pm Permalink

    my ex and i broke up easter of 08. we had dated for 3 and a half years. but with in the 1st year we were together, i liked another guy. but he found out and we broke up. he was so upset and i know i hurt him badly. and he is still hurt.
    well me n him got back together and he told me time after time he’ll never be able to forgive me…Well over all that time i still dedicated my life to him, i did everything for him for 2 more years. and we fought all the time. he called me bad names. and i still have a complex over that….
    well even after we broke up i still visited him. having “one night stands” if u will, and i know that it was wrong but i couldn’t help myself. I was in love…well after 4 months of that i quit talking to him…I figured I was just hurting myself…
    Recently he was in a really bad car accident. and I went to see him. Of course it was weard…but over the past few weeks i have gone to see him maybe 4 or 5 times. and out of those times he has only called me once to come and see him….and last Sunday night I stayed over. only because my parents left me there. well me and him had fun. it was like there was no one around but him and I. It was so great!…..And now I’m starting to miss him again. and i think that since he was in a wreck he’ll change his life for the better …well I want him back and I’ve been reading everything i could to find some way to do it…and i’ve been reading everything on this site….

    What should I do to get him back?

  9. Ed 22 February 2009 at 3:06 am Permalink

    me and my (ex)girlfriend broke up 2 days ago,
    or should i say she broke up with me,

    we’ve been dating for 14 monthes on valentines day, we’ve never had any arguements, problems, anything,
    we go to 2 different schools, and i see her as much as i posibly can, and talked to her every night, i always made it clear how i felt about her,,

    we talked last week, about how, we’re starting to “drift away” and we’d say that we’d try a little harder the next few months and see how that goes, so i we went to her schools winter homecoming on valentines day, our 14 month anniversary, and it was fun, amazing maybe, we danced the whole time, we kissed. cuddled, had an amazing time, it was hard to say goodbye to her when i had to leave,
    then after that she told me she was sick, and everytime i’d call she would make up an excuse or something,
    then on thursdday i called her to say good night, she told me she had something to say that was important,

    she told me that she thinks we should “see other people” and she kept saying that i didnt do anything wrong, and there wasnt anything wrong with me, but that she felt that 14 months is “too long” to be together, and that she didnt want us to be on bad terms,

    i love this girl, she really is all i think about, and care about, i’d do anything for her, ANYTHING.

    she said, that she still wants to be friends though, and if we didnt, that she would respect that, and she kept teeling me she was sorry, over, and over again.
    she also told me “We’re not getting married, so this would have ended anyway” that didnt make sense to me,
    if you go into a relation ship with that kind of mindset, then whats the piont of being with someone, especially 14 months.

    ive been besides myself for the past 2 days, everything i see reminds me of her, i went to a concert last night to see my favorute band, that didnt even help, it actually made me feel better,

    it feels like theres something i can do, but im not sure, i dont want to see other people, i havent even taken everthing down, pictures of us, gifts cards, presents, i havent changed anything, this just doesnt feel like its happening.

    if you can help me, in any way, that would just be amazing,
    i miss her so much already, and its only been 2 days,

    im 18 years old, it seems young to be complaining about love and all, i know. but i have no idea what else to do

  10. William 22 February 2009 at 10:14 pm Permalink

    My gf just broke up with me two days ago after alomost three and a half years of happy times together. We fought occasionally but we always manage to patch up in less than a day.

    She said it was on Valentines Day that when I gave her so many surprises and showed that how much I loved her, she couldn’t help but feel that she doesn’t love me as much as I do for her and she said she doesn’t want to lie to both of us anymore.

    Right now we are not seeing each other but we have been sharing a few small chats online. I miss her so much and I know I want to have her back. What can I do to make her come back to me?

    • Shannon 5 September 2011 at 2:25 pm Permalink

      Hi William, It sounds like when she was with you she was missing a lot of important feelings and emotions. It probably made her feel guilty that she knew you loved and cared for her in a different way. The good news is she is at least still talking to you. She may or may not come back. It is hard to say. Although looking at this as blessing so that you can find someone who really loves you. Imagine if you had spent another 5 years with her to only find this out … More of your time and life wasted on someone who wasnt worth the time. Best of luck

  11. JB 5 March 2009 at 5:37 am Permalink

    Hi Katie,

    My girlfriend & I broke up in October after a 2 yr relationship. We
    both are in our early 40′s and we had a serious relationship to the
    point where I proposed a little over a year into the relationship. She
    initially said yes then said she was not ready. Since that time our
    relationship slowly eroded because of her doubting the we had what it
    took to make it in the long run. We never fought, but we did lack on
    the communication side of things. Before we broke up, she stated that
    99% of our relationship was great but something was missing with the
    other 1%.

    So we had about 3 rocky months before the break-up. When she came over
    to break-up with me, I was anticipating it and when she said the “I
    can’t do this anymore. I want to end this”, I agreed with her. So over the next month
    or so we exchanged some emails but nothing about our relationship. After 5 weeks of no contact, she
    surprised me with a “just wanted to say hello” email. Perfect..I
    thought I was on my way to getting her back. I waited a couple of
    days to respond back in order to not look needy. I emailed her back
    asking how she & her daughter were doing and l let her know I was
    doing great and that it was good to hear from her. This is where I
    think I messed up. I got sick and had a weak moment a couple of days
    later. I began to think too much and panicked wondering why she had
    not responded to my email yet. So I thought she may have taken my
    “I’m doing great” as being insensitive, so I emailed her back asking
    her if she would like to do lunch. She responded a few days later in
    a friendly manner giving me an update on her & her daughter and asked
    about my family. She thanked me for the lunch invite but said she
    thought it could be awkward right now but asked me if we could maybe
    do it later when we are more comfortable. She also said lets stay in
    touch. I responded a couple of days later and agreed that it could be
    awkward and that we could maybe get together down the road and left it
    at that, other than giving her an update on my family, that was four
    weeks ago. The only contact I’ve had with her since, came last week when
    she asked me a general non-relationship question about a dog breeder.
    So here is my
    question, how should I proceed from here? I am not really sure what
    she is thinking or how she is feeling. Do I resume no contact? If
    so, how long? Or do I call her? I did not anticipate this
    in my plan.

    Sorry for the long email. Since I have last seen my ex I have lost nearly 40 lbs via diet and
    exercise and I am looking great. So I would love for my ex to see me & the changes I’ve
    made.

    Any advice you can give me would be greatly appreciated!

    Thanks,
    JB

  12. Kenneth 13 March 2009 at 11:35 pm Permalink

    My ex and i broke up after 6 months of dating. i fell in love with her, and at one point she said she loved me as well. weve always had fights and stuff but it always worked out in the end. at about 5 months we had a big fight. that just lasted for weeks. i always tried to apologize and stuff, but then she started hanging out with her friends 24/7 and never had time for me. i started complaining and she got angry and annoyed. i started nagging her alot. so she suggest a “break” where we were only friend status. but even then i kept complaining and nagging her and i was so afraid of losing her. once the break was over, nothing changed. she kept hanging out with her friends. so i was very needy and i cried alot, but shed get annoyed. finally about 2 days before it turned 6 months, we broke up. but she still liked me. she was crying and kissing me and stuff, but she said she couldnt be in a relationship. i felt kinda good because it felt like she would come back to me. i wrote her lots of letters, and she cried. then after about 3 days after the break up she started getting over me. i still wanna be friends with her but now it feels like shes completely annoyed of me.

    then last night she said she liked this guy a while back before we broke up and he dated another chick and she had been really hurt and she said she changed over that. it broke my heart. she said she didnt tell me back then because she didnt want to hurt my feelings.

    i really love her. i do. i feel completely lost, my routine, my purpose. i cant feel like im living. i dont know what to do. please help me

  13. kat 15 March 2009 at 2:00 pm Permalink

    okay, so i broke up w/ my ex becuase he lied to me about a party, but i always came back to him when he asked i fall back in love.. but now he is choosing between me and another girl. i love him so much but he just won’t see that. what do i do? should i still want him? HELP!

    • Grace 12 September 2010 at 3:10 pm Permalink

      u should text him how u feel or write him a note and tel him

    • Mike 2 September 2011 at 11:51 am Permalink

      HI No you should not text him. If you do that he will still see you want him. You can text him and say something like hope you had a good time at the party. if he text back say sorry it was for someone else. then put in sorry take care. He will start texting you asking how you are doing. let him know you are fine and tell him you are busy and don’t text back. if he text back again wait about four or five hours and tell him you were busy and didn’t have time to get back to him. if he starts texting you asking what party tell him it doesn’t matter you guys are done and let him know you are happy he is happy and he found someone else. just play dumb and play backwards psycology. what i mean here is don’t play into his hands. do the opposite you want to do. if you want to tell him you miss him don’t. if he ask you about the party tell him it doesn’t matter you guys are done. leave it at that. if he persists and wants to talk tell him you are busy and that you will call him some time. be hard to get. you can always tell him it was a bridal shower. he doesn’t have to know you never went. let me know.

  14. Alison 20 March 2009 at 8:07 am Permalink

    Me and my ex were together for a year and eight months, non stop. Always together, never did anything without each other, whenever working always came up on my break. Just always together. We started going out my senior year of high school, Which is pretty important to most people. I fell so in love with him i gave up all those basketball games, and soccer games i could of gone to. I gave up my friends, and so did he. Just we were both happy. Then i think emotionally we wanted to have friends in our lives but not hurt one another, so kept it up. So when my ex wanted to do something with his friends i would make him feel bad, and make him just feel like crap because i would be bored without him. I think that finally took a tole on him. I think he just needed space and freedom, and i wasn’t giving him that. I just truly love him with all my heart so i just wanted to be with him. Now something terrible has made me realize that i need to change some things about me, and we can still make it work. Do you think we could. we broke up on good terms, he was just saying he wasn’t happy right now. He is also under tons of stress. but do you think there is still a chance?

  15. Keith Ramsamooj 3 April 2009 at 9:44 am Permalink

    My Ex-Girlfriend wants to come back into my life. What should I do? She told me so much hurtful things before she left me for this other guy. Now, April 1st 2009, she wants to return to me, saying: “if only I could get another chance”.She also confessed having a lot of dreams about us having sex and making love. Please tell me what to do. She left me in the ending of January now said that she broke up with the guy in April 1st. We was together for about 1 year and I’ve never cheated on her since we were together and she knows that I am a loyal guy. However, she told me that within the two months of being with the guy, she had sex with him once. What am I to do? If I am to get back together with her, will this affect me in the future? Please, I need some advice. Thank you.

  16. Charm 13 April 2009 at 3:34 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, we were together at a party last night, he told me that he still wants me back but the problem is that he said that I’m too controlling. it’s as if he doesn’t want to give me a chance to change. What am i going to do to make him change his mind. i really love him.

  17. Alison 23 April 2009 at 12:15 pm Permalink

    Keith, i am sorry dude, i wrote the one before you and i thought My ex left me because he wanted freedom, no he left me for another girl, who is a big hoe, and gross. Which is hurtful, i know how you feel i really do, and honestly the only thing i want in my life right now is for him to come back to my life.. so i would say, give her another chance.. you never know until you try.. make her work for it though, and make sure she is willing to put effort into it as well.

  18. Keith 2 May 2009 at 3:49 am Permalink

    Well, I’m now in a situation where my ex-really wants to come back in my life and I know she’ll do any and every thing that she can to achieve this. Now, last night I was speaking to one of my friends (from the Band) ..the advice he gave me is that not to give my ex a second chance after the way she has hurt me…If it happened once, then it can happen again.
    I really and truly do not doubt him because before, when me and her was together, she use to tell me all these sweet words, the same as now but even taken it to a whole different level.
    The truth is I really don’t know if she just has no one to turn to now for comfort and if this is the reason she wants us to come back until she stabs me in the heart again.
    The most shocking part is that she was pregnant for this guy that she was with. She said that she regretted what she had done and don’t want to end up in Teenage Pregnancy. I decided to help her because she turned to me for help. Really and truly, when I was finally at the point of moving on in life she wants to come back now. I also want to move on in life but cutting the cord with her, is what I feel I don’t have the courage to do. I’m confused.

    • Keith 15 January 2011 at 2:31 pm Permalink

      Thank God I’m here now to say that I made the right choice. We are now close friends and moved on… : )

  19. Brandi 11 May 2009 at 5:42 am Permalink

    me and my boyfriend were together for a year and 2 months. we had a few ups and downs, but besides that, we were great. last week, out of nowhere, he decided to break up with me. He said i was too clingy and obsessive and treated him badly. i really dont know what i did. can someone help me? i dont know what to do! i want him back!

  20. tarek 13 May 2009 at 1:36 am Permalink

    no one can understand the women only god himself

  21. stephanie 27 May 2009 at 10:25 am Permalink

    well i broke up with this kid he is dating some ohter girl he said he loved me before but i d o love him i just didnt want 2 tall him waht can i do now if he has a girl?

  22. brandon 29 October 2009 at 3:56 pm Permalink

    Hey I broke up with my girl about 1 month ago and we dated for 18 months she went to college and a week later she said she doesnt love me anymore and she says she just wants to be friends but i tried and i cant cause im still so in love with her. what should I do is it over is there still a chance?

  23. Shannon 2 November 2009 at 7:22 am Permalink

    My girlfriend broke up on the 20th of October after 5 and 1/2 months of dating. We did date for 1 and 1/2 months last summer. I saw it coming, it felt like she check out of the relationship about ten days before we broke up. Talking to her on the phone was like talking to myself. She broke up with me because we didn’t connect. I agreed with her because that’s all I could do, but I feel that we do connect it’s just we haven’t been connecting lately. I think if we wanted we could work it out.

    The problem is that we have the same group of friends, this past weekend was the first time I saw her in ten days. We were both passive aggressive and tried to treat each other civil. However the day after my friends went out to the bars and she was shutting me out. She was not herself and whenever I tried to talk I didn’t get much of a response like she was purposly trying not to connect with me.

    The sad thing is that no matter how bad she treats me I will still always love her.

  24. samantha 22 December 2009 at 3:05 am Permalink

    me and my ex have been broken up for about a year but i see him all the time and i still love him. he was dating a girl from is town but they have broke up MANY times and he comes back to me then leaves again. i try to convince myself that im over him but every time i see him i fall for him again
    pityful right.

  25. Byron 23 December 2009 at 6:40 pm Permalink

    My girlfriend broke up with me on November 21st after dating 2 and 1/2 years I saw it coming she started hiding her cell phone not inviting me to go places with her like before started staying away from her apartment longer than usual, she would call me and say she was on the way a 10 min drive would turn into hour, the damage was already done in the first year we met ,I had one fling she never caught me but she always suspected me because of supporting circumstance she just couldn’t trust me through out our relationship even though long after that I made adjustments, after pleading and begging,calling and texting her to take me back for about the first 10 days. I stop after reading online how other guys got through it, once I stop contacting her to my surprise about 17days after the break up she called me we talk for about 40min she admitted that she had a crush on another guy she said that she never slept with him but only kiss him once about a week prior to the break up (Lol) but he has a girlfriend with two kids who has been cheating on him and once he file his income tax he is going to dump his live in girlfriend give her 1/2 the income tax money and move in with my ex and her four kids, I never herd of anything as stupid as this before, I know I was not right about what I done ,but that is foolish that a woman would leave her man who she thought was cheating to be with a man who is cheating can that kind of relationship last?

  26. frankie405 10 February 2010 at 4:39 am Permalink

    ive been with this girl for the past 1 year and 2 months she saids that she dont see me being with her and she saids she gonna find someone new when i right here she said i was the first at everything and i wanna get her back but she lives in vegas and i live in oklahoma what should i do? do i fly to see her and risks if she saids no or yes? we did alot in those years i lied and i cheated but i wanna make things right shes been there for me but i was to selfish to realize i had something special in front of me. She was my first love we was engaged for 11 months but she got tired of me i guess and dumped me i really want her back please help any advice helps thanks

  27. frankie405 10 February 2010 at 4:42 am Permalink

    me and my girl broke up last night and i wanna get her back i lied to her and cheated weve been engaged since march of last year i want her back in my life what should i do and we are doing a long relationship thing also do you think i should fly to see her? and see if things work out for the best?

  28. Louise 6 May 2010 at 12:07 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me after 5 1/2 years. We were highschool sweethearts. We moved in together about a year ago and then things just went sour from that point on. We started arguing about everything, I could never trust him for some reason. Out of no where he started wanting to hang out with his friends all the time, and theyre all cheating manwhores. I guess since my ex was the only one in a relationship from his friends, he felt like he was missing out. Our arguing was a good enough reason for him to back out and not want to be with me anymore. Im moving to another state in a couple months but I didnt want things to end..not like this. Actually, I never wanted things to end. He changed, but I know hes a wonderful guy. Anyway, Ive been doing whatever I can on my part to possibly get him back by cutting him out of my life. I cant help but know hes okay and happy with his life right now and most importantly, I dont know if I can handle him hooking up with someone else–we’ve only been with eachother. My friends say that it’ll take him to hook up with someone else to realize how much I mean to him..I dont want it to get to that and am hoping if theres a way for him to come back before it gets that far? Thanks for the advice.

  29. lucy 27 June 2010 at 11:12 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I started dating november and I broke up with him at the end of march. We got back together in june. I’m just trying to figure out when our aniversary is.

  30. milly 22 July 2010 at 6:37 am Permalink

    its been weird for ages, i have been ignored and avoided. we live together, but its like he’s a ghost.So i made a point of finishing it. I can’t be a slave to his mixed emotions anymore. Love always gets in the way though. He has no idea how much has hurt me over the past few weeks. Wish he would have been honest and finished me ages we moved into a new place. problem is now, im just shocked at how much time and effort i put in, and the little amount he did…

  31. preity 29 July 2010 at 12:51 am Permalink

    Me and My boyfriend broke up on 17th July. IT was expected but i was expecting more of a make up! he just told me to meet him and said he wants to end this relationship and that we are not for eachother as we think very different…aint we all suppose to have our own opinions?? we both are 24. He said he wants to keep everything the same…he wants our families to remain good friends (Even though they met cos of us as we wanted to marry eachother) he said, if ur gona do anything to urself, i will do it too…he was emotional and i was throwing tantrums so we decided to meet again after one day and at that time i was calm and got over our break up convo….i talked to him properly and agreed on the break up…but when i agreed on his statement tht yes we are very opposite…there was a pause from his side…i wonder why and then after a while, i just stopped the convo and felt good that atleast i said something that made him sad too….we had a pause for about 3 min and he said nothing at all……i really want to reconnect with him..as i feel we just grew apart cos of fights and misunderstandings..fights over the phone are neva right and should not be taken seriously as most of our fights were on the phone…..how do i get him back? i love him alot …

  32. Deee 7 August 2010 at 2:56 pm Permalink

    well me and my boyfriend just broke uppp after a 9month & 2weeks relationship i really love him and we neva stop thinking about eachotha we talk everydaii and he says he loves me but he got a girl next day we lefted eachotha and he still wants us to be friends wif benfits but he hurt me alot while going out becuz he fucked his ex and many other things and he still says he wants me bck and we still argue like old times we act as if we still go out iloveeehim very much ireally want him any body got suggestions for me to have him back please email meee

  33. Autumn 1 September 2010 at 2:39 pm Permalink

    Hi! My boyfriend broke up with me randomly one day a month ago after one and half years. He just said that he wanted to see other people and that he just doesnt like me anymore. I dont understand. Like I do, we used to fight a lot and whatever, but I miss him so much. He is flirting around now and watching him with other girls is so devestating. I want him back. We talk, but he will never talk about the break up and gets mad when I mention it. He doesnt get jealous, and he doesnt care what I do. I am so hurt and I want him back. Can you help?

    • lauren 8 September 2010 at 7:44 am Permalink

      hi im lauren. i know its devestating im going threw the same thing . maybe he had a good reason to break up with you. like he didn’t want to hut you or something like that. what i would do is try and ignore him as much as possible or try and write him the sweetest poem and win him back… i did that to my ex cody and won him back this summer but he left me….a few weeks ago

  34. lauren 8 September 2010 at 7:41 am Permalink

    i dated this guy for 3years and 5 months. i was madly and uncondtionlu in love with him. one day when i finally agreed that i want to have sex. he told meno and i said well why not? he replied and said we go to differnt schools it wouldnt work but later one when we were laying there he asked if i wanted too. i did do it. but two weeks later he started pushing me away like i was the bad guy. i told him why he was pushing me away he replied “i hurt my friend cailtyn, because i had sex with you what a stupid mistake” we got into a big fight about it. and i wrote him a poem explaining how much i love him and don’t want too loose him. he loved and it made him closer to me but as the weeks passed he started to like caitlyn so he left me for her! than he texts me randomly and says i wish i could see you. i never replied but a few nights ago i had my guy friend come over and we kinda liked each other but i feel asleep in his arms i woke up and said “i love you cody” my friend walked out and left… i told cody the next day and he said “parts of me wish that was me” he kinda wants me back but than he changes his mood and doesnt want me back. he says he has no feelings for me what so ever. i miss him and i love him soo much.. i feel like its all my fault and my problem i really want him back :( he was everything to me. know im broken hearted and left here crying every night i just want him back…. please contact me and help
    (210)396-6693
    lnoble599@yahoo.com

  35. Grace 12 September 2010 at 3:05 pm Permalink

    i dated this guy for 8 months and then he breaks up with me and this is he’s 3rd time doin this the 1st time i understand but the 2nd one i didn’t cause is wuz a week before my birthday and then the day of my birth he calls and tells me Happy birthday and i tell him i love him and i miss him soo much and then he tells me the same thing and next thing i knew we were back together and then a month later im sitting here cryin again cause he break up again and this time he says its for good the reason wuz that we were growin to far a part and then he tells some of my friends it wuz cause he didn’t love me anymore and then he tell 2 of my other friends that he still loves me and he wants me back and i still love him and everything but im scared to go back what if he breaks up with me again what then i oh most didn’t make it though this one,i want to die.i feel like if im not with him i feel like im nuthen to no one and im goin to die alone with 100 cats..then thing is we go to the same school and i see him a lot and he told me that he wants to be friends how am i goin to be just friends i dnt knw how im goin hide the fact that i still love u and i still care about u and i wuz pregnant with ur baby and then i lost it back in june i dnt knw how i can do that..im here layin in bed cryin myself to sleep..he told me that he loves me more than anything and he would do anything for me and i told he the same thing but different i said i love u, u are the only reason i get up in the mornings the only reason im stayin in school the note wuz 2 pages long..it really hurts…Can anyone help me please

  36. shannon 17 September 2010 at 11:23 am Permalink

    my boyfriend decided to break up with me less than a week ago. we were dating just shy of a year and i fell for this kid, i mean head first smack dap into the cement. anyway, before him and i got together i had just gotten out of a shitty relationship in which i was trying to salvage. he was there for me and gave me moral/emotional support and truly lifted my spirits. eventually i let go of my ex because i fell in love. but now almost a year down the road from that beautiful moment he wishes to abandon our relationship. he tells me that i am going to find another guy just like before but god! that is not the case what so ever for i only want to be his. i just want him to understand that i care deeply for him and that i dont want anyone else… like the night after he broke up with me i called a friend (who i have been intimate with, but realised it was a mistake- – long before i had met my true love) and he invited me to a house party. my main motive??? get drunk as hell and phase out my pain for awhile. i should have thought beofre this but he also uses that against me telling me that the first thing i do i run to the guy i used to “fuck” man it hurts, yet i understand. he wants to remain friends but i want more. he says “i see how you are, if you cant have my dick you don’t want anything to do with me” that cuts deep too because i’m not that way!!!! this shit is just driving me crazy…

  37. A 19 September 2010 at 1:19 pm Permalink

    Hi there , I need some advice please. I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for three years , however we had some misunderstandings and he broke up with me. But he keeps in touch and acts as if he still was my boyfriend, ( when he sends e-mails he keeps calling me honey) . I do not know what to do. Please give some advice. I really love him and want to get back with him.

  38. Cayla 27 September 2010 at 10:46 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago…. He says he doesn’t like me and I pretend as if I don’t like him…. I told him that I still like him a little. But he wont change his mind. I had a dream that we kissed (even though we didn’t in life) My heart was leaping for joy when I woke up and that day he told me he didnt like me. I like him a LOT. But I know that he is a player but my heart wont let him go. I cant stop thinking about him. I would rather die than wait any longer for him to tell me he loves me, to bring me back into his arms…. but he wont.

  39. Mike 2 October 2010 at 12:42 pm Permalink

    Update. I left a message here over a year ago. I broke up with me ex and now I have found someone else. She has already dated two guys for about 6 months each. The first guy didn’t work out and he wasn’t even her type. She broke it off with him because he was pulling bs with her. I told her if she wanted to be friends and she agreed. We have talked off and on. I saw her brother about three months ago and he told me that he told his sister that I was the best thing that happened to her. I was better than both her exhusbands and her last two boyfriends. I told him I really tried but I guess I wasn’t good enough. He told me that she needed growing up and that she has started regretting what she did. I told him I only wish her the best. I found some one and she treats me like a king. I know my ex still thinks of me often because she told her brother that and he told me. So I guess she is having some regrets. So I just want you to know there are other people out there so be patient.

  40. Carlos 5 October 2010 at 3:42 pm Permalink

    Hey everyone!! so my gf and i broke up 2 weeks ago after 2 years of dating…she didnt get along with my fam so we would fight over that…i havent seen her for 2 weeks and i miss her like crazy…i tell her that and she does not believe a word…girls are evil!!!! how do i get this girl to want me back..how do i make her believe that i want her badly…i was such a good person to her..i treated her well…i took every chance i had to see her..even wen she had only a 15 min break from class……please someone wat should i do? over text she makes itseem like there is no hope for us but i know there is

    • Dean 13 October 2010 at 12:37 am Permalink

      Just give her time my friend.

    • Liliana 8 November 2011 at 3:10 pm Permalink

      ok i have a good plan for u lol it really works! =-)i have done alot of reserch and u can do this dont answer any of her texts phone calls emails and watever u do dont have any contact with her give her the silent trement…If you do see her be as confident as u can…Dont be desperat needy or tell me like u love them or do anything for them…Act hard to get…Smile alot be very nice and friendly…Dress to impress works well too!!! If theres something that ur ex dosent like about u change it now…Always compliment them anything u can think of works well also…Dont do want annoys them thats a turn off…Wear nice perfume…Well thats the best i can do good luck!!!

  41. Dean 13 October 2010 at 12:35 am Permalink

    Me and my GF was together for 2 full years and in july 2010 I ended it but it was the biggest mistake of my life :( but recently she text me saying she misses me, she still has some feelings for me and that i make her smile but she wants more time. Can some one help me please is she playing me or she being for real? i love her to bits !!

    • teddy 1 April 2011 at 6:24 am Permalink

      explain to her has she moved on since?

  42. tlc 5 November 2010 at 2:46 am Permalink

    I have a complicated problem. I am well in my 30′s and I am still in love with my highschool sweetheart. We broke up and I went off to college and tried to live my life. I got married and had children knowing tht I still loved someone else. My husband was aware of this also. I ended up going through some things and moved back home where my ex still resides. My husband did not follow. I waited for my husband to come for 5yrs and i dont believe he will come. within the last yr i saw my ex. We spent time and we had sex and I told him how I felt. I really want to be with my ex and be happy. He shows me mixed signals and he tells me contridicting things. I am not sure wht he wants and I feel tht he is scared. I think me being married is a bg problem. If he (ex) came out and said I want to c where things go I would not hv a problem. How do I find out wht he wants and if I should walk away and let things be. If i walk away how do i let go of the feelings and find love again?

  43. lyly 18 January 2011 at 6:01 pm Permalink

    e and my ex was broken 1 week ago. we still live together and i can see he still love me. but during this time he have a girl was attact him and he talking texting around with that girl. But i know he not hang out with the girl because all time he stay home wit me. we talking and joking just like b4 event sex. but anytime we had sex he always tell me “you know this not changing anything right”. I dont know what he mean and do I have a change to take him back. and i dont know still have sex with hi is good idea or bad/ cause i want him back with me not jut fun around

  44. Ben Snmith 20 January 2011 at 12:43 am Permalink

    Hi,

    My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago. We have been together for about 3/4 years on and off. She went away travelling for 9 months and when she came back she was different and acted really needy. She said her head was abit of a mess and she was really worried about hurting me.
    We finally broke up around November after being on and off for abit, I didnt contact her for a month or so and she contacted me several times but I didnt reply. I have since seen her and spoken to her several times, in which she has said she still loves me, still fancies me and wants to be with me. But she is running away and hiding, because she is scared of getting hurt and most importantly hurting me. I am desperate to try again and re-gain her trust, but im not sure what the best thing to do is.

    Please can you help?

  45. Louise 2 March 2011 at 11:42 pm Permalink

    Hi,

    my boyfriend broke up with me and he dumped me because he liked a girl from new zeland ( he has relatives from new zeland )
    and i am tryed so much 2 get him back after a 2 year relationship but he said forget it soooo….. i wish someone had a secret about this

    if u read this i love you the world joshua XXXXXXXXX

    FRom louise age 8

  46. ilafu 3 March 2011 at 12:51 pm Permalink

    my boyfriend and i broke up 4 times well i dumped him 4 times the fourth time was before valentine’s day then we got together before valentine’s day but lately he has been so distant from me and anytime i tell him something he tells his friend who is also my friend but they dated back since pre school and just the other day he texted her saying that i am an attention seeker i really like him and don’t know what to do HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!111

  47. Maha 20 March 2011 at 4:57 pm Permalink

    Me and my exboyfriend had a long distance relationship for over a year. We met every now and then, things were great and so was the chemistry. Then i discovered that there was something going on with his friend, she turned out to be an ex. When i discovered this, he told me it was nothing and that it was justa complicated relationship and that i was his comfort zone. We made up and after 2 weeks, this girl came in btwn us again and this time, he just shutdown. I know one thing the girl is obsessed with him, desperately in love. She’s in the same area and i’m thousands of miles away. He stopped contacting me, gave me no explanations and when i asked him to clear the confusion. He told me that he wants to be friends with me. I know he met up with the girl and told her, all he can offer her is friendship cuz it’s a small world and she happens to be my friend’s cousin (what a coincidence). And I forgive him, he knows that but he still refuses to talk to me about it and says it’s better that way. Now, I’m just confused and I still love him. His mistakes are on him but me and him were great together. I can’t help but want him back. I have no idea why he avoids to talk to me about the whole thing. I know it’s one of two things: Either he is too embarrassed and ashamed or he just doesn’t even care about me to explain to me why he did it and what he did exactly. I’m left here more hurt of how he handled the situation than the situation itself. People would tell me he’s a cheater, move on but all i see is a great guy that did wrong. If he would just talk about it but he won’t. Any advice?

  48. teddy 1 April 2011 at 6:21 am Permalink

    I split up withmy boyfriend about 2 years ago and was with him for two years i now have a current partner of a year and a half but i am besotted by my ex, i cant help it i think about himn all the time and he wont have any of it he helped me through a lot, i suffered with bulimia and took me on holiday to try and make me better and then i did something stupid i went on a girls holiday the following year and cheated on on i know big mistake then we split up and it was actually me who split up with him because of the guilt but not a day goes by without me thinking about him, but now for some reason he rang me today after nearly a year of no contact telling me he was going to be a dad ( talk about rubbing salt in the wound) and now i am absolutley gutted what do i do!

  49. Abrianna 27 April 2011 at 12:45 pm Permalink

    Hi,
    Me and my boyfriend broke up a few weeks ago. He and I are now like BFFs and we talk alot. The week after we broke up he and I kissed and now he and she broke up. He and his oter ex got back to gether and I still think I love him. I miss him a lot and it hurts everytime some one hurts him in front of me. I really really miss him and I know I love him. Is breaking my heart after that kiss, and Ive kissd him on the cheek twice after we broke up, and now I don’t know what to do. I need help!

    • april alde 30 January 2012 at 1:40 pm Permalink

      i know /nor you know that it hurts to fall in love to someone who cant love you back. SO STOP FORCING YOURESELF TO THAT GUY…………………………………………………………………………………………………………..i know it hurts more but you have to accept the reality that you are not destined to each other. ………………///////////////////////……………………./////////////////// forget everything just move on………….. you can do it

  50. Benji 28 April 2011 at 6:21 pm Permalink

    My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months, we broke up 3 times because of me, because i was a player and i cheated on my girl with some other chick. i never meant to though.. I LOVE HER soooooo much and I need her back.. but thing is how am i gonna get her back? pls help.

    • april alde 30 January 2012 at 1:47 pm Permalink

      all you have to do is to ask her foregiveness and tell her if she really loves you. and if not, just moveon,,,,,,,,,,,,youre a guy man,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, i know you can do it

  51. Thembisile Hadebe 29 April 2011 at 9:25 am Permalink

    Me n my bf we dating for7 mnths frm mrch 2010 we were makin luv 2geda,wen i ws wth him i wished 2 stp tym nd nt leave him wen tym goes on he strted actin strange wen i ask him cum 2 c me he sad he is bzy,he sys he is 1000km away frm home.I rememba de day wen he says he’s wrkin nd i went 2 visit my teacher wth my frnds i saw him wth a Gul i ws hurt nd 1 of my frnd nd my couzin decide 2 wlk passin him 2 mke him dat they saw him,he strted blamin al my frnd.i stil luv him a lot nd i wnt him bck.GIRRA

    • Laura 14 May 2011 at 4:36 pm Permalink

      Speak english next time… we dont even understand what you are saying.

  52. Hannah 5 June 2011 at 12:41 pm Permalink

    Hey, my boy friend broke up with me a couple of months ago because his best friend was and is still convinced he’s in love with me. We were really close for about a year but not officially together because of ‘situations’ involving his best friends. Anyway he told me he was in love with me and always would be, and we did eventually get together but kept the relationship a secret so as not to upset his best friend. Only one day he decided he “couldn’t do it anymore” and broke up with me and told his friend everything. I pretended to be fine with it and just accept the break up and figured we’d still be friends so I left it about a week before texting him just general ‘chit chat’ that’s when i discovered he’d deleted my number and didn’t want to be friends because it was “easier this way”. Anyway this would have all been okay had I not made a fool of myself at a party, I got completely wasted and he was there, i started hitting him then just burst out crying and told him that I loved him, he said I needed to move on and it was all in the past and he couldn’t do that to his best friend. That was just over a month ago and I haven’t spoken to him since. I know I should just get over it and move on, it’s not like I dont get other offers but I just don’t -want- anyone else. I thought it’d be easier to get over the whole situation than it is but I’m just not coping well, though I try desperately not to let him see it. Should I hold out and hope he suddenly realises he loves me or just accept that he doesn’t care anymore? Please help, Hannah xx

  53. Cynthia 12 June 2011 at 1:29 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me just yesterday… he told me he lost feelings. but i dont believe him. i think theres something wrong going on.. we were going out for a year and about five months.. but today we saw eachother and had sex.. i just know he loves me but idont know how to make him come back. he told me that he was going to regret it and i said if he could give me a chance in the future. he said yes. but i dont know what to do ):

    • Ashley Kay 15 June 2011 at 9:21 am Permalink

      Stop having sex and start NC… he needs time to decide what he wants.

  54. cindy 15 June 2011 at 12:52 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me, after readings smses i got from someone who had an interest in me. I said I am sorry about the smses, He said he still love but he is hurt. I still love him and i want him back. I think i also deserve a second chance.

    • Ashley Kay 15 June 2011 at 9:20 am Permalink

      Yea, I think he just needs time to get over the pain.

      • cindy 27 June 2011 at 7:50 pm Permalink

        how long is it going to take for him to get over a pain? Can it really work after he said he does not trust me anymore?

  55. Shanae 15 June 2011 at 9:09 pm Permalink

    Hello, my ex boyfriend broke up with me a round about a month ago. He dumped me over text and he didn’t tell me the reason at starters.We went out for around about a year and a month. Then a few days ago he told me the actual reason over text. I’ve tried NC but it only lasted four days as I was wanting to speak to him. Don’t know if that was a bad idea or not. He said he wants to be friends ever since the start of the break up but I don’t know if I should because I still have strong feelings for him. He has been moody at times, one minute he is nice then the other he is mean. He told my sister that he misses me but I have no idea if that’s true, he told me he was completely over me in a few days.

    Can you please give me any pointers on what I should do??
    Thanks.x

    • Shannon 5 September 2011 at 2:30 pm Permalink

      Hi Shanae, i wouldnt put too much thought into what he told your sister. he probably didnt want to look like a jerk in front of her . Sounds like your contact may be irritating him if he is moody, mean , then nice. I dont know the reason he broke it off as you didnt say but sounds to me like you need to leave him alone and let him MISS YOU. You are not allowing him time to miss you and remember the good times. Every time you call he gets more irrtated and it just confirms in his head that he made the right choice to break it off. What you have to realize is he will NOT come back unless he WANTS TO COME BACK. No contact is your best hope because clearly contacting him isnt working. Give him SPACE. If he never returns then your truly better off without him. I know its hard I am also going through the same thing but at least my ex was honest and said that contacting him was NOT helping things and it was only making him think of me more negatively. He was honest, not all men are upfront about a woman being annoying. So just leave him alone for at least 2-3 months and then try contacting him. The more contact you have the more you push him away and then the longer it will be for you to get the answer you want.

  56. Kyle 16 June 2011 at 10:20 am Permalink

    My ex girlfriend and I broke up a couple months ago. We were together a year and a half. Things started gonna bad for me emotionally which caused a lot of fights. She ended falling out of love with me. We lived together and everything. She moved new people into our place. Shortly after she broke up with me. I was devastated. I did everything wrong after that. I begged her to come back, cried and pleading. I even needed up telling one of the people that lived with us one of her biggest secrets about her past. I’m not proud of that. It hurt her bad. Fights got really bad between us. She ended up kicking me out three times. Finally, I ended up moving back to our home state 1000 miles away to get my life back together. She us still living in our apartment and struggling with the bills. She wants to be back here. We do have contact but mostly from my side. I’m trying to help her out but it’s hard being so far away. Plus, she often gets mad with me because I still want to be with her. She tells me that she just doesn’t me anymore. We went through so much during our relationship and a lot after the break up. Is there hope for us getting back together at all? If so what should I do?

  57. lauren 20 June 2011 at 2:24 pm Permalink

    my bf dumped me 2day over text cause i dont live in his town,its only 30 miles away and he asked me out when we went 2 fair,we looked in2 each others eyes and smiled,we held hands and happly a guy pushed him on me:) but now my heart is broke and i wana get him back,i was cryn so hard and im scared he moved on so im never going 2 give up:)

    • sam 23 June 2011 at 2:24 pm Permalink

      now thats a good way to look at it that is what i have been doing now i still dont know if my girl has moved on but we now have been talking more and more every day and i think it is working and i agree with you dont give up on the one u love the most and thats kinda how i met my girl just a random day and just things happened to fall into place. it was like the peace for me and i bet that is how u felt when u met that guy.

  58. sam 21 June 2011 at 2:56 pm Permalink

    hey,

    so i thought that i had the one girl that rly got me we had it all the same. it was our way toward things and same exact intrestes. she was everything to me i when over my texting like soo much more that my wallet is empty but i did not care it was for her all i did was for her. she was that would not get out of my head it was a non stop of her just there. but one day she texted me saying she had a lot on her mind and that she thought we needed to split so i did what any good guy would do and respect it and she said she still wanted to be good friends. now yes i said yes to that but we stoped talking for 2 weeks and still she was in my mind and then she texted me one night and this was a week ago and now we talk everyday and every letter that i read from her makes me want her more and more. i want to ask her agian but i dont want to mess things up with how we r still close just not as close as i want it to be.
    what do i doo i love her with every bone in my body and every blood cell in the midel but i dont think i can win.
    if u have an answer please paste one thank you:

    ps: sorry never was a good speller :/

  59. bharathi 22 June 2011 at 10:42 pm Permalink

    hello..its been 4 weeks since i broke up wif mi ex..but i wonder if he still loves mi alot..i know i hurt him,ignored him when we were together..but i really loved him..i was possesive that he didnt call or messaged mi first..i even fought with him everyday just for this..i asked him why he doing this to me ..all he said was i did not want to hurt you by saying anythink wrong that was why i ignored you..his reason for break up was this too..i really miss him alot ! but he still do care for mi , he stil loves mi alot..he just does not want to patch wif me..i asked him if we are gona be friends forever..his answer was depends..:( he thinks that i am happy without him when the truth was i actually slash mi hands n took panadols :( he did not sleep for a day just cause for that :( is there a chance for me to patch with him ? or is he just doing this to mi just to let mi know how he felt when i did the exact thing to him ? i really loved him alot..hope he would understand mi love :(

  60. Brittany 25 June 2011 at 3:23 am Permalink

    my ex broke up with me a 2 months ago… he did some rotten things to me.. but for some reason i still have really strong feelings for him.. he sends me emails occasinally and says he still loves me and he gave me a promise ring… i gave it back and when i looked at his facebook page a while ago A LOT of girls were writing on it,..i dont know what to do.. ive bitched him out a few times…. because hes been a jerk.. i want him to know that i still care about him.. but i dont want him to think im waiting for him… i dont know how to play hard to get… and he doesnt live around here..what do i do?

  61. Raichael 30 June 2011 at 9:38 am Permalink

    Yep. Im only 15 years old.
    I was only goin out with my ex for 6 dayz then he dumped me sayin things wernt working for him and that he didnt want to be with anyone he has just started seeing someone else, I saw him with this gurl last friday, he looked at my friend so she gave him dirty looks then my friend sed when my ex realised it was me he let go of his new gf’s hand! what does that mean? We av been split up almost 3 months n im still madly in love with him! xxxx

  62. Jake 4 July 2011 at 6:57 am Permalink

    I`m your huckle berry..

    I feel like I have just had my life ended. when you go out with someone for 4 years and they break up with you it feels to me like the worse feeling ive ever had in my entire life. I have tried alot of things to keep my mind off it but nothing works. \i use to drink but I quit it last weak when she crushed my hear in to pulp and now it feels like all those pieces of pulp are expanded in my chest and when ever I throw up its pieces of my heart spilling out. As I slowly lose my heart through my throat I also feel dizzy like i just did 25 spins and sat right down. Everything is moving but me. I sit and think, fucking THINK. THINK THINK THINK about her all day all night. I stayed up all night the night before last and watched the tv. the screen and volume were on. I dont even know what was on tv, i really couldnt tell you. I just sat on the coach of my buddy hartigans coach and looked at a screen dizzy and sick to my stomach. I dont know what feeling is the most hurtful, the fact that shes gone or the fact that i brought this apon myself. I just begged and convinced her to see me. In 2 hours from now i am going to see if my love will accept that i have changed and take the risk to come back to me so we my love and hold each other again. I hope it doesnt go the other way. the damage could be to much for her already and im pretty sure it is. I was a weak boy when she need a strong man. I was insecure and she suffered because of that. we suffered because of that. If I am to get her back tonight I will be the happiest I have ever been. I cant try and convince her to come back to me to be like it was in the good times in the past, because it will never be like that again. I am different. we will have to make a new relationship that works for the both of us. I will have to stop hiding behind a drunken selfish shallow boy and be a sober confident trusting man that she can rely on to hold her tight and make her happy. If I can convince someone to believe me that i have changed in 1 week its crazy. but if i can convince her ive changed when she could never rely on me for the last 4 years and that i have told her i was gonna change several times, I dont know if that is possible. the crazy thing is… I have changed this time and its gonna to quite a time trying to let her know this.

  63. Amy 19 July 2011 at 10:10 pm Permalink

    i am 17 and i broke up with my boyfriend after dating for about four months.
    we first dated for about three months and then i ended the relationshpip but i wanted him back so we got back together in two days. after that we dated for another month and this time he ended the relationship. i dont blame him for doing that since i never showed him enough affections : he wanted to hang out more often and kiss . the problem was this was my first boyfriend so i wasnt used to dating anyone. dating and kissing were all a bit overwhelming for me. but i was gradually getting used to it. but i guess my boyfriend couldn’t handle it anymore.

    now that we broke up, i finally realized what ive been doing wrong about the relationship. i want him back – AGAIN. it would be a third time and i think that’s a bit weird but nonetheless i want him back. when he ended the relationship he told me that now he likes me less than he used to.

    how can i get him back??

  64. Kasey Phillips 3 August 2011 at 1:39 am Permalink

    Me and my ex gf just broke up about 10 days ago. We dated for 2 years and 2 months. We spent pretty much everyday, did everything together. We had plans for our future that I was so excited for. We even went through an abortion which was the hardest thing ever. I love her so much, and I am so devastated because she broke up with me because of saying she was confused. She says I remind her of what the baby could of looked like and it hurts me so bad. She was my best friend and my everything. I don’t know what to do anymore. She is being pretty stupid atm and doing some things I don’t agree with at all, even staying the night at another guys house, but swears they aren’t doing anything. I’m 19 and shes 18.

    What should I do? I can remember every moment we spent together so vividly. Even her smile and what she wore on our first date. Or when I held her for the first time.

  65. Steph 3 August 2011 at 10:56 am Permalink

    my bf’s just recently broke up with me we were together for 4 years and says that he doesnt love me anymore were still friends and still see eachother but i want him back im head over heals for him and duno how to get him to fall back in love with me , everytime i see him i sit and chill with him and go out sometimes , but i always feel like crying :/ i need help on how to win him back i couldnt imagine life without him =/ hes the one and only for me , we broke up couple months back and gave it another go but last week when he broke up with me he says that he wasnt happy and that nuthing had changed at all :( he seemed fine and happy when we were with eachother for the past couple months , but i really want him back hes the love of my life please reply and help me !! :(

  66. Halley 5 August 2011 at 3:55 am Permalink

    Me and my ex broke up about 2 weeks ago. It was through text, I want him back so bad. We were dating for 9 months, and everything seemed to be going just fine. I’m not sure what happened. He said maybe we should take a break and if we both really miss each other then we know how much we want to be together. He hasn’t asked me back out or anything, does that mean he doesn’t miss me? He said he wants to try being friends. But I don’t want to. Someone please help. I love him , I really do. And at this point, I would do anything to get him back.

  67. Elcie 5 August 2011 at 8:19 pm Permalink

    My Ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago over MSN after we had our first fight we both hated it and said things in the heat of the moment. the reason we had a fight was because he said he had been unhappy for a year since his ex dumped him and he still feels strongly about her there best friends and spend a lot of time together. So naturally i got a bit jealous and upset and the argument snowballed into something bigger than it really was. He is staying at his mum’s house and is miles away so we can’t meet up and talk about this in person. He keeps saying i know if i was back home we would sort this out one way or another. He still says his feelings haven’t changed for me and he doesn’t know why we can’t be together or why he dumped me. All i know is we both still love each other a lot he means the world to me. I need some ideas or help on how to deal with this when he’s so far away any tips would be gratefully received right now

  68. sarah 6 August 2011 at 11:05 pm Permalink

    me and my ex broke up around 3 months ago but prior to that we’ve been arguing a lot. i know i was really controlling and clingy which drove him nuts and hes always been very patient with me, but he finally snapped. when we broke up he said we could remain friends and he thinks he could fall in love with me again so i said yes to it. but then after a while when uni was getting hectic i said we should talk after exams, but then i broke NC and started talking to him again. we studied together heaps and talked online every day.

    after a while when i saw things werent going anywhere i talked to him and asked him whether he wanted to work things out together or we just wont talk anymore. he chose the second option because after the break up he felt really lost and he wanted to work on himself. he also said if he were to get into a relationship then he wouldnt be giving his 100% as well, which i dont want. I also had a life talk with him that night and he started crying in front of me which is rare, i think he was very weak up to that point and i felt bad for leaving him but i was also going crazy from the emotional rollercoaster. he also admitted he knew it would be hard on me to just be friends and that he was selfish for doing that.

    so we’re not talking anymore now (only been a few days). i told him if he wanted to work things out then please contact me, but if not then we shouldnt talk, cause i cant handle being friends with him since i really love him. my friend said the fact that he could cry shows that he still feels very comfortable with me and that it might be a good sign he would start missing me. i also have a gut feeling he still likes me.

    i dont know whether i did the right thing or whether i’ve said it the right way! please help! :(

  69. Jennifer 13 August 2011 at 6:36 pm Permalink

    Me and my boyfriend broke up about 2 months ago and I can’t get over him. Even though we don’t talk he is still on my mind everyday and night. He’s dating someone else which was his “best friend” back when we were together. I didn’t think it would affect me as much as it did. Wee broke up after a year and a month and he said that because of the distance and it wasn’t what he wants. Now I’m always thinking about sending him a message or something because I miss him alot and it hurts me he got with her around a week after we broke up so they have been seeing each other for sometime. But I don’t know if he still wants anything to do with me. During July he said that he is starting to fall in love with her and that he doesn’t love me only the memory of me. And it hurt me alot and until this day I still think I have a chance.
    Someone help? :c

  70. Princess 18 August 2011 at 8:18 pm Permalink

    Hey , my ex boyfriend broke up with me about 3 or 4 weeks ago and since then ive been devistated … all i can do is think about him all day and wish that he’ll come back to me ….he said that he lost the feelings he had for me and that he hated me because i made him confused and he couldnt handle it .. he told me he loved me and i told him the same , but he said he didnt know how to handle loving me and just broke my heart .. im soo scared that he’ll find someone else and just forget about me , we had a great realationship we had sooo much in common it was almost unbelieveable .. 36 things in common and still in counting .. i love him so much and i think he broke up with me because we never kissed when we went out but its not like i didnt want to kiss him i did i really do and still do i was just so nervous about how it will turn out like i kept thinking if ill mess up or somthing will go wrong and ill just humiliuate myself in front of him … he broke up with me on a text message when i was in the hospital dieing , thats what broke my heart the most it made me cry and i still even cry sometimes thinking about it i just wanna know how to get him back and know how to actually make a move on a guy because im so shy and its a bad thing because i believe it ruined our realationship … he thinks i took the break-up well but i didnt i cried a little when he told me it and i cried alot that night in the hospital .. i swear i love him and im only 12 and hes 12 .. ill be going to 8th grade next year and he’ll be going to 7th i love him soo much i wanna be with him forever and always … i know that most people saying im to young to know this but age is only a number and were only human so were allowed to feel anything … pleaseee someone contact me im begging you ): i miss you sooooo much julian it makes me hurt

  71. sidney berry 19 August 2011 at 8:46 am Permalink

    my bofreind and i broke up and i want him back so bad

  72. Saheed.A. 19 August 2011 at 7:22 pm Permalink

    I did’nt know,what i do for my fiance because she already changed the attitude view month agoes.and when she came to myfathers house.after our service.i introduce her as my fiance later she left i call her to ask about trip because we are not leave in the same state.but last term when i traveled to her placed.I meet one guy there,as a man i ask her who is that person she told me that area person.i over look it.

  73. colin 20 August 2011 at 9:01 pm Permalink

    my ex galfreind is a complete bitch she finished with me had a bloke in the sameday i left and shagged him on a saturday i wish she was dead

  74. lany 21 August 2011 at 6:16 pm Permalink

    im with BreAnna what can i do?? please help…

  75. Steph 23 August 2011 at 8:45 am Permalink

    please reply back :( i need help :( i cant handle not being able to hold my ex :/ i need him in my life imm so scared that he’l find someone else :/ i couldnt bare seeing him with another girl </3 i cant get over him i still see him and stay with him but i want him back badly please reply :(

  76. orlando luzzi 25 August 2011 at 4:21 am Permalink

    I need help I cheated on my girlfriend and I am always on the internet looking a single women and emailing them. I do love my ex and want to change my behavior. Right after she broke up with me she wanted me back calling and sending me text messages now she cut off communication. I know she is talking to this guy and they were suppose to go out should I be worried? Please help Orlando

  77. grace kim 31 August 2011 at 3:14 am Permalink

    Everything I asked for HAPPENED LAST NIGHT! Drew finally broke down and told me EVERY thing, confessed to being a liar and a cheat, and asked me to please forgive him…………. It must have been eating him up inside for days now, the guilt, I can tell he’s been weird. I thought at first it wasn’t gonna work, and he was gonna leave, but I guess I thought too soon, cause he finally admitted to everything, but said he loved ME and ONLY ME, and it’s killing him to think of losing me! He said he’d do ANYTHING to prove it to me! I kinda want to take him up on that, (hee hee) but I won’t push my luck! We are going to go to counseling now, and he even said I can have his voice mail and email passwords, just in case I need extra proof that he is now being 100%%%% FAITHFUL to me and ONLY me through the help of this good spell

    • Shannon 5 September 2011 at 2:37 pm Permalink

      Hi Grace, if he cheated once, he will probably cheat again. I would say this guy is a creep. I would not be too excited about getting someone like that back into your life. He can promise you email passwords and voicemail passwords but its pretty darn easy to open new email accounts behind your back. Furthermore, why did he cheat? Do you think he cheated because he loved you? Is that your idea of love? More scary is that was his idea of love is? I drop him and move on to a man you never have to wonder about. Is he cheating, is he not cheating, .. trust me you cannot forget such horrible things. I have been there and it makes for a very miserable relationship for both people. At some point he will revert back to his old ways once he thinks he has you “hooked” yet again. If he knows he can get away with cheating he knows he can get away with anything when it comes to you. Its sad but from reading your post i would run not walk away from a guy like that.

  78. Mary 3 September 2011 at 10:31 am Permalink

    My ex-boyfriend broke up with me 5 months ago….no reason except “it is me not you”~~ ok…we are not in highschool we are both in our mid-30′s. He has never committed and was close to asking me to marry him. Then he ran. You have to know that I know that we are suppose to be together. We see eye-to-eye on everything…we never even had one disagreement. I let him go and after no contact for 3 months~ he then started calling and texting. He just wants to be friends. I have tried but it hurts everytime we hang up…or he leaves. He says he likes the way it is going now. He feels bad for what he did because I didn’t deserve it…he also says that he knows we are meant to be together but he is just not going to make promises until he can go into it whole-heartedly. OK~~ MEN not boys answer me this….is he trying to come back slowly? Should I be available? or should I just stop? I know he loves me…

    • Shannon 5 September 2011 at 2:16 pm Permalink

      Hi Mary, perhaps he has regrets but my fear is those awful words ” he just wants to be friends” I would not sleep with him or be intimate with him until he makes a commitment to date again. Because sex will not bring him back or draw him closer. He is to want it emotionally. If being his friend is painful i would ask him what his intentions are. If he says all he can offer you is friendship then I would consider moving on if the thought of that is really painful for you. I have had ex’s come back but they always just want “friendship” this is very very painful most of the time and usually they never change their thoughts on it no matter how long i give it or how sweet and patient i am. I would tell him you cannot talk to him if he has no intentions of dating you again and just tell him that you love him and you can never see him as just a friend. I am sure he will be honest with you and then you will have an idea what path you should choose. if you allow him to only be “friends” and thats his preferred option then you will never get more from him. Its best to be clear with him and then not contact him until he contacts you with an answer you want. Otherwise, if you dont hear from him you have your answer. Best of luck .

  79. Shannon 3 September 2011 at 11:21 am Permalink

    After having read all these posts I just want to share my story and offer a little advice. My boyfriend of nearly 3 years broke up with me 2 months ago. I will be the first one to admit i was a bitch, nagging, clingy, un trusting , accusations towards him on cheating when he likely was not, i caused fights, arguments, and said hurtful things to him on several occasions during my angry moments. Do i deserve to be dumped and left? YES I DO. Listen everyone, we all know the true reasons why our mate left us. Until you are able to be honest with yourselves you will never become a better person and move forward. Your significant other knows and can see you have not changed if you are still asking him seriously what you did for him to leave. Even if our ex’s never return the best thing that many of us can do it OWN UP TO OUR MISTAKES and let them know 1 time through email then simply walk away and let them be. You cannot make someone be with you. They have to want to be with us . Even if it hurts they are now gone lets remember all the other times we had been with someone in our past and thought they were also the perfect match. We moved on, we healed and we met new people and I can assure you each and every one of us will find love again. If it was truly meant to be do you think our ex’s would be telling us they want us OUT of their lives . Do you think that someone who truly loves you needs a break ? I have found most people find it difficult to end things properly. Why? Because they know mostly likely than not the other person will beg, plead and ask for a second chance. It is easier for most people to leave in the least confrontational way possible in order to avoid the sobbing, crying, and begging. Do you blame them? what if you were not in love with someone would you want to have to hear that? I know many may not have deserved to be broken up with. I feel for those of you who never saw it coming . But i think if we are truthful within ourselves I can bet most of us were warned, given plenty of talks, told to stop, and even given signs that our attitudes and behaviors were not acceptable at some point. I should say this is not for everyone out here reading this but for many of us. I can tell you that when looking back on my past relationships where i was the one being dumped in every case i always made the same mistakes clingy, not trusting, accusations, started arguments, bitched, nagged etc. I have at times during my other relationships stopped that behavior and MAGIC! it went beautifully. My boyfriends couldnt see me enough or spend enough time with me. It is only when i fell back to my bad habits that chased men away over time. We always think they will put up with it , they will continue to forgive and forget but all it does is show them that we cannot be trusted and we are not dependable. Please people stop focusing on your ex’s i know it hurts but instead take all that time and energy and truly work on YOURSELF! because when you truly change is when real love will happen for you. Ask yourself why do you REALLY want or need this person in your life if they made it very clear they dont want you? Is it because you want what you cant have? You have to have the last word? Because you think if they just see you one more time you can change them and who they are? Do you think that some how they will forget everything that has happened ? If they ended it once, they will end it again. Furthermore it takes no more than 1 evening out with you or a 30 minute phone call for them to know if you truly changed your ways. WORK ON YOURSELF and love will come. I am hurting like all of you are.. but in truth its my own fault!..For those of you who truly did nothing to deserve your breakup.. then clearly ladies and gents they don’t love you or value you as a person because most people would love to find the sweet, kind, loving person who never argues, complains or plays games. So if they have dumped you and you have done nothing to deserve it .. then they are far better off with someone else. Trust me, in a year you will agree .

  80. Shannon 3 September 2011 at 11:47 am Permalink

    On one last comment , I have noticed a lot of questions in many peoples responses…So some asked here is my 2 cents:

    When one person ends a relationship in their mind it is over. They are single..

    I am worried they will find someone else? YES probably they will just like you will with time.

    If they meet someone else will it work out? Certainly possible. But no one has the answer to that.

    Do you think they love me? Not likely if they dumped you. Sorry but if you loved someone deeply and were 10000% sure of it and were 10000% happy with them would you dump them? Not likely.

    Will they come back? This honestly depends on a few factors.. Do they have someone who is everything they want? Then no they wont be coming back. Did whomever they dumped you for dumped them? Its possible because now they are lonely. You were not first choice before so you wont be now. I give it a few weeks to a few months in cases like this then they are POOF! gone again as fast as they came back.

    How can i forget this person and move on? – Stop facebooking, texting, emailing, talking about it with friends non stop. Everytime a thought of them enters your mind think of something else, go out, have fun, enjoy doing things you stopped doing.

    Will no contact work? It may, only because they will see you stopped acting desperate, clingy, and needy and you can LIVE WITHOUT them. Dont count on this folks because if i look back on all my past relationships they rarely ever come back for a relationship. They are more curious if you got married have someone, what your up to. etc..Not to spark romance again. Its possible but lets be realistic.

    Here are the real important questions you should ask YOURSELF…
    Will you ever trust the person again if they did happen to come back?
    How long do you really think its going to last ?
    Do you think your behavior or issues will create havoc yet again?
    Will you always doubt their true feelings for you?
    Could you see yourself marrying someone who left you once maybe more?
    When you think of an ideal relationship for you.. is it really the relationship that just ended or are you fooling yourself?
    Do you really think that what you do not like about them will really change?
    Do you really want to lower your standards and hurt inside on a regular basis just so you can simply be THEIR FRIEND?
    Do you want to give up all that is important to you so that you can be their doormat and allow them to have and do as they please but get nothing in return that YOU need to feel supported, loved, cheerish and cared for IS IT WORTH IT?
    Do you really believe that there is NOT one single person in this world that can make you happy ?
    Do you believe that spending another day, another week or another year is going to bring you happiness when all you do is walk on egg shells, kiss their butt and pray to god you dont screw up so they don’t leave you again?
    What will you have to sacrafice to have them in your life? Your total happiness?
    How many years do we have on this earth… enough to spend stressing over people who cannot forgive or see our potential?
    Are you willing to settle for crumbs when in your heart you know you truly cant?
    Are you willing to settle for crumbs PERIOD? When you know you need and deserve so much more!..

    We shall all get through this .. but it starts with you…. Your ex is not crying at night … he or she is living her life and doing what is best for themselves. which is what we should be doing.

    How long is too long to allow someone to continue to hurt us? At some point we have to take control and say no more.

    • Alex 28 October 2011 at 3:57 pm Permalink

      Shannon,

      I just want to say that what you said hit me like a ton of bricks!! You are so right. Your words have made it so much easier for me to just move on. I was looking for something to help me tonight and you did. Thank you!!

    • cj 13 November 2011 at 7:16 pm Permalink

      shannon,
      thank you so much i had been asking myself these questions, since the bust up and ex is with some1 else anyway. ex was the one who said they wanted no contact as friends or otherwise. the timing of break up had me sus of cheating going on. seeing these questions in black and white and answering them yes or no has help me heaps

  81. anonymousperson 3 September 2011 at 1:25 pm Permalink

    ive liked my bf since sophomore year high school, he was a senior. right now im a senior and he’s a soph at the community college down the street from my high school. after he graduated we didnt talk at all then he randomly texted me and we started flirting which was nice because i was trying to get over a recently failed year and a half long relationship. he told me how he had feeling for me my soph year as well but just didnt tell me since i was dating someone at the time. he asked me to be his gf soon after but we were both busy with work. the few times we got to see each other were amazing. we had so much fun and he even asked if i would stay with him after he enlists in the military, which isnt happening for another year and a half. he also said things like (not directly quoting) “i have a lot of stressful things going on in my life and when im with you you make me feel amazing, i forget it all.” and just saying some other meaningful things like that. one morning i woke up and he played “good morning beautiful” for me. it was so sweet. school was starting soon and he asked me if he would be able to see me during the week. but school started and things got even busier. so we could barely see each other at all and he cant text when hes at work. we saw each other once during the school week, during my 30 minute lunch. then we had plans that weekend and they totally got ruined because he had work and then two days after he texts me. he says he feels bad because he works so much, he never gets to see me, and barely gets to talk to me and he said “i dont wanna hold you back”. im not one to believe the whole “im holding you back” speech. but he said he was going to be so busy in the next month with more work and school still and family stuff coming up that he will literally have no free time… i asked if he wanted to break up and he said “i like you, i really do. i just cant have anything right now. its not fair to anyone. im sorry.” i said ok i understand and didnt expect him to txt back but he apologized twice more, saying it was his fault and he was seriously sorry. and he hasn’t texted me since. not sure what to think of it and whether or not i should contact him. im not sure if his remark about not being able to have anything right now meant that he might want something later down the road? im not sure. but i miss him terribly. i feel ashamed that i might’ve not made him happy. i want another chance.

  82. jessie 4 September 2011 at 3:12 am Permalink

    hi, i know my ex boyfriend still love and care about me though he never show. But my ex is a stubborn mule,he never admit or think that he is in the wrong,that’s y we used to fight often. So he is afraid to step into a relationship with me again,do i still have a chance to get him back?

    • Shannon 5 September 2011 at 2:10 pm Permalink

      Jessie, why would you want someone back who clearly stated they do not love you? Men are not complicated.. If they say they do not love you , they DO NOT LOVE YOU. You need to accept this fact and stop trying to force him to feel something for you that he has clearly told you he DOES NOT!.. Find someone else . It sounds like the odds of him returning are low considering he said seems to be feeling forced and it is causing him stress because he just cannot give you the love or feelings you need from him. He is not stubborn. If a man loves a woman he TELLS HER. He does not hide it and break it off. He is afraid of being with you again because he is going to have to listen to you nag him about why he doesnt love you. HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. Move on or be his friend but you can’t force someone to feel things just because you feel those things. Best of luck

  83. Nadia 5 September 2011 at 10:55 am Permalink

    Hey so I was with this guy for a year and a half. Within that year and half I realized he was very jealous and insecure. He kept pushing my buttons. February of this year, I met someone else in school. I got really attached to the new guy but never broke it off with the old one because I was attached to both guys at that point. The first one would be bad to me so I’d go to the new guy and he was charming. I kept breaking up with the second guy within the first two months. I kept doing it because I felt guilty. Eventually I learned to be with both guys. Me and the second guy always argued because I kept saying he would leave me for a Russian Jewish girl since that’s what he was and he kept trying to tell me that wasn’t true. In the beginning of august, I ended it with the first guy. I finally had the guy I loved to myself. Then a few weeks ago, I brought up the Russian Jewish thing again and he broke up with me. I couldn’t handle the break up and forced him to drag it out as much as he could. I went to see him yesterday and he said he just couldn’t hurt me anymore and that he isn’t emotionally in it anymore and he can’t do it. So we cried all day yesterday. I told him how much I love him and he kept apologizing for not loving me as much as I live him. He kept telling me I’ll find somebody else and that he is looking for a meaningful relationship and he is going to begin taking interest in other girls but he promised that he would try his best to come back. He didn’t say he was for sure he just promised he would try his best and he said I’d find someone to love me the way I love him. He still wants to remain friends so I called him this morning and had a casual conversation and he ended it by saying “I’m sorry to cut you off but I have so much hw I should get to. Law school is no joke. I’m gonna eat and go do hw, ok babe?” and then we said bye and hung up. Why did he call me babe? I’m so confused and hurt and I don’t know what to do. Please help

  84. Ian 6 September 2011 at 6:12 am Permalink

    Hello Shannon.
    I’m in desperate need of help right now in my life. Its pretty complicated but to fully understand my situation, you have to understand the whole story.
    Its a lot to read but PLEASE help me decide how to go about this. =]

    My name is Ian and I am 16 years old. I’ve only dated two girls really in my life, the first one being a 15 month relationship highschool relationship. It was absolutely perfect and so was she. But i messed everything up because i repeatedly lied to her about doing drugs. Nothing to serious, just marijuana, and i NEVER had intentions to hurt her, i just couldnt control myself all that well being ADD and self-medicating and such. but i think it was really the part about me lying to her every time i did it that hurt her. And i wasnt treating her bad, she just wouldnt give me a choice, it was either her or the drugs and i wanted both but it couldnt be that way. That was the later portion of the relationship, i wasnt smoking when we started dating. It was a shame because, in the long run, we really just ended up going down different paths in life and didnt change together. It ended because i had lied to her for the last time, and she said she just fell out of love, the intense, passionate, meaningful love we had. We were in highschool, but let me tell you, it was a real relationship. It hurt bad. i had to deal with knowing shed moved on with someone else while i was left alone and still stuck in the past. I tried committing suicide twice, both unsuccsessful and i was lucky for that and not being permanently physically injured or anything.She was dating this other guy who seemed to actually change for her and had already stopped a life of drugs before she came along. I just dwelled upon her being with this guy and having sex with him and loving him. she had my virginity too, just so you know. and it tore me up that i didnt give it to the right person. Just as it seems like im so alone in the world, the only thing i can ever think of brought me back into it. You see, earlier in my life, around 7th grade, i moved to georgia. there, i met this girl in the grade below me but she lived in my neighborhood and we went through the whole little kids flirting thing, scratching and playing outside and such. We had always been on and off as more than friends but we were both very shy and we ended up somehow going our seperate ways after about 4 years of summer fun and good times just being infatuated with each other. she was really the first girl i ever cared about in my life and viewed as something more than attractive in my mind. same for her to me. she came back into my life when she sent me a facebook message after about 2 1/2 years of no communication about how she wondered why things changed and why were not friends anymore and she said she couldnt deal with not knowing what would happen if she let it stay that way if we both went off to college and everything. we naturally became friends again, we had both changed, and were both unhappy in our own right until we found our way back to each other. she sent me that message the weekend before my ex broke up with me, as if god himself had sent me an angel. we learned we had both been depressed without the other. But way back in the day with her, we had our off and on times and i might end up getting to needy or desperate looking, but after my freshamn year when she was coming into highschool, that summer, she lost interest and was apparently going through a hard time in her life and had to deal with half her friends going to a different highschool and such and she ended up pushing me away and it destroyed me, i had never experienced heartbreak before so i ended up forgetting about her and engrossing myself in highschool. when she started talking to me again, she thought that i had abandoned her and she had been depressed most of the whole time without me and she had to see me fall in love with someone else. well, i found all this out and we naturally became extremely close and started to really like each other. she made the pain from my last relationship go away. we understood each other and it looked like we would finally have a chance to make our feelings for each other work since we never really tried before cause we were too young. she had trust issues but i stayed there for her, to care and sooner or later, she let me over her wall and we fell in love. i was her first boyfriend and her first kiss, we didnt go extremely far physically but we were sexual every once in a while, we never really went under the pants. after 2 months, things had changed, i was insecure about everything she did whether it was going out with friends or what. and i showed her that i was. i feel like if i got enough affection though without asking for it, i wouldve felt wanted and not insecure. thats the way it was in my relationship before. (my first gf was named ashley haha) but i took advantage of her and i learned my lesson, to be thankful for what you have. now things went too far one to many times after about 4 months with hannah, (thats her name) and i got really mad and told her to just go away and take her friends with her cause they just upset me everytime somehow. she said she would and i said fine. WRONG MOVE. she said she was mad for a little bit but after she changed her facebook status, she felt good about it, she had made up her mind. i heard this and i begged her. alsoai bad idea because she told me how we both knew things werent working out and we didnt see eye to eye on things. which isnt completely true i believe, i just think we percieve things differently but we get along great and natural chemistry flows. begging her worked, she gave me another chance. that was friday. she said she needed time alone, and i thought that was reasonable. we didnt talk all day sat or sun except at like 7 PM when i would text her to see how her day was and tell her im thinking about her and everything. she didnt mind. tuesday came around and in the past few days, i could tell she was still unhappy. i sat her down and told her that i love her more than anything and that i didnt want to see her unhappy and that if letting her go would make her happy, then i would do it. and i knew that was the only way so i did it. i let her go to let her be happy. it wasnt hard for her. she said the next day was the most calm, relaxed day she had. by that evening, i walked down to her house and we talked. i realized that her mind was made up and she was happier without me,egged her for a little while but i realized that i threw away my chance and i wouldnt get another one, she told me that she hated to say it but i was right. she couldnt make herself give it another shot. and she said she probably never would be ready either. she doesnt think shell ever be able to forget what it was like. i dont know if shes putting herself in that mindset though and ruining it or if those are 100% concious thoughts and not her subconscious telling her to get over me or something. shes still friendly and likes talking to me. but im broken up whether she knows it or not, im not showing it that much. the next day i think i tricked myself into believeing i accepted it and i told her i truthfully wanted to be her friend. she was happy and i smoked later that night and i was high and she was laughing at me, we were having a great time. (she smokes too and i actually started her up on it, responsibly of course =] but i don’t have to lie to her about it and it became pretty much a bonding experience for us) the next day i woke up and felt alone and went to school, i could tell it was gonna be a sad day for me. we sit at the same lunch table everyday with some people and i just did my homework all lunch and listened to my ipod. she knew something was up because i never do my homework. when our other tablemates left, i packed up my bookbag and walked out without even looking at her. i havent talked to her all this weekend and the lunch thing was friday. shes in the mountains hanging with some friends having a good time for labor day. and i decided i just wasnt really going to make an effort to talk to her, really just kinda avoid contact for maybe around a month. but i know shell probably come home today and probably ask me, because shes concerned as a friend, if everything is really alright because of friday. ive been thinking about this, because i DO want to get her back. i don’t know why she matters so much inperticular to me since i miss her more than ashlye and i dated her 15 months and hannah only 4, maybe its because i seems like its my whole childhood closing up now with her since i am a senior right now and shes a junior. but i think it might be a problem with myself. these are cool collected thoughts too, not emotional ones. because ive been soul searching lately. i think that i came into my relationship with hannah too soon. i was so hurt from my last relationship and felt so inadequate for her once she was with someone else that i took it out on myself and it made me extremely needy and insecure. i should have known i had doomed this very important realtionship with this girl who was there all along from the very start. as soon as i made advances on hannah to be more than friends, i had put myself in a bad position. i don’t know exactly what to tell her now when she asks if everything is alright but i think i want to get her mind off how it will never work. im not gonna bring anything up but ill make it clear that maybe there was more to this than what we had tried to figure out. that maybe i need to find myself. i was just gonna tell her this from the heart if she contacts me. i want her to have time to maybe start feeling a little needy since i dont think any other guy is going to do more than shallow flirting with her for a little while. but ill just tell her that maybe its just not right for her to be in my life right at this moment. but i wasnt planning on texting or calling her really in the next few weeks so maybe im already on the right track. or maybe do you think this might never work? cause i am well aware that life goes on and there are most likely even BETTER girls suited to me out there but right now, i almost feel like i cant accept that this relationship wont work yet because its letting go of the only solid thing thats been important to me since i was like 11 years old. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING ALL OF THIS. i like that you want to help people so much also, its a very nice thing to do. =]

  85. move on or hope 9 September 2011 at 2:36 pm Permalink

    can somebody help me.. we’ve been broke up for a 10 days now. i emailed her last tuesday, saying that “i was shocked about the break up & we’ll just talk about what is good for both of us when i got back there this dec. for now i’ll give your space & i’ll fix myself also.” she did not reply back. we are in a long distance relationship. should i email her again saying that i respect her decision? by the way, she did this to me 3 times already & i always beg for her..

  86. Faith 12 September 2011 at 8:04 am Permalink

    Yesterday was blakes and i’s one month anniversary…today I got a text saying he wanted a better relashionship with his family and god before he starts getting in a serious relationship..Im starting to doubt that he ever loved me and though I was beautiful and everything else..I feel like that isn’t true that I did something..I can’t get any sleep I’m a wreck without him..I want him back..for him to possibly change his mind…plz help me..I need him

  87. Nick 15 September 2011 at 3:41 am Permalink

    My girlfriend dumped me after four and a half years because I was controlling and obviously I understand that has to change if at all hope on getting her back or even dating someone else. Here’s the thing I have been looking all over the internet and a lot of people say to just stop talking to your ex completely until she contacts you but unfortunately I cannot do that because we have a kid together which of course is my main driving force to get her back, so I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to show her that I don’t want to be controlling anymore and I don’t know how to tell her that it’s best for our son that we get back together without seeming pushy.

  88. crystal 24 September 2011 at 2:30 am Permalink

    Me nd my ex was togetha for about a year..I feel head ova hills for him n a matter of months. On dwn the line we start having problems with me lying about things tht happen before him and he was being disrespectful when it came to other women. Well one day we got into a argument which I felt as though he was treating me like my kids father (someone who had no love for me) he then got mad nd we broke up. After the break up he slept wit another female mind you we weren’t even broke up for a good 3weeks. Anyways, we got back together but it was hard for me to swallow tht but I moved forward because I loved him. although he wasn’t making me happy he promised he would, well that day came and left he neva did make me happy. But still I stayed. One night out with the girls I got extremely drunk to the point I don’t remember what went on. Long story short I went home with someone else got caught by my bf and now he hates me and don’t want me back. I hate I did what I did because I had no intentions on cheating on him EVER but I wnt him back but have no clue on how to get him back.

  89. Will 24 September 2011 at 6:06 pm Permalink

    We dated for a month and were broken for a month. She broke up with me saying that it “wasn’t working.” I feel that she’s confused right now because she’s going through a hard time right now and I feel she’s been emotionally scarred with relationships in the past because she has been cheated on twice and threatened. One of my goals as a boyfriend was to give her a better relationship and to care for her, be there for her, and to be by her side during dark times because she was also a real close friend of mine. A week before we broke up, she said that she didn’t know what love is, hence a reason I think she’s confused.

    I made a mistake of trying to contact her but I stopped after the 3rd day. I made a mistake of talking to her best friends about it which I stopped two weeks ago. She and I argued about it a couple of times (didn’t feel good), and was changing her answer from “it didn’t click” to “I don’t know what I want” to “I’m not ready for a serious relationship”. I feel that things could be better if she looked at the relationship as less of an obligation and more of a source of joy. I haven’t spoken to her in 14 days, but Wednesday morning I mailed her a letter saying that I respect her decision, have been good, am sorry for my behavior (I was needy and mopey shortly before and after we split), and that she has her priorities but can call me.

    I know that convincing her will get me nowhere, but today a woman told me that there’s a difference between convincing and asking and it’s possible to ask questions to see what she wants. If she ever talks to me soon, what can I say to start our relationship all over?

  90. Steph 26 September 2011 at 1:22 am Permalink

    Im SOOOO HAPPPY =D im getting back with my ex he told me he loved me and missed me and stupid for letting me go im over the moon =D =D =D

  91. marie 27 September 2011 at 9:42 am Permalink

    heyy me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago. we have been togthr for almst 2 yrs now. he loves me and i love him. but i did somethn terrible. i thought he broke up with me the week before tht so i was mad and had sex with a guy tht is his friend. n now he is very hurt i have no clue wht to do but all i knw is i want him back. i thnk i have a chance i jyust dont realy knw how to gdet him to come bck. ahe is my bestfriend too so its evn worse. i told him i was mad and tht his friend was tryn to convice me to not be with him, but he says thats no excuse n tht is true. he says if i can give him a vaild reason he will take me back but idk help me please someone somehow. because now all i want to do is kill myself. i knw stupid right!

  92. Cant tell real sad 29 September 2011 at 9:33 am Permalink

    MY girl friend just broke up with me in are game and now im worried shes gonna brake up with me tommorow she alos left me a voia call saying umm uhh bye now im real worried I really loved her she was the sweetest ever .then i got a text from a friend saying that she was at some bigshots house and got a text from my g friends frined saying to my friend that they did it we never did it until the third month and we did it every where the bed couch table even in the shower i was gonna propose sunday.now im scared and shes pregnant with my baby we wanted so much she opend her v and i stuck my p right in there.i even bought her a giant heart chair and i took her to a sexing hotel just to get her in the mood .One time we kissed on my motorcycle on the way to the mall . a Tender kiss .when we got to the mall

  93. where did it go wrong? 6 October 2011 at 10:57 pm Permalink

    i recently broke up with my boyfriend 2yrs was great and than all of the sudden he treated me like shit he started choosing his friends over me wouldnt come to places with me unless he was with his friends and there girlfriends and if he saw me out everyione would just wait for me to leave even him :( i have no idea why he doing this i still have a soft spot but im very hurt and after 3weeks he msgs out of the blue asking me to come back love sucks ey

  94. Josue 7 October 2011 at 2:12 am Permalink

    Hey mike my girl broke up with me she told me she was ta king to another buy and she need a break im trying to move on but still calling me and my feeling take over idk what to do …you thing gonna move on with the other buy or why she still calling me went she told me she was talking to him …im so comfuse I wanna ingore her calls but icant even though she hurt me

  95. T 16 October 2011 at 7:13 am Permalink

    Hi,

    I could really use some help and advice. My boyfriend of 3 years left almost 5 months ago. We lived together and he moved out…I knew it was coming because he said we couldn’t have this type of relationship anymore. We were fighting alot. Mostly because he had lost faith in us and he started not caring. He left, yet he still has not gotten his stuff out of my house. It is still hear. I have asked him numerous times, but he has not done so. He still texts me telling me how beautiful I am, that he misses me and loves me. It is heartwrenching. If he feels that way, why is he gone? Why is he not coming back? I have asked him to come back. I have asked him numerous times. He tells me he will not live with me anymore.. and that once he gets his own place, he would like to date me. I told him that will never happen. I will not date him if he moves out. That tells me he cannot work through the hard times with me and then what would be the point of dating. We have saw eachother a handful of times and been intimate.. and it was an amazing time.. just like old times. But he is still sticking to his guns. I have stopped contacting him like I was.. and just seeing what he will do. sometimes he will go a week or so before he texts me and says I am beautiful or telling me sweet dreams before bed. I dont get it. I dont want to play games.

    I am trying to get out there and date so I can get him off my mind, but I am in love with him and would do anything to get him back. Why hasnt he moved his stuff out if he knows that he doesnt want to be with me anymore or at least live with me? He had texted me once stating that he thought the right thing to do was to move out and now he wasn’t sure what the right thing to do was because he cant keep me out of his mind. He gets so angry if his emotions come out because he doesnt want to show his emotions. He would rather keep his emtions bottled up then to deal with them. That I believe is a huge reason why we fell apart. One little downfall and he wants to run away instead of working on it.

    Is this love or does he really just want to wait till he has no emotions for me before he gets his stuff out. I have tried playing it many ways. I told him he needed to get his stuff out within a week cause I had a new roommate and he got pissed.He got pissed when he thought I was dating when I wasnt. Everything I do is wrong. I dont want to play these games. It has been almost a week with no contact. and I am doing my best not texting him. But I know his routine… he will eventually text probably within the next 3-4 days.. what should I do? Ignore it? Or text him back saying hi to be nice? I have done both of these. i have ignored him before and I have texted him back.

    I asked him to ask me out on a date about 2 months ago and that didnt happen. I told him I would not be intimate with him anymore because I wanted more and if he wanted to see me he would have to ask me out on a real date. But that hasn’t happend. So if he doesnt want to go out with me, why is he still have his stuff here?

    Please help with anything!!!!!

    • Ashley Kay 17 October 2011 at 9:29 am Permalink

      Stop being demanding. You can’t demand a guy back into your life. You should persuade him to want to be with you because you offer him something better than what he or his friends can offer him (your personality, company etc). Stop demanding and go NC.

      P.S. he leaves his stuff because he doesn’t want to face getting them or facing you.

      • Mike 28 October 2011 at 8:55 am Permalink

        Hi T. I agree with Ashley. The only thing right now that I feel he is doing is holding on to you by having you on the side. He may be going out with a women right now and knows that you have his stuff. If you give him an ultimatum and send his stuff UPS or FedEx then he will think that you no longer want him. Go NC and don’t even bother with him. Go out, take care of yourself. Go to the gym get in shape, look great and you will have other guys hitting on you. I went through a similar thing with my ex. She was very possesive. I could not talk to female friends that I have know since grade school and she would call them ugly and scary looking etc. You get the picture. She accused me of cheating all the time, I never did. I finally gave up after trying to work on the relationship for over a year. I finally said good by and good luck. I met someone new a year later and she has treated me like gold. I still have feelings for my ex. I saw her a few weeks ago at the local bar and she gained 30 lbs and her skin looks bad. Don’t know what she is doing but thats her problem now. Get your life in gear, get out, get your head together. I was a mess for a year now I am better off. Almost done getting a degree in school and I am happier now than ever. Good luck, keep us posted.
        Mike

        • T 10 November 2011 at 3:58 am Permalink

          So what should I do if he texts me or calls me??? So I should just wait till he gets his stuff out and not even talk to him about it or anything.. just wait for him to make the move. I mean it has been 6 months. He has been keeping me on the side for that long just in case he cant find anyone else? What does NC mean???

          I thought maybe he has his stuff still at my house because he is confused, not because he doesnt want to face me…

          Thanks T..

      • T 10 November 2011 at 3:53 am Permalink

        What does NC mean?

        • N 16 December 2011 at 4:26 pm Permalink

          NC means No Contact – do not msg, call or meet up, or even reply to his msgs or calls. this will make him realise that you may have moved on which will soon register in his brain his lost you and thats when hell come running back.. it may take a week, a month or even a year with NC for them to realise this.

  96. Kingston A 21 October 2011 at 6:35 pm Permalink

    My girlfriend just left me and it’s making me feel like its the end of the world. I love her very much and desperate to have her back. the problem is she always check my phone and read my messages and call and suspicious numbers. we have been dating for 1 year now and this has been the only problem we had. she found 2 love messages and call the ladies. now she found one again which i forgot to delete and left without even saying goodbye. She call the number and the lady told her that we met just once at a job interview and not on a date but she won’t beleive me.the worse part of it is that she has move from Bangkok where I am to Uttaradit another province in Thailand which 7 hours away from Bangkok. she is my best friend and i really want her back. can someone help me ? what can I do ?

  97. sOme 1 23 October 2011 at 12:47 pm Permalink

    heeya i was wit dis feen i miss him i thOught he lOved mi but now i relise he dnt i just fOund Out a week Or two weeks agO he is sOpose tO meet my frend i reaily did love him and he is dOiin dhat tO me wen i heard it i cudnt stOp the tears frm ruin dwn my face i acutaly never cryed far sO lOong befOoree he ment the wOrld tO mi sum tiime’s i still thiink abOut him i jus siit der and wOnder wha he’s thiinkiin …. i wish he cud answer my questions but im a scared cuz if he dOesnt lOovee me i wud en up heart broken but i never lOoved sOme1 sO much in my liifee as much i lOved him wen i was On tha fone twO him every niight id just cuggle intOo my pillOow and pretend it was him id have the biigest smiilee Oon my face but every day i try nOt tOo thiink abOout him i cant even i dream abOut him its weird i keep askiin all my frends tO answer my questiOons but dey allways answer rOng even saay stuff likee he mOved On i dnt wanna hear dhat i just wanna fOrget him cuz he dOest lOovee i thiink sOo any way but i reaily just wanna fOrget hiim and dnt wanna bOther wiit and feens any mOoree cuz i dnt wanna feel wat im felin nOw Over and Over i rather jus liivee wiit Out bOys …………………

  98. Robert 27 October 2011 at 6:29 pm Permalink

    So my GF of 5 years (off and on) is over. I met her when she was 18, she just turned 23. IM 29. I love her soooo much. I told her how beautiful she is every day. I massage her whole body and feet every night. I give her everything she asks for and then some. I love her with all my heart and she just left me and started seeing another guy. First thing u woould think is that its for sex. We had the best sex and i am pretty well endowed, so thats not it. This new guy is a little scrawnt, scoliosis, cook. I work for myself and am a really good looking guy in good shape. She said that i didnt make her happy. Also, i had to find out about this new guy, she wouldnt tell me and she was still sleeping with me and stuff. I know shes young, and i know she might have her problems, i know it would be in my best interests to forget her esp since im starting a new business right now……but I love her, and i want her back. What do i do….. why did she even leave really?

  99. Tina 27 October 2011 at 6:43 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend and I were together for nearly 4 years. During our time together we were deeply in love and we only had eyes for each other. The main problem with our relationship was I was always depressed about my own personal problems and I had a nasty habit of sometimes venting it out on him. I would say things like “your words aren’t really helping me at the moment”, “you don’t understand what im going through”, or “you have life easy everything is set out for you while I’m busting myself to get what i want and it backfires”.

    We have broken up because of this i think either once or twice. Both times he wrote me a letter saying he still loved me and that he will take me back so long as i promise to change. I made the promise but my personal problems only got worse and worse and I found it too difficult to change. Also I think he got tired of being with a depressed person. He made alot of effort to make me happy and i let him know that i appreciate him so much for being there for me. When we were together nearly all of our friends believed that we would be together for the rest of our lives and even get married. They said we had that “good vibe” and that “you can tell which couple are good for each other or not” and we were that good couple. He cared for me deeply and i cared for him alot as well. I tried my best to show him just how important he was to me.

    It was strange how the breakup happened. I’ve read alot of forums about the guy slowly losing interest and distancing himself. But this wasn’t the case with my breakup. I was having alot of trouble with my workplace since i was on the verge of getting fired. So he msgd alot asking how i was, to take care of my health, and that he really wanted to see me. I forgot to mention that i had a bad habit of not letting him help me cause i was afraid of burdening him with my problems so i said no. Anyway on the day that he broke up with me, in the morning and afternoon he was at work yet he still msgd saying he wanted to come over the my house. At first i said no but eventually i said yes since he kept asking.

    On that night when he was at my house, we were talking about how we deal and see people in general. We disagreed we didnt argue. I was pessimistic saying that most of the ppl i met in my life were bad, people can’t be trusted and that people dont care. He argued the opposite. Eventually we got annoyed at each other so i drove him home (he doesnt drive). Once we were parked in front of his house he said hes breaking up with me because “he doesnt want it anymore” and “he doesnt want to be with me anymore”. It was at this point that i begged and cried for him to take me back but he refused and pushed me away.

    After the breakup, it was strange but we hung out alot. He even attended my graduation and bought me a bear. We went swimming even and he even asked if i wanted to join him in going out with a mutual friend of ours. One night at 3am, he even msgd me saying he just got home, goodnite, and that he was drunk. He even called me that night asking was I ok and that he was checking to make sure.

    Sadly on one very bad Friday night, he was hosting a movie night and i went over. He said “if you are fine with us being friends then i dont mind seeing you, if you hope that we will get back 2gthr then dont come”. I was thinking to myself that i could handle us being friends but i thought wrong. He brought it up again when i was at his house and things got pretty bad. There was no screaming: just me crying and him saying that he didnt want to be with me anymore and that was that. He said he still cared for me alot and he “doesnt mind us being friends”

    It’s been nearly 3 weeks since that night and we havn’t talked since. During that time I’ve been looking reading breakup books and tips. I’ve learnt that i need to give him space, apply the “no contact rule”, work on myself, make myself more healthy and confident, pretty much get my crap in order. I have to admit I think im doing pretty well. I dont cry over him anymore and I’ve been feeling more better since that Friday night. I still miss him terribly and i still love him so much. At times i give up hope about us getting back together, at others Im thinking we will get back together it just requires time. I’ve also read some relationship books and what Ive realized was that i was the doormat girlfriend. I gave up my life to be a part of his. I forogt my friends, my studies and even my job to be with him. If i do get back with him, I’m determined to be more stronger and have my own seperate life and let him kno that he wont have 100% hold on me.

    it’s strange cuz our mutual friend said that he sometimes brings me up when they go out like “Oh she likes this”, or “i think she wouldv liked that”. Unfortunately he defriended me on facebook and he even told our friend that he would “chuck a party once she gets over me”.
    Im very confused as to what he is thinking and whether he still cares or loves me. This is my story. I hope i didnt forget to add anything.

    I would really like to hear your insight into my problem. If you have any constructive criticism I would like to hear it since i think i need that in order to improve myself and hopefully repair my relationship with my ex.

    Tina

  100. daksh 31 October 2011 at 11:32 pm Permalink

    my girlfriend cheated me she has also a another boy friend in her life . but i love her so much what can i do to get her back

  101. Syerra 4 November 2011 at 3:20 am Permalink

    Hi my name is syerra i fought and bitched with my boyfriends alot and i never thought he would leave but he did we were together for 5months but we been apart for about month we still talk and i’m trying to make things right between us again like trying to get him back as mine… i love him more then again.. please help me

    • Liliana 8 November 2011 at 3:16 pm Permalink

      Okey heres what to do…Okey u need to stop bein this way act very mature and nice! Text him and tell him u wanna meet up and take him out to eat and talk to him u changed ur not the person u used to me… =-) i hope that works good luck!

  102. tina......... 4 November 2011 at 7:07 am Permalink

    Hi there.
    Me and my man were together for 5 months and we were crazy about each other. He is a very jealous type tho, he’s best friend is also my good friend and i talk to him about stuff, now this friend wants to be with me but i have no feelings what so ever for him.
    Me and my boyfriend were meeting for a while and then we started going out he doesnt want me to talk to my fiend or talk about us to anyone. He says i am a very flirty girl and i like attention but i dont i am just an easy going girl and will talk to anyone.
    Our friend tells me stuff about my boyfriend in which i shouldnt know but i always say it to my boyfriend because i want to be honest with him but it never goes well because he always starts fighting with me saying i shouldnt be listening to him and hes calling hes friend a sneak and all for telling me these things and he wants me to confront the 2 of them but i wont do that because they will start fighting and i will probably end out the worst over it all anyways.

    We are really mad about each other and close but lately we have drifted alot and now he isnt talking to me over our friend, ive tried texting, ringing but i am getting nothing back, he gives me the silence treatment but then the weekends when he is drinking or were out he always texts to sort it out its only been a week but i really want him back can you please tell me what i need to do please and thanks it would be realy helpful..
    anonymus :)

  103. Weronika 4 November 2011 at 1:11 pm Permalink

    Hey, I know how your all feeling. I had this kind of… Summer romance. I know how cheesy and stupid that sounds but it was true. This guy (Filip) who I had known for two years finally asked me out after a night of flirting. He was kind and honest, and he really did love me. And that was the problem. My broken heart from a five year long bad experience kept me too secure inside to let anyone love me or let me love anyone. So I got scared and told him I wanted to break up. I made a mistake. Or did I? I don’t even know… Maybe I just want someone to love me… I’m 13, smoking, anorexic, bulimic, heartbroken, stressed, fat, and ugly. I’m at a new school, and thankfully I have met with people who know what they are talking about. I met another smoker promising to bring me a pack of joy tomorrow, and met friends who cut too. I just want to be pretty… I just want to be smart. I just want someone to love me.

  104. andy 5 November 2011 at 1:55 am Permalink

    My girlfreind broke with me after 4 months becauses i was to in love with her and she needed to spent time with her friends. i want her back what should i do ??

    • Liliana 8 November 2011 at 3:14 pm Permalink

      Give her space and time…And if that dosent work go see her and talk to her its not a big deal

  105. Liliana Martinez 5 November 2011 at 12:04 pm Permalink

    Yes i almost been with Kyle Duckett for about a year now…I honestly don’t know why he broke up with me…He seems like the type that would never cheat…I love him to death he will always be in my mind and my heart…I just want him back so iam doin everything in my power to get that boy back cuz hes all i ever wanted…I really dont want any other men hes the only one i want and need…So wat i did is i wrote him a letter that i accept the break up and then he should text me wen he gets the chance i apolized…The next step is to ignore him give him the silent trement wich mean dont text or meassage him for a month then he will go crazy start to wonder why iam not ansering him it really works!!! The next thing wen u do see him i gatta act very confident bein the way i was wen i first met him. Never show that ur desperate thats a big turn off! thats the best advice i can give u guys good luck!

  106. Liliana Martinez and Kyle Duckett 6 November 2011 at 9:35 am Permalink

    I been with Kyle Duckett for almost a year now…We first met on Nov I fell in love with him it was love at first sight i swear!!! Everything was goin good intill i ended up at a mental hospital and became crzy =-( its really not my fualt i changed now and became better just like i was when we first met…I love the boy so much I poured out my whole heart for him…Hes the love of my life I would do anything for that boy…Hes all I want and need…I really tried everything like anything to get em back nothing seems to work so I gave up…Maybe one day he will relize he missed out on a good girl…He will always be in my heart no matter what happens to us…even if were apart I love you bb I never meant to hurt you…I am so sorry I wish i can just go back and not make the mistakes i made iam sorry i know its to late.

  107. anonymus 9 November 2011 at 3:38 am Permalink

    my girl friend an i had been going out for 6 weeks and i had just been building up strong feelings for her then she dumped me :’(

  108. singlenhappy 9 November 2011 at 5:08 am Permalink

    Well, it’s been almost a year since my ex asked me to leave the house. We have known each other since teenage years, I am 34 so it’s been a long time. We had on and off flings all this time and finally got together 12 years ago. We have a kid together so that makes it so tough to cut contact. But I limited my contact with her and kept all talks about the child and child only. I thought I really wanted her back and desperately needed her in my arms. We went to court over custody of the child, and I’d say 3 months later she had asked to stay the night with me and well you can kinda guess where that went. For the next three months I was happy, we were intimate and talking again. Then all off a sudden poof she didn’t want to talk anymore. So left there picking the pieces of my heart up off the floor again, I decided enough was enough. If you really think people will change, think long and hard about it. Do I miss her, sure I do, all the time. But when I start thinking that way I quickly think of the way she has treated me, she cheated on me, cheated on her prior husband. Lied to friends and family saying I did this or did that and I wasn’t a good father to my child which I would wake the child up daily, feed him breakfast and get him off to daycare and I am a bad father?? I realized she did all this and there is no way in hell I’d live with someone like that. She’s going to do it again and this time, it won’t be me. Think long and hard why you want your ex back. Do you want to go through all these emotions again.

  109. Jordan xD 11 November 2011 at 12:10 pm Permalink

    Kaaay.. soo during summer 2011, I met this boy(my age, my school etc), he was IN LOVE WITH ME.. but I was in a relationship with this guy that I was dating for 11.5 months then it was the first day of school!.. I decieded that I couldn’t see the other guy soo I dumped him over facebook(I know not smart!), Then a couple of days later, The other boy was soo happy that I was single soo He asked me out!.. I said yes.. Me and him were sooo happy together and cuute!!!.. then last Wednesday he dumped me .. He says he loved me still and thought I was gorgoeus but he wanted someone else to have me!.. buuut at lunch and stuff he’S always around me and my friends then recently another boy asked me.. I had a week to think about I said yes but he is a year younger.. buuut I like my ex still alot I can barbley look at him in the hallways and now he’s flirting with my bestie and I am getting soooooooo stressd please help :).. Msg me on fb about what I should dooo.. ^^ I posted the link !:) <3

  110. Adriana 16 November 2011 at 2:13 pm Permalink

    me and ex broke up 1week ago i txt him saying i love him but he say he only like me as a friend and yesterday i found out that he was going out whith my bff i got so mad and sad and today he calls me saying would u like to go to the movies whith he say he gives up to next monday to think do u think he still like me i am sooo confused age 11

  111. Adriana 16 November 2011 at 2:32 pm Permalink

    let me explain u better what happen 2 years ago i was the new kid sooo every boy like me but this boy was so hot he was telling everybody that whe are going out then he comes and ask me out and ofcourse i say yes then my bff came barbara and the day flow of he told me that barbara was his ex .I got real mad cause every time i turn he was talking to her so on 1week ago he comes saying i cant go out whith u i like barbara that moment my heart was broken.But today i recive a call from him and he ask me if i whant to go to the movies whith him he said he will give 1week to think about do u think he is trying to ask me out i am sooo confused plizzzz helpppp Age 11

  112. mitch 16 November 2011 at 6:04 pm Permalink

    hey, my name is mitch, and my ex broke up with me a week ago. I have been so sad and i dont know what to do without her. The reason she broke up with me is because i didnt get along with her friends. I would do anything to have her back. What should i do does she still want me? i keep texting her all the time but i feel like that might be pushing her away. I just would really like to know what to do. We have been dating for 6 months and i would like to have dated her longer. She is my first love it feels like and i am lost without her. Can you please give me some advice i would really love to be with her again!

  113. monica 17 November 2011 at 2:37 am Permalink

    I’ve been talking to this guy for 10 months and we both liked each other things were going good few fight here nd there, he was gnna ask me out through this time 3 times but backed away because his friends would talk to me and that would get him mad. I even stopped talking to other guys and deleted all the guys off my fb. Recently he kept ignoring me nd he finally said leave me alone I have a gf I was completely crushed that the guy I loved thought bought so much has a gf and didn’t even tell me. Now we are friends but its hard I really do want him back what can I do

  114. Ross 17 November 2011 at 5:10 am Permalink

    My girlfriend of 12 months and 10 days broke up with me on November 12. A few days prior, she told me how she misses her friends and wishes she had more. On the 12th, I woke up to several texts telling me not to be angry at the fact she’s hanging out with another guy, and that she loves me. So I didn’t think of it as much. Yes, I was jealous but she wanted to spend time with her friend, so I wasn’t gonna be a jerk and not let her hangout with a friend. By 4pm she stopped texting me. I became worried by the time it was 8:30 because I haven’t heard from her for more than 4 hours. I continued to stay worried until 12:30am. At that time, I got a text telling me to meet her at the bus stop, and that we need to talk. I quickly got dressed, ran out my door, and down the hill I live on to go make sure she was ok. I waited at the stop for 10 minutes until she came off the bus. I asked if she was alright, and she said she was. But something was wrong, so I asked her what happened. She didn’t answer. I asked if she cheated on me. She shook her head “no”. Then I said “So you’re breaking up with me”. She shook her head yes, and started crying telling me all these things that were wrong with our relationship, like how she feels I prevent her from seeing her friends (which I don’t), how I don’t make her happy, how we do the same thing every single day, how I don’t give her butterflies anymore. And then I asked her if she did like the guy she was with that day, and she said yes but claimed it wasn’t the reason we broke up. I got down on my knees and begged her back. I’ve never done that with any other girlfriend I’ve had before.
    For the passed 5 days, I’ve been trying to show her that if I had a second chance, she’ll realize that I’m still the same guy she fell in love with many months ago. We had never argued during our relationship. I’ve argued with her for the passed 5 days, and I feel as though I’m ruining every chance I have to get back with her. She said she wants to meet up with me tomorrow to talk about all this that happened. I’m very nervous, and scared as to what could possibly happen tomorrow, and I feel as though it’s bringing me down.
    However, those tips above are very helpful and seem as though it would work. I’m gonna try it from now on. I have to be more confident.

  115. Liliana Martinez and Kyle Duckett 17 November 2011 at 9:25 am Permalink

    I been with Kyle Duckett for almost a year now…We first met on Nov I fell in love with him it was love at first sight i swear!!! Everything was goin good intill i ended up at a mental hospital and became crzy =-( its really not my fualt i changed now and became better just like i was when we first met…I love the boy so much I poured out my whole heart for him…Hes the love of my life I would do anything for that boy…Hes all I want and need…I really tried everything like anything to get em back nothing seems to work so I gave up…Maybe one day he will relize he missed out on a good girl…He will always be in my heart no matter what happens to us…even if were apart I love you bb I never meant to hurt you…I am so sorry I wish i can just go back and not make the mistakes i made iam sorry i know its to late.

  116. Sydney 17 November 2011 at 10:00 pm Permalink

    Hi My name is “Larry” just want to share my experience with the world on how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used roots and herbs… Within 7 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our third child… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email me sydneycrystal85 at yah00 d0t c0m, to get the spell caster’s contact and info… Don’t give up just yet, the different between “Ordinary” & “Extra-Ordinary” is the “Extra” so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it’s truly worth it.

  117. Josh 22 November 2011 at 6:29 pm Permalink

    I dumped my girlfriend a few years back and it tore me apart because i had made the biggest mistake of my life i really need some tips how to get her back after that i then went out with another girl but it weren’t the same she didn’t snuggle up to me or anything she was hardly with me but i know its my fault in the first place but i really want her back.

  118. Josh 22 November 2011 at 6:37 pm Permalink

    I may have some luck because she flirts with me a lot she is coming round today because we are taking her to her soccer match yes she plays soccer so do I (top of the league yay) ha ha lol so i need tips and fast

  119. Josh 22 November 2011 at 6:41 pm Permalink

    I just found out she is coming for tea as well i need answers and fast
    age 11 1 year ago i dumped my girlfriend today and she is coming round today on that day

  120. ADRI 24 November 2011 at 3:41 pm Permalink

    Well josh just try to be nice and organized and dress 2 emprsed dont worry i am a girl and i am 11 years old i wish she takes u back and if that dont work get another girl there is planty out ther dont worry i wish u luck

  121. Sara 30 November 2011 at 7:59 am Permalink

    Okay were to start, Jason and I have been together for over a year and a half. I have a son and even though it wasn’t his he stilled loved him like his own and even thought it was his (long story) but either way he still loved him. Our first six months together were amazing, and even the rest of our time together. But we started fighting and it was because I was being rude and always saying “well I’m done blah blah blah” though I never really ever ended things with him, i guess it built up so much last week he said it was over. All I can do is think about him. I haven’t ate or sleep. He said he isn’t using his phone anymore and of course I called him like a thousand times like a needy person. I’ve sent him numerous emails telling him how sorry I was, and showing I do care about him. But I left class early last monday morning to see him and all he could say its over move on. Find someone else. I was like I miss you so much and I said are there still feelings there he said of course. I asked can we ever get back together and he said no not right now, I said what about ever and he said no. He told me he misses and loves me too, but he told me to move on. Before he left to go teach a class I asked for a kiss and got one. It wasn’t like our kisses just a peck on the lips. I think about my son he’s only three but calls him daddy. I worry if its ever going to work out in the end.
    We’ve both been under a lot of stress, he has two boys from a pervious marrige, and its still not finialzed. And I still love at home with my parents. He told me I need to foucs on school, but i can’t if he’s always on my mind.
    Just a few weeks ago we ate at this resturant, and our host was my sons bi0-father, he never said anything but after a week later he said he looks just like and all this. I figured it crushed him but we talked about it and pretend it never happen.
    His bio-father texted me, and I told jason after he broke up with me and now he’s telling me to go fixs things with his bio-father, and that jake (my son) needs to know who is real dad.
    Well bio-father doesn’t really care about, and the first time he saw my son was at that restruant. I’m just so confused on what to do. If Jason still wants to be with me I’m so lost. Please some help me.

  122. Oluwaseun 30 November 2011 at 6:27 pm Permalink

    Hello Katie,
    I am my girlfriends dated for about 6years,it is going to be 6years this dec 1.She told me she was so madly in love with me couple of weeks ago,before she traveled,we talked on phone same way,we do while she was away,but my surprise was she got back from her travel and told me she wanted to break up and she wanted me know more.When i asked what went wrong she told me that she has started seeing someone else,a week before she traveled,i was surprised if it was true why did she say to me she was so much in love with me and wanted to make love to me before she went away.Now she seems to tell me that the love she has for me has reduced so low.She seems to be crazy about this guy she is seeing now,her boss,i am scared i am going to lose her,cos she will be seeing him daily and keep each others company,while she does not want to see me or pick my calls,how do i win i love back and i can’t afford to lose her,this guy she is seeing is married and she agrees that she would be a loser at the end cos the guy is not going to end up marrying her,i am single,and we have been together for about 6years,she is part of me,my life.She has been around for couple of days now,to spend time with me,nothing intimate,it was a friendly thing,she says she want us to work things out that’s why she has come around and not to be with the guy,yet she says i should give her space,and not rush her to come back,and she is not in a rush to end her relationship with the married guy despite the fact that i saw her text to him that she knows they met in a short while,but she is already in love with him,even though she knows he is married and she is one of his numerous girlfriends,she knows she would be a loser at the end,but she still want to have him and love him,how do i go about this to win her love back,i can’t let her go,cos i love her so much and want to spend a life with her,please advice.

  123. Jenny 1 December 2011 at 2:05 pm Permalink

    I got married young and had kids young. My husband always loved me he would sometimes (after my son was first born, b efore we were married) get afraid of the situation and being “stuck” with me forever and he’d leave me and go date someone else. it never lasted over a month and he always came back to me. eventually he stopped horsing around and we got married. It hasn’t been an easy ride, being as we both are still kids (or were – we’re 21 and 22 now, with a 5 year old and a 3 year old, both boys) and we’ve had to kind of grow up with our oldest son and find ourselves along the way. NO one knows who they are at 15 or 16. He was so clingy and demanding of my love and affection. It got to be too much. I stopped wanting him. i was convinced I wasn’t attracted to him. Our relationship became strained. He always insisted I was the only one for him… even a few days before crap hit the fan he was telling me how much he loved me, how beautiful I was, how he wanted to take me to Ireland for our 5 years (our 4 year anniversary was a month away) and take the kids to disney land and how once our money trouble cleared up soon, due to his promotion, we were going to be doing great. I scoffed. I couldn’t imagine wanting him. I was so put off by his constant smothering me I couldn’t stand it… I was blinded by my annoyance at being demanded affection of, and I just couldn’t see that I really did care for my husband.

    I had just realized my mistake, funnily enough. I took a look around me and realized who had always been there for me and that i needed him, I truly needed him in my life. He’d been asking for months to have another baby, I said no… I was into going out once a week and dancing and drinking. I wanted to be wild and young for once… I was a stay-at-home mom and I never did get to experience anything. He was my first boyfriend. But finally I just wanted, after about a year of that, to just be a family. A normal, honest-to-goodness, nuclear family with two loving people. I started to be the one to gravitate toward him. He would pull away. I couldn’t understand why! Why was he suddenly so cold? He was talking to someone. He’d talked to someone before, once, but though he threatened to leave for her if I didn’t “change” he didn’t actually do it. Our relationship improved for awhile b ut he’s always had issues controlling his temper (another reason I’m so put off by him – its hard to be attracted to such childish antics) so it didn’t last. I found out about her and of course I was livid. I found out he’d been planning to sneak and spend a weekend with her just to see if he could leave me for her. when he got there, he cheated on me and decided that he could indeed leave me. And he did.

    Here’s the kicker. She looks like me. she’s pale with blue eyes, naturally brown hair she lies to dye dark burgundy sometimes but not always. She loves Harry Potter and photography as much as I do. My friend, upon showing her a picture, said “its so weird she looks so much like you only emo” I thought the same thing. She looks like me only anorexic (she’s about 95 pounds maybe, if that, and I’m a healthy 115 with some mommy curves around the middle), clearer skin, and yes, emo. But the thing is she’s a lot like me. Only… she’s not. And he won’t come back to me no matter what i do, he says. we’ve been intimate a few times since they started dating (wrong, I know, but we’re still legally married he just moved out. we’re separated) and I know he still loves me. he still hugs me and things but he says he can never forgive me and she’s “amazing” and he says he wants to be with her. she has no car, no job, lives at home with her mom, and she is quite obviously using him for a way around town when he visits her (100 miles away) every weekend and whenever he’s got a day off work (though we’re broke – mind you in my family car he will not let me have, he’s driving her around in style in a brand new car). She has absolutely no issue taking him from his kinds on the holidays like she did for thanksgiving and plans to on christmas. I have told her about the times he slept with me. she told him the first time if he did it again she’d never forgive him, but I told her about it (though he threatened me not to) and she took him back anyway. I can’t believe this girl…. if she’s so “amazing” why is she after a married man who has cheated WITH her and also ON her?

    I’ve tried what I could to break them up. I’ve tried convincing him we’re good for each other and could fix this. He wants all the benefits of the marriage but not having to be with me. he wants me to stay home and care for his kids while he has these weekends with her like he’s a single man, no responsibility. I just am at a complete loss for what to do. he always comes back, i told myself… but that was before we were married. back before he did two tours overseas serving our country. before baby number 2, before he started college, before we had a roommate move in he didn’t like. He’s under so much stress and he says he’s “confused’ but he is leaving it all behind for her and I don’t know how to approach this. I realized I don’t want to lose him but I’ve given him til the separation is final (11 more months) to figure it out or I’m obviously not taking him back once the divorce is final. He insists he’s going to marry her when our separation/divorce is final. :(

    What do I do? How do I convince him to leave her again? What if he never comes back?

  124. Renee 2 December 2011 at 10:38 am Permalink

    I know how all you guys feel. The guy I am IN LOVE WITH is mad/upset at me and something I said, he had told me he broke up with his girlfriend, so we had started talking we even kissed a few times… He told me he had feelings for me and I believed him, (FYI, from other ppl I have heard he is a player) I asked him if he was 100% sure he doesn’t have a girlfriend, I told him to look me in the eyes, and he could even do tht when he said he didn’t have one, as I walked away I said “nobody likes a cheater”..and he gave me a “wtf” look.. And walked away, I am soo scared tht he is mad at me and won’t talk to me ever again, I regret saying tht and I really like him, I hope everything is okay between us. I even cryed over it, its only been a few hours since then but I hope he talks to me or isn’t mad at me, he’s perfect <3 any ideas on how to get him back if he is mad at me???? Help!!!! Thankssss :)

  125. Nicole 2 December 2011 at 10:52 am Permalink

    * here ae a few quotes that might help you get over people that you love or have loved, and exes. Just look deeply into these quotes and you will get it, and relize what they really mean, GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING*

    “someone who loves you deeply, will never let you go, no matter what the situation is”

    “guys are players that’s a fact, don’t fall in love just play them back”

    “guys that chase you, will always treat you better than the guys you chase”

    “one day he will relize he misses you, once it’s to late”

    “be strong now, because things will get better, it might be stormy now, but it can’t rain forever”

    “trying to forget someone you love, is like trying to remember someone you never knew”

    -don’t find love, let love find you. That’s why it’s called falling in love, because you don’t force your self to fall,you just fall…

    -break the rules,stand apart,ignore your head, follow your heart..

    - true love is when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better then your dreams

    - I’ll move on baby just like you, when then the desert floods, and the grass turns blue, when a sailing ship don’t need her moon, itll break my heart but I’ll get through, someday when I stop loving you…

    -when the world says “give up” hope whispers “try it one more time”

    -smile every minute of the day, you never know who’s falling in love with it..
    * there are so many more, to much to put on here, just let me know if you need any help with relationships, I love to help :) good luck with everything, and just remember you have nothing to loose…go for it!

    • ADRI 7 December 2011 at 2:45 pm Permalink

      nicole i read some of the tips but non help i am mainly in love whith the boy but i dont know what to do should i ignored ore should i keep on trying i love him so much and he spends alot of time whith me and he always sitting nxt 2 me but when i say if he will like to go out whith he say no i want 2 know y could u plizz help meee

  126. brana 7 December 2011 at 4:32 pm Permalink

    i am brana i lives in slovakia and i was in a serious relationship with my ex guy for three good years..
    One day we were in a dinner party, we had a little misunderstanding which lead to a qurrir and he stood up and left me at the dinner party.
    i try to call him but he was not picking my calls so after than i contacted my brother and told him about it,my brother so much love me that he had to see him on my behalf,he told my brother that it is over between us..

    then i contacted a friend of mine that had this smiliar experience and she directed me to one of the spiritual diviner (gbocotemple@yahoo.com).at first i thought it was not going to be possible and i contacted him i was ask to come up with a little requirement,so i did what i was ask to do, after 3 days i was in my office when my ex guy called me and was asking me to forgive him and come back to him.
    i was very suprise it was like a dream to me,so ever since we have been happily married with one kid my lovely
    baby(Ceslav)…i wish you the best of luck…

  127. Travis 8 December 2011 at 2:15 pm Permalink

    hi im travis
    me and my ex girlfriend broke up 2days ago because i lied to her. me and her was so great together shes the 1st girl out of all my ex girlfriends to say i love you and it healed my heart each and everytime we said i love you. i care about her so much because i did everything for her and us to be together i went out and got a job, stopped playing video games and bought her roses. my family likes her alot and her family likes me alot too. so how can i get her back because its driving me nuts that i lied to her when i shouldn’t have and i learned my lesson from it and i asked her if she can give me another chance and she says lets see how the week goes. today i asked her to give me another chance and she says now right now i told her its eating me up inside of what i did to you by lying to you. so how can i get her to give me another chance??

  128. D.A. 9 December 2011 at 5:07 am Permalink

    Here’s my story and what brought me to your site…
    Met in college, 8 years ago.
    Moved in together out of town for university 2 years in the relationship.
    I had to move back to hometown for work and continuation of university 2 years after moving in while she had to stay out of town.
    Did the long distance relationship for almost 3 years. Broke up once during the long distance phase, hooked back up after a few months of no contact after bumping into her while she was visiting her parents in our hometown.
    Broke up with her approximately 1 year ago after i admitted to cheating on her once a few weeks before the break up. I have honesty on my side and even though there is no excuse for my actions, i have to say i wasnt even aware i had cheated (alcohol does lead to memory loss at some point) until a friend of mine showed me pictures of me kissing some random chic on a dancefloor during a road trip. But stupid little me, i acted out of an honor thing or whatever.. Further, the break up was as rough on her as it was on me. I’ve regretted my decision for sometime, specially when considering what the “cheating” meant but im also not a loony, i understand that at some point, one has to move on.
    During the last year, i had dreams about her multiple times, often 2-3 days in a row. Very low level of contact (sent her birthday and new years wishes and she did the same – all by text message). Also, even though she is done with university (so am i) she decided to stay out of town for a few years. So contact, or potential contact, is very limited.
    I do not feel that i want to get back with her in a desperate way, but i do miss her a lot even if i am currently seeing another girl on a very casual basis (1-3 times a week tops). And, sadly, i have to add that i would take her back in a heart beat.

    I really have no clue what is going on with her so i decided to send her an email just to get some update of any kind, and in hopes of maybe clearing my conscience.

    Good idea or not?

    Any suggestions?

  129. Jellian 16 December 2011 at 2:02 pm Permalink

    Hi ,

    I really want my ex back but he said that he was done with me and that he wasnt guna look back. I broke up with him over a misunderstanding but on the break up, he said that it was about time, he said he was happy that he didnt have to do it, he said perfect! he said great! He told all his friends at school that he wasnt even gunna try and get back with me anymore. He told my friends that he didnt have respect for me. But before the break up could happen, he was really amazing. He treated me like I was the most beautiful woman alive. He told me once that he loves me but afterwards, he didnt wanna say it anymore. I guess he realize an ilove you was too strong of a word. But anyways, I really want him back. I have no idea why but everything just reminds me of him. We only dates for 3 weeks but we hanged out almost everyday and we made an inside jokes and everything was really nice and fun. He liked being with me and so did I. So today I find out that he made a bet with my guy friend that I was guna come begging for him by the end of the week. We broke up about 5 days ago. Thing is I want to shove it in his face that I am moving on. He still thinks Im obssessive of him cuz on the break up, I told him I regretted it. I feel so pathetic for saying that. What things and tips can I do to shove it in his face that Im starting to move on? that I dont need him anymore? please help me.

  130. annu 17 December 2011 at 6:15 am Permalink

    i was engaged to a guy but v broke up after that i made a boyfriend n he knws everything abt my past.v r nw in a 5 years relationship bt he left me cos he want to make new gf n nw he make a new gf also n wen he left me he told dat i was engaged n sleep wit dat guy so he cant b wit me n her mom wont accept me so he is leaving me bt he knw my past from the begining bt i still luv him i want him back by da way on dis sunday i think he ll b coming to giv some document to me so plz plz help me i reaaly luv him dnt wana loose him he told dat he ll send his lil bro bt i told him to come nt his bro plz help me i want ur help

  131. annu 17 December 2011 at 6:17 am Permalink

    v broke up one month ago

  132. Lola 19 December 2011 at 8:02 pm Permalink

    My fiance broke off the engagement and send me back home. I gave up my career and everything believing that we will be married already. I dnt want to let him go yet. But he said it didnt work i knew he loved me too. But recently he called me and wanted phone sex? What is that do he still love me.. We broke up three weeks ago only.. I’m confused anybody help me here?

  133. Lola 19 December 2011 at 8:06 pm Permalink

    Well i was out paying my hotel room because he parents picked me up from his house we fought physically but i am so inlove to him. He never replied my texts and emails and put me on voicemails then suddenly he replied to me if i already met a new one and past us. Then last night he called and ask if i wanted to join him for phone sex. He said he still want me. I want him back soo desperately i am willing to forgive and move foreward with him

  134. Luna 23 December 2011 at 1:45 am Permalink

    Hi need an advice, my bf broke up with me a month ago as i did something really foolish which show my mistrust in him- i faked a couple of ids on messenger pretending to be other girls to test the waters on him…soon enough he found out it was me and made me confessed..i finally came clean and regret it. Apologised like a million times, all he did was dump me over text without a chance. He couldnt accept my apology nor forgive me…. He just ignores me completely…what should i do to win his heart back…

  135. tara 25 December 2011 at 5:46 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me july 13, 2011 because he was fustrated he didnt have a job and no money and i couldnt provide for him at the time like he wanted, and he said i called too much, wanted to be under him alot, mind you he was locked up a while so i missed him and wanted to make up for lost time, we been broken up 6 months now and it hurt so bad cause i love him we’ve shared so much togethe he got a “prostitute” moved her in his mothers house and said he’s dating her now? really? and he said he has moved on like what do i do i miss him alot.

  136. Ann 26 December 2011 at 8:36 pm Permalink

    Hi guys! Me and my boyfriend broke up 3wks ago and I’m finding it really hard coping with it. Last week he got with someone else I think it might be a rebound relationship. As he has a tough time dealing with a break up as I do and its happened before. We have been in an on off relationship for 7yrs he does usually realises after a few months its me he wants and comes back to me but I’m really scared he won’t this time. I have done all the wrong things to try and get him back begging him, telling him I’ll change, constantly texting and phoning him. I have been on a few websites for advice on how to get my ex back and most say to have no contact what’s so ever with him. But we have children together so its hard not to stay in touch with him. I need some advice on what I should I do. I’m already worried iv done to much of da wrong things to get him back and that iv blown my chances of ever getting him back. Please help thank u!

  137. luvtobe dope 29 December 2011 at 9:51 am Permalink

    Ok so me nd diss boy liked each other for like 4months our relationship ended over dum reasons ok he called diss girl sexy after skool after skool so i wasnt dere when the incident occured at the time he was callin the girl sexy i was walkin and hwe was standin at the corneer wit his friends nsnd c myalled the girl sexy out loud. So

  138. luvtobe dope 29 December 2011 at 10:13 am Permalink

    My friend called me nd he told me dhat my friend was comin out of the buildin so when i turned the corner i say him nd his friend tryin to jump my friend so i got in it and den he grab me and hit me and i hit him back nd said i was tired of him puttin his F-ing handz on me den i walked away so he got over me the next day nd like my friend but she dont like him cuz she haves a bf den he ignore me and i ignore him den his friends came back and told me dhat the reason y he dont like me no more cuz i got upset cuz he called the girl sexy i got so mad dhat i didnt say nuthin to him for almost 3 weeks now but he tryin to talk to me when i be talkin to his friendsnd sumtime he run behinf den to see what we r talkin bout den he asked dum question i like did i call him,nd his friend was playin catch so it landed on my bag den he was like its was him that threw that at u den i turn my back on

  139. luvtobe dope 29 December 2011 at 10:26 am Permalink

    Den he jus looked at me he been lookin at me often wit or without a boy talkin to me abd he gave my friwnd his #.. i lost alot of respect for him i thought that would be the last thing he ever done. But he gon realized he hd sumthin good till it was gone. Do u think diss situation is right?

  140. Rinky 29 December 2011 at 5:40 pm Permalink

    i and my bf broke up coz he still feels for his ex…he says that he loves me but he is not able to forget his ex..what should i do…

  141. Angie 30 December 2011 at 9:37 am Permalink

    I’m in the same situation as many of you, we were together for two years and he just didn’t feel like it was going to work out, I became an insecure mess and he didn’t communicate….We’ve been apart for about 6 months now and I still miss him everyday, I’ve made all the common mistakes and have been a mess, had sex several times, tried to reason with him and see if it made a difference but now I’m finally in the place that I’m accepting things, I have a small glimmer of hope that he’ll come back, I do beleive he really cared for me, and maybe he’ll trully miss me after no contact for a long period of time, but I think for most people on here seeking advice….stick to the NC rule, I wish I wouldn’t have broken that from the start, we might’ve had a change in already being back together, but that really is the best thing…like Ashley said, you have to show them your okay and back to the person they fell in love with, and even if you don’t feel that way, that’s what you have to show. It’s very hard but they won’t come back out of pity and if you were the one who did things wrong, really change, not just for them, but to better yourself, bad behaviors aren’t condusive to any good relationship. I’m working on this myself, it’s a painful road and for lack of better words it sucks….but I’m working my way there…………..

  142. Madara 4 January 2012 at 2:20 pm Permalink

    Mike… Your awesome i need some tips from you, My ex gf broke up with me cause she wasn’t feeling butterflies anymore all her friends, brother, mom, and dad told me that i was the best she ever had… I guess i wasn’t good enough so after broke up i was sad so i just ignoring her calls, text, but i didn’t ignore her son i whet to his school once in awhile to check up on him and wow he looks like garbage how she dress him and stuff…

  143. dj 5 January 2012 at 3:48 am Permalink

    women are liars i was with a girl yea i was doin that break up and make up shit but she cheated twice now she is saying oh well i dont trust you cause u always break up with me and i need you to show me that you really want to be with me but i want to show you but you dont want to be with me so i can show you. and your off spending two weeks with guys in another state talkin about oh its just my friend and all this other bs… she is a smut and thats all she will ever be.

  144. Alex 5 January 2012 at 7:20 am Permalink

    My name is Alex and I had the love of my life for 2 1/2 years. And lost her because she wanted to be a free girl what do I do to win her heart back.

    • J. M. 6 January 2012 at 3:34 pm Permalink

      Hey, Alex. I’m Jamie. She is not the love of your life. Right now you can’t see that but you will.

      I have been in your shoes (even the same length of time), and I am so glad I escaped that mental cave soon enough, because then I would never get what I was missing or see the ex for who they really are. You think she is the love of your life but she is just a security blanket, and you can’t see all of the ways she’s the wrong girl. Lost her because she wanted to be free? Please. She clearly messed with your head, and is incapable — INCAPABLE — of seeing and appreciating your worth after that much time and opportunity. She doesn’t have the palate. Sounds like paint drying. Boring. I don’t care how good your times were. You’ve been in a (perfectly human) headlock so bad that you couldn’t see the real thing if it slapped you. Trust me, I’ve been there. I even had another chance with the ex, but said no thanks because I honestly wasn’t attracted anymore when I finally saw how wrong I was. I even made a huge mistake — mistreated, made crazy, and damn near lost someone else who was the best thing that ever happened to me because we met when I was still in the cave and she did not know. Don’t let that happen to you. I know think that what I had with the prior, wrong one was there to show me how amazing the other person was once I woke up.

      You need someone who gives you both genuine passion and fun now to find simplicity and bliss for the long haul. You will realize there are far higher highs to be had with the real love of your life. You have just been holding back from seeing her; open your eyes.

  145. juliana 5 January 2012 at 2:26 pm Permalink

    okay well I hate a boyfriend..but I also love another guy and hes my ex and I really want him back.. but he is going out with my bestfrieend…so idk if I shudder break up with my bf..for my ex..but idk if my ex likes me but I love him…
    and my bf doesn’t know….I’m so confused…I like cry myself to sleep eveynight….becuz he means the world to me

  146. juliana 5 January 2012 at 2:26 pm Permalink

    I meant I have a boyfriend in the first sentence

  147. jilly 7 January 2012 at 1:37 pm Permalink

    TIPH im in love with her, i tried to seduce her but it didn’t work :’( she is ma life ma world i want her body but she is also my best friend so it is a bit awkward, i can’t hide my feelings for her anymore :’( LOVE YOU BABE sorry that i have a vagina and so do you but its ok to be gay love you xxxx

  148. felixjuls 8 January 2012 at 12:24 am Permalink

    i brokeu p with my guy got married and after having a child i wanted my ex back but hes not comfortable with the fact that i have a child. he used to called me and pick up my calls , but now he does neither of the above. i love him for real so what do i do?my babydaddy and i are no more.

  149. JLyman 8 January 2012 at 6:42 am Permalink

    The amount of time/opportunity and her ultimate actions, combined, say that you two maybe did not connect emotionally in the way two people should with the love of their life? Maybe you are stuck on her like a broken record out of some other loneliness or feeling rejected?

    You really shouldn’t feel that way. She’s probably on a different wavelength/can’t really relate to you on a deeper level, and isn’t the person who can appreciate you the way the “love of your life” should. The “love of your life” does not lose you or want to be free after that much time together.. they see you for how special and rare you are. Once you get past your mourning, you will feel fresh and clean, ready to take on the world, have zero interest in this girl, and realize there is someone else that is as excited to be with you as you are toward them. Take heart, pal.

  150. Rockline stater 12 January 2012 at 3:47 pm Permalink

    Hi my ex i did not use to speak her properly @ starting she started to speak to me and always sit next to me , msg me , call me even i used share all my feelings our relationship extentnend happily one fine day she started to aviod me all of d sudden she never use pick my nor respond me nor msg me nor mail me. not even she used pick the in office extension if i call i was broken i spoke to her she never responded me properly one or the other reson she used to give always try manage with smiling i cant give up i wanted her in my life i love like anything more than any one in the life i bet my life for this plz do help me in this situation

  151. dawn 23 January 2012 at 12:38 am Permalink

    my ex and i were doing perfectly fine when suddenly, something unexpected happened. his brother accidentally slept with me in our home for some reason and then few days later, my boyfriend found out and wanting to break up with me. it wasn’t really my intention to sleep with his brother but i don’t know why we let it happened. and so he have already spoken to his brother and so he was told that it was me who initiated the action and never listened to me anymore. i really don’t know what i should do. i know it was also my fault but it wasn’t my intention to let it happened. since then, my boyfriend never spoke to me again. he said he needs more time for himself to think if deserve a second chance but i’m so afraid that he might just be telling that to me just to finish off with the conversation. he said that he doesn’t want to see me temporarily since everytime he sees me, he would only remember everything that had happened. i really love him so much. i don’t know what i should do so i could his trust back. i love him so much. i need to win him back so badly. please help me.

  152. dawn 23 January 2012 at 12:42 am Permalink

    by the way, this just happened very recently like 20 days ago between me and his brother and really few days after, he already found out that i slept with his brother. please help me on how i could win him back. i am really one inch away in committing suicide.

  153. Lyang@Niraj 26 January 2012 at 9:49 pm Permalink

    hi,
    m confused what my bf is trying to do with me? we been in relationship almost 7 months it was going good but now drastic changes came into him, this days he dont even care about me i dont know why ..???????? if it goes this way i’ll surely kill myself …….:(

    • Kacie 15 February 2012 at 5:26 am Permalink

      hi.

      well first of all DON’T kill ur self.
      That has happened too many girls, i guess it’s just what boys are like. They start growing up and theire emotions chanege….

      So you just need to talk to him tell him how YOU feel and handel his emotions. Or if that doesn’t work just tell him you cant have someone in your life thats making you confused and sad, and if it doesn’t stop that your gonna finis him…

      Hope this Helpped :)

  154. Amy Mickey 30 January 2012 at 5:04 pm Permalink

    Hi,

    My bf of 2 years and 1 month has left me again, for the third time, over the same situation. I cheated on him, and he broke up with me, dated somebody new, but started talking to me again a day after our 1 year. He then found out more information about what happened while we were broken up, and left me again, but we ended up getting back together again, and after the second time we broke up, we were perfectly fine, everything was PERFECT, no fighting or anything. He bought me a ring, and we raised two puppies together, and we cried in each other’s arms after we had to put one of our pups to sleep when they got attacked by a doberman. But after two days of hanging out with his bestfriend, he tells me we need space and that he can never forgive me. Then a couple of days later, he ends up breaking up with me, and an old friend of his finds out for me that he basically left me again for the same reason why he broke up with me the first time. Idk what to do, Im so confused how he left again when things were perfectly fine.. What do i do? He is talking to somebody else, but he told his old friend that it was nothing serious. And i guess it isnt because when she asked who it was he referred to the girl as “its not important.” So i want to know if he is still thinking of me? If he forgot me? Or if he even still loves me. Because some of the things he tweets seem like he is talking about me..

  155. Amanda 31 January 2012 at 8:57 am Permalink

    Hi my name is Amanda and I am honestly really confused you see I started talking to this kid who was a really good friend of mine and I started to really like him but I found out he had a gf and I told him I couldn’t talk to him cause of that. He then started texting me all the time about how he really liked me ever since freshmen year and all these things and we started talking but as friends really good friends and so over the summer he broke up with his gf an then we started talking as more than friends. But something happened over the summer and we stopped communicating then when school started he started texting me again but it wasnt the same. He told me that he didn’t feel the same way about me as before and that he wanted to start all over again and so that’s what we did. We talked for a while and then I started going over his house alot and meeting the fam and all his friends and we were acting like a couple I mean I would see him everyday at school then I would leave with him all the time and we would chill at his house and eventually it lead to him being all cute and kissing me and stuff and ofcourse I thought we were dating I mean what was I suppose to think. But then he started having conversations with his ex again which I did not like one bit but I couldn’t do anything about. We were still talking and flirting and what not but I felt like he was more with her in school than me and I don’t know I guess I thought he was more flirty with her than he was with me. Everyone knew about us so everyone would tell me about them and ask me what’s going on but I really had no Idea. I confronted him about it but he said they were just friends and that he was with her for a long time and that he can’t just forget her that easy but to tell you the truth he never even tried. Well after a few weeks of that we started getting more serious and I started getting jealouse of their “friendship” and I told him that I didn’t like it and he played dumb and acted like he didn’t know what I was talking about. Then one day I just told him off and told him that I’m sick and tired of this situation and that he was being a doushe and he told me I was “tripping” I really wasn’t but w.e an then my birthday came around and I invited a few friends to come stay at my apartment including him and we hooked up but that was the last time cause after that I decided it wasn’t worth it he was obviously still in love with his ex and it’s never going to end they fight and stop talking then make up and start talking again it’s a crazy roller coaster and I’m glad to not be apart of that because it was killing me. But I’m not going to lie and tell you I don’t like him anymore because I clearly do I just don’t know what to do a big part of me just wants it to be me instead of her. Everyone tells me to move on and trust me ive tried ive even tried to talk to other guys and i start liking them but i just keep on going back to him and thinking about all our amazing times together. Plus he goes to my school and so does she sp i have to see and hear all the drama between them. And i know im making him seem like an asswhole but to tell you the truth as much as i wish he was he isnt so i cant even hate him. Please someone help and give me your advice !!! I really need to hear some advice on what you think I should do

  156. blanka 31 January 2012 at 11:06 am Permalink

    Me and my ex were going out for 9 months. We argued but we really loved eachother. We went through everything. I spent everyday of the summer with him. Then he started to act difrent .I wanted to break up but I loved him too much.we finally broke up nd I cried everyday for about month. I moved on but I knew i still loved him. Iseen him one day nd all of my feelings came back. He talks to some girl but I don’t think they go out. I talked to him nd told him I miss him. He said he missed me too, but idk. I just want him back.because hes all i have been thinking about and hes all want

  157. Mackenzie 3 February 2012 at 3:01 pm Permalink

    Omg me and my ex went out for jusy a day then he started textin he was g me saying things like he was thinking about another girl he used to go out with then he told me it was over in just a DAY!!!I didn’t get it at all!!!Plz I need help :’(

  158. Miss Xoliswa Majola 11 February 2012 at 7:30 pm Permalink

    I am 22 years. Really love my X boyfriend… I cheated- I know it was very foolish of me! But I can’t take it back, he stopped talking to me after he found out, for like a few months then he started talking to me recently. I get the feeling we still have a chance, I’m very attached to him, if he doesn’t speak to its like my life is in turmoil_ I love him so much and I just wish he could tell me if we will ever be inserperable again! I just wish I could always be with him daily, I’m really happy that his talking to me again but can I really hope for a wedding ring one day???

    Thank You
    <3 Inlove with him

  159. david 12 February 2012 at 5:05 am Permalink

    my feicee just done a 180 over nite ,out of no where,things were fine until her ex started coming around and playing superdad,one nite i came home from work and she said to me i dont know about us,,,,then she text me 2 days later and told me that she weight the pros and cons and that she loved me and that she wasnt going anywhere because she knew i would always have her back then 3 days later it was over.she since has un friended me on facebook and deleted our pictures…im so confused as is alot of people,its like someone else has jumped inside of her.and now the ex is living with her he moved in less then 48 hours after i left..so confused..

  160. Kobe 15 February 2012 at 7:19 am Permalink

    Hey, My ex broke up with me a few motuths ago. she has tlked to a few other people when we broke. i have to but for some reason shes the only firl in my mind that i truly care about…i havent tlked to her in so long becuase all my friends tell me not to even look at her anynmore and she would come cralinng back. she would text me out of the blue saying call me later or do you hate me. i wont text back. she has been dating this one guy maybe for a mouth and i reallly think were done. but i just know our feelings arnt. any help please?
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  161. shaun 25 February 2012 at 11:52 pm Permalink

    Heres the thing, me and my ex broke up 3 years ago. We were together for almost 5 years, lived together and have 2 young boys. Initially we both found someone new but admitted to each other that we still wanted each other but thought it was best to just be friends. After about a year we became ‘friends with benefits’. We tried a relationship again about 6 months ago, which lasted about a month because as soon as we hit a patch that needed to be worked on, she decided we wont work. I am a devoted father and go to hers to see the boys most days. After they go to bed we usually watch tv and chat. I sleep at hers most nights in her bed. No sex, just sleeping. I am still madly in love with her but whenever i try to talk about the possibility of getting back together she goes in a mood and says she doesnt want me. The only reason she ever gives me is ‘we don’t work’. I’m going out of my mind here and could really use some advise. Sorry this is so long. And thanks for taking the time to read it.

  162. Lamar 26 February 2012 at 11:07 am Permalink

    I dated a girl for 5 month and thing were really going fine at first. She was perfect and i never enjoyed myself with no other like her. She made me feel good in many ways. Then it start going downhill. First problem that we had was when i told her (just trying to be honest) that someone invited my ex (from 2 years ago) to a party that we going to. Man did she flip out. I told her we did not have to go but on that day she agreed. Day after the party she flipped out again say I shouldnt never asked her to come. I didnt even speak to my ex. This was the second situation on new years. Then a week later. She was mad that i didnt take her off of facebook. I really didnt think it was a big deal. I dont even talk to the girl at all and i do not care for my ex at all. After its been 2 years. So i deleted her. I thought everything was fine and things were getting better. But last week she mad me mad and i said something mean to her. This upset her and she told me i should need to leave. So i did and we did not talk for 3 days. Then finally i called her and she wanted to end things because about the situation with my ex back in december and she wants to feel secure and was talkin about i have alot of debt. This did make me angry. She make 6 figures too. I do miss her though because we had so much in common. I sent her en email about her reasons for the breakout and how i felt about her and everything. I will not bother her anymore. Initiating NC for a while.

  163. Hannah 3 March 2012 at 12:18 am Permalink

    Hey there.
    My boyfriend and I that would have been dating for 1 and 1/2 years on February 6th broke up back in January on the 23rd. I was devasted when we broke up because to this day, it still doesn’t feel like it could be over when we were together that long. We had broken up before a little over a year ago because of the fighting that we did. Ever since then, we had gotten really close and practically we were best friends. A few days before we broke up this last time, we both talked about how we were drifting apart and I pointed it out to him that he didn’t seem happy lately. He told me he was just depressed and thinking. The night we broke up, he begged me to stay friends with him and he cried because he thought I was going to hate him. For the first few weeks, it was insanely awkward trying to be friends with him because I still loved him so much. I really miss him a lot. Recently, track started and he’s been talking to me a lot more. He gets kinda upset when I ignore him and rarely talk to him. You see, we met when I was in 8th grade during track season at a track meet. I hugged him for the first time at that track meet and when we were dating, he told me that he’s liked me ever since that day. Well, I don’t know why or anything, but he’s always asking me if I want a hug after track practice and he picks on me when we’re walking around the school waiting to get picked up. He told me the other night that he wanted to kiss me the other day at track and he asked me if I’d get mad if he did. I’m not sure, if he still likes me or if there’s any hope left. Both of us promised that we were going to get married and we had a child’s name picked out. I really felt like he was the one and I honestly still do. I miss him like crazy, but I try not to let it show around him. He still calls me dear and babe, when he texts me. He’s a flirter though, a huge one and that’s one of the things I honestly couldn’t take about him. And I had a jealousy problem, so that didn’t help. What do I do? I really want him back.

  164. Jessica sanchez 8 March 2012 at 10:55 am Permalink

    Today on march 5th 2012 I told my friend becca to go up to my ex and ask him to come over here jessica aka me needs to talk to u about wat happened during pe and he said no and so then I send my friend justine to ask him if we were still together and he said no he didnt like me no more I staer to cry and after skool he came up to me and said sorry and huged me when tht happened I thought we were gonna get back together but no I was wrong so I ask him justine told me tht u u said u said,it was,over and he said ya its true and then I asked him soo we are done then he said yes so then I ran to my friend alison and started to cry I was broken so then I want to my frien sonias house and went on this and I am still confused wat to do and I am hurtin and thts my story and I want diego back like now so plz people how do I get him back:(

    U

  165. WillD 14 March 2012 at 4:36 am Permalink

    Hi, my name is will. And this is my story. At the end of febuary I had decided to pull the plug on our relationship. We dated for 2 years and one month on and off (never more than a week at a time we were apart. We met and hit it off at my work over 2 years ago and she was my true love. She was the first person that I really fell for. My first everything, including sex. She shared many common interests and we were just perfect together. Or so I thought. After a year it started it feel like she wanted to call it quits. Mind you, I have treated this girl so good and did absolutly everything for her. I show her how much I care for her every single day. I buy her flowers and gifts and tell her how much I love her on a daily basis. Well, she had a rocky past, and to this day I don’t know what is bothering her. After the year had went through she changed a bit, which got worse over time. She was a party type before hand, and I was a person who is more of a romantic type and very caring towards her feelings. I have never cared for any girl so deeply and now sow after our last fight, she wants to nothing to do with me. I believe she is confused, because I know she loves me, in some ways. But she often contradicts herself by treating me so bad. I’m a very good person to her and it kills me to see her like this. At this point I don’t really want to be with her again, but only for her to realize what she had. She is a great person, but sometimes makes stupid decisions. Honestly, iits been almost a month now, and its been very tough because I’m taking it really hard, and she is blowing it off. Well, I suppose the right girl will come one day when I meet the right person, only time will tell. Any replys would be greatly appreciated! Thank you all for tkaing the time to read this post, god bless

  166. jake G 15 March 2012 at 12:19 am Permalink

    HAY guys im jake from boston.. me and my boyfriend broke up about a couple months ago when he went to lebanon.. i was HEART BROKEN he gave me massages every day and now im scared to death another guy wont even look at me what do i do!

  167. Pupa 16 March 2012 at 3:42 pm Permalink

    Hi, my ex girl friend tell me me she loves me so much buh she needs er tym we have a convo she daznt want us to talk about ha feelins,wat shud i do…i love this person

  168. john 19 March 2012 at 11:44 pm Permalink

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    how i got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for
    7years with 2kids and we lived happily until things started getting
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    didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved
    out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and
    tried everything
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  169. Sean 21 March 2012 at 8:35 am Permalink

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me. I’m 90% sure of the reason why, this reason being my mistakes that she was waiting for me to fix but never did. Now that we have been broke up for a week, I have stopped contact with her. I didn’t text her or respond to her texts for 2.5 days. She would text me a few times then call me. With no response from me she would then text my sister asking how I was doing and also texting my friend trying to get as much info as possible. She would say she is worried about me. On the night of no contact for 2.5 days she showed up where I live, she has a few things still to get, but always seems to leave a little each time. She said she was worried about me and things like that, never mentioning about getting her things until later. She acted slightly jealous at the thought of me possibly having a girlfriend and so she asked, which I don’t, so I said I don’t. When I try to bring to her attention the way she is acting towards me, like she is still somewhat my girlfriend and like I’m the one that broke things off, she gets defensive and smirks the idea away. I love this girl with all my heart and want nothing more than to be with her, we also have two little boys together. She has said this isn’t really what she wanted, but felt this was the right decision. We were together for 8 years and this is the second time she has left me. The first reason due to me having a drug issue. I told her I don’t want to be friends because I love her too much to be her friend and this slightly upsets her, though she says she understands. I act like I’m not too bothered by the breakup when we see eachother even though I’m dying inside. I’m now trying to get all the things figured out that needed to be when we were still together. Her mom doesn’t care for me, because she expects more out of me, although we are always decent towards eachother. My ex always says she cares for me and will always love me when we see eachother, she also has a hard time not becoming emotional. I feel like she is trying to force the feelings she has for me away. What do you think and what can I do? Thanks.

    Sean

  170. Anna 21 March 2012 at 11:44 am Permalink

    My Boyfriend and i broke up like 2 months ago and i’m still madly in love with him but he’s seeing someone else. my ex and i try being friends but his gf told him not to be my friend anymore . i see him like every day and i can’t help but stare . i think he may still like me but i don’t know what to do. HELP? ANYONE?

  171. Marie 4 April 2012 at 9:34 am Permalink

    My ex and I know each other three years before we got together, and i’ve never loved someone or something so much in my life. We got together last year, and we were together for 3 months but i fucked it up because he’s four years older than me and i didnt realise that i never gave him the space and freedom that someone his age needs, and i became very possesive. We were together for only three months, but a week after we broke up we agreed to stay “friends with benifits”, because it happened once and we decided we might as well stay that way. We’re still under that status of relationship, but it’s an on and off thing.. it seems that when im not that arsed about him, he wants me even more, but when i get attached again, he doesnt seem bothered, and he gets annoyed by it and gets rid of me. Im sick of this happening but i really cant let him go.. we said we’d see how it goes towards getting back together. I gave him a bracelet with a heart on it when we were together, and a few weeks ago when we stopped being friends with benifits, he’s been seen wearing it, as if he missed me? We’re friends with benfits now but I suppose i need to know how to get him back. Any advice? :/

  172. GrantWestern 11 April 2012 at 1:44 pm Permalink

    So I don’t want to make people read my problems and they just scroll past me to read someone else’s story. But I can’t get it off my head! Even know we have only dated for a little while I feel like it shouldn’t have ended like it did. I know she still likes me but it won’t work out.

    I know we might have some akward moments together but I wish I could just show her how much I like her. I wish we could work but I don’t know how…

    This maybe only my 6th girlfriend but I have never felt this way about a girl like I do now. Is it just first love thats killing me? I don’t know but if someone could tell me how to make it right, and I dont care if I have to walk to Mexico and swim to Africa and back to have back in my arms.

    Her dad is not very lose on his grip either and we are in different grades so I am not sure but any advice on how to make her see that I like her more than a chubby kid loves chocolate.

  173. fabie 17 April 2012 at 11:54 pm Permalink

    hey this is me is not working it all my ex never come back to me evn i tried so hard so that can happen uhhh

  174. stuart 20 April 2012 at 6:01 am Permalink

    I was dating my girlfriend for just under a year. I fell in love with her very quickly, and my ex girlfiend claims to have fallen in love with me. I knew very early on, that I was not worthy of a relationship with her.
    I had just finished a very unpleasant marriage with my ex-wife and had a beautiful son together. However the marriage quickly became tainted and after several issues, we parted company. To cut a long story short, I met my girlfriend shortly afterwards.
    We had loads in common, enjoyed each others company, was comfortable talking to each other about how we feel, we had similar aspirations in life. It was simply amazing.
    However shortly after an argument I had with my ex wife, my girlfriend changed. First she refused to sleep with me, weeks later she told me she couldn’t handle my son, and that fact that I’ll always have a tie to my ex wife. She also blamed my poor judgement for fathering a son with my ex wife. She also criticised my quiet personality, I have always been a reserved guy. I don’t know why this became a problem for her. I have always been very honest with my ex-girlfriend, especially in regards to my marriage and son. I admit all of these reasons were fair, and I accept them.
    However, I miss my ex girlfriend so much. I’ve cried myself to sleep on several occasions and have started taking anti-depressants. I had never experienced true love, until I met my ex-girlfriend. We still talk and see each other occasionally, but I always break down in tears. Sometimes I see my ex girlfriend break down in tears too. She has even told me she loves me, but can’t continue any relationship because of my past and poor judgement. Now the conversations between us are getting less frequent and I’m seeing her for shorter periods. She has even stopped going out to see mutual friends if I am there with them.
    I love her so much, the pain is unbearable, I have decided to immigrate to Beijing for a couple of years to sort myself out, and try to make my ex girlfriend proud of me and come back to me. To be honest, I doubt that will happen. I’m trying hard, to be paranoid, but I suspect she’s seeing somebody else. I’m not sure what I’d do if she was seeing someone else. My heart is already broken. I look at photos of us together each day, and I am always thinking of her. She was the Love of my life and I cannot imagine being with anyone else.

  175. deanna 21 April 2012 at 11:49 am Permalink

    hi im deanna me and my boydriend had been dating for 1 yr. and 6 months i decided to take a break from him because i feel like hes too controling and has anger issues and well i wanted him to take some time to think about our relashionship and try to make it better.the problem is when i see him in school i always try to aproach him and say hi and all these things what can i do to stop thinking about him? i really love him and i miss him more then ever but it looks like he doesnt really care about our [breakup]…he says he does but he does he just needs time to think about his issues and so do i he tells me that he cares for me and stuff but i still have a feeling like hes going to end up moving on with someone else what can i do to make him fall back inlove with me like he used to…. please help..

  176. Onee-chan 22 April 2012 at 12:24 pm Permalink

    I’ve known my ex for three years now, and loved him for just as long. We went out for about two years, and I honestly thought he loved me. He is the most amazing person in the world, and the sad thing is he doesn’t see it. We never even fought, whenever we disagreed about something it would always end in laughter. I have so many memories from him, seeing him every day at school and even more than that. About two months ago, he broke up with me. He said that people were pushing him to “go further” with me and he didn’t want to deal with it. We were constantly made fun of for various reasons, so I kind of understood how he was feeling. But that didn’t make it hurt any less. He even broke up with me on leap day so I would only have to go through it every four years. But what he doesn’t understand is that I sill think about him every second of every day and and I don’t know what to do about it. We’re still friends and I have every class at school with him, and he isn’t *seeing* anyone else, and he knows that I’m still in love with him. Ah well…….

  177. Lee 26 April 2012 at 1:20 pm Permalink

    I lost my wife on feb 14th she moved out of a four bedroom home to move into a double wide trailer,in a trailer park with her girl friend and my wife and I are going through a divorce my divorce will be finale on may 1st,I’ve been trying to reckensile with her trying to work things out with her but every time I tell her I love her she says I know you love me you don’t have to tell me that all the time and shes says she needs space,and she say I call her to much she says to let her call me she will get a hold of me,but I told her if we can’t see each a little more how can we try to make things work I don’t know id she wants another man,she says thats the last thing she wants is another man she lives with girl friend in a double wide trailer in a trailer park I tryed to help her girl freind out she got kick out of her mother house I let her move in my house and lets her stay in our guest room in the basement,and within about 3 weeks after she was her she was helping my wife packing her things to leave me,and when I found out she was leaving me I also fond out she a divorce at the same time,I was married to her for 13 years and together wit her for 20 years she said she fell out of love with me about 3 years ago but we are still talking a little do you thing there a chance we can get back together or am I just trying for something will never happen do you thing my wife still loves me her name is christina she will be 49 years old Oct.9th and Oct 1st I will be 61 I ask her was it my age and she said no,is possable there is some one else or might be.I don’t know what to think,can you help me

  178. Lee 26 April 2012 at 1:23 pm Permalink

    I lost my wife on feb 14th she moved out of a four bedroom home to move into a double wide trailer,in a trailer park with her girl friend and my wife and I are going through a divorce my divorce will be finale on may 1st,I’ve been trying to reckensile with her trying to work things out with her but every time I tell her I love her she says I know you love me you don’t have to tell me that all the time and shes says she needs space,and she say I call her to much she says to let her call me she will get a hold of me,but I told her if we can’t see each a little more how can we try to make things work I don’t know id she wants another man,she says thats the last thing she wants is another man she lives with girl friend in a double wide trailer in a trailer park I tryed to help her girl freind out she got kick out of her mother house I let her move in my house and lets her stay in our guest room in the basement,and within about 3 weeks after she was her she was helping my wife packing her things to leave me,and when I found out she was leaving me I also fond out she wanted a divorce at the same time,I was married to her for 13 years and together wit her for 20 years she said she fell out of love with me about 3 years ago but we are still talking a little do you thing there a chance we can get back together or am I just trying for something will never happen do you thing my wife still loves me her name is christina she will be 49 years old Oct.9th and Oct 1st I will be 61 I ask her was it my age and she said no,is possable there is some one else or might be.I don’t know what to think,can you help me

  179. Bryce 8 June 2012 at 12:49 am Permalink

    I NEED HELP.

    Two year relationship. It was perfect. She put so much effort into making me happy and did so many little things, that stick with me to this day. After eight months I fell in love with her. Then it was perfect for another three, but slowly I lost my independance, and shortly after my confidence, and all the other traits that she was attracted to in the beginning. I became suspicious, paranoid, I started thinking the worst. I looked at all the bad things, even if they weren’t there. During this time she started treating me with less and less respect. Eventually we started fighting all the time over trivial, meaningless things. It got so bad, and stayed so bad, I eventually said we should take a break, but I said it should be until I finish college, which was impossible. It hurt her so badly, and I’ve never regretted something more in my life. But it was a wakeup call for me and I immediately asked for her to come back and at first she was on board. We met up and I desperately poured out my thoughts and emotions. But to my utter shock, she started doubting things would work. And she distanced herself from me emotionally. I know for sure this is a girl I want to spend my life with. After me repeatedly trying the same desperate approach, I eventually let her go and she said she just needed time, and she said she’d come back. I want to make sure while we are apart that she doesn’t forget about me. I want to make sure she doesn’t lose the good memories of me and her. What do I do? I think it’ll be months before she makes up her mind, but what if she doesn’t want me after all that time? Was it love from her, was it real? Because it didn’t take long for her to lose her feelings towards me. It was real love from me.

  180. ConfusedOne 9 August 2012 at 4:26 pm Permalink

    Okay so me and my boyfriend were dating for 7 months, i know im only 13 and hes a year older than me but he was my first for almost everything! He would always talk about how he would want other girls to do stuff with him and how other girls had nice butts when he was on the phone me and his friend. He thought it was funny when i got mad, and he would sometimes mess around and say mean things to me, but other than that, he was a great boyfriend and he acted like he loved me. I can’t really say love , im pretty young but i just dont know what to do, we have been broken up for 4 months and we WERE friends until i wrote something mean about him on Facebook then his parents saw it, he stared hating me then so did his parents. We just started talking yesterday, he was sorta being a jerk but we were talking and he texted me first, then tonight we stared talking and he was telling me he can’t go out with me because his parents wont let me, Were both in Marching band, hes in the drumline, im in the colorguard so i see him everyday this week for 9 hours straight. Yesterday i was really happy and just laughing with my friends and he texted me saying why are you trying to show off…IM NOT!!! He stares at me all the time and asks me alot of questions about my life so far, but he acts like he doesn’t like me at all, hes a jerk when he texts me…He texted me something and i said okay whater, then he was like why are you texing me!!….He has dated 2 girls since, 1 broke up with him then he broke up with the other, i have dated 5 guys so far and i broke up with all of them. His parents are so nice to me, especially his mom so im just confused. I love him but i hate him, what do i do. Are there really gonna be other guys through my teenage years and i will forget about loving my Ex, or is it possible we will forget about our younger relationship in a few years and start another one?

  181. king 2 January 2013 at 2:59 am Permalink

    itis not easy to find person can understand you 100%person dont care about you better to forget ,,,,im kind person and was hurt alot of times for trusting people

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  183. Dec 6 March 2014 at 6:40 am Permalink

    Hi, I’ve been with my girlfriend 9 months. I’ve just found out she’s been seeing someone since 28th feb, and has had sex with him 2 time in the mean time, I’m crushed, and depressed, how do I win her back?

    • Ashley Kay 24 July 2014 at 9:27 pm Permalink

      you need to heal and forgive her completely first before you try and win him back. make sure that you can move pass her cheating otherwise even if you win her back things “might” go messy and result with another break up


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