16 August 2008 ~ 243 Comments

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back – Step by Step Guide

Are you going through a break up and want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back? Has your boyfriend decided that, out of the blue, he doesn’t want to be with you anymore? How could this have happened? If you want to know how to get your ex boyfriend back, I want to first reveal some of the biggest mistakes you could be making in trying to get him back.

3 Top Mistakes When Trying to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Mistake #1 – Calling him over and over again

This is one of the biggest classic mistakes when getting your ex boyfriend back. This is when you can’t stop calling your boyfriend or trying to get him to talk to you. You start to panic when he doesn’t respond straight away, and you find yourself sitting by the phone waiting for it to ring. Worse still, often you end up calling, texting or emailing over and over again, sending a string of messages that seem to get more incoherent than the last. The bottom line is to stop calling him if he is not responding or even telling you to leave him alone. This means he wants to be left alone!

Mistake #2 – Declaring your love and over-apologizing

If you have made a mistake, then very likely your first instinct is to want to beg and plead for forgiveness, and tell him how much you love him. This hardly ever works because the dumper is usually emotionally detached to the situation as it is. They are prepared for you to freak out and get emotional. They are also going to think that asking for forgiveness now is probably a bit too late.

Mistake #3 – Acting out of jealousy, rage and hurt

Essentially you’re emotionally out of control, and when your emotions are a wreck, you tend to say and do things you wouldn’t normally do. You may lash out at your boyfriend, call him names, try to guilt-trip him back into the relationship or threaten him. These are emotional outbursts that can damage a relationship severely if repeated over a period of time. It’s important to allow things to cool off if you were acting out at the heat of the moment. Do apologize briefly afterward, but leave it at that!

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Even When You’ve Made All These Mistakes?

If you’re making any of these mistakes, there IS hope. I’m going to reveal a very simple strategy that will eliminate your chances of making any of these and take you in the RIGHT direction to get your ex boyfriend back.

Here it is – stop trying to contact him at all, wait until HE contacts you first!

This is essentially the No Contact Rule – and it can be extremely effective if you can stick to it. Most people in an emotional state, fail to maintain a consistent level of no contact.

There are a lot of benefits to doing this:

  • You’re allowing your ex boyfriend the space and time to get over the pain of the break up
  • You’re allowing YOURSELF the space and time to get over the pain of the break up
  • You’re preventing yourself from potentially making anymore embarrassing mistakes when you’re in an extremely emotional state of mind.
  • You’re giving him time to actually MISS you.
  • You’re giving him the impression that you’re moving on and thus he will more likely contact you to see where the relationship is still at.

Believe it or not these are all benefits. BUT, you may worry that starting No Contact will have negative effects as well.

Some of the common worries people have about No Contact when getting an ex boyfriend back are:

  • What if my ex boyfriend forgets about me?
    A: He will NOT forget about you (how quickly can you forget about someone you once loved?)
  • Wouldn’t it simply help him move on faster?
    A: If by move on, you mean he is healing from the pain of the break up, then that is actually a GOOD thing. If your goal is to get your ex boyfriend back, you want him to heal from the break up and remember why he fell for you in the first place. Besides, men tend to find it harder than women to move on after a break up anyway, so rest assured this is not a bad thing.
  • What if he finds someone else?
    A: Possible, but unlikely. Even if he does, it would be temporary and overall harmless to your relationship.
  • What if he is already seeing someone else?
    A: Again, if he is, it’s 99% a rebound relationship and overall harmless to your relationship.
  • What if my ex boyfriend is stubborn and doesn’t contact me?
    A: He will… I almost guarantee it.. especially if he really loved you in the relationship. He will find some excuse or some stupid irrelevant reason to contact, even if it’s not an initially “nice” one.
  • What if by him thinking I’m moving on, he will simply move on as well?
    A: Actually, you will find that if he believes you are moving on, he will definitely contact you, almost 100% guarantee he will. This is because people want what they can’t have, AND we are naturally curious. Even if he calls you just to congratulate you on moving on and how “happy” he is, he will still contact you. That’s what you want.

So I hope that makes you feel more at ease with starting No Contact. It’s not as bad as it appears and it works just as well in moving on as in getting an ex boyfriend back.

Now, for the few who CAN’T start no contact due to your special circumstance, I recommend using Limited Contact instead. This means, avoid your ex boyfriend when you can, but when you can’t, be nice, civil, brief and short. Keep emotions out of your interactions.

3 Tips on How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

So here’s how to get your ex boyfriend back if you’re using the initial No Contact tactic.

Tip #1 – Bring Back The Girl He Fell In Love With

Remind him of the person he fell in love with every time you do come into contact. If one of your best qualities is your sense of humour, your positive outlook and your ability to make people feel good. Bring these out ten fold when he is around you. You want to remind him why he fell in love with you in the first place. Just don’t over do it and make it too obvious you’re trying to please him. This is another method that will only be effective once you use the NC method above.

Tip #2 – Know Why Your Ex Boyfriend Left And How It’d Be Different The Second Time Around

If you don’t know why he left, then you can’t start to fix the problem. At the end of this article I’m going to reveal how you can find out exactly what went wrong and how to stop future break ups from occuring.

Tip #3 – Make Your Ex Boyfriend Chase You

Men love a challenge. If you make it too easy on him to have you, he is going to lose interest quickly as well. Don’t give in to sleeping with an ex boyfriend until you are sure he is willing to commit to you again. Make him chase you, work for your affection and want to spend more and more time with you on his own.

If you’d like an in-depth guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back, I’d like to introduce you to The Ex Recovery System. This is a step by step system on how you can win your boyfriend back. You’ll discover:

  • How to be the one in control of the relationship, so your ex boyfriend is chasing you instead of the other way around.
  • The correct way to start No Contact, tips on maintaining no contact and how to gain enough emotional control to start contact again.
  • How to get your ex boyfriend to contact you with a simple letter. I’ll show you what to say to get an instant response.
  • How to show your ex boyfriend you’ve changed and things will be better the second time around.
  • Exactly why he left, what men want and how to keep a man from leaving a relationship.
  • The exact step by step blueprint to how to get your ex boyfriend back, win back his heart and having him begging and chasing YOU again.

I’m the author of The Ex Recovery System and I encourage you to have a look for the full scoop here:

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243 Responses to “How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back – Step by Step Guide”

  1. ashley sofia 1 December 2008 at 9:20 pm Permalink

    hi, so my ex and i were talking for a while and now hes mad because he said im too annoying what should i do to get him to talk to me??

    • alyssa 26 August 2011 at 1:13 am Permalink

      well it depends on if most of the time yall were talking, were you the one contacting him?

  2. merrakesh 27 April 2010 at 7:12 pm Permalink

    My exboyfriend adored me for 3 yrs. But we grew apart and now he’s dating another girl who loves him. Its been 4 months and they have become really close. He used to tell me he’s trying to get over me but not anymore. I really really love him and want him back. Please tell me what to do I can’t sleep eat or do anything for 4 months now. I urgently await your reply. Thank you

    • alyssa 26 August 2011 at 1:14 am Permalink

      don’t dwell on it. I know its hard, but sometimes when you love someone you have to let them go. If they come back, then you know it was real love on both sides

  3. heartbroken 30 January 2011 at 4:32 am Permalink

    Soooo I need some help and any advice would be reAlly appreciated. My ex and I broke up 1 month ago and I’m the one who broke up with himbecause he had been disrespecting me allot and I couldn’t take it anymore so I felt like if I broke up with him then he would change but 2 weeks role around and we’re still not together. wait I have to mention that after we broke up 2 days later he balled his eyes out to me telling me he changed and he was sorry and I pittied him for the moment but I didn’t take him back because I needed to actually see change. so then 3 weeks later and me still not wanting to be back with him, I find out he has a new gf. I flipped out and went psycho on him and wanted to beat his butt and the new gf’s but I didn’t but I still said allot of hurtful things. After that my ex stopped calling texting and asking for me back. last week I started textig and calling him allot because I want him back now. But he won’t give in. After crying my eyes out and asking for him back he completely hut me down and seemed bitter because I had gone out on 2 dates with a co worker. I’m not going crazy without him and I “harass” him by texting and calling him everyday even when he doesn’t respond. I’m completely going insane. I don’t understand how someone who you’ve been bestfriends with for 3 years and in a relationship for nearly 2 years could get over me that quickly. I love this guy. I believe we’re meant to be. He told me he still loved me but we were no longer meant to be together and that he’s “having fun being single.” the hard part is that we o to the same college and he’s in one of my lecture classes. I ran into him 2 days ago and I said hello and he smirked and ten eventually smiled at me and then I said bye and ran off. is there still hope or is this a lost cause? I know I should be ignoring him but it seems so hard. I’m completely baffled as to how he seemed to get over me so quick when I’m constantly going insane and crying and a total mess. someone help.

    • Chloe 26 May 2011 at 2:10 pm Permalink

      I am totally going through the same thing, my ex-fiance and i had been together for 3 years and i supported him through everything, he even joined the marines. but he started hanging out with some friends that were a bad influence and he disrespected me and threw me under the bus for them, so i dumped him hoping he would think he lost me and better himself but he didnt he just got drunk everyday for a month and was really cold towards me, and then we finally got back together but he was still kind of mean to me but i just took it because i was so afraid of losing him. and he still ended up dumping me after making me all these promises for the future, because he loved the single life and liked not having to worry about someone else all the time. And i was so devastated afterwards, i really believed we were back together and okay. well i havent talked to him and im not going to, my biggest mistake was putting up with the way he treated me, i’m not afraid to lose him because it’s his loss. yes i love him, we were planning a wedding for gods sake, but i am still happy with just myself and i know he will miss me and come back, and then its my choice, after everything he has put me through he will have to work for my forgiveness and to be honest if he doesnt come home well that sucks for him, I know that no other girl will compare to me and i know what i deserve and i wont settle for less than that, honestly just keep not talking to him, he will come around but then you have to play hard to get. i wish i could be of more help but im in the same place and trying to figure t out for myself ahaha

    • angie 20 July 2011 at 11:03 am Permalink

      Hey, just tell the dude you are sorry you went off on him and quit nagging him so much. When you see him just say hi and keep walking like you got somewhere else to go. Keep is short and friendly, they hate it when they are not the center of your universe, act like you have moved on and his will notice you. Let him start texting you back and don’t text back right away, wait about 2 hours so he can wait on you for a change. Tell him you agree with the having fun being single thing and you are giving it a try as well. If he asks you out, just go out for a brief time, like an hour and then tell him you got somewhere else to go, that will give him at little time with you again and then miss you since you have to go so soon. Let us know how you do. In the meantime, keep yourself busy, go out with friends, read a book, give yourself some me time, workout, take a walk, walk the dog, etc. That is what I am doing.

    • BarHopping 6 August 2011 at 4:33 pm Permalink

      I’m going through the exact thing now. Dated him for over 2 years and I broke up with him but after a couple months decided I wanted him back only to find out he is seeing a girl from work & claims to want absolutely nothing to do with me. Today was my first 24 hours to go without speaking to
      Him in about 3 years. Can’t eat, can’t sleep. How did your situation work out?

  4. Kaitlyn 10 March 2011 at 1:08 pm Permalink

    Hi my boyfriend and I dated for 3 months and 1 day but it ended and I miss him constantly terribly I love him soo much he made me soo happy and I want him back for good and forever him and I had plans and I still want that.

    • Heartbroken~ Babe:( 1 April 2011 at 2:21 pm Permalink

      ughhh.. same here because my boyfriend broke up with me on tuesday.. nd the reason y he broke up with me wAs so stupid it pissed me off when he told me wat happened was dat we were n p.e nd he was really quiet he wasnt talking too me nd i asked him r u okai? wats wrong tell me nd he was like nuthing nd i was like theresz a problem i know their iz nd tell me he was like ur in da problem so he told me dat some of ma friendsz were saying dat w werent a good couple nd dat hiszz friendsz were saying dat we should just be friendszz nd he was like maybe we should be friendsz n i just oned out nd didnt say anything i felt like crying den we shook handsz n he was like we kool den i was like ya but im really not kool with it now im so desperate for him nd i really want him back but now we dnt tlk alott at skewl nd when i see him heesz alwaysz with hisz other ex nd he hangsz with her alot nd even though were supposely friendsz i really missz him wat should i do to get him back nd today i was txting him nd he was like so wat yew gonna do dis weekend nd i thought it was gonna be sumthin good but i was like oh im going to ma dadsz nd he was like oh im going to selenas birthday party at her house nd selena iz hisz other ex da 1 dat he hangsz out with but when i was with him she was ma problem cuzz every1 was telling me dat she iz trying to still him from me nd so i told her off den ma juan got mad at me ma ex bf dats hisz name juan nd so he got mad at me because i told her shit nd soo he was like y did yew do dat were jusr friendsz nd i was like sheesz trying to get too yew nd so to make him happy i haf to say sorry to her so i did the next morning at skewl nd den we were kool but then i heard dat every1 was telling me she said dat i was a bitch nd dat shr dnt like me nd dat she was gonna still juan from me nd stuff nd every 1 was mad at herr nd she wrote me a note nd den juan was mad at herr to but then when he brakes up with me he hangsz with herr niw nd heesz going to her birthday party i feel dat heesz trying to make me jealous nd if he iz well itsz working nd im trying to stay strong but i jusr hope her birthday party isz soo boring!!:( so plx someone give ne advice wat too do nd i really still love him nd like i said dats so stupid who cares wat other pplsz think so he listensz to them nd brakes up with me im very hurt!!..:( plz help me nd reply for advice wat to do…

    • Cassandra 22 July 2011 at 7:28 pm Permalink

      Aww thats exactually how i am feeling ): and i want him back i miss him and i would do aanything just to be with him again………………………………so who’s gonna help us hah

      • alyssa 26 August 2011 at 1:20 am Permalink

        I know this is a month or so off.. But I am going through the same thing. He brokeup with me, and said that he wanted us to get our life in order. I thought it made sense… but we share a guy friend, and he gets mad if I call our friend before him, or hangout with him, but when we are all together he doesn’t act interested at all…hes so confusing

    • jordyn 10 July 2013 at 2:01 pm Permalink

      hi kaitlyn how are you doing today im hope you found a man who loves you did you get back with your ex boyfriend yet

  5. Sammi 17 March 2011 at 4:51 pm Permalink

    my boyfriend and I dated 6 and a half months, I fell in Love with
    him and in the beginning he was madly in love with me, we both began to lose interest around 5 and a half months and eventually he ended things, at first I was releived, and then I came to realize I had lost the best thing that had ever happened to me, we talked and he told me he still loved me, would do anything to have me back, that i’m the one and I’m amazing and beautiful and all of these things, but he has a girlfriend, and doesn’t wanna hurt her, initially I thought, it wouldn’t last long and hede be mine again. that was in the beginning
    of february, it’s march 16th now, after he told me all of this he still is with this girl, and will randomely stop talking to me for days, it drives me nuts and I’ve tried ignoring him and it sort of worked until I caved, and now I’m sure he thinks I’m annoying because I’m always texting him, and I just feel like crap and I’m confused as all hell, hese sending me mixed signals, and my god it’s terrible. What do I do? please reply soon.

    • Bee 29 March 2011 at 3:15 am Permalink

      Oh Sammi,I know exactly how you feel.I dated my boyfriend for a year.I remember everything well,he was madly in love with me also.The first month of our relationship was brilliant but then he cheated on me for the first time.I offered him a lot of space and he took it for granted.So ever since after the New Years he’s been cheating on me with this girl…okay.I find out,kindly ask him to stop and he says “I’ll do it.” but does he?No.At least not till April when I really threaten to leave him.Then he lets me witness the breakup.Well..not to be rude but the girl was a w*ore anyway.Moving on to May and Summer,it was really cool.We’d argue a lot since he’s quite the flirt but..overall,we made it through all that and had some really wonderful memories.September passes and his friend presents to him a girl… everything went downhill ever since.He was lying to me,he stopped coming to me as much…it was terrible.I thought it was fishy and that she was being really clingy so I first told her to stay away but it didn’t work so I asked him to do it.What do I find out after Kevin makes me talk to her?..That what he said to her was “Ignore Bianca,she gets like that sometimes.” and he went on cheating.It’s Nov 13th,our anniversary and it’s kinda..bland..On Nov 22nd,Kevin actually makes me talk to that girl and she tells me everything.She manipulates me into thinking she’s my friend and used me to get to him.In a week’s time,everything’s ruined between me and him.I was desperate and I didn’t know how to act,so I desperately tried to reach to him.Didn’t work.He ignored me up till Valentines Day.By then,I was dating someone else.In the meantime,we had an argument like two weeks before because my brother picked on that girl,who was by then,his girlfriend.Anyway,he shows up on VDay and tries to get me back somewhat.He tried to get me to date him because Jessica wasn’t there.Nice,no?I refused and was indifferent over it,after all I was taken.Eventually,he comes on for a few but then leaves again yet with some persuasion from my friend,he began talking to me normally.He’d complain about how terrible Jessica has been and how everyone made him feel trapped beside her.I knew she was like that so I agreed with him and sort of badmouther her and made fun of her.He’d come to me,despite not being allowed to talk to me,we’d chat on MSN ,Skype and whatnot.But…last Saturday,I was so depressed over him not being here for me for most of the week that I had a breadown.My brother was with me and he saw Zane come online,the next thing you know is that they’re arguing and that he says “I realized one thing last night,I’m happy with Jess and she’s happy with me too.She’s trying to change and I appreciate that very much,I love her a lot and I want to be with her.” I pushed my brother away from the PC and began crying and begging for him to see things my way.After a month of…rejecting her..how could he?I really don’t know..now I’m terribly sick and I’m waiting for him to come to me so we can make up.
      My point with all this?Men are two-faced bastards..that or they’re just confused as to what they want.Jess is a rebound and he’ll NEVER love her as he loved me…but still,I’ve made so many mistakes,I’m afraid I might not get him back again,ever.Yet,I dunno.
      But back to you now.What you gotta do sadly is..wait for him to come to you.If you guys had an open relationship,you can try talking to him about it.Or,if not,just be supportive of him.Push him towards her,don’t let him see you’re being bothered by the other girl.They think we’ve moved on that way and they’re bound to come to us more.So overall,let him breathe,act cool and he’ll come to you.After all,he did love you.

    • Chelsea 4 January 2012 at 1:43 pm Permalink

      In in the same position! 6 months of perfectness now he’s eave me the fuck alone! He said I was a bitch for so long :( he wants nothing to do with me and my mom I’m lost! Helppp please?!

  6. broken hearted girl 18 March 2011 at 6:13 pm Permalink

    okay so me and my ex dated for 2 months and we had just met each other and we quickly started a relationship.at first i really didnt like him but on our first kiss i fell for him completely .so on feb.17 2011 we go to the same school so that day was our anniversary so i passed by him 3 or 4 times and he still had’nt said happy anniversary so i qot upset and i slapped him and he said’man,fuck it.!’ so i got mad i said some things i wish i could’ve taken back.so to make a long story short we stopped talking and we broke up and so we recently just had started back talkinq and now he qo’s with this qirl and i asked him and he really hurt my feelinqs about it so i seen him at the end of the day and i was like i know who you are dating now and he said why are you so worrie about me.?! and i got really mad and upset and i sed hoe im not worried about you.!!! and i cheated on you plenty of times and he said i cheated on you to bitch.! and that was it and i havent talk to him since the incedent.what do you think i should do.? pls comment.!

    • Dreyy 1 April 2011 at 1:32 pm Permalink

      damnnn grrl now datsz bad with that im pretty sure yew should move on cuzz dat was really horrible i mean i f yew really reay love him nd want him bck yew should try apologizing or giving him signalsz in hiw yew feel about him like texting him saying hiw yew feel about him nd stuff like dat try…

  7. Beth 24 March 2011 at 3:31 am Permalink

    Hi, I Am Very Upset Because I Said I Would Brake Up With My B friend If He Kept On Being Nasty To Everybody And He Broke Up With Me How Do I Get Him Back :) xxx

  8. Heart break girl 7 April 2011 at 9:18 am Permalink

    Hi , I just broke up with my boyfriend (well ex) and I regret it I want too text him but I don’t know what too say . We talk on the phone for like hours . And the last thing he told me was too loose his number and don’t ever text him again because it’s what I wanted , he does t think that it hurt me to break up with him but it did . I like him a lot and I don’t even know why I broke up with him I feel stupid I just lost the best thing thats ever happened too me , he told me before that he was really upset because I broke up with him . I want him back , what do i text him and say..?

  9. sophialynn :/ 23 April 2011 at 3:01 pm Permalink

    okay so me and my ex were dating on and off for about a year or so, then we broke up before he left the country for 2 months which gave him tons of time to get over me. so now he is back and we re-connected, but now we just hook-up and we flirt all the time and pretty much act like a couple yet he says ” it won’t workout if we get back together” and things like that. and i want to be his again soo badly. yet he just sees us as ‘friends with benefits’ what do i do?

  10. Jenny 25 April 2011 at 4:23 pm Permalink

    How sad…but reading all these stories sortof comforts me. It’s good to know someone feels the same way I do. I might as well share my story right? Well..me and Adrian( my ex ) Have known eachother since 7th grade…( we are now seniors ) We’ve always gotten along stupendously. In 9th grade, after two years of being the best of friends, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I joyfully accepted. It turns out…. even if two people are great friends, it doesn’t mean they’re compatible. We would always argue over the stupidest things while we were going out and I was unbeleivably jealous. We were an on and off couple for almost a year until he gave me a promise ring in 10th grade. Then we became official. We were sortof the couple of the school, you could say haha. Well, things were wonderful. Me and him agreed to put our differences aside and appreciate eachother for who we were. Our relationship was going great until just 9 months ago. I started to get bored of the relationship and I mistook the feeling of boredom for loss of love. I broke up with him and found out just the next day that he already had a new girl. I was shocked and extremely jealous, i was also bubbling with rage. I sent him a pretty nasty message through facebook and he said some pretty hurtful things back, including that he never wanted to speak with me again. That night i had a breakdown and couldn’t stop myself from breaking almost everything in sight and weeping until my body couldn’t produce anymore tears! So adrian and I kept on with this charade of “hating eachother” for around 6 months. I never really hated him …I realized I was in love with him and didn’t know what I had until is was gone. One day, my friend invited me to a soccer game, Adrian’s team against some other team. At first i was hesitant to go because I knew adrian would be there, but i ended up going. After the soccer game, adrian came up to me and offered me some of m favorite crackers and we engaged in some friendly conversation…I must admit he was flirting with me a whole lot, and I played along. But nevertheless it was wierd to me because we hadn’t spoken to eachother in 6 months….and now he was being all nice? That night I texted him asking him why he was being so nice and he acted like he didn’t know what I was talking about.( Now keep in mind he still is with that girl that he asked out the day after I broke up with him) Now, everyone is telling me he wants me back but he is still going out with that one girl ( ha, I don’t even know her name) I always see them making out and declaring their love for one another, but then I always see Adrian staring at me and I’ve even heard rumors that he has cheated on his new girl many times. I’m so in love with him it hurts….what do I do? Do i just move on and not pay atttention to him..or follow along???

    • sophialynn 4 May 2011 at 10:23 am Permalink

      As you can probably tell from my post down there vv i don’t know much. But, if you still have feelings for him and he is flirting then I say go for itt! Forget the girl who he doesn’t seem to care aboutt. but, if he messes things up with you this time then forget him.

  11. Lorat0 Ramaloko 26 April 2011 at 6:10 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend and i broke up about a month ago and i really want him back. We were together for almost 6 months and i was really falling for him and out of the blue he told me he wanted me to deal with my past first before we got any serious. Before i met him, i was in a relationship that was abusive. I left that relationship because i felt it was not good for me.Eleven months later i met my now ex boyfriend and i fell for him because i believed he was exactly what i wanted. Right nw he feels like i need to get over the fear of being with a man and he has since left me because he feels that i haven’t dealt with my past.Which i have and i am not scared to love him . He is very different and i want to show him that i am no sacred anymore and that i want to be with him for as long as i can.How do i get to show him that i really have dealt with my past and that all i want is to be happy with him, and only him.

    • Laura 1 July 2011 at 6:53 am Permalink

      It seems to me that he broke up with you out of concern for your well being. He seems really have feelings for you but he is also worried for your well being and doesn’t want to hurt you. To show him that your are trying to tackle your issues (as that was the reason he gave for breaking up) try going to counseling. Show him that you are willing to make an effort to be with him. Who knows, it may very well help you with issues you never knew you had.

  12. Sammie 27 April 2011 at 8:15 am Permalink

    so me and my ex were soo inlove but he thoought i liked hes best friend so we broke up alot because me and hes best friends were really close and after we broke up i was soo upset because he’s best friend told he hated and never wanted to talk to me and wanted to me to move and my ex showed all the sign he did want to me move on so i said so many things to hes best friends so that he could like me but than my ex texted and said sorry he lost hes phone and i told him what hes friend told me and he said he never said that and that he best friend always liked me and hes best friend told him what i said to him and my ex ended with me and he told me he liked some else but i think he just that cause he was upset and after that me and best friend started going out and that was the biggest mistake ever cause now my ex that i am inlove with wont talk to me and i dont like hes best friend i only did that cause i was mad about that break and wanted to not feel hurt and i ended with the the best friend but now i just want my ex back and hear some many things that hes getting with girl and the girl told me there not but i really dont know what to do

  13. Joanna 28 April 2011 at 11:17 am Permalink

    Jenny, are you from Salem and go to mcnary? And well just move on or let him come to you

  14. Shay 30 April 2011 at 1:16 am Permalink

    Me and my boyfriend of five months had a ‘mutual’ break up which ended in a hug and a smile and apology to each other about everything that went wrong, so it was a great way to leave it except I have realised that I want him back and miss him loads. He is the first thing I think of when I wake up, and its been three weeks now with no contact and he still has not contacted me! It isn’t working, someone please tell me what to do because I am seriously considering calling him or going round to get my stuff, I’m terrified he’s gotten over me because he hasn’t even called or texted me once, or asked about me in any way.

  15. tera 3 May 2011 at 8:34 am Permalink

    okay soo my bf and i had dated for 1 year and 5 months straight. we never arqued or anything of that kind of stuff.. yes im 14 we dated since i was 12 . i have done things with this boy.. sexual things, im still a virgin though. he broke up with me the day after my birthday becuz he said he lost feelings:( . i just want to know how i can get him to talk to me and stop ignoring me soo maybe we can date again. today at school was soo werid. our 1st hour class is right next to each other. at lunch he wouldnt even come near me. i feel so stupid i sent him this really long message telling him how much i love him (still do) . it took me an hour to write it and he never replied . so i didnt text him since. i just really want him backk and i dont know what to do … he was my first everything and i was his. i thought i was gonna spend my life with himm . we even talked about going to college together. he’s the sweetest guy i ever met, he’s not a playerr that’s why i loved him so much . i’ve known him since 5th grade and i’m almost in 9th.
    please don’t tell me i’m too young to love someone. Noone is too young to love . he’s taught me a lot and he’s a really great guy. people kept telling him stuff at school todayy and he doesnt deserve that. i lovee himm like crazyy and i want himm back,
    pleaseee help.

  16. amanda 5 May 2011 at 8:32 am Permalink

    hey so me and my ex have been dating since march 23, 2011 nd he recently dumped me may 3, 2011. i was so heart broken. he told my best friend to tell me. so she told me nd i couldnt hold bakk my tears. we were so happy. i thought joaquin loved me(my ex boyfriend) he would call me his gurl nd say sweet things to me all tha time nd tht he loved me nd i care about him a lot. the first time we ever went out was in sixth grade but then i dumped him aftr a week then he asked me out again this year now tht we are in seventh grade cuhs we fell in love with each other again. he was my first boyfriend and my first kiss. nd then tha day aftr he breaks up with me people strt telling meh tht he broke up with me becuz he wants to ask out these two other gurls. nd one of those gurls happens to be ,y best friend. how could he?! nd guess waht, my best friend has a crush on him too. cuhs wen me nd joaquin were dating she confessed to me tht she loved him but i didnt relle let it get to me. nd then theres this other gurl, her name is sabrina. nd wen i found all this out, i couldnt help but cry. cuhs i waz alredy heart broken frm him breaking up with me but then i find out this nd i feel awful. i jst wnt him bakk :( and then he told one of my friends why he also broke up with me. he told them tht he waz pist off cuhs he thinks tht me nd this othr boy flirt a lot. but we are just friends. and thts it. ughhh plz help me! how do i get my ex boyfriend bakk? i miss him lik hell nd life without him jst isnt tha same :'(

  17. sujey 6 May 2011 at 8:32 am Permalink

    omg!!!my ex left me and im liek depressed he broke up with me over a rumor and he changed his number too idk what to DO!???

  18. Hollie 9 May 2011 at 12:15 pm Permalink

    OK, Been with my man for over a year, we moved in together too quickly I think, I love him so much and really believe I am meant to be with him. 6 months ago I started to get depressed, I felt he used me to do his laundry, cooking, personal massuse. He only took me out for dinner once! But i don’t care about fancy things, he made up for it in other ways, take me driving and be very affectionate. We had 5 major fights, he is extreamily stubborn and even though I was 100% percent right in some of the fights he would shut me out completely and I would beg HIM to forgive ME! I’ve made mistakes too, we the last fight was really bad, like physically bad and I ended up with some small injuries, I told him to leave I was soooo angry. He left went back to his parents, left me with $400 p/w in rent, 3 animals to feed and i didnt go to work so now I don’t have a job! we decided to take some time apart then start hanging out again and have a relationship not living together for a while. I started calling him wayyyy to much, crying on the phone because i was lonely, texting him angry msg saying its OVER and immeadiatly regretting it and begging him to start over. Eventually he said he was confused about how he felt about me and he doesn’t think it will work, then he says he doesn’t love me, then he says that a part of him still wants to work it out and he does love me!!! and all the while I am crying, and needy and clingy!! Here is the BIG blow!!!! ready for it?……We live in Australia…gday…He has gone to LAS VEGAS with 5 of his mates for a week!!!!! I already new he was going before we broke up. he called me the first night he was there, I saw a missed call and rang him straight away, he said he rang me by accident! He was being really nice on the phone and asked me how i was and i burst into tears asking why we can’t work it out, he said a part of him still does want to but he knows it wont work!!!!! After that phone call I sent him a text saying that I am now ‘ok’ with the breakup and its a good idea, I told him i was going away for the weekend with friends and i hope that we could be friends at some point, he did not reply, Its been 4 days since I started NO CONTACT. I cry everyday, I am surrounded by his things, I can’t eat, I don’t want to ever get out of bed. I have bought 3 ebooks about male phycology and relationships and I see VERY clearly where the relationship start breaking down, I honestly believe he will come back and I believe we are meant to be together, and next time WILL be better than when we were first together. I know this because I have been in many long term relationships, I am 26, and not once have I wanted to go back to an ex…this one is different.

    • eve 16 November 2011 at 5:09 am Permalink

      So sounds like my story..just my ex already have move on with someone else..and look like they,re happy.. but always are the way til we still friends..I wish he good luck and told he I am ok with that.. and you know what..I feel much better..cose I have no reason for worries .. he will come back,love always WIN,S !!!

  19. cindy 10 May 2011 at 1:22 pm Permalink

    me and my boyfriend broke up after dating for a little over half a year and it was because he keeps telling me he needed breaks. i told him no because i want to be with him, i am not his first girlfriend but but we did take each other’s Virginity now i think he is over me and seeing someone else what should i do??? :(

  20. zara 13 May 2011 at 2:02 am Permalink

    eish…..every guy i date i seem to not like or can not say i love you and each of them have a certain quality i like but all i want is to know what is love…and then here comes this guy who show me and i dumpd him because people said he not good enough…i want him back but he got a girlfriend who gives him sex and alot of fun….do i still have a chance?and if i do wont he cheat?

  21. Heleena 13 May 2011 at 7:45 am Permalink

    ohkay , well i was dating my ex boyfriend for 7 months and in the begining it was wonderful we were both happy we spent 24/7 together and on the phone. things started to go down in december of 1210 he broeke up with cause i felt like he didnt care he started smoking weed and just stuff that i know he would never do, we earlyer in the relationship always argued !!!!! over the dumbest things, we would breakup ever other week for three days or two so in december we brokeup for a month. i went out with a guy as a re-bound we lasted 2 days and i tried to go back with my ex but he was angry and mad cause it was once of his football team mates.but since we loved eachother so much, we still manage to get back…. we were good still , argued a lil but not as much then,his mom blocked my cell phone number for the 4th time i dont know why but i guess she just didnt like me. after the day she blocked it i was crying , frustrated cause i couldnt talk or text him. i brokeup with him,and the next morning i told him i was sorry ill be more understanding i was just hurt, but still he didnt come back he told me to leave him alone over and over again. i didnt listen i kept calling him , begging! then the worst part and something i wish i never did…… i told him i was pregnant, i lied and if i could i would take it all back.. he told his mom witch wanted to talk to my mom and my mom ended up telling hm and his mom the truth that i wasnt , so he wrote me and told me he hated me, that im dumb he regrets going out with me and so many other stuff.. i got mad and i threatend him i told him his brother was cuter than him just stuff i would never say..its been 3months since the breakup and i talked to him 2months ago,but it was argueing.. so he blocked my number and facebook just anything really.. i havent talked to him since so its been 2 months since we spoken, i made a mistake im sure im not only one i love the guy i really do.. i called him lastnight on my house phone since my cell phone number is still blocked and i told him not to hang up i just need to talk to him really quick .. i said ‘ well i didnt wanna be immature and trow away your varsity jacket you gave me since its a high school memorie , i was gonna tell my friends to give it to you but this is something i have to do on my own ‘ and hes says ‘ oh ‘ … he sounded sad . but then i said ‘ well when can i drop it off ‘ , and he says ‘ just whenever it doesnt matter ‘ , so i say ‘ok it was nice talking to you k bye ‘ and hang up really quick before he could say anything . tomorrow i was gonna drop it off , i really want a second chance but i dnt know if i already did TOO much damage ? i stoped talking and acting like i care about him so he could see im over it but honestly i dont think he cares anymore . i just need some advice , some help please .

  22. Natasha 16 May 2011 at 7:05 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I met at our job, he had a gf but they were going through problems and thy ended up breaking up and two- three months later we started going out. Well after ending of our 7 months together going into 8 months he started to become distant. And ended breaking up with me two and half weeks ago. I can admit I text, called and told him not to do this and thing. Even going back and forth in wanting to be friends then not. He would contact me when I didn’t but I did most of the contact. I think he started seeing his homegirl who came back in the picture because he even told my homegirl that he always liked his homegirl but she never wanted to mess the friendship up. Well my ex and I didn’t get to see each other as much only at work but we can’t act how we would like so I think that’s one of the reasons why it was easy for him to move on. His homegirl is just using him and I’m really confused to why he would leave me for someone who keeps going back and forth with him. Meaning she says she will try the relationship but then says she doesn’t want to mess their friendship up but would sleep with him. Hr is my first love and first person I slept with and I truly love him. It I start the NC will that put me back on track even though I see him at work everyday still. (for example) I trie the NC and he text me three hours later saying if I don’t want to respond to him then he will just stop hittin me up. But mind you I would hit him up and he would respond late or not at all and I wouldn’t get upset. Another example he text me saying he missed me and wanted to have sex. I asked if we so where will that leave us and he said he didnt know. We talked some more and later he said nevermind he does miss and love me but he is not ready for a relationship again and spending time with me will complicate that. IF YOU WANT MORE INFORMATION JUST ASK I NEED HELP!! Thank You

  23. reet 17 May 2011 at 10:43 pm Permalink

    So my bf was totally in love with me . We dated for 1 year and 6 monthss I had my exams so I got busy and I wasn’t able to meet him for a month. He started to act weird and his phone use to be busy all the time and whenever I asked who it was he’d be like my friends.so I got really sick of it and I told him I wanted a break.so I took a break and when I got back I found out that he was cheating on me .I love him a lot and I can’t live without him. What should I do?

  24. joanne 18 May 2011 at 4:40 am Permalink

    I was with my boyfriend for 10 years. We was really happy together but then out of the blue he said he don’t love me no more. The strange thing is 4 days before we booked a holiday and looked at flats as we was going to move out. I want yo know is can you just stop loving someone after 10 years?

  25. Aisha 24 May 2011 at 11:20 pm Permalink

    Hi,me n ma boyfriend where bets friends for many years…it was during ma graduation days that we found out that we couldnt be without each other an d fell in love.Even though we where in affair,we where still best friends..we where not in the same place and so we contacted through SMS and calls.Later on we had to end up our relation as he was from a different religion and he was afraid to move on..he said it to me straight and we decided to end it up….but that was the hardest thing to do..he still loves me but stays away from me so that i forget about him..he asked me to move on.. he sometimes text me(after a long gap) and say,he just simply sent it.. sometimes he even calls me from unknown numbers just to hear my voice(that too after a long gap,i think ‘coz i donno from when an d which number he is call’g me from) …but when i ask him,he still asks me to move on to have a better life…I really donno wat to do n i cant live without him..he is the only one i ever loved n wants to for ever..i truely love him and am afraid am los’g him as we have no or less contacts…plz help me…

  26. Maria 27 May 2011 at 11:33 am Permalink

    hi, well i had this friend, and we started liking each other but his ex girlfriend took him away from me, he hates me now, what can i do?

  27. Jasmine 29 May 2011 at 1:51 am Permalink

    Thank you thank you thank you!
    Thanks to you my boyfriend and I are back together and it only took 8 days after first attempting your program.

  28. Divya 3 June 2011 at 6:08 pm Permalink

    my boffriend is still not back i m waiting for him. that he’ll come but nw i dont think so he’ll be back. please tell me what should i do? i want him back. i m in love with him. its 20 days today no phone calls, no messages…what should i do please tell me??

  29. Alison 3 June 2011 at 8:19 pm Permalink

    I’ve been following the steps on this site for the pass 2 months. My ex and I have been broken up for almost 3 months now. I made a lot of the basic mistakes in the beginning and then i started following the advice of this site and stepped back and stopped chasing and contacting him. He’s initiated contact twice so far, the first time I didn’t reply to it. Then I ran into him 4 random times last month, each time I was happy and confident and showing him how I’ve changed, so last night was the second time he initiated contact because he was at a friends house down the street so he texted me (which he hasn’t done since we broke up) asking if I had found something of his he left at my house, so I agreed to give it back to him and turns out he actually wanted to hang out with me, I was hoping it was because he missed me but we met up and just hung out with each other, then he suggested we drive up to this look out we used to go to when we were dating and we just sat in his car and caught up and talked for 3 or 4 hours. When I was cold he grabbed a beach towel he had in his trunk and wrapped it around me, he also suggested we hang out again soon. I don’t know if he misses me and is interested in getting back with me or if he’s just doing these things to be friendly and thinks we’re “just friends”. Someone help! I don’t know what to do or think 😐

    I’d like to think we’re making progress and that all the steps on this site are finally working out in my favor after 3 long months, but what if he doesn’t see me that way and he really does just want to be friends? Does my situation sound like he really misses me? Or did he just want to hang as friends? Confused! Help!

    • Alison 3 June 2011 at 8:22 pm Permalink

      btw, I was his very first girlfriend/love/everything and we were together for almost 2 years, and also lived together

  30. Alyssia 5 June 2011 at 12:01 pm Permalink

    After dating for over 6 months, my boyfriend that I love so very much broke up with me and he said it was because our schedules just didn’t work. I would work at 2 am and he works until 6pm so it was hard to see him but I would do everything I coould to see him as much as I could! But I felt like he didn’t try as much as me. But in the end it was my fault cause I didnt try hard enough. But he said I was a great girl and he still wanted to stay friends which really confuses me!!!! I miss him sooooo much and love him more then I could ever say. I just don’t know what to do!!!!!

    • Ashley Kay 6 June 2011 at 9:54 am Permalink

      I don’t think it is your fault, esp if you were trying harder than him. He was the one who probably stopped wanting to put effort in for other reasons.

      • Alyssia 6 June 2011 at 11:05 am Permalink

        He has a 5 year old daugher and I think it’s the mom that he broke it off. But it sucks soooooo much cause he is the first guy I’ve ever really wanted to be with.

        • chiro 7 June 2011 at 7:00 pm Permalink

          that’s the common feeling for the first timer just like me though i have ex before my ex now but my current ex is just like my first time.. we are dating 2 yrs and then she replaced with a guy that they are completely strangers?…tsk2.. don’t blame yourself, you gave everything for your relationships that you think it will work out…it’s his loss…

  31. Simple 5 June 2011 at 2:10 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend and I met at our job, he had a gf but they were going through problems and thy ended up breaking up and two- three months later we started going out. Well after ending of our 7 months together going into 8 months he started to become distant. And ended breaking up with me two and half weeks ago. I can admit I text, called and told him not to do this and thing. Even going back and forth in wanting to be friends then not. He would contact me when I didn’t but I did most of the contact. I think he started seeing his homegirl who came back in the picture because he even told my homegirl that he always liked his homegirl but she never wanted to mess the friendship up. Well my ex and I didn’t get to see each other as much only at work but we can’t act how we would like so I think that’s one of the reasons why it was easy for him to move on. His homegirl is just using him and I’m really confused to why he would leave me for someone who keeps going back and forth with him. Meaning she says she will try the relationship but then says she doesn’t want to mess their friendship up but would sleep with him. Hr is my first love and first person I slept with and I truly love him. It I start the NC will that put me back on track even though I see him at work everyday still. (for example) I trie the NC and he text me three hours later saying if I don’t want to respond to him then he will just stop hittin me up. But mind you I would hit him up and he would respond late or not at all and I wouldn’t get upset. Another example he text me saying he missed me and wanted to have sex. I asked if we so where will that leave us and he said he didnt know. We talked some more and later he said nevermind he does miss and love me but he is not ready for a relationship again and spending time with me will complicate that. Well weeks passed and he text me and when i didnt respond right away he said ever since we broke up ive been taking awhile to respond. He later invited me to his house saying im always welcomed. But then he acts uniterested other days. Thank You

    • chiro 7 June 2011 at 6:55 pm Permalink

      that guy, i think what he wants from you is your body and after getting that he will dumped you again…. i know it is really painful to you coz you are working together, seeing each other coz we are at the same track… just ignore him… and i will ignore mine..ahahaha…if he truly loves you, he will come back in a kind…just remember, love is patient.love is kind.. that is from the biblical passage..

  32. Adrii 6 June 2011 at 9:12 am Permalink

    Ok. Me and my ex started to go out in November and lasted till February. The reason being is because of my parents. We both decided to brakeup bc of them but after Afew months he’s been telling me that he can’t see himself without me but at the sometime he doesn’t see himself with me and he doesn’t want to lose me. We can’t see eachother outside of school because of my parents. I really really want him back but he’s too confused. How can I have him want me back?

    • Broken. 4 August 2011 at 6:24 pm Permalink

      Tell your parents that you love him and that if he makes you happy then that’s all that should matter. As for him being confused how him like a day or two to really think about things.

  33. Kit kat 7 June 2011 at 6:06 pm Permalink

    Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years and 5 months but he broke up with me I am completely in love him he is my everything and when we broke up he said he still loved me and he just wanted a break but now it’s different but we still see each other and he still tells me he loves me but that whole no contact thing and ignoring him does NOT work with him.. I need help all I want is him and this us really hard

  34. gagaaa 16 June 2011 at 1:25 am Permalink

    my boyfriend breakd up with me): because there was no reason.everytime im online he teases me he gots a new gf but i never seen her around him, last time he tried to speak to me i said i dont speak to liers hes like ok then bye friend and wrote on hes status i love you so much,, i wanna know whos the person

  35. Nataliya 22 June 2011 at 4:39 am Permalink

    Hey you guys I’m new to this never tried anything like this before but I miss my ex and need help . So my ex and I dated since my fresh man year in highschool and half way throughout my sophomore year . We were together for about a year but our relationship had Many problems because of my mom saying he wasn’t good enough and all these otherthings . I know I was young but this relationship was serious , he really loved me but treated me so bad a times . Towards the end of our relationship I started talking to one of my ex behind my Bfs back and wen he would ask me about it I denied it . I slowly started being mean towards my bf ( my ex now ) and I starte hanging out with my ex . There was a girl who would always try to get between us and one day i found out they had kissed , I went crazy he said sorry that it was a mistake but i didnt want him anymore . I had constantly pushed him away for about 2 months already . After a month that everything happened he started dating that girl we had problems alot of them and I still do till this day ( I’m a junior in highschool now) . After he started dating her I did the same with my ex that I’f been hanging out with after 2 months into that relationship I realized I was wrong in leaving they guy I loved for the guy I liked so I broke up with him . I am now in a new relationship and yes I’m happy but I miss my ex I texted him yesterday and we talked for a little and he was being mean so I was just like ” okay sorry for bothering you ” and he replied with this ” See dats ur prob u tried to give me soo much shit n problems n now it ait da same.if u wudnt have did wat u did we euda been koo i wudnt have had a prob talkin to u.bt u did.n i dont trust u.so im sorry it aint u its how u acted.i aint a mean person unless u make me mean.i wish it didnt have to be like dis bt oh well shit happens .goodbye” that’s all he said after month of not speaking and we had spoken like 4 months after the relationship and everything was good but now I feel like we will never speak again . Please help me

  36. Nicola 23 June 2011 at 11:08 pm Permalink

    Hi Ladies

    Listen I understand how all of you feel just remember one thing no contact dnt sms nothing because, men always want something they can not have. Be positive and better yourself let them remember why the fell in love with you in the 1st place.
    I read many of your stories and it comforts me, because for me unfortunately the road to getting my ex back has ended. I was clingy , jealous and possesive and he left me because he said that our relationship was unhealthy and that neither his friends nor family thought we belonged togther.

    Now the sad part is I work with him and his brother and sister. but thats not as bad I live with him to and have to carry on living with him till I get another place. now imagine sleeping in the same bed as that person you love who has just left you longing for that persons touch. I cried and those crys turned into sobs and he simply said if you wanna cry go sleep in the room next door. And I tried but the bed was cold and it made me feel worse. but worse of all I have lost so much weight during our first break up that I now weigh 48kg and im suppose to weigh 57kg for my height so I have no boobs no bum no curves and as he put it all I’am is a pretty face and ugly body nice one dnt you think, such a ugly body but yet i was good enough to be asked for break up sex last night. now that hurt!

    I know how all of you feel going on the internet looking for awnsers to why and how to stop this pain. but the truth and reality is- ONLY TIME WILL HEAL IT . and I wish so badly that there was a pill I could take to take away this hurt and longing.

    either that or fight ladies fight show them that you are the best and that no one else can compare be confident start by loving yourself and it will shine through be nice to them when they talk to you make them regret that they left you make them think twice!

    all the luck to everyone
    wish i could offer more to take the pain away but I’am searching myself.

    * Nix

    • aisha 28 June 2011 at 1:44 am Permalink

      Hi, read ur content n i feel its true…just wish that nobody ever gets hurt ‘coz of lov’g someone truely….coz that pain never ever heals,it remains as a scar…n 4 u,i can understand how u feel n how much it hurts u(of being asked 4 break up sex n all)…hmmm…well,hope n pray 4 the best…


      • nicola 28 June 2011 at 3:18 pm Permalink

        hi Ash , :) thanx for the reply, ment alot.

        Yeah he is being a total ass hole he left me at home with his mother this weekend while he went away with his friends and there girlfriends he texts other girls infront of me and it hurts. and even though I found a place , ( my mom said its ok that I come home) he doesnt wanna take me home and he said yesterday that he wants me to just stay there.

        but then he plays the sympathy card and will say but im not forcing you and then I say well it hurts being around you , and then he will say ” don’t worry you will get over it”

        he came home from his weekend on sunday and was in a very bad mood i sat next to him and he started to cry, asked him what wrong and he said he hates breaking up. and then I said he doesnt have to break up and he said he doesn’t want it he needs it, then why doesnt he want me to go home?

        I’m freaking out and yesterday he put his arm around me ? but then an hour later says we just friends then after that trys to sleep with me ? dnt know how to act or what to do

        • Aisha 2 July 2011 at 2:15 am Permalink

          Buddy,juz be sure that he is not using u juz to have physical relations…itz true that one wish to have such relations after a break up…but as u r stay’g in the same house,u better be carefull that he dont use u n then juz dump u juz lik that…it’ll be really painfull 2 realise that ur feel’gs 4 him was taken 4 granted..but if he still have feel’gs 4 u,he’ll come back 2 u….4 now,juz keep some space so that he 2 realise ur worthiness..let him miss u dear…itz better 4 u 2 go n stay with ur mom now….


          • Nicola 4 July 2011 at 5:57 pm Permalink

            hey ash

            yeah i was thinking the exact same thing until he refused to kiss me. we had a huge fight on friday and I was crying cause he said that he thinks that we dnt belong together and that he would help me to find someone else, which made me cry more. I have also relised that if his family dnt like me it influences our relationship and makes him negative towards me dont know what else to do his eyes also wonder which makes me feel bad. I doubt that he will ever feel the same about me as he did in the beginning i believe the love he had for me has died. guess i should just move on

  37. danielle 24 June 2011 at 9:07 pm Permalink

    Ok. So my boyfriend and I broke up a couple weeks ago, and I started talking to his ex girlfriend and becoming her friend and telling her everything she wanted to know about what happened. He was planning on getting back with her though and I guess I screwed it up for him. We got into a huge fight and we both said that we don’t want to talk to eachother anymore, but the truth of the matter is, is that I love him and want to know if I can still get him back. Help!

  38. PrincessDear 25 June 2011 at 11:49 pm Permalink

    Hi Guys! My boyfriend broke up with me last week. We’ve been for 1 year and 5 months already. He broke up with me saying he didn’t want me anymore. I was not contented with his reason, so I talked to him through chat asking what’s really his reason. He told me he’s encountering family problems, like his parents always fight. So, he told me he wants cool off rather than break up. And I agreed because for me he really need to have time and space. But I was deeply hurt because of the words he said to me. We’re schoolmates, and he even instructed my classmate and his classmate to say that he loves me. But that was not really enough. I want him to make an effort in order for us to talk, but he’s not doing anything. I miss him so badly :( I want to get him back. Could it be possible that he’ll forget me that easily? Could it be possible that his feelings are gone after 1 yr and 5 months? What will I do? Please guys. Help me!

  39. Theresa 27 June 2011 at 1:55 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend and I met a while ago when I went to visit my grandparents company. It is a family business and my uncle is his boss. We went on a date, and I knew immediately that I wanted to be with him. After our first date my grandparents and parents decided we shouldn’t be dating because he works for the company. We didn’t listen for a few months because my uncle was okay with it and he would let us stay at his place. I fell so in love with him, and eventually he said that his feelings were growing too much too fast and he didn’t want to lose his job or cause trouble with me and my family, so we shouldn’t continue seeing each other. I know his intentions were good, and it just shows how much he respects me and himself, but he means too much to me. It’s easier for him if we dont speak too much so we don’t have much contact anymore, but of course I try. I miss him and I just want him back but I don’t know if it’s possible, he’s made up his mind. What should I do?

  40. amanda 3 July 2011 at 3:40 pm Permalink

    So my ex and I dated for about a week and a half “officially” but he is in the military and he had to leave back to 3000 miles away. I thought it was going really good for a long time. Then when his ducati was stolen, he went into a deep depression and stopped talking to everyone. The only person he would talk to was me, and it was basically a hi every few days. So I said I felt like he was pushing me away and I would really like it if he contacted me when he got back. I tried the no contact thing for about 3 months, he still hasn’t contacted me. Is it over for good? What should I do?

  41. Amz 13 July 2011 at 3:31 am Permalink

    My ex is in the RAF and we were together for ab0ut 9 months and then he decided to break up with me when i went down to see him. Neither one of us had done anything wrong, his reason was that he was going away alot soon and couldnt have a girlfriend anymore. I was absolutely heartbroken and literally cried everyday for about 2 months. I told him that id gone ages without him before and could deal with it. but he wernt having any of it. But we had already had a holiday booked, we both still went and we came back yesterday. For all this time we would still sleep together and he still told me he loves me and misses me. We had the most amazing holiday ever, untill i found out he’d been texting girls the whole holiday. We had a big fight about it and i kinda forgave him. He still looks at me and smiles at me like the first time we got together. Since weve come back hes hardly spoke to me and i put it straight to him that i want him back but he just ignores it. Im actually going out of my head, crazyyyy for him. All i want is to call him mine again! hes way too special to lose and ive tried moving on but i cant when i know what i want.. :( could anybody help?

  42. indy 13 July 2011 at 4:59 pm Permalink

    Ok so here goes….ibroke up wit ma ex like 3 weeks ago and ireally want him back me n him were togetha for like ayear and a half he was my 1st everythng ineva knew anything abt love until him…bt he’s a bit of a flirt and dat was usually da problem and da lies bt icnt help bt to still be inlove wit him…he still tells me that he loves me and that icome b4 all the lil girls he tlks to now bt ican still tell he’s avoidin the gettn back 2getha part imean in the beginnin iwas ok wit it cuz we still act like a couple and ithought ok iwudnt care cuz technically we’re not 2getha I WAS SOO WRONG ! Irealized it jus made me even more attached…how can iget him to make da nxt move??? plz reply baq !

  43. luke 14 July 2011 at 7:07 am Permalink

    i know what u problem is. i was in a relationship for 9 months. i broke up with my girlfriend for no reason. no problems. but as i have lived i have tried to find the right girl and i did kind of. u’ve got to let him go. hes not gonna treat u anybetter. you got to find some one way better than him. its diificult but trust me let him go find someone better

    • indy 23 July 2011 at 8:42 am Permalink

      Thank you luke dat really helped

  44. Rosie 15 July 2011 at 6:53 am Permalink

    Okay. I was at a party and i got drunk and i kissed my boyfriends best friend. The next day he found out and broke up with me. I told him i messed up and ive changed and i had my fair share of emotional break downs and he heard it. And Its been a month and during that month we have had like sex twice and he would come over before or after his work and we talk every day. He now says that he just wants to be friends and he doesnt want to do anything sexual. And i told him last night that we cant talk anymore and it would be better for the both of us if we stop talking. After i told him that he said hes sad and it sucks. He said we can still be friends and we still can talk but i told him no we just cant talk because you want to be single the rest of the summer until college and thats like a month away. He says that will be the soonest time he might be with me. and i think thats crap. I dont know if i did the right thing by doing this (saying we cant talk anymore). He says he will always love me but Im scared if i do this i will lose him and he will go and find someone better.

  45. Sarah 29 July 2011 at 6:42 pm Permalink

    We were dating and everything was going great, then one day he just decides to tell me he’s getting feelings back for his ex girlfriend and he asked me to marry him a couple weeks before he told me all this.. I didn’t no what to do so i didn’t say anything. But then after a little bit of time he said the feelings went away and everything was fine but then him and his ex started hanging out. he hanged out with her more than he did with me. I started getting jealous and scared because i thought he’d leave me for her and the fact that she was really beautiful didn’t help.. But every time we hanged out it just wasn’t the same. Every time he looked at her it was different, like he was happier with her than with me.. He broke up with me for her.. And he called off the wedding.. I love this guy but i don’t no what to do?

    • Broken. 4 August 2011 at 6:26 pm Permalink

      Just leave it. Dont contact him.

  46. Lost 1 August 2011 at 5:41 pm Permalink

    Me and my boyfriend broke up after 5 and a half months.
    The first four months were amazingly blissful, it was just constantly lovey dovey. Amazing honeymoon period and I love him so much and then the last 6 weeks was beyond terrible. I take full blame for it because I was listening to my friend (who recently broke up with her year long boyfriend) who I think subconsciously was trying to break us up due to her failure. She kept hinting things such as “He’s quite clingy?” “He’s too full on, tell him to stop settling too quickly” For some stupid reason, the more she said it, the more I really went with it, thinking she was right. He loved me even in those difficult periods, looking back now, I loved him too and I wish I voiced it more often than I actually did. Many things I would have done differently such as telling that friend to shove it! I ended things after 4 months, but in the last 6 weeks we were still a couple, we were intimate, held hands, went on dates, but it was very horrible as we fought a lot. But he was sooooo deeply in love with me, he asked me if we still had a chance and I said “We’ll see how it goes, we’ll take it slow.” I didn’t mean a definite no but it wasn’t a yes either. I didn’t know that was the final chance, otherwise it would had scared me into saying yes in the thought of losing him. Couple days later, he dumped me and only to found out that a week after asking me for another chance, he found someone new and now he “loves” her apparently. I need help! How do I win him back? I have the biggest gut feeling that this boy is right for me, and this other girl needs to go away pronto!

  47. Tarmecia Jackson 2 August 2011 at 12:53 am Permalink

    Me and my ex have known eachother for almost five years and we dated before and things didn’t go that great…we were bestfriends but we went our separate ways. Years later he contacted me and we hung out and later starting dating…five months later we end up going to jail for 18 months we wrote back and forth the whole time and i supported him…when he got out things were great and we were looking for a place and I was helping him get on his feet and realize that there was more to life..out of the blue he tells me that he can not love cause he can’t do for hisself..he said that he does love me and we have been together everyday since the break up and I want to know if it is to late to start this process and what should I do

    • Tarmecia Jackson 2 August 2011 at 1:15 am Permalink

      I meant to say the he went to jail…lol sorry! I can’t read him! but I am breaking the communication with him…

  48. Broken. 4 August 2011 at 4:26 pm Permalink

    Me and my ex bf dated for a year. He broke up with me because I flirted with some guys in the past and that’s actually pretty much it and now he has no trust for me. But he loved me so much. I always took him for granted. And never appreciated him. He was so nice to me. I have changed so much for him. I haven’t done anything wrong since the last time I flirted with someone. I love him so much. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. I just don’t know what to do anymore. Any advice?

  49. sridevi 8 August 2011 at 2:09 am Permalink

    Hi, me and my bf broke up 2 years ago, he s actually my trainer once,but still v had some contacts(not as lovers but as trainer-student relationship) via mail as he has gone to other country now…i want to get him back..i tried so many ways like calling him often to talk abt the break-up but it didnt work as he s trying to avoid that knd of speeches, in mail or chat also but it didnt work…I just want to know wat to do anymore..Any advice to get him back?

  50. Morgan 11 August 2011 at 6:44 am Permalink

    hey so me and my boyfriend broke up this past weekend, we dated for almost two and a half years. we are a year apart in school and while i was in high school last year and he was in his first year of college 45 minutes away we faught like every day.. not because we hated eachother or were unhappy but because of the distance. now im at his old college and he’s at a farther one away like 1 hour and a half. i want him back but dont know how… he says we grew apart but he still loves me and wants to be best friends… how do i make him want more again.?

  51. Tiyana Pickett 19 August 2011 at 6:55 am Permalink

    Well Me And My Boyfriend Just Broke Up About 2 Weeks Ago….Ive Seen Him At Least One Time Since The Break Up…I Sort oF Popped Up On Him..He Broke Up With Me Because I Lied About Being Pregnaant For Four Months…I Lied Because Before Those Four Months He Was Trying To Leave Me Because He Felt He Couldnt Do Anything For Me..We Have Been Together 4 Years This Yaer .. I Love Him With AllMy Heart I Have Done All The Mistakes Listed Calling Back To Back…Texting Back To Back I Have Even Got Into It With His Mother…He Says He HAS fOUND sOMEONE eLSE bUTT I Dont Know If I Believe That My Name Is Tatooed On The Side Of His Neck … We Just Been Through Alot And I Love That Man Wuth All My Heart I Will Fight For Him Over Him Buy Him Whatever Bend Over Backwards For Him…He Has Cried On My Shoulder…I Just ..He is So Special And I Wish He Could See What I Seen..I Told Everybody We Was Goin Get Married One Day…And Lord Knows All I Want Is Himm Back In My Life !

  52. missingheart 22 August 2011 at 4:05 am Permalink

    What would be a good way to ask why he broke up with me? I asked if he still liked me and he just said no and that he wasn’t ready for love, then dated my best friend. He said that over a text, and I want to hear from himself why he left me heartless. Please how do I approach him to ask him?

  53. Brooke 28 August 2011 at 11:38 am Permalink

    Hello so I just need some advice please I you are able to give me some?
    Well me and my ex boyfriend broke up about 4 months ago but soon as we did I moved in with his sister and him and his sisters boyfriend, it was really good an me an him was good friends but we had out days where I used to get jealous and everything and upset when I seen him talking to other girls, but when I was there he always hugged me and kissed me on ye cheek and watched movies with me but he used to say he didn’t like me which I though was weird :/ why would he do that if he didn’t like me? And we used still used to go poses with eachother it was still like we was together but we never properly kissed sand stuff unless he was drunk and then he did :/ but he user to try and make me jealous of other girls and stuff he was talking to and said they was just friends :/ and he always tells me till this day I am not going to get with them and he hasn’t got a girlfriend since he broke up with me:/ even tho these girls want him but he said no, why do u recon he did that does he still like me? But now I have moved out and I’m
    So scared because he said Im moving on and I’m going to get a new girlfriend and I’m so scared and upset :( because I Want him but since I left 2 days ago he rang me and said I’m so sad u have moved out and stuff and he has rang me 3 times in one night just to talk and stuff but then some days he won’t talk to me and just be horrible and talk to all the other girls and the n comes back to me :/ I really Want him back ?? But I am getting so many mixed feelings aye :( I have tried telling him
    I would change because he said I am too annoying and don’t give him space because he loves his space and I need to start doing something with my life which I am trying to do now :) so what do I do? :( I want him
    Again x

    • adrina 2 September 2011 at 9:50 am Permalink

      well after reading this i think that he likes you , it’s obvious because he refuses to have a new girlfriend since you broke up , second if he calles youu you should call him back just to talk even if you don’t have anythinh to talk about ur lucky to have this kind of relationshio with him a lot of people lose it after they break up so show him ur intrest and invite him to drink a cup of coffe sometimes and bring back the girl he loved when you were toguether make him feel comfortable with youu 😉 wish u all the best

  54. Anynomous 31 August 2011 at 3:35 pm Permalink

    Just do yourselves all a favor, Love YOU first. If the man you love doesn’t love YOU enough to stay then don’t waste your time trying to find coy ways to manipulate him. The man you are meant to be with is out there, and he will never let you go.

  55. adrina 2 September 2011 at 9:41 am Permalink

    me and my ex boyfriend have been dating each other for 4 years now , i’m 17 years old and he’s 19 , he always tells me how much he loves me even infront of others , at the first i wasn’t in love with him , but the thing that was attracting me was his kindness and his true feelings , but we used to date and break up every 3 months , i don’t know why but everyone was saying that i was treating him badly :( even if i don’t feel like that , well now and after 4 years of love and affection we broke up and i was the one who did it , because lately he seemd to be careless about me , he felt upset when i broke up with him so he deleted me from his facebook , feeling upset too i deleted his number from my cell phone and all his text messages and decided to get over it and to concentrate on my studies , we’re not talking for 2 months now and he has a new girlfriend i was saying to my self i can forget him and have a new boyfriend but it seems that it’s very difficut to so that :( what should i do to get him back ?

  56. Nina 4 September 2011 at 7:40 am Permalink

    My situation is a little different. I did the breaking up, we were together for almost 2 years. We never wanted to be apart and nothing ever came between us. We loved being together, and nothing our families, friends or anyone else said or did changed that. Well we kept going around in circles after a while, I kept doing my little dysfunctional outbursts and he was always chasing me…we would get back together and than break up again. We couldn’t go get through our problems and come to a happy medium. Over time he slowly started changing, he was blaming me for things, became inconsiderate, judgmental, defensive, jealous possessive and such. It’s weird because he started out completely sweet and easy going. I too started acting these same ways. A few months ago I was noticing he was saying “whatever” to most things, from seeing me, to taking a bus to meet me, to calling me, and I was really hurt and crying over it…he always used to be so sweet and now this. So I ignored him and gave him a taste of his own medicine…which i did a lot during the relationship…than instead of chasing me I never heard from him again. Than I finally contacted him and we fought a little than started getting along fine, and he gave me birthday presents, complimented me and we started hanging out again and now he is acting so nonchalant. It’s, everything else over me now, he is just so laid back about calling me, seeing me, texting me, I always have to make arrangements for us to hang out, he even told another girl she was hot recently. I just don’t get it, I know this is not a situation you are used to, but can you help anyway?

  57. Nina 4 September 2011 at 7:43 am Permalink

    I also should mentions that we have slept together quite a bit recently.

  58. Natasha 7 September 2011 at 5:34 am Permalink

    Hi I have a bit of a problem me and my boyfriend just broke up 2 days ago he finished it with me we had been together for 2 years and 6 months he said he was sick of the arguments we have and cause I called him a lyre and I brought up his past and how horrible he was to me but he was nothing like that when we were together we were ment to be going on a break cause he needed time to himself to be him and sort himsel out but I flipped at this he says he still loves me and alleys will but can’t be with me I have been doing the call and toting all the time but he don’t always pick up or says il talk to you tomorrow what can I do to get him back we had so many good times and I he says he still loves me is there a chance as he also said he wont b able to move on for a while as he is not over me how how how can I get him back now I know I hurt him but he hurt me but it’s too much of a good thing to let go please help help help !!!!!!

  59. Natasha 7 September 2011 at 5:37 am Permalink

    Oh and also he says he still wants to be just close friends and does not think it should be another way ATM but he does not know hat the future holds x

  60. Natasha 7 September 2011 at 5:41 am Permalink

    And he is still willig to come round watch films go the pub and hang out with. Mr

  61. Harriette 7 September 2011 at 8:47 am Permalink

    I have known my ex boyfriend for three years, we were kind of flirty friends for 3 years before we went out. He was everything i wanted in a boy and in a relationship, everything was perfect. Then a couple weeks after our 3 month anniversary he said he didnt feel the same, he said he used to be mad about me and i was the only thing he thought about. But he didnt feel it anymore, I cried and cried for 3 days just lying in bed. I was so upset, i even self harmed and was contemplating suicide! He was honestly the best thing thats ever happened to me. Now its been about three weeks since we broke up and i cant stop thinking about him. We had such an amazing connection i feel like i wont get that with anyone else! He said he still has feelings for me and he would love to get back together with me sometime again this school year. but im scared he’ll find someone else before we get together again or if we’ll even get back together or if he was just saying that because he felt sorry for me or something!:/ Please Help!</3

    • Olya 5 January 2012 at 2:43 am Permalink


      I am not an expert, but I think that he found you very special and that’s why he fell for you in the first place. Feelings are so delicate things and sometimes we only realise that we love somebody after 3-5 months after a break-up. Self-harming is not going to solve anything. You try going to the gym, do something new . If you want to give him another chance, do it, but take him back slowly- so he is chasing after you . Ensure you always have a high self-respect and do what is best for you, not for him. Follow useful tips on this website.There are many great guys around. Any break-up does hurt a lot. Good luck!!

  62. Alondra 7 September 2011 at 9:14 am Permalink

    Hi me and my ex brokemup 8 months ago in one month he moved on we still had our thing ue came over hanged with memstill told mymparents he love me i know he cares for me still but he claimes he dont like me no more n i feel he is trying nt to make my hopesngo up. We was an amazing couple always happy i gave him the world in our time we broke up twice wen i left him he never came back:( he told me to wait for him i did n 2 he movd same girl bt he says he loves her bt idk everyone saysmits a
    Ie pls help:(

  63. Amber Rose 11 September 2011 at 5:32 pm Permalink

    I have been with this guy for a year and he was more than just my boyfriend in was in love with him and he was my best friend. For that whole year we spent EVERY min together and if we weren’t then we were talking or texting on the phone but one of my old guy friends asked if I wanted to hang out and I said yes so my ex-boyfriend started yelling at me and said that I was cheating on him (and I would NEVER do that) so I broke up with him and I didn’t talk to him for three days and then I find out that he has a girlfriend but he keeps telling me he loves me but that we need to take a break and see other people. What should I do? I really REALLY need him back in my life!

    • Sarah smile 26 September 2011 at 1:13 pm Permalink

      if he has had a girlsfriend after three days DO NOT worry about it, shes most liky a rebound girl that dosent mean as much as you do to him. While hes with her he would be comparing her to you and would be missing you the whole time * remember you are irreplaceable

  64. Anonymous 16 September 2011 at 11:16 am Permalink

    My ex-boyfriend & I have been together almost 4 years now …. we been broke up for about 3 weeks but the first two weeks it was like everything was ok … because we were stilling going places together & seeing each other, but about a week ago he stopped talking to me all together & i dont know want to do, i know not talking to him will be good but im scared he may find someone else, i love him so much & would do anything to get him back …. his reason for leaving me was that we dont get along, but we dont get along because im very jelous which makes me crazy & then we ends up not getting along … he means the world to me, also his birthday is this saturday & i would like to contact him & say happy birthday or something but i dont know if it is such a good idea or not, please help!!

  65. Gillian 18 September 2011 at 11:28 am Permalink

    My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago. We knew each other for 3 years and were together for one month. The last 2 weeks we were together I was away at school. He broke up with me because I wanted a serious relationship and he didn’t. He said I was too clingy and wanted to talk too often. He also said that he doesn’t want any relationship right now to focus on school. He said he still has some feelings for me. I’ve been talking to him for the past two weeks because he wants to be friends. I don’t want to be friends. I want to be more.

  66. Confused 18 September 2011 at 9:22 pm Permalink

    One month ago the guy I had been seeing broke up with me out of the blue. I met him and we instantly became friends, it wasnt until 5 months after we became best friends he told me he liked me. At first I did not have the same feelings but later grew into them. I lost my virginity to him and assumed that we would be a legit couple. He had a shady past of girlfriends cheating on him so I understood and accepted it when he said we are everything but the title because he was convinced the title would lead to me being unfaithful. However we lived in the same dorm so its not like he was doing anything with other girls. We stayed together for seven months and got along great. We never fought and always had fun together. But now that we are broken up I feel so confused, he already went through a rebound girl and just ended it with her. But the biggest problem of mine is that we see each other every day! I not only have classes with him because when we were together we made our schedule like that but we are also both on the college track team which means I will see him over four hours everyday. I am in love with him and want him back. I know in my heart he cares about me and if I were to get him back I we would have an amazing relationship. I’ve tried to act like I am over him, I even went on a date (which I then made sure he knew about). If I did something wrong I could move on so much easier, but the problem was that he said he needed to be single for a bit and was afraid he would lose me. I get it though, he is a college guy who doesnt know what he wants. But I just need help figuring out how to get him to open his eyes and see how great he had it. My situation is so crazy I can never find advice that helps me. This is a good guy who made mistakes, I’m willing to forgive him but in order to do that I have to get him back. Please help

  67. Candace 20 September 2011 at 11:02 am Permalink

    Hello, I am 16 years old. I have liked the same guy for 4 years now. At one point he told me he liked me back, but we didn’t have a relationship. Just friends. Then with out warning, he had another girlfriend. So I waited, with out contact, for the 7 months they were together. Then we started dating a couple months after they broke up. Neither of our parents knew. We were together for a year exactly and his parents and my mom had found out. They were all okay with the relationship. Then one night, my dad read my journal and told me I needed to break up with him. After more talking, my dad said we could be together. My boy friend broke up with me when my dad started blaming every little fault I had on him. (For example, if I played bad in a game or didn’t do the dishes, my dad automatically blamed it on my boyfriend.) So, I guess it was for my benefit. I was crushed. We really loved each other. We were so close. I was hurt so bad. Then the week after he broke up with me, he has another girlfriend. She’s 18. He is 15. It felt like our relationship didn’t matter. So with out contact for about 2 months, he apologizes for breaking up with me. I felt a lot better, like I could actually move on. About a week later, he tells me he still loves me and feels like there’s a piece of me in him forever . I thought he was planning on breaking up with his girl friend, but the next day he said, “Yes I do still have feelings for you but they’re not going to take me away from her.” Him and his girlfriend have been struggling. They fight a lot, because of me. She says really mean things about me and we’ve never met. I do still love him, and would take him back, but it would take me awhile to gain my trust back in him. I don’t know what to do. After less than two months of being together, his girl friend says that he loves him. Well, so do I. I’ve had feeling for him for 4 years. Help? Please

  68. Sarah smile 26 September 2011 at 1:08 pm Permalink

    Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year oh srry (ex) boyfriend now and weve been getting into alot of fights, he says he dosent want to be in a relationship bt he still cares for me. weve also broken up a number of times already, would this still work for me.

  69. anne 26 September 2011 at 2:06 pm Permalink

    hi me and my ex have been together a while and we had some distance problems we are a few hours away from each other and we been happy all the way through it intell 8 days ago.we was going to be together on our aniversary weekend on the 9th. But plans changed and its not the first time we have had to change plans and not been able to be together wen we want to.well my ex broke up with me because he said he was no longer happy because of the distance an was loosing his love and feelings for me. he has also said that he broke up with me because of the pain of not being with me all the time an it was hurting him.A few days ago he told me he still wants to be my best friend and thin a day past after that and he said that he wants to text me still just not all day every day like wen we was together and thats why he dosent talk to me alot on the phone. but thin he said he would talk to me tomarrow and that he would like to hang out with me some time just not rite now an said goodnight.well tomarrow came and he never talked to me and i dont want to text him and seem needy like i really cant live without him but i miss talkin to him so much im so in love and i want him back. iv text him at 1st after we brake up and he has never been mean to me or anything but he would wait a few hours to text back and sometimes acts like he dont care but not allways.i had a problem with being jellouse over him an i have told him about it and he said he was just playing with wat he was saying to other girls and he asked me if im allways going to be like this while we not together…wat is your out look on this?? do you think we may have a 2nd chance at us?? how do i get my love back??

  70. tori 30 September 2011 at 1:20 am Permalink

    umm yea my boyfriend broke up with me and me and him new each other sence a long time now and we started to go out in october of last year and we broke up yesterday night, but he said that he still loves and cares about me and he said that he will soon take me bk but i dout that…me and him r just friends for now, and where talkin less now and i just want him bk. he was the gratest guy i knew in my entire life, but i also know why he broke up with me…. but i just want him bk in to my arms,,

  71. nicole 7 October 2011 at 9:44 am Permalink

    i am 5 months pregnant and my partner left me 2 weeks ago, he just stopped contacting me and i later found out that he has been seeing another girl. I seen him after a week or him not contacting me and he says him and the girl are just friends he just doesnt love me anymore. i text him about 20 x a day with no reply up until last week i have only text him to let him know how baby is doing. since Ive hardly contacted him he is messaging me every couple of days asking about when my next scan is and he also messaged me saying he never cheated on me and he knew i never trusted him. i reply back to him saying that i did trust him, which i did and that i have prenatal depression and i am getting help with it. i regret telling him that but i think he deserves to know whats going on. i dont know where this is going and i am just going to concentrate on me and the baby but i really would love to get back with him, we both have things we need to change and i have realised why he left me. do you think its too late

  72. Courtney 7 October 2011 at 1:37 pm Permalink

    Well, my ex and I had been together for 4 years. About 2 months ago, I found out I was pregnant. I had been hanging out with another man while we were broke up for the first time. We NEVER had sex. I was on vacation last week. While I was gone, he sends me a text and tells me that he doesn’t know if this is what he wants. He says he wants to know 100% if the baby is his. This boy IS the live of my life. He talks to me like I’m not a human being. Like I’m just somebody else in his book. Like we used to never be anything. It breaks me heart every time I see him out anywhere. I want to be with him more than anything in this world. I’m not sure how much longer I can handle it without him. He’s the father of my child. But, he doesn’t believe he is. I told him that after the baby was born. I would have a DNA test. I don’t want my baby to be born without it’s daddy. I love him with all my heart. He just claims he wants to “live” a little. It makes me this that I kept him from that. I just want him back in my life. And for us to be happy like we were. Somebody help..

  73. Broken 12 October 2011 at 8:34 am Permalink

    I need help!! Me and my boyfriend were together for 6 months….we loved each other…heck, I still love him…we had plans to make it all through high school, we had talked about maybe even having a REAL future together….it was perfect. Suddenly he says he doesn’t want to date me anymore, he plans on goin solo for awhile. I love him…please, how do I get him back??:(
    (we are working on maintaining a friendship between us now)

    • Courtney 16 October 2011 at 6:46 am Permalink

      A friendship is better than nothing girl. Keep that head up, and he’ll realize how much he misses you.

  74. Shely 14 October 2011 at 5:47 pm Permalink

    So me and my boyfriend (.. or ex, I’m not sure) are in a long distant relationship; he lives in Ohio and I live in Vegas. He got really upset at me after I told him how stressed out I was that he wasn’t communicating and said I’m to much sometimes and that he can’t do this he’s sorry. Is that really a breakup? People say things they don’t mean when their upset. Also, if it was how do I get him back being so far away?

  75. Kate 16 October 2011 at 10:32 am Permalink

    Where can I buy this system NOT ONLINE, Is there a book store/dvd store that I can buy it using cash ?

  76. Dalila 20 October 2011 at 12:19 pm Permalink

    ok well i was with my boyfriend for 3 yrs now nd im curently pregnant with his child. is his first baby and he was there for me thru my entire pregnancy, about a month and a 1/2 ago he started acting weird like he never wanted to see me or spend time with me. he became really distant. recently i found out he has been seeing a 17 yr old girl when he is 22..he has been dating and sleeping with her for a month and 1/2..he says he doesnt love me anymore nd doesnt wnna be with me. he jus wants to be a fathe to his child. wen i as him why he insists on hurting me dn treating me this way he says he isnt happy nd makes up sorry excuses as to why he wont work it out.. i dont know if he loves her already or what is makin him despise me..i did the no contact rule nd stopped calling him nd now he calls me randomly to check on how im doing and how the baby is doing..if i dont pick up or if he hears a man talking in the background he shows a little sign o jealousy but nothin major. whaT ARE MY CHANCES AND EVEN IF HIGH SHOULD I TAKE HIM BACK AFTER ALL THIS? i love him soo much and i would love to spend the rest of my life with him but im lost and i dont know what i should do..please help me!

  77. Rose 22 October 2011 at 6:32 pm Permalink

    Ive been in a relationship for 7 years and 4 months and about 3weeks ago he wanted to go on a break and last week my bf decides he wants to break up. That’s where I’m at right now.

    4 years ago I broke up with him cause we were arguing a lot & I was his first gf I told him to go out date and make sure being with me is what he really wanted . Even tho I broke up with him I did love him so much still but I didn’t want be together for a long time then he realized that he did want to see what’s out there (and of course that’s where I’m at now) he called and called emailed wrote letters and everything. I wasn’t trying to get rid of him I just wanted him to kno that I was in this relationship for the long run it wasn’t just a teenage crush anymore( I got with him when I was 18 & he was 17 but we’re now 24 & 25) anyhow we were only broken up for a week I contacted him and we talked then we actually moved in together right from then. So we’ve been living together since 07 . 2007 was an amazing year for us lots of love it was the best time in my life so far I had never felt so loved before. In 2008 we ended up having to move in with my parents . He had a job transfer ( the move from where we were to my parents house was 300 miles away) and I thought I had a lot of experience to get a job and thought it would be easy to get a job … It wasn’t. I was in between jobs for a while . I think he started to look down on me a bit when I was inbetween a job. Fast foward to 2011 it’s been 7 years and I asked him if he thought about marrying me. He got frustrated and that question turned into an arguement and the arguement turned from my question about marriage to a fight about money . I did ask a selfish question I asked why be in a relationship this long if u have no plans on wanting to be married. With his stubborn ways all he heard was me saying marry me no or leave. I honestly didn’t mean it to sound like that. He ended up getting a transfer back to where his parents live and he moved out. Before he moved I apologized about everything before he left so we stayed a couple he moved in may we broke up last week.

    The thing that made him want to leave was he was going to visit his grandma in a different state for 2 weeks and I asked him to spend time with me before he left and he ditched me to go out with his friends and get drunk. He texted the next day hungover I was hurt by this . I told him don’t text or call me if ur hungover ( I’m
    Not a big drinker) he left and we didn’t talk for the 2 weeks then he came aback an we still didn’t talk much and then 2 weeks later he broke up with me cause of the hangover remark he claims .

    With all that do u think there is a chance of him wanting to be with me again? I’m so confused and hurt btw the 20th was a week that we broke up and he went on a date on the 20th . Idk how he could date so fast after being together for so long. I’m doing the no contact right now but when there is contact what do I say? I do see where I was wrong and I’m ready to fix it . This time helped me realize how much he means to me. Help me get my love back.

    I kno 4 years ago i said for him to go out and date but this is different this person mean so much more to me .

  78. LKH 23 October 2011 at 2:55 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me recently because he said it didn’t feel right, that he wasn’t in love with me, and that he felt like he was dating a friend. We had only been dating a month, and I’m just feeling like he gave up on our relationship to fast. What do I do?

    • Amy 27 October 2011 at 8:22 pm Permalink

      OMG, that’s the exactly the same case of me, I don’t know how to deal with this, we dated only 1 and half month and he said it didn’t feel right…. how can this possibly happen? I felt I didn’t do anything wrong…

  79. Kay 24 October 2011 at 1:57 pm Permalink

    Hi. Well my bf broke up with me right after homecoming. WE were BOTH voted homecoming attendence for our freshman class. We were both epically exited. Then friday, 2 days ago, i heard a rumer saying he ws breaking up with me after homecoming. I asked him about it after the homecoming game and he called me and told me it was true he called me and told me it was true. I cryed all night. What do I do??

  80. Rebecca 27 October 2011 at 4:39 am Permalink

    my bf just brokeup with me and i am 2 months pregant with his baby and he wont even talk to me what do i do. help me. i am madly in love with him

    • Rebecca 27 October 2011 at 4:40 am Permalink

      we were together for a year

  81. Chelsea 28 October 2011 at 2:57 am Permalink

    My ex and I were together for two and a half years. We have been a little more on edge before the breakup. I started noticing that I would play twenty questions when he’d be with his friends (because he went behind my back and would do things he knew I was against). He made it hard for me to trust him so when I’d just start trusting him again he would do somethin to not fully have my trust. I think maybe we started having the “Married couple” relationship . one day he comes to me and says “I’m not happy” when I asked him why can’t we Talk about it and he said there’s nothing to talk about (I just wish he would have communicated so I knew he was unhappy from the get go). After two years I couldn’t believe ” there’s nothing to talk about” I am heart broken, it’s so hard to not text him and call him. I still want to celebrate his birthday coming up… but on the other hand why should I because he doesn’t deserve presents and a birthday dinner from me. But I know he would appreciate it. Plus I’ve been planning his birthday surprise for TWO months. He broke up with me this Monday, and his birthday is Friday is it too soon? Please give me advice!



  82. Beth 1 November 2011 at 6:32 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend and I were together for almost 7 years. We broke up about 2 months ago because I left to go to graduate school across the country. I wanted to stay together and when I finished school, I wanted us to possibly move somewhere together where we both had an opportunity to find jobs . He refused to move nor did he want to stay with me while I attended school since he admitted to being a needy person. I’m only in school 6 months out of the year so I figured we could make it work. Anyway, since I left.. I had been contacting him here and there just to see how he’s doing, etc. I stopped contacting about 2 weeks ago since I knew it was stupid of me to keep up contact. I still want him to change his mind, but I don’t want to ask him about it. I know he’ll just get mad. I’m coming home over break and we’ll be back in the same town. I’m going to avoid him as much as possible, but.. From what I’ve described.. Is there any hope of us being together? I haven’t really come upon a situation like mine. When I left, he continued to tell me that he loved me, and wants to be friends and communicate. But then he said he’s “shut the door on our relationship.”. I just don’t know if he’ll ever want me back since I was the one who left. Any insight or advice would be so helpful for my peace of mind.

  83. D 2 November 2011 at 1:30 am Permalink

    My ex-boyfriend and I broke up like 4 months ago, but every night and day i think about him and all the memories we had. I miss him so much, but he moved on and i hear dated another girl and now he likes someone else. But he told me he loved me still but he also said he loves another girl. I don’t know what to do..? And i have dreams about him and i going back out and kissing me. But i want to tell him how i really feel about him how i miss him and love him with all my heart but im too afraid. What do i do in this situation? Someone please help me! This would mean the world to me!!

  84. jesica 3 November 2011 at 11:38 am Permalink

    i’ve got breakup with my boyfriend he said he don’t love me anymore just because of past and he said we just can be friends only now and said that if i ever show him my feelings for he’ll gonna block me from every where :(

  85. preeti 5 November 2011 at 12:06 am Permalink

    hi…me and my bf brokeup from 2 nd half months,
    actualy i m mess with him,nd i m slaped him on road,bcoz of his parents,
    his parents not accept our relationship,but firstly they slapped me on road then after me,
    we both r in live in relationship form 3 months,
    after ths mess,they dnt contact me and far away frm the city for 2 months,now he s back but he didnt contact me,he chnged his nmbr,once me called him on his landline they discnnct it after listening my voice,
    i mailed him regularly 2 times a day but hes not replied,
    what can i do to get back him,
    i will nvr lived without him,hes my life,i lovd him so muchhh

  86. gie 11 November 2011 at 12:13 am Permalink

    I tried doing the no contact thing. and for four days, he have not sent me anything, what does it mean, is it just the end?

  87. gie 11 November 2011 at 12:19 am Permalink

    I have no idea, what happened last Sunday but we had a very ugly argument it has been 4 days now I tried doing the no contact option, but I haven’t heard from him, does it mean that he is not interested talking to me anymore.. it’s kinda unfair, my point of view we have been dating for a month and I have been like taking clues about his life. Is there hope that he would just talk to me? Please help I feel hung up.

  88. Stephanie 14 November 2011 at 3:37 am Permalink

    I Really Need Advice!
    Me and my ex boyfriend broke up a long time ago.When we broke up we were both really heart broken.It got to the point where me and him were really mad at eachother and stopped talking ever since.We started talking not to long ago.When we started talking I noticed he changed.We were friends on Facebook again.Then one day we were texting and told me he thought I was still cute.We havn’t stopped talking ever since we started.I still have feelings for him.I know he still cares about what we had.But he said he had a girlfriend.What do I do now?

  89. TinaKansas 14 November 2011 at 4:04 pm Permalink

    My ex and I broke up over a year ago…and I’m still in love with him totally. The whole break-up was my fault, due to me going back to my ex-husband on several occasions. He played me like a harp, but now I wished I would have never done this to man. He just got back from overseas…I tried so hard to change for him on so many things and I even stuck by him through this deployment. I went on a couple of dates with other guys, after he told me to move on and that he didn’t care what I did, but he seems to always know that I did something or asks questions about what I was doing. I tried not to contact him for a period of time, just to try to break my feelings for him, but it never worked. He always thought something was going on, when I didn’t contact him, but then he didn’t care what I did as he says. I love him with all my heart, but he says he just wants to be friends and thats all….but I don’t believe that for 1 min. He’s been seeing someone else, but she can’t stand it when he talks to me….so whats up? I don’t know what to do…..I know I want him back in my life and he was a great figure to my kids and he says that he loves them like his own….please someone help me out!!

  90. Choi Namine 15 November 2011 at 8:29 am Permalink

    Hi. I’m 13, and I fell in love with a total… well, let’s just say he’s like any other 14-year-old boy… We broke up about 8 months ago. We became friends afterwards, considering we were friends throughout 6th grade ’til 8th now. My math teacher told me a story about how she and her husband had the same thing going on in about 7th grade until they got married. You know, the ‘on again/off again’ relationships? Well, I thought we’d be like that, but I just can’t tell how he’s feeling right now. Mind you, we’ve dated 5 times (or 4, considering the 1st time I wasn’t even ready for a relationship) He doesn’t text me much after I admitted to being in love with him, claiming he’s over me. Somehow, I don’t believe he’s telling the truth, yet I do. I’d just like to be able to know if I’m just a game to him, and if I dated him again, would I be able to keep him this time? I know I want to keep him, but I don’t think we’ll ever date again. I don’t want to force him into a relationship he doesn’t want in, and he talks to me as if we never dated before, but will bring up things from our past love(?) affairs. Also, if he keeps making jokes like, “I got a new girlfriend, and we’re drawing hearts on my bike together!”, is he REALLY worth keeping? Finally, if we don’t get back together, how can I get the frick over him?

    • Lorelei 19 November 2011 at 12:22 pm Permalink

      Hey honey, boys at that age tend to be very immature and don’t know what they want. Sometimes it’s just best to let go of things and start taking care of YOURSELF. Do more things with friends or family, hang out with the girls, get a new hairstyle. When you look good you feel good and maybe you’ll even meet someone new who’ll treat you 5 times better, is 5 times nicer, and 5 times better looking. :)

      • Choi Namine 22 November 2011 at 11:57 am Permalink

        Thanks for the advice, but there ARE a few faults with that…

        1) I don’t really LIKE my family. I just…. Don’t get on the same ground as them.

        2) I’m only 13. I can’t go ANYWHERE unless it’s to this 1 girls’ house only.

        3) ….. I need a haircut, but…. I just can’t get out for it. My mom doesn’t like leaving the house…. So I’m stuck here. I swear I’m treated like Rapunzel half the time. I’m still a little girl to everyone here. That’s all I’ll ever be.

        4) He’s told me he’s been in love before. Albeit he does “hit” on my friends…..

        Thanks for the great advice, but I really can’t do much to help the situation to get better.

        • jane 8 May 2014 at 4:01 pm Permalink

          Well I’m only 12 and my ex boyfriend broke up with me just to date my
          BEST FRIEND and then she broke up with him yesterday and now he doesn’t hate me anymore so I think that’s good but we were dating for 6 months and then he thought I was dating his BEST FRIEND (who is retarded) cause of something he said but now he’s giving me poems that say that he misses me and he wants to be my friend so what do I do now do I just be patient or what?????

  91. chelyn 16 November 2011 at 6:48 pm Permalink

    Hi… I need some advice here…

    My bf n I broke up about 2 months… for the first 2 weeks he still nice to me, we still talk and we met twice … on the second meeting he said ” I need time to heal the broken heart, I want you to change to be better than before, someday I will asked you out for dinner or just hanging out” ( he made me believe and I was verryy happy)

    then in my birthday (3 weeks after broke up) I was asking him out for dinner… He said he can’t, he’s busy bla bla… and I was insist for dinner with him, I beg him…. then he was so MAD ( maybe becoz I insisted him too much)

    After that, I texted him to say sorry because I insisted him.. and then I said ok we need space ad time for healing …. so I was “no contact” him for 2 weeks.

    2 weeks later I texted him asked him how was he doing…. he texted and asked me back … and I was keep it short….
    I texted him 3-4 times a week (short communication)….. and it’s like only me that kept asked him… he replied, he answered my question with short answer, but he never asked me back…. (it hurts) then I asked him for out.. and he just got a lot of excuse for cannot make it…….

    now i’m getting tired.. I don’t know if he’s got someone new or am I too quick to asked him how he’s doing….. I just get tired now… I’m feelin fool, becoz it’s like only me trying while maybe he doesn’t care anymore…..

    I don’t know what am i supposed to do now… I love him too much to let him go, but it will keep my heart hurts when it’s only me that trying to communicate with him…
    what am I supposed to do…..?? help me…….

  92. Tisagal 18 November 2011 at 10:18 pm Permalink

    To all the ladies it sounds to me like you’re focusing to much on the guy & not enough on yourself. Start loving yourself first and everything else will fall in place. It’s okay to be alone sometimes we need that to remind us how important we are. We need to let them think of what they loss and stop chasing them. You have to know the real reason your relationship isn’t working b4 you go trying to get him back because if you don’t you setting yourself up for failure & hurt. You have to have answers to how you are going to help to make it work & he have to want that too. GOOD LUCK to everyone ! LOVE YOU FIRST!!!

  93. Laura 20 November 2011 at 5:49 am Permalink

    I had been going out with my ex-boyfriend for 2 years. It started of as us being friends and then turned to casual sex, later he asked me out wanting more from the relationship. So we went out and he treated me with so much love and respect, for the first 7 months we didn’t have a single problem or argument. Then he cheated on me with my friend, he apologized in tears saying he felt I didn’t care about him, I forgave him knowing I’d kept myself apart from the relationship so I didn’t get hurt. We started to fight after that, it got worse and we broke up, but a week later when forced to choose between me and my friend who he still had strong feelings for he chose me and things went well then the fights started again. Having a lot of family problems he got very stressed, the fights became weekly, and he kept saying he felt I didn’t care and I started to feel like he didn’t care. Then he said he couldn’t do this anymore, that he didn’t feel the same even though since I felt his concern I had treated him with all the love I could all week, he said he didn’t feel the same and my kisses meant nothing anymore… He’s changed his mind before, I pray he will change it again. We go to college together though :( I want my knight in shining Armour back, please help. It’s only been 2 days so far..

  94. Tiffany Kunes 24 November 2011 at 3:23 am Permalink

    Hey! Currently me and my ex arent talking. we broke up 3 weeks ago but we talked a couple times a week afterward and then last week we got in a HUGE fight and he said he never wanted to talk to me or see me ever again :( Is there any hope we can get past this?

  95. Coane 26 November 2011 at 4:43 pm Permalink

    Hye dere…I jz broke up wit my boyfriend of almost 2 years now & I’m still feeling heartbroken…It happened when I got mad at him for not returning my calls & texts for 3 days..He left his phone but I was too emotional to actually believe it & here we are now :-(…He said that it wasn’t me & that it was all him & that he has no commitment now with all the studying & assignments…He says that he still loves me & cares deeply for me & that he still worries bout me…He said all this when he asked for the breakup about 3 weeks ago and eventually I gave in to him…It was heart-wrenching but we broke up…I refused all contact with him for the past 2 weeks or so after giving up on begging & pleading him to come back to me…Since then, he has contacted me twice without me initiating it…I’ve also told him before that I will wait for him to text me instead of texting him first for I do not wish to disturb his studies…I still want him back and I’m still love him very much so…Please, if you could, is there any hope for him & I to get back together??

  96. Cooper 29 November 2011 at 12:26 pm Permalink

    Hi, really need some opinions right now. So me and my ex Mark dated for about 7 months, then we broke up. The reason he said was he was too tired of us spending time together all the time. But the main reason to me was that he wanted to sleep around. And also as I’m still in college and he is working now, so I think that had something to do with the breakup as well. Anyway, so after the break up, I tried everything to get him back, calling him, texting him, I even begged for several times. Of course that didn’t work. So I stopped talking to him, after about one month, he texted me saying Hey, how is it going? But I didn’t reply. After about 10 days, he texted me again: are you back to Chengdu now?. As I was really feeling lonely and I replied. So we had dinner together and I went back to his, we kissed and cuddled but didn’t have sex. After that he started to stop talking to me again, then after about one week, we went out again to see a movie. And again, no talking after that. So I was really pissed! And told him don’t ever talk to me again. So We stopped talking for over a month, and I was doing actually quite well. But still missed him so much. About one week ago, my friend told me my ex was talking to her saying how he was missing me and thought we were going back together but then I said I never want to see him agian. He didn’t want to message me, as he thought I have moved on. So after my friend told me that, I knew what he was trying to do. He wanted me to be the one to contact him, and I did last friday night. So we talked and he said he would like to work things out with me again and that we should forget about the past and start fresh. So we went out for dinner last Sat, and everything was going so well. Like we had never broken up! He was really sweet that night, We had sex as well. He made the move. We stayed in bed till 11am the next day, and then he said he was going to meet a friend. So I left. So Monday, I texted him and he texted me back I have been dating someone, 6 dates now! And I was really disappointed in him. So I told him ok, won’t bother you again. And he texted me back I don’t want to be responsible for breaking your heart again, I’m so scared that things will go wrong again. Perhaps this is the safer way:( And I didn’t reply, I really don’t know what to say to that. I really want him back, So what do you guys think? Does he still want me back?

  97. Eva 29 November 2011 at 7:46 pm Permalink


    My ex fiance and I were together for 13 years before I left him. I felt like he was treating me bad, and I had issues of my own that I had to work out since childhood that were haunting me. It was the hardest thing I had ever done and leaving behind our two cats with him was just as hard. I had to leave them since my gran, whome I moved to has two of her own. While we were apart he would beg me to come back, phone me and I wanted to but I thought that we needed the time apart to help the relationship in the long run. I would be cold to him becuase I didn’t want to go flying into his arms, I move back and we would end up exactly where we were. I asked him for six months, which I now regret. It’s was two months before the six months were up that I found out he had another woman (I used to go see the cat’s becasue they are like my children. I saw them when he was at work)sleeping there. When I confronted him, he was very nice to me and he cried and I thought there was something there. But the next day when I went to tell him I did still love him and wanted him back he said he didn’t love me and was quite nasty, then the next day he came back, said he wanted the keys, I cannot see the cats anymore and he wants to be alone, not with me anymore, because I hurt him. I know I hurt him, I was hurt too at the time and I may have said things I didn’t mean but I really didn’t want to go running back and we ended up in the same place. It seems like I made the worst mistake and I am deeply shatered and just feel like I can’t go anymore. I don’t know if he is trying to hurt me? Should I leave him alone? How can he not let me see our cats when he knows how much I love them. I feel like if I don’t call him – he will say I didn’t try hard enough to get him back and if I do call him, I think I’ll push him away even further. I am as at a loss and so devistated that I feel like life is pretty pointelss right now. PLEASE HELP ME. Thank you.

  98. Jasmine 30 November 2011 at 9:07 am Permalink

    Hi,so my ex and i hav only been together about 2 weeks but he jus stoped talkin to me one day and i figured it was over. He was cheating on me online but its been almost a week and i want him back. We live kinda far apart so i dnt ever see him, how do i get him back?

  99. GainingStrength 1 December 2011 at 4:59 pm Permalink

    2 weeks ago my husband of 20 years told me “i love you but im not in love with you”. It was devastating.. I had no idea what happened. I was a wreck. I couldnt eat or sleep & harrassed him & im afraid i pushed him further away. I found out after a few days that he has developed feelings for a co-worker. They were talking more & more & then he started sneaking around, hiding things & lying. By the time i found out they were already sleeping together. He says he is so sorry but he feels a connection with her & that he dont think it would of happened if he truly loved me. That hurt. Then i find out that she is an ex heroin addict as of 3 months ago & is clinically using strong doses of methadone to get over it. Even worse since we have children & i dont want them involved with anything like that at all. We still live together so its even harder watching it happen & sleeping in the same bed. He says he still loves me but its confusing. As far as I know he broke it off with her when i found out & they havent slept together since, but he also told me that he still has feelings for her & is confused. Today I told him that im ready to move on & that im seriously thinking about moving out & getting my own place. He didnt take it well. Im hoping this is a step in the right direction make him see me differently since im not crying & harrassing him anymore. These articles have been real eye-opening for me & I plan on using these tactics to my full ability. Thank you so much.

  100. chelsey 2 December 2011 at 2:06 pm Permalink

    hey all, me and my ex were together for 7 months and we were living together, he dumped 3 weeks ago coz we fight and it remind him of his realo, he said we can be housemates but nothing more, i we was fine for few days then he just cracked and wanted me to move back home to my mum, i couldent cope any more so i did, we havent spoke since, i been using the nc rule eva since the break up, but a few days ago his bro Thats is in a steady realo himself ask me how my love life is going i just said back i am staying single for a bit, but now i am think he was only asking for his brother, i havent head anything yet so i dono what to think or what to do really.

  101. Jessica 5 December 2011 at 3:20 am Permalink

    Hey me and my boyfriend split up on wednesday i rung him and told him i loved him and i always will then i didnt bothered after that, then today i decided to ring him and see how he is, he said he’ll ring me back cause hes busy which is good at least he answered and he said he will ring me, im scared i just dont know what to say and how to make him want me. please help x

  102. Jacinta 6 December 2011 at 1:10 pm Permalink

    I feel for you all!!!! my boyfriend just broke up with me and we have know/been toghther for almost 6 yrs and not only did he dump me but my job also told me I have untile the 23rd of december and I will have no work.
    No job, no boyfriend I moved interstate to be with him so now I have no were to go!!!! all just before christmas! I have an Idea why he broke up with me but i feel its not enough of a reason as effort was meant to be on both parts and i feel it only ever came from me and not him.
    At first he wanted a brake and i said to him that I would not go back into a relationship with him knowing he has shared our bed with someone else as that would be on my mind all the time and go through the process im going through now to change my life to change it once again for him when we could have just worked it out or untile he feels he made the mistake and comes crawling back I haven’t got the time to wait for that so I said it was all or nothing and he didn’t like that well he must now because he called it off I told him a brake isn’t what i want its just a cheap way of trying to end it with me and drag me along.
    Its very hard as i thought I would be with this person for the rest of my life and it cuts deep when its not the same on the otherside!!!!!!
    All i know now is that its time to look after myself and never be in a relationship again ever again so i never have to go through this process ever, ever again.
    Hope you all work your stuff out but i recon u should all forget the guy that broke your heart and consentrait on loving yourself as the old saying goes the only one ur left with at the end is yourself so take care of yourself and have fun!!!1

  103. Lauren 6 December 2011 at 9:50 pm Permalink


    Me and my ex boyfriend where together for nearly 3 years and we have been through a hell of alot! First we was arguing all the time this resulted to him contacting his ex’s brother and they ended up sleeping together! I evantually forgave him and we took it steady and got back together. Things were great got everything back on track but I wanted to spend all my time with him and I was clingey but that’s only because I loved him so much. He text me saying it would never work because we argue and don’t want the same things in life. We split up about a month ago now but I want him back so much what do I do? Lauren

  104. emma 8 December 2011 at 6:06 am Permalink

    hi me and my exfiancee split up a week ago and he chased me for a while and now hes with this girl called kirsteen and shes cheating on him and he wont believe anyone we was together for a year and a half and im in tears every night he says he still loves me and wants me back but he needs to change ( hes a flirt ) he wants to be perfect for me but i miss him so much and hes also best friends with my friends what should i do ?????? :'(

    • Olya 5 January 2012 at 2:27 am Permalink

      It seems to me that he may have been rejected by that Kirsteen or he dumped her after finding out that she cheated on him. Now , I think, his self-confidence is low and he wants to come back to you after realising what he lost. If you still love him, make him work very hard before you take him back -follow some useful tips on this website and make him realise that you know your self-worth. In this way, your confidence will increase and he will know that you are exceptional, not an emotional wreck. Good luck!! But you choose what is best for you, somethimes we need to listen to our mind and heart simultaneously..

  105. mona taimoor 8 December 2011 at 6:49 am Permalink

    my name is mona i am married n have a kid me n my husband know each other since 14 years it was a childhood love n then got married but then we got seperated n my husband applied for a divorce we were in contact all this time mostly me texting and calling begging to met him almost everyday but recently i stoped contanting him at all for 2 months n now he has started contacting me and says he wants to meet me i realy love him but i also know that he is also seeing someone else please tell me what i should do

  106. Sierra 8 December 2011 at 12:42 pm Permalink

    Hi I’m Sierra. My bf and I recently had a really bad breakup after two years. We are talking again. I have been hearing a lot of rumors about him talking to other girls. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things out but how do I know if he is telling me the truth.

  107. Reeder 8 December 2011 at 3:27 pm Permalink

    thanks for the advice and wonderful article, you seem to pass on good advice, best wishes

  108. Stephanie 9 December 2011 at 7:19 am Permalink

    For the no contact rule to be effective, should I simply tell my ex that we shouldn’t talk anymore or should I slowly fade away from his life with him thinking that we are still friends? Basically speaking, how should I implement the no contact rule? I’m confused whether or not I should tell him that we should end all contact or stay “friends” with him and stop talking to him slowly??

  109. Karissa 9 December 2011 at 10:32 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I had been dating a little over two years. It was a long distance relationship and we met in a video game. He came and visited me this summer and it was amazing. Good, solid relationship that was very open. Unfortunately, we got into dumb, pointless fights for no reason and that was mostly my fault. We got into a fight last Monday and I called him a typical guy and said I was done. He broke up with me the next morning and I’ve been crushed. He still initiates conversation with me through messengers and see’s how I am doing. Despite how I felt, I threw myself into school work, regular work and took a art class and met some new people. He found out and was happy I did all that. I was really trying to avoid the computer so he would miss me and I would only talk to him if he initiated it. He would still message me in the game or outside of it and finally two nights ago, he told me he really missed me and wanted to give me another chance. So we got back together and it was great. I went to bed later that night and I got a text that he was doubting himself and how he felt. He said that when he said he loved me, it felt empty and that he did not love me anymore. I got back on the computer and we talked for a few hours about his feelings. I just do not know where his head is at. He says he’s at a point in his life where he wants to be alone and he wants me to move on. Then he will say that he loves and cares about me, just that I hurt him and he needs time. Anyone have any input on the relationship?

  110. Ashley 12 December 2011 at 7:28 pm Permalink

    So I dated this guy for about 3 months and although I did really love him, I took all my anger and frustration out on him and completely made him feel horrible half the time. So he broke up with me, and kept saying “I love you and I’ll take you back when you change”. Well he didn’t because he said I was too needy and too clingy and that I hadn’t changed at all, even though i did. It took me too long to realize how much he meant to me and when i finally did i started begging and pleading him to take me back, but he wouldn’t. I tried to move on but i just wanted him back. I wanted to show him that i had changed. Now it’s 6 months later and im still going nuts because i see him everyday. Every single day. He does nothing but ignore me, even though he is friends with a lot of my friends, he won’t come near them when i’m around. I want him back. Is there any chance at all or is it just wishful thinking? I’ve begged and I’ve cried but I actually want him to hold me again. Is there anything I can do when he wont even let me close?

    • N 23 December 2011 at 4:19 pm Permalink

      i think you should start ignoring him! as much as you want him back, just keep those feelings inside and show him how happy you are. once he sees how happy and calm you are than hell realise what he lost because he will notice that your not giving him attention or acting all needy and clingy.. so just go out with your friends, be happy around him and you never know what could happen.. you have the same friends and they will probably tell him how happy you are and how different you are which will show him youve changed :) it all takes time hun

  111. brandy 14 December 2011 at 5:06 am Permalink

    Ok, well I was in a four year relationship.We were engaged and to be married in sept. a monthe before the wedding he canceled. I was devastated but tried to work things out. He said he has always been afraid of commtiment and he wanted to make sure I was the one. So six months after all this he finally told me he didnt see a future with us anymore but he still loves and cares for me. I truly dont think he will remian feeling this way. So i moved out and am not going to have any contact with for a while. We did have a great relationship but after the cancelling of the wedding I became pretty self conscious with him and myself. Our relationship was always good though we rarely fought and up until the day of the break up we were still joking around and sleeping together. He said he just didnt have that extra feeling for me anymore. I truly believe with time it will make him realize how much he misses me and loves me. Does anyone believe that after all this a couple could someday rekindle that relationship. Im a wreck but trying to stay strong if anyone could help me out that would be great

    • N 23 December 2011 at 4:16 pm Permalink

      hey i think he just needs time to realise what he wants so if i was you, id step back for a bit and leave him alone and if he comes running back then its meant to be.. and if he doesnt then i guess you deserve better!! 4 years is a long time and if he was scared of committment why was he with you for that long anyway? think about it that way…

  112. crimson 19 December 2011 at 10:58 am Permalink

    my boyfriend and i broke up last year because he forwarded me a text he got from my best friend that had a naked pic of her. my mom found it and turned it into the police who then theartned to arrest both of us. (we were only 14 at the time) so his mom moved him down to another city that is 5 hours away. we tried to keep a relationship but when my mom found out she told us that we were forbidden to see each other. what should i do?

  113. sweet girl 19 December 2011 at 12:57 pm Permalink

    offically i was dating my ex for 2 and a half months but unoffically for 4 months he said he loved me early in the relationship and i loved him back in the beginning we had so much fun together and never fought and towards the end we still had fun but also fought. It took him forever to tell his mother about me and he never told her we were dating only that he liked me and i liked him he didnt tell his dad his mom did and he said he likes me but we are not dating. He said they would be mad if they knew we were dating since he is moving. at the end of the relationship there was so much pressure on me my face started breaking out but i was still happy with him. Even though there were signs that he was thinking of breaking up there was also times where he acted like he was still in love. The day he broke up with me he was all kissy more than usual and seemed in a good mood but i also pushed his buttons that day. He would say i was acting like his ex. I think he said this to push me away. So he broke up with me i am so so so crushed. He said i was too insecure like when he said your beautiful i would say no im not but he would do the same things. He said that since we started dating his school soccer and friends have gone down hill. He said i dont like his friends which is kinda vaild there are some people that i was not a fan of but i never said he could not hang with them. He said i didnt trust him. I think me and him were too wrapped up in each other. He also said that i was rude to him like since i was stressed out i would take that out on him. He was the same way though and i could open up and tell him anyhting but he could not do the same. I love him so much and we would talk about our future and him coming back for me since he is moving in about 6 months. He said this didnt bother him. I love him and i think he still has feelings for me and i want him back. A day after he broke up with me i got a little beggy and wanted him back no matter what the cost. I am on his soccer team and i have not been texting him and at our first game since the break up i made sure he knew i was ok and can be friends. He said he still wanted to be my friend but he has also been avoiding me. I didnt talk to him much and i had to text him about our next game and i simply just said good game he said thanks you too and i said thanks and he never texted back so i left it. Then about an hour later he commented on my team losing and rubbed it in my face i joked with him about it saying oh so your talking smack already and said my team has a better record still but all he said was so and i said so you cant give me crap and he never responded. All i know is i want him back and i need advice on how to. PLEASE HELP

  114. Alicia 21 December 2011 at 3:45 am Permalink

    I started dating my ex over the summer I broke up with him reverted it we went back out I had trust issues because he dumped his ex for me and I was afraid he would find someone better so he dumped me I told him I had trust issues ever since my birth father gave me up.he is the only guy I want to be with but now he’s dating this other girl I always talk to him and pour my heart out when I stop talking to him he contacts me then I get all heartbroken again. I just don’t want to lose him I want him back:(

  115. Roxanne 21 December 2011 at 5:48 am Permalink

    hey i left my boyfriend..i dnt knw why..i want him back and he doesnt want m anymore..he says “he say yes but hes afraid that hell not be 100% in this relationship and he s afraid that he’ll hurt me cuz he loves me….pleass help me

  116. Matt 23 December 2011 at 5:11 pm Permalink

    I was with my girlfriend for 4 yrs and I decided to leave because her lifestyle changed. She has 3 children whom I love and adore but she wants to party a lot and be in the attention of other men a lot. I didn’t know what to to so I left but know I want her back. It’s been 5 months and she is seeing other people. We still talk and I have regular communication with her kids but I do not know what to do. She acts as though she cares about me but really wants nothing to do with me at times. It’s killing me.

  117. Nana 27 December 2011 at 11:35 am Permalink

    It’s been a little over 3 weeks since my boyfriend left me. I know how he is, he’s going to be too stubborn to contact me first. We’ve always had a thing for each other for the past 4 years. About a year ago i left him and we didn’t talk for about 4 months. Eventually we started talking again and got back together. This time around i’m the one who fell hard for him and he had his guard up. When we would fight we would always threaten me on leaving me and would always throw in my face the pain i caused him when i left. Then one fight he actually left me, told me we were through. Do you think this is why he left? So i could suffer the pain i caused him? Is this karma for me? Do you think this is the end for us or is this just a big break?

  118. Bethxx 28 December 2011 at 3:10 pm Permalink

    So me and my bf broke up four weeks ago. He tould me I would do amazing things because he loved me and I was the Best Girlfriend ever! And he loved Me! And that he will miss me dearly! And That He still wants to be friends! He said that a long distance relationship wouldn’t work Because he is on a World Tour!!! :/ I cryed for three weeks! Without food or water! And his bro keeps lying to me about his new girlfriend!! I miss him so much & he says as he will ask me out soon but I know him so much that He Won’t!!!!!!!
    PLEASE HELP!!!!!!

  119. Janie 2 January 2012 at 5:42 pm Permalink

    Idk wut 2 do!! Plx help!! My ex & i broke up last week after 5 months of goin out!! We got into a big fight b/c i had heard tht a girl tht wux like a sister 2 me wux tryin 2 take him away from me! So i tried tlkin 2 him bout it & he acted like he wux against me intead of with me!! Its like if he wux tryin 2 defend her!! & he started sayin all this kinda stuff like she would prob make a better gf thn u & soo on!! & he would alwys get mad at me for stupid reasons like if 1 of his friends sais sumthin bout me 2 him he would get mad & he would act like a total butt hole 2 me!! I would get mad at him b/c he would alwys believe his friends rather thn his gf!! & wen i got mad at him for sumthin he would b all like wtf & he’ll act like a butt again!! I took his crap b/c i really loved him & cux i thought tht he really loved me!! & on tht day tht we had tht fight i wux like uk wut if u think she’ll b a better gf thn me thn im breakin up with u tht way u can go out with her & u wont have 2 deal with me! & he said tht he had been cheatin on me!! But tht i had been 2 blind 2 c it!! & i wux like wtf how could u do this 2 me wen u said tht u loved me more thn anythin in tha world & tht i wux tha best thing tht ever happened 2 u!!! & he said tht he did love me & tht i wux tha best thing tht ever happend 2 him but tht i made him cheat on me!! But imean how did i make him cgeat on me it aint like i pointed a gun 2 his head & told him 2!! He did iy free willin!! But he was tryin 2 blame me!! Thn i just told him bye & to nvr tlk 2 me!! At first i wux like idgf bout him anymore am gonna move on!! 2 days l8er he said tht he wanted me bck & tht he promised tht he wouldnt hurt me again! I said noo i cant go bck out with u, But now i reliced tht i need him in my life!! & tht im just not tha same person with out him!! But idk if goin bout out with him is tha best choice!! Soo plx help idk if i should or if i shouldnt!! Idk wut 2 do!! Plx help give me advise!!

  120. Olya 3 January 2012 at 8:14 am Permalink

    In short, I dated a guy for a year and a month till he decided to end our relationship . He said that we had not seen each other for 6 weeks and it was not what he had wanted and that our relationship was going nowhere. The reason was that I applied for some jobs and worked at weekends when he was off. He appeared to have already made his mind up and did not want to give our relationship another chance (I did not even ask) . I know that he has not dated many girls before me. I hated being dumped and said that he is selfish and cannot make a judgement himself without listening to others. Around 3 months later I deleted him as a friend from facebook. I called him the following day to say that his deletion from facebook would make it easier for both of us to move on.He was very interested in my current job, but I answered quickly and said good bye. 2 months later his cousin invited me to her birthday to which I did not go as I did not want to see him, telling her that I got a new job and thus could not get time off. Then 4 months later he seemed to have deleted 1 profile of a girl from his facebook. Soon after, he called my former girlfriend and asked her if she fancied him . That girl flirted with him in my presence when she was single and drunk on her birthday which my ex and I attended. She said that she was not interested in him ( she is dating somebody else) , according to her.
    I also called my ex to see if he could help my sister transport her stuff urgently as my sister got into real trouble. My ex was well informed about my sister as he called her to verify if she needed his help when I said that we needed a bigger car than his and that my former friend was untill recenly in touch with me and sister therefore I assume updating my ex. I also regularly updated my facebook. 5 months later I texted him a message – general and wished him a happy birthday. He thanked me and said that he hoped that my sister and I were well by sending a text message almost 1hour 20mins later. He did not wish me happy new year or merry christmas. I am not sure if he wants to resume a relationship or not. I also said to that ex girlfriend that I did not have strong feelings for him.

  121. Esha 4 January 2012 at 2:28 pm Permalink

    Hi ….first of all thanks for taking the time to answer my email!
    I was in a LDR ….it started out as friends after he saw me he said ….i want to spend the rest of his life with me. we met a few times (7months) in mid November he would email me less. After a few of my emails (he doesn’t have a cell) then after he would contact me after a week then after a couple of week. And that to after me emailing a few times every day! And then it got to the point where he would say I’ll call u later and I’d be waiting and no phone call. In dec it was the same thing ….I got really mad and sent him some really rude emails. I deleted him off my fb and he simply blocked me, after that I’ve been emailing saying sorry and that I love him but no email back from him. He lives 3hours away in the plane. I havnt contacted him its been 2days. What do u think I should do next? And will he contact me? I just love him and want everything to be fine. ……thanks Esha xxx

    • Esha 6 January 2012 at 8:19 am Permalink

      Hi it’s Esha
      I havnt talked to my ex for almost a month now ….it was just me sending emails, never fall in love with a guy that doesn’t have a cell phone.
      After 3 days of no contact I sent him an email ….but it was also to congratulate him for a program that he started for kids and to say I’m sorry! I’m not sure if I did the right thing ….Any suggestions? When I should contact him again?

      • Esha 6 January 2012 at 9:19 am Permalink

        I don’t think he will reply, first of all I’ve sent him so much negative emails after we broke up…..about a month ago, and he takes his sweet time replying especially to my emails. :(

  122. preeti 4 January 2012 at 3:00 pm Permalink

    After 4 months he started his phne again,
    I call him many times but he was not attended one of my call,infact his father listen my name and disconnct the call,
    What can i do,when he is again talking with me,
    Me not live without him,i love him so muchhh,
    Plz give me some suggestions

  123. Brasilll 4 January 2012 at 9:46 pm Permalink

    Hi. I just think that sharing here is better since like we girls are facing breakups here and there but we know one thing for sure that we want the guy back for us.
    My story is like this, we fell in love. I was very hard to get. I tested his patience because I’m just not sure if he truly love me. He endured every attitude I showed him even though he is hurt. He didnt give up for me. I guess all this while, I was happy in the relationship while he was hurt. I guess he wants to see me happy and that’s all. I get jealous easily and because of that, I actually caused his friendship with his two female friends to be broken. I felt happy as they were no longer close to him and that he is all mine. I know I’m self centered and all… We were Lovers for close to 9 months and the following months, we were in a relationship. The feelings were the same being lovers and in the relationship but we know that in a relationship, we kinda know like we are each other one and only. In relationship, we fought almost everyday because I was insecure and that I was still jealous of him talking to the 2 female girls even though he didn’t talk to them but just look at them unintentionally. FYI, we got in a realtionship on April 2011. Everything was the same old fightings with different reasons with my self centered attitude and my assumptions of him and other girls. Amazingly, he didn’t left me for some better girls but he just loved me for who I am and he just prove me his love… Until August 2011, his father was in hospital ICU because of heart attack and he was down. I wanted to be tere and asked a lot about his dad condition because I care. But he told me he needs his time alone. I was mad and I made a fuss out of it….just because he needs his own time… Then September, everything went downhill.. He told me he was guilty about him not talking to his two female friends because of my jealousy. I was so mad pissed at him that I Ditched him. Like to me at that time, losing two friends for love isn’t that bad. But he told me that friends last till the end of breath… And when I was so depressed over that problem, I decided to patch things up but he said no. He told me that he give me two weeks to change. So I didn’t contact him. Even if I did, he gave me cold repplies…at the end of the first week out of the two weeks of changing(4october2011), he told me to forget us and that he found another girl… It was a friend of mine… I was sad… The first few days, I called him and he told me that he was happy and told me that he and that girl confessed to each other… I was so sad that I feel so empty. Why so fast they fall for each other? On 16 October 2011, when I stop showing that I want him, he chat with me to lend him a shirt he gave me for his trip to another country. I went to his place and gave him a gift for the last time and then left. He tweeted,”don’t give me that feeling anymore” and “I can’t be friends with you. That feeling sucks” after all that, I just stop all my trying and posting sad stuffs. I kept everything to myself up till now… And now, it’s jan2012. We are in the same school and his class is next to mine… I see him everyday… I want him to love me back…. Like he sacrificed so much for me but he just let me go just like that. I mean like he stayed with me even though I treat him like a dog because he loved me. But why let me go and not try to contact me during the October 2011 till Now? And he is not tweeting about the girl he told me he liked. He is like quite sad about her. When she left him after two weeks of them being sweet. I know that she is mean. But why can’t he let her go? Why is he sad over her when she was so easy to fall for. I know I’ve been controlling him in the realtionship and he felt no freedom with me. And I believe he liked her because she just gives him less attention means he have more freedom? I guess. What do you think? Help me. I love him. And now, I realized how much he put in effort from 2010 till the relationship as I read through all the gifts he made and the long letters and long texts… He still views my plurk account as I can see his last log in is always a few days ago or something…NAND he knows that I’m the only one that is active on plurk… He is giving me mixed signals…. My friends say that he likes/love me but he gave up on the realtionship…. How? :( waiting for miracle to happen. 3 months already…… Please help me…..

  124. 04040002brazil 4 January 2012 at 9:48 pm Permalink

    Hi. I just think that sharing here is better since like we girls are facing breakups here and there but we know one thing for sure that we want the guy back for us.
    My story is like this, we fell in love. I was very hard to get. I tested his patience because I’m just not sure if he truly love me. He endured every attitude I showed him even though he is hurt. He didnt give up for me. I guess all this while, I was happy in the relationship while he was hurt. I guess he wants to see me happy and that’s all. I get jealous easily and because of that, I actually caused his friendship with his two female friends to be broken. I felt happy as they were no longer close to him and that he is all mine. I know I’m self centered and all… We were Lovers for close to 9 months and the following months, we were in a relationship. The feelings were the same being lovers and in the relationship but we know that in a relationship, we kinda know like we are each other one and only. In relationship, we fought almost everyday because I was insecure and that I was still jealous of him talking to the 2 female girls even though he didn’t talk to them but just look at them unintentionally. FYI, we got in a realtionship on April 2011. Everything was the same old fightings with different reasons with my self centered attitude and my assumptions of him and other girls. Amazingly, he didn’t left me for some better girls but he just loved me for who I am and he just prove me his love… Until August 2011, his father was in hospital ICU because of heart attack and he was down. I wanted to be tere and asked a lot about his dad condition because I care. But he told me he needs his time alone. I was mad and I made a fuss out of it….just because he needs his own time… Then September, everything went downhill.. He told me he was guilty about him not talking to his two female friends because of my jealousy. I was so mad pissed at him that I Ditched him. Like to me at that time, losing two friends for love isn’t that bad. But he told me that friends last till the end of breath… And when I was so depressed over that problem, I decided to patch things up but he said no. He told me that he give me two weeks to change. So I didn’t contact him. Even if I did, he gave me cold repplies…at the end of the first week out of the two weeks of changing(4october2011), he told me to forget us and that he found another girl… It was a friend of mine… I was sad… The first few days, I called him and he told me that he was happy and told me that he and that girl confessed to each other… I was so sad that I feel so empty. Why so fast they fall for each other? On 16 October 2011, when I stop showing that I want him, he chat with me to lend him a shirt he gave me for his trip to another country. I went to his place and gave him a gift for the last time and then left. He tweeted,”don’t give me that feeling anymore” and “I can’t be friends with you. That feeling sucks” after all that, I just stop all my trying and posting sad stuffs. I kept everything to myself up till now… And now, it’s jan2012. We are in the same school and his class is next to mine… I see him everyday… I want him to love me back…. Like he sacrificed so much for me but he just let me go just like that. I mean like he stayed with me even though I treat him like a dog because he loved me. But why let me go and not try to contact me during the October 2011 till Now? And he is not tweeting about the girl he told me he liked. He is like quite sad about her. When she left him after two weeks of them being sweet. I know that she is mean. But why can’t he let her go? Why is he sad over her when she was so easy to fall for. I know I’ve been controlling him in the realtionship and he felt no freedom with me. And I believe he liked her because she just gives him less attention means he have more freedom? I guess. What do you think? Help me. I love him. And now, I realized how much he put in effort from 2010 till the relationship as I read through all the gifts he made and the long letters and long texts… He still views my plurk account as I can see his last log in is always a few days ago or something…NAND he knows that I’m the only one that is active on plurk… He is giving me mixed signals…. My friends say that he likes/love me but he gave up on the realtionship…. How? :( waiting for miracle to happen. 3 months already…… Please help me…..He done so much. While me, I didn’t appreciate him until
    He is gone. Please tell me not to forget him.,,,

  125. Amanda 6 January 2012 at 5:43 pm Permalink

    My ex broke up two months ago and I recently found out I wad pregnant. So we started to work things out and than I ended up losing the baby. He was there for me when I first loss the baby, but now he stop talking to me. I am hurting so bad right now and I want more than anything to talk to him about the loss of the baby and maybe working things out. We were together for six years. I don’t know what to do.

  126. Shannon 8 January 2012 at 9:34 pm Permalink

    I dated my boyfriend for 2 years. We broke up because we were both going to different colleges and knew that it would be difficult to stay happy with distance and with all of the new experiences surrounding us. We were in love, I am positive. A month after we broke up- a month into college he texted me telling me that he still missed me and that he still thinks about kissing me and that I was the best thing that ever happened to him. The very next day his best friend came to stay with me. I found out from his best friend that my ex boyfriend was seeing someone else. In fact, the someone else was in high school back at home. I was honestly heart broken. I let him have it. I texted him asking him if he meant everything he said the night before and he said he did. Then i asked about the girl and he said that he liked her. But said it was complicated. Well its been four months, they are now dating. I get periodical texts (twice a week) from him hinting at wanting to see me. And he still brings up inside jokes and some things that he probably shouldnt be talking about while having a girlfriend. Anywho. Im still in love with the kid and trying my hardest to just move on but it is not happening. Whats going through his head?! What should I do?!

  127. cleopatra 9 January 2012 at 7:52 am Permalink

    Hi Ashley,

    Where should I began..my ex bf broke up 6 years ago. After a year he contacted me. He totally adored me, I was young and coulden’t handle his insecurity so I broke up with him. But I noticed Im still not over him. And so is he. He calls from time to time…sometimes to say hi sometimes he cracks and says that he still loves me…he just had a baby…but he wished it had worked out diffrent and he still loves and misses me. So now 8 months later. He contacts me again with a simple message to say hi. And I feel that I want him back. What should I do? It’s like we both know we miss eachother we talk about our relationship back then. The good and the bad things we shared and how we changed etc etc. But we never dropped the magic words..like I think we should get back together…
    Look forward to your oppinion!


    • cleopatra 9 January 2012 at 7:53 am Permalink

      I mean I broke up with HIM not my ex bf with me.

  128. Mel 11 January 2012 at 11:15 pm Permalink

    Hi all, I am desperate…please advice me.

    My boyfriend have been seeing each other for about 4 months – all was great and we were very happy. Up till 1 week ago, we had our first fight (my fault – I flared up over work stress and cussed a rare “fuck you all!”) and he suddenly stopped reading my Blackberry messenger messages, blocked me off Whatsapp, refused to pick up my calls and did not reply any of my texts/ emails. Which basically means to say I have no means of contacting him and he does not want to talk to me.

    And I don’t understand how this could have happen… We were both very happy together, always laughing and fooling around. He always says the sweetest and nicest things and I always tell him he’s the most amazing. I fly up to visit for a week every month and the times we spent together was so incredible. We are always making plans – talked about living together and he supposed to visit during Chinese New Year. When I was over during my recent trip, we spent our days buying furnitures and re-fixing up his house (he lives alone) – we even have a closet in his house just for me. He chats with me on Blackberry messenger everyday, an occasional call and he Skype me before he sleeps. We even have bought a Himalayan kitten on my most recent trip and when I return from my trip, I watch both of them playing on Skype. I don’t see the signs that we’re falling apart, do you? He always tells me how much he loves me and that nothing will ever change it. All was great…up till the moment we ‘fought’, or rather, I flared.

    Initially, I went slightly insane for the first 2 days, spamming him with ‘Sorry’s and ‘Please’s on Blackberry messenger but he doesn’t even open my chat window, tried to message him on Whatsapp but he blocked me off, called his cell but he either switches it off or doesn’t pick up, and dropped him 2-3 e-mails and texts but he just refuses to respond. After the first few days, I eventually stopped trying to contact him entirely, thinking he’d eventually contact me.

    But it’s been a week, I am freaking out. He bailed on me without even having the courtesy of telling me he wants to break up. Just in case, I know for sure he’s still alive (I checked in on him from his colleagues).

    Have anyone encountered a similar breakup before? I don’t even know if he’s breaking up with me or is he still angry I said “fuck you all”. Should I be waiting or should I just move on, forgetting his existence entirely?

    I was so desperate I googled online and what he did seems like tell-tale signs of Commitment Phobe but I can’t tell for sure. Any advise would be great as everyone around me is as clueless as me!

    • Olya 17 January 2012 at 10:45 am Permalink

      I am not an expert in relationships, but give him some space .In my case I only contacted my ex 3 times for last 5 months( it is terribly difficult to make yourself stop contacting him and also hurts a lot ). Men in general are difficult to understand. Give him some time to miss you and get under control your emotions. Time helps me figure out my feeling to my ex – still I do not now whether it is lust, getting used or love. Also know your self-worth. Some men are good at playing games and being manipulative. Some are too honest. Enjoy yourself without him for at least a month. In my opinion, just to end your relationship over this is unreasonable. Analyse whether he is worth your time, your suffering. Try to be as objective as possible. I understood that after my break-up, I achieved much more in my career and had less stress ( I could not stand 1 friend of his who was talking all the time about herself). Good luck

  129. Cleopatra 17 January 2012 at 11:24 am Permalink

    Well an advice is appreciated;-). Maybe I addressed with the wrong name. So if someone wud like to help. Plz:-)!

  130. marilynne 21 January 2012 at 4:41 am Permalink

    hi my bf and i broke up a year before.. when we broke up, we ddnt contacted each other for 6 months then i started to date a guy and suddenly my ex texted me on 2.00 am!!! i still love him soo much and he does so.. as he admitted it before 2 months that he is still in love with me. Now we are very close friends.. he told me that he loves me but he cant continue this relationship.. But i want him back as my bf so any suggestions what shall i do?

  131. nadine 27 January 2012 at 2:38 pm Permalink

    okay so we went from a really serious couple to breaking up to him suggesting we’ll be just friends and me deleting him and not speaking to him at all, he got really cut, “how can you just delete me out of your life like i am nobody?” now we speak again, he calls me when i dont reply to him texts, he just wants to check up incase something happened, he also calls me “baby”..could this all mean something?
    and now he’s suddenly become so dry and hardly speaks to me, i dont get it ?

  132. Diana 28 January 2012 at 2:10 am Permalink

    My ex recently broke up with me about a week ago. we been together 11 years….he decided to call it quits but he want to remain friends. I’m 35 and he’s 47; I can’t lose him & trying so hard to win him back. I was told from a friend I should give him space & give him a chance to heal. I love him soo much I can’t see myself moving on but he told me if I love him that much I wouldn’t did what I did……will I win back?? if so, how do I go about that?? Diana

    • Diana 28 January 2012 at 3:06 am Permalink

      Any suggestions??? Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  133. ki 2 February 2012 at 5:36 am Permalink

    okay soo .. im a teenager , and my and my boyfriend were (on and off) for a year. we went to the same school he was in 8th and i was in 7th . now im in the 8th and hes in 9th so therefore we arnt in the same school anymore . we still talk on and off but its small talk like “what are you doing?” that kind of stuff. he lives across the street from me now . and the last time we were together was about a week ago . now , he has a girlfriend and its about to be their 2 month anniversary and for some reason im really jealous of the girl . for some reason . i make him chase me and everything , but it seems not to be working anymore. he texts me first sometimes , but most of the time u have to text him first . he cheated on his girlfriend with me plenty of times . but at the same time i want him to be with me again and i dont know what to do . can you help me ?

    • ki 2 February 2012 at 5:38 am Permalink

      he would treeat me badly but i would go back to him cause he had that little charm on me and i just dont know what to do . it seems like every song reminds me of him . and it hurts .

    • Carol 28 February 2012 at 3:52 pm Permalink

      The best thing you could do is move on. I know you don’t like to here it, but it has to happen some time. If he cheated on his girlfriend with you he will most likley do that to you if you guys get back together. The best thing to do is just have a talk with him. Tell him if he want you that this his last chance. When you let go of me this time its your fault. Your not getting me back. Also, if this guy really did love you he wouldn’t be putting you though all this. He be with you and not the other girl. I hope i helped a little.

  134. Bianca 4 February 2012 at 2:05 am Permalink

    Hi, My Name Is Bianca. My Ex Came Back Into My Life Out Of Nowhere , And At That Point I Was Talking To Someone New (Trying To Move On). He Tells Me He Rather’s Talk In Person About This I Told Him Sure So We Are Supposedly Supposed To Meet Up Somewhere And Talk About It I Guess, But My Biggest Issue Is That He As A New Girlfriend. So Its Getting Me Confused On Why He Want’s To See Me. His New Girlfriend Doesn’t Live Her She Live In Dominican Republic. And Now My Friends Are Telling Me Its To Get Me Back ETC. I Just Don’t Know And Its Sending Me Mixed Signals HELP S.O.S
    – Love & Rockets

  135. nicegirl 20 February 2012 at 10:28 am Permalink

    hi .
    first of all i have a long distance relationship.
    i met my boyfriend on internet , and next day i told my mom about him so we found out that we are extended relatives .
    so we talked everyday on whats-app and Msn … then we decided to meet and saw each other for 5 days , at his country .. me and my mom went there .
    and we saw his parents also …
    then suddenly after we went back home , he said that his dad doesn’t want me !
    and that he’s not gonna give up on me ..
    then he moved to another job, started to drift away
    then i started contacting him… we had a little fight , but then we said that we’re gonna talk later …
    deep inside i knew that it will be the last conversation . and it was
    he didn’t call me back as he promised
    and i used the NO CONTACT method .
    so its been more than 3 weeks now.
    please tell me what to do ?

    i cant understand anything its complicated

  136. Estefany 27 February 2012 at 8:05 am Permalink

    Me and my ex boyfriend were together for 5 months. Then we broke up because
    I wen out with my friends and got drunk.Then one month pass and i started going out
    With his brother because i though i really love him but i didnt it only lasted 2 weeks. Then 3 months pass and we started Texting agian. And he told me that he want to see me and that he missed me. But then we saw each other and nothing happen. So then we stopped texting, and then he started going out with this other girl and they went out for 2 months then they broke up. So he was single. 2 months later we started texting again for new’s years. And then for like a month we texted like friends then in 2 weeks he was like if i liked him. And i told him i did. And then he told me that he loved me and i told him i loved him. And then at night he said he wanted to come over to my house so we could talk. So he did and we started talking like for 30 mintues and the i grab his hand and he hugged me and then we started kissing. And he keep telling me he loved me. So now a week later he says he doesn’t want any problems so he wanted this to end. Because he still likes his ex girlfriend. And i said ok fine. Just dont talk yo me ever again. But now i have notices that i still love him. What should i do to get him back.

  137. Carol 28 February 2012 at 3:45 pm Permalink

    Well, my and my boyfriend broke up last month. The first day of our break up he walked into school and it looked like he had been crying. The days went on and i talked to my friends and mom on what to do about it. They told me to act like I’m not having a problem with it. So, i took the advice and I’m doing it. I have noticed that my ex has been trying to stand closer to me. I also noticed that he is always staring and me and when we come into to eye contact he smiles and blushes then turns away. I’m still not for sure if he likes me or not. Is there anything else i could do to drive him crazy? Also, on Facebook there is a lot of pictures of us and if he didn’t like me wouldn’t he take those off?

  138. tina 29 February 2012 at 5:21 pm Permalink

    Hey. So I dated this guy fr over 2 years..we were very serious.. Abt to get married.. 1 year back he dumped me out of the blue. I’ve been misreble eversince..een tried to kill myslf. Dropped out of college. He kept coming back to me n goin back at times. It was like out of the blue he would come n say I love you in these past 12 months. N dn aftr 2 days agn would ignore me to the core.. Its long distance now. He would get jealous if I spoke to me guy.. 3 months back he askd me out again. He said he made a big mistake n all that. it seemed fine until last month. He has started drifting away from me. He tells me he doesn’t like talking much. He doesn’t want so much care from me n all that. I don’t know what’s up with him now. I’ll die if he breaks my heart this time around. M really depressed. Please help me. I want the ‘old him’.

  139. evelia 7 March 2012 at 9:19 am Permalink

    Hi im really havin bad relationship problems ive done so many things to him n now i cant tell him not to move on n he keeps tellin me were done wat can i do for him not to move on or not to forget about it n we also have a bby its really hard for me now

  140. jane 7 March 2012 at 6:47 pm Permalink

    i dont know what to do my husband just moved out on me again because i am depressed and dont get things done i feel like i have no energy and im tired all the time i just wanna sleep. he says we r on a seperation how do i win the fight against depression and be the woman he fell in love with again so he will fall back in love with me. we have been together 10 years and my life is not complete without him in it i want him to come home as quick as possible or at least spend more time here and stay overnights please help me

    • Jessica 18 April 2012 at 10:25 pm Permalink

      I feel depressed, i push people away and i have lost everything, i got no energy and always tired. have you told him how you feel? go doctors? if he knows how depressed and tired you are and doesnt want to help, he isnt worth it, wouldnt u rather someone who stays with you to make sure your ok?

  141. Micky 7 March 2012 at 9:01 pm Permalink

    I have a terrible love story.

    I have been with a guy for more than 7 years, in an unhealthy relationship, both being very young (early 20s). I have met another guy, my soul mate, 3 years ago, we became very good friends and he convinced me to leave everything and move to his country. I have been complaining and I have been acting bad towards him, because my ex was constantly annoying me, making me feel so guilty for our rupture. 3 months after moving together, during a visit in my country (my mother being very sick), he felt in love with someone else and he told me that we have to brake up, because a real man never cheats and he thinks his love was not strong enough, even though he had the best intentions with us. He bought an apartment for us, he did his very best, we had huge plans, but he gave up so fast after meeting the other woman. In the time I have been in my country, things complicated bad, I have lost my mother and he started feeling even more guilty and bad for not being near me. My ex has been near me during all the bad moments and eventually we ended up again together.
    I feel absolutely miserable because of being back with him, when I am constantly thinking about my ex. I cannot stop blaming myself and I do not know how to get him back. We had huge plans and I have acting very bad to him. I tried everything to get him back, but actually all my “techniques” pushed him away. I suffocated him with emails, messages, love letters, phone calls, etc. We still hear from time to time telling me that he doesn’t want me to be with anyone and wondering always how I am, but he doesn’t move at all, saying that his love is not strong enough to have future plans. There is any possibility of getting my love back?

    All the best from the Netherlands,


  142. FUCK LOVE. 8 March 2012 at 3:41 am Permalink

    basically we rushed into a relationship full of ups and downs, we would break up and go out again.. we went out throughout last year and well its been 6months and im still not over him, he hates me after what ive done.. im so ashamed i hate myself ive never been able to deal with myself since, what should i do?
    if you email me i will defiantly tell you in confidence what really happened if your willing to help?

    • Katie 27 March 2012 at 5:41 pm Permalink

      Sounds like my situation

  143. Michelle 16 March 2012 at 11:11 am Permalink

    I dont know why my boyfriend left me but if I had to guess I’d say its because he got tired of arguing or me not accepting his apologies. I know its important to focus on the bigger picture and let little things slide but he kept forgetting important thing. He sent me Happy Birthday through a text and didnt make time for me. He says hell call back and doesnt. He wont hit me up to spend time but hell hang out with his cousins or friends and that hurts to of course the apologies feel fake and at first i thought there was another girl but I doubt it. Lastly I held on even when I wanted to break up with him because he always told me he loved me. Even the week of our break up. Howd he break it off? Txt message: Bye and wont answer my calls. HELP!

  144. Jayneox 20 March 2012 at 10:57 am Permalink

    I need advice I was with someone over a year and he dumped me and then I didn’t text him and ignored his txts and he wanted me back and begged me back. Said he misses me but this time I broke up with him because he wasn’t doing what he promised which was making me happy anyway he didn’t really care I sloke to him everyday after I broke up with him and he came to get his things and started missing me was all over me and I asked him why he said don’t know. I asked for him back he said no next morning he said yeah he will see me again then something happens between us, and we broke up for good and texted everyday since. But I aske him to take things slow work it out he said he will now his saying he doesn’t know. I told him foret it he said just move on I don’t know it’s probably best. He hasn’t texted me since last night. I don’t know what to do its hard. But I have fighted for him. Maybe he doesn’t realise yet I asked if he missed me he said yes but he asked me if we could still talk I said no. I deleted his number so I can’t text unless he texts me. Do u think it’s because we sloke he thought I still cared and loved him? If I leave him alone do u think he might realise he misses me again?

  145. FREDA 20 March 2012 at 11:07 pm Permalink

    My ex-husband and I had always manged to stay friendly after our divorce, but I always wanted to get back together with him, and he was never sure. So, I thought it was about time I MADE him sure! All it took was a visit to your website and a request for a specific love spell, and vadoo spell’s powers began to work their magic. My spell is working because guess what: My “ex” is soon to be my husband again! This is nothing short of a miracle. Thank you, vadoo spell. Words are not enough.

    • Esha 21 March 2012 at 12:29 pm Permalink

      Hi Freda ….what did u do? I’m also having some problems.

  146. christal 24 March 2012 at 7:51 am Permalink


    I broke the rule of not sleeping with my ex whilst our break up. But I still need
    Advice as to how I can get him back. These past months has been stressful and painful.

  147. ayya 26 March 2012 at 7:53 am Permalink

    Hi. My ex boyfriend has moved to australia. Before he left we were on good terms and were going to see how things went, we love eachother very much. We were together for 3 years and have. 2 year old daughter together. Once he had left, after a while I told him I wanted to be on my own (which was a lie) he was planning on coming home but I wanted him to make the most of his experience as he was only coming home because of me and our daughter. We are both heading to oz for a hol to see him soon (he’s paying for flights and a place for the 3 of us) the thing is I miss him, I want him to know I still love him and he’s the one I need in my life, I cnt get him out of my head. How do I put this across without sounding like a hag! I jus want him to know that I will wait for him till wenever he decides to come home. (The year we were apart was a lifetime, for both of us).. Could anyone help me and advice me wat to say.. Thank u in advance.

  148. Katie 27 March 2012 at 5:37 pm Permalink

    So ive know my ex for about a year and we have been dating on and off. I really want him back and I texted him something simple such as I’m sorry and I hope your doing well( I dumped him the recent time). He didn’t care at first but then texted back a couple days later saying he wants to stay in touch and to keep texting him. Im just afraid he won’t feel the same way about me or love me like I love him anymore. He tried contacting me before but I just either ignored him or told him to leave me alone, do I have a chance??

    • Kat 28 March 2012 at 9:36 am Permalink

      Reach out to him. Send a simple note saying hi, how are you and how are things? See if he responds. If he doesn’t respond, wait a week or two and try again. Try a few times. If he doesn’t respond AT ALL after several weeks and times of trying, at least you can say you tried.

  149. Unknown 27 March 2012 at 10:15 pm Permalink


    My boyfriend just stopped contacting me, for reasons I dont know. I tried calling him but he dont take my calls. It hurts alot. I cant sleep or eat. When I think about him and what is happening, all i do is cry.

    I was not initially ready for this realation, but as I spent time with him, I fell in love and now i miss him so much. I dont know what happened between us, I cant seem to understand. But I am gonna follow your no contact rule from now on. I pray it works.

    • Jessica 18 April 2012 at 10:27 pm Permalink

      I know how you feel.like a sick feeling that stops you from sleeping and eating, you got to really really block it out, just try your hardest to get to sleep, you need a routine, make yourself tierd and go to bed about 11-12 and then wake up 9? really early or something, and then make sure u dont have a nap between, so you will be tired later instead of sat up thinking and waiting for contact. I dont know what he is doing, have you tried talking to a mutual friend?

  150. Angel 28 March 2012 at 8:47 am Permalink

    My ex and i broke up a month and a half ago, i ignored him and no contact for a week, then he contacts me and i felt sorry for all the stuff he went through after our breakup, but i had been doing well on my own so i was all happy, after that phone call we’ve hung out a couple of times and he was flirting with me, but he says he doesnt know what he wants and that we could be friends leading to something else..so i went to his house late at night, we both got drunk had sex he told me he loved me during sex, then half way in stopped being loved and just fucked me…the next morning i wake up and some girl is texting him, and he says its just some girl from high school and everyone texts him now….and so i didn’t ask anymore about it, went to leave and he was in the shower and he changed in a different room and didn’t want me to see him naked, does that mean he regrets what we did? i kissed him on the cheek goodbye and thanked him for the night and left. Then i started acting like a girlfriend and i called him a lot and he stopped picking up and replying to texts…does this mean that he doesn’t want me back? and just wanted to have sex with me, but why is he saying he loves me and still doesn’t know what he wants?.. i just don’t know i feel so lost and hurt.

  151. kat 28 March 2012 at 3:58 pm Permalink

    Its been almost 3 1/2 months…I want him back but my bff is crushing on him.I’m afraid she gonna get mad at me….Ive spent the ladt10 mind crying over him.He thinks I cheated on him but I didn’t. He dumped me and just wont talk to me. I gonna ask him if we can get back together. AFTER I talk to my friend….

  152. Unknown 28 March 2012 at 6:36 pm Permalink


    My boyfriend just stopped contacting me, for reasons I dont know. I tried calling him but he dont take my calls. It hurts alot. I cant sleep or eat. When I think about him and what is happening, all i do is cry.

    I was not initially ready for this realationship, but as I spent time with him, I fell in love and now i miss him so much. I dont know what happened between us, I cant seem to understand.

    He called me 3 weeks ago at mid night, saying he was in town and he was drunk and with his cousin. So I knew where he was staying. so the next day, I went to confront him. I found him in his hotel room all alone and passed out. He appeared happy to see me and I spoke to him . he said that he loved and missed me. He begged me to stay the night, So when i got drunk, my emotions got the better of me and I ended up spending the night and we had sex. But he kept on saying that he was sorry and he loved me. Thereafter we spent the the next few days together, all seemed fine. He told me that he didnt know who to please. (his mother seems to control him)

    I told him dat he needed to please himself and know what he wants and his response was that he loves me but dont know what was going on. I thought it was werird. A man that loves me and the man who couldnt live with out me and the man who proposed to me on our second date. Just disappears from my life and dont want to talk to me.

    This really pushed me over the edge and stresses me out. But I am going to follow your no contact rule from now on and prays it works. I just love him so much.

  153. AA 28 March 2012 at 6:38 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend just stopped contacting me, for reasons I dont know. I tried calling him but he dont take my calls. It hurts alot. I cant sleep or eat. When I think about him and what is happening, all i do is cry.

    I was not initially ready for this realationship, but as I spent time with him, I fell in love and now i miss him so much. I dont know what happened between us, I cant seem to understand.

    He called me 3 weeks ago at mid night, saying he was in town and he was drunk and with his cousin. So I knew where he was staying. so the next day, I went to confront him. I found him in his hotel room all alone and passed out. He appeared happy to see me and I spoke to him . he said that he loved and missed me. He begged me to stay the night, So when i got drunk, my emotions got the better of me and I ended up spending the night and we had sex. But he kept on saying that he was sorry and he loved me. Thereafter we spent the the next few days together, all seemed fine. He told me that he didnt know who to please. (his mother seems to control him)

    I told him dat he needed to please himself and know what he wants and his response was that he loves me but dont know what was going on. I thought it was werird. A man that loves me and the man who couldnt live with out me and the man who proposed to me on our second date. Just disappears from my life and dont want to talk to me.

    This really pushed me over the edge and stresses me out. But I am going to follow your no contact rule from now on and prays it works. I just love him so much.

  154. allyssa 29 March 2012 at 10:32 am Permalink

    hi, my ex broke up with me like 4 months ago and we have had an on and off friendship lately and he now has a girlfriend but recently he contacted me wanting to be friends again and me like a lonely depressed girl said sure but idk what is the right move to do next. it seems as though leaving him alone to wonder how i am works but idk how to use that technique effectively to make a person who likes to fight with me completely curious. any suggestions?

    • Jessica 18 April 2012 at 10:24 pm Permalink

      he has a new girlfriend seems like he is trying to make you jealous, or move on. i dont think you should be friends with him, just dont text him to much, he might realise that this girl is not you.. and never will be. i dont know if this helps but if he texts you first maybe dont reply quickly, make it seem like your moving on. he probably wants to move on, but doesnt want you to..

  155. eve 30 March 2012 at 12:49 pm Permalink

    Same experience basically. he lived with me for about 3 months and one morning he left around 7 am at 5 pm he called to tell me he was headed to work. at 7pm he pulled into my driveway where my mom was sitting in the car. she noticed him talking on the phone and when he saw her he hung up. they started talking and she saw a hickie on his neck(not mine). i havent seen or heard from him since and that was 4 days ago. he ignores me when i call or txt and eventually turning off his phone when i call too much. he was/is my everything and this is killing me. even writing this is making me break down in tears i dont know what to do!

  156. unknown 31 March 2012 at 9:38 am Permalink

    me and my boyfriend split up quite a few times, he pressured me into an abortion last year and then left me to deal with it alone. a while later he turned up crying saying he couldnt live without me, so we got back together, i was then on the pill and ended up thinking i was pregnant again, late period and symptoms and possitive test. went for an untrasound and no baby, he promised me he wouldnt leave again if there wasnt a baby or if i had another abortion because he saw how it affected me last time, the day after the ultrasound he told me never to speak to him again because he is happy he wont be a dad and wants to live for himself and have nothing to do with me. im torn up about this whole thing and the baby on top of that i dont know what to do.

  157. onica 2 April 2012 at 11:10 pm Permalink

    yooh y is dis happening to us, i dated vincent for 4yerz my high school sweetheart, wat happened is i was at school while his at work so he met a gal at d mall and started going out wit her while im still in d picture, he never thot i wud want a job at d mall as i was so consatrating on my school work, i got a job at d mall now i culd see everyting, he lied 2me and said it was just a fling, i confronted d gal and told her everyting she understood so me and him continued very well untill sumtime we had a fight dan i guess he went back 2her though he confessd and told d gal he loves me coz in was angry i dumpd him though he still calls me and meet but he still dating dis chick but now i miss him and want him back i wud do anyting 2get him back fully coz he says his scared 2 dump dis gal as shes crazy she always threatns 2 kill her self if he dumps her, 1thing im sure of he still loves me , jut dnt knw how 2 get him back plzzzzz help a sister out

  158. Simpson 13 April 2012 at 8:41 pm Permalink

    Hey guys! Please help me!! Me and my ex bf broke up 3 month ago. We’re ended our 2 years relationship. But last month I’m texting him to ask him if there’s a chance for us to be back together? But he didn’t reply it until I said that i want to send him all his stuff that I still keep. Then he texted me back and said : why am I such an immature person, and can’t take the reality that our relationship was over. he said the only way to make me stop and realize that our relationship was over by doing some mean things to me. Oh gosh it hurts like hell! After that hurtful reality I get, I’m trying so hard to move on and start to apply no contact rules. But another problem occur, few days ago I’m checking his fb but then I knew that he already blocked my fb that evening. I’m so Pissed! I guess I don’t have any chance to get him back, by seeing his reaction to me. Help me! by this blocking issue made me over think about him again. Can somebody help me to get out from this situation?

    • Esha 14 April 2012 at 7:13 am Permalink

      Hi Simpson
      Yes life throws some really harsh surprises towards us! And it’s not easy sometimes to continue, u think the life has come to an end. I felt the same about 3months ago when my bf and I broke up.
      First of all stop all contact otherwise he will for sure put a restraining order against u! Second it’s not healthy to beg someone back, it will only make it worse cuz he knows u want him back! I know it’s hard but stop all contact with I mean everything! It’s good he blocked u on fb cuz u can move on! U move on go out with friends make sure u put on that smile when u go out, and have fun! The gossip will get back to him. And u never know …..u will have him back! Good Luck!

  159. Jessica 18 April 2012 at 10:22 pm Permalink

    I broke up with my boyfriend of 14 months, 2 months ago. We spoke alot. when i texted him i was kind of begging him just trying to make him see that we should get back, and he was getting persuaded, and then he changed his mind. He thought it wouldnt work, anyway he was being a bit off with me, i decided not to text him. He said if i was going to be like this dont speak to him. I didnt. then he got in contact afew days later to see how i was. Anyway when i dont text him, after about a week he gets in contact. i recieved a phone call and he said he loves me and he wants me back, and nect morning he said he meant it. and he called me beautiful and said he misses me. i was being really nasty to him, told him a lot of horrible things. Next minute i try to get him back and he says he dont want to get back with me. i say why did you say it then he says look i just dont wanna cant put it any simplier. i asked him to ring me if he wanted to talk. he texted me saying i wont ring u because im with my mate and wont be back till late. he then said i will ring u in week if u want but it wont change anything ive told you what i wanted. i keep saying to him, i know you want me, because if he didnt why would he keep changing his mind. I said to him i got one more thing to say, and i said about how life is to short and its a bit of fun, and we have the rest of our lifes to settle down, so nothing is stopping us trying again, and i said we can both have our own lifes instead of being together all the time, he text back saying Ooo fair enough, still dont really change anything though x but like, 3 days ago i said to him, do you love me? he said yes. i said did u mean what u said about wanting me back he said yes. i said do u love me or in love with me, he said both… So how can he not feel it now? Please help me, i need like some advice on what you think he is thinking and feeling? I need to know what to do. ive lost a lot at the moment, i dont know what i want, i want him to want me though… Please help x

  160. bri 26 April 2012 at 9:10 am Permalink

    me & my ex have been broken up for about 4years now, & have been back in contact for the last 6mos. we flirt all the time. since we’ve been back intouch he has dropped a few bombshells on me. he has told me that he wishes my daughter was his, & he seems kinda upset that i didnt wait for him. im just trying to unsderstand what he is really trying to tell me.

  161. Jette 2 May 2012 at 4:27 pm Permalink

    My ex, Karl and I broke up a little over 2 years ago, and we’ve had contact ever since. After the break up, we ended up becoming best friends. He got a girlfriend about 6 months later, and they lasted for a while, but during that time, we stayed best friends until 6 months into their relationship, he was showing signs (i don’t know if they’re signs or just mind games anymore) that he still liked me cause he would kiss me and hug me when we were at school (his girlfriend at the time wasn’t in our school). Anyways, i told him that i still liked him just to get it off my chest, and he responded positively at first, then wanted to stop being friends a little while after, and he blamed me for his break up with his girlfriend at the time (they got back together though, but broke up a few months later). After they broke up, we started talking again, and I’m sure I was just being a rebound, but afterwards, we just started talking normally like we used to as best friends, and have just been friends ever since… well more than friends actually – we’re what you call “friends with benefits”. We have times when we just stop talking to each other though because we argued, but we admitted to each other that we feel “intertwined” in a way that no matter where life took us, we’d always be intertwined with each other’s lives. Now, it’s not as if I didn’t try to get over him either. I got a boyfriend (his name was JP) around the same time he got his girlfriend (the one i was talking about earlier), but he was sort of a rebound, but we lasted almost 6 months, but broke things off cause i wasn’t over Karl, and i knew if i prolonged it any further, it’ll just hurt JP even more. After that, I just swore off dating for a while because I wasn’t over Karl, and just turned my life around – I became happier with my family and friends, concerned myself more with my appearance, focused on my studies, everything, and at times, when Karl and I would just have our urges, we’d go hang out and yeah. Life was going pretty great and then last February, i got myself a boyfriend again, his name was Kevin, and it was going great actually. It made me realize that it’s still possible for me to fall in love all over again, and I even stopped my relationship of being “friends with benefits” with Karl, but it ended about a month and a half later because I was having some serious trust issues that came from the break up with Karl, and I just didn’t want him to get hurt because I couldn’t learn to trust yet. So, during the time Kevin and I were dating, Karl seemed a little more clear with his feelings. Okay, so Karl and I are very close friends, not the best of friends, but close enough to talk to each other about problems. And during the few days I was contemplating on breaking up with Kevin, he was just the sweetest guy. I was joking around about not wanting to become a bride anymore because there won’t be a guy out there who can possibly just deal with all my problems and issues, then he confessed to me that he actually wanted to marry me. And after my breakup with Kevin, I was distressed cause Kevin kept harassing me with emails and stuff, and Karl just stayed there and helped me through it, and was just trying to cheer me up as much as he could. Then things were fine after a while, and I started getting over Kevin. During that time, Karl would be asking when I’m free and stuff, and wanted to hang out. So we hung out, and it felt so “perfect.” We hung out at his place, in his room, but he slept in so I had to wake him up, and I was kissing his cheek and hugging him and telling him to wake up, and he just smiled at me when he woke up. So, I brought my math homework so he could help me out, but he would interrupt from time to time and just kiss me and hug me, and just kind of act like we’re a couple. We were back in our “friends with benefits” relationship, and one of the “benefits” is that when it’s just us two, we just kiss and hug and say sweet words to each other. We never bring up the past when we hang out, but we do from time to time when we talk on IM and just reminisce about when we dated, like he would say, “we were so in love…” and “you really were the best” (<–I think he likes this girl at the moment, but things aren't going well, and he cried to me one night cause he wished someone else had his heart, then i was comforting him, and he said that). I don't want to get in over my head that he still loves me, and I just want someone to tell me if I should just take a shot at it again. Take into consideration that he could be liking someone else at the moment, but I'm not too sure since he doesn't talk to me about it except for that time when i was comforting him, but a friend of mine sort of mentioned (more of asked) about him liking another girl. So, yeah, I hope someone can just tell me if I should go for it again, if there's a chance, and how I should get around to it.

  162. April 5 May 2012 at 7:52 am Permalink

    My ex and I were together for 16 months. I loved him, and still do, with all of my heart. He’s my everything and my whole world. I miss him so much. We’ve been talking about getting back together but we aren’t yet. It’s been 6 months since we’ve broke up, and 1 month since I broke up with my rebound guy. He says he’s upset because I got together with another guy, but he goes and hangs out with a lot of friends of his that are girls. I know he loves me and misses me, but I’m so confused. I feel like I’m getting mixed signals here. Please help me. Thanks.

    • Ashley Kay 5 May 2012 at 6:59 pm Permalink

      There’s a great chance that your ex’s ego is hurt and he might give you a hard time about the reconciliation. I suggest you talk to him about how you regret having the rebound and that if he still wants time to to think about really getting back together you’ll give him the space he needs to process his thoughts. Then go to NC (no contact). This way your ex will know that you won’t chase after him just because you hurt him with your rebound guy. The thing is if he is really sure about reconciliation he should understand why the rebound happen and it is not entirely different to him hanging out with a bunch of girls.

  163. Just broke up 6 May 2012 at 2:33 am Permalink

    I have been doing no contact for weeks now, and I’m wondering if I should close my facebook account completely so my ex does not have a way to see my current status. I was worried that me posting my status and him knowing it may fall into some kind of a contact range? Since he knows what i’m up to almost everyday? Maybe closing my account will help him to miss me more when he has no way of knowing how i am doing? Please advise.

    • NICOLA 8 May 2012 at 12:14 am Permalink

      Hey there Just Broke up, I decided to reply and hopes this helps.

      Firstly why should you close your facebook account over him, his gonna think that your world revolves around him, seriously. if he hasn’t come back to you carry on as normal, you could try not posting anything for a week and then he might think you doing something better and that you just to busy with something else to post anything. once he see’s that you still on facebook but not posting he might start to wonder, what exactly is keeping you busy, if its someone new in your life? that way you have planted the seed.

      if he starts a conversation wait a day before replying and then when you do just act casual and keep it short and simple like sorry been super busy, how are you? hope all is well.

      if he doesn’t it just means he wasn’t interested.
      always remember it takes guys longer to miss a girl, when they the ones that broke up! so give him his space and stay cool!

      Good Luck

      • Just broke up 8 May 2012 at 7:38 am Permalink

        Thanks for your comment, Nicola. You are right. That makes sense.

        Reading and hearing from the other people, it all makes sense to me up in the head, but I guess it’s still hard for me to just wait when I just don’t know how long it will take or to even know if this waiting period has an end to it. I know for sure that he is going to regret later on and miss me much more than I do now, but he has too much pride that I don’t think he is going to do anything about it then, too. That is my biggest worry at this time.

        • NICOLA 8 May 2012 at 5:26 pm Permalink

          Of course hearing these things makes sense because they looking from the outside, but we will always choose to believe what we want because we think that they don’t really understand how we feel, because it really hurts and we desperate. but now is the time to pull yourself to think clearly, because if you do what is expected it will be obvious and you will look desperate and guys hate that no matter who they are ! my sweety all you can do is wait, you have nothing more to loose, don’t give up! i will give you a few words and things to make it a little easier, I really want to help! if he regrets it he will come back just don’t push it. Pride doesn’t matter he will come back if he regrets it and see’s he can.

          Ok so I did some research, because I really care, because i have been in the same position except mine ended badly and when he wanted to get back together, i found out that he slept with someone else and she got pregnant and his just had his baby with her and he threw me away! Anyway it’s been a year and I have realized what I have done wrong so I can help you. Because there is nothing worse than a broken heart.
          To begin with, let me state it clearly, that the best approach is to give your man the necessary time and space to grasp the new situation. Always keep in mind, that regardless of who broke up the first, your ex-boyfriend, needs to spend some time alone in order for him to seize his new life, and see the real reasons behind the breakup. Do not force him to show up or call you, if you do so, you are only pushing him to reject you forever.
          Sooner or later, your ex will get over the breakup. At this stage, you can approach him to mend the relationship. It is at this stage; you should pick the right way to get your ex to love you again
          starting things slowly; you first work to only be a friend again with your ex; and from then plan on making him fall in love with you again. As soon as you see that your ex has taken to you, give him much interest than before and let him know that you are interested in mending the broken relationship.
          And I know you probably thinking hey I don’t wanna be friends with him, but it’s just to get your foot in the door again and it’s better than nothing!

          • Sigh 9 May 2012 at 12:05 am Permalink

            Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. It sincerely shows that you care and want to help. How long should I expect him to spend time on his own and get over the breakup? Let’s say, how long did it take your ex in your case?
            I definitely got over my breakup, and I am getting my things done, staying busy, spending time with my family and friends. All that is good. But for those moments when the thoughts do come back to me often, I guess it really kills me to think about what he has said to me last that everything is completely over and that he wants me to move on. Waiting is so hard when I don’t have faith in him coming back. You know what I mean. =/

          • NICOLA 9 May 2012 at 12:28 am Permalink

            Hi there , well give it a month and then if he doesn’t contact you, move on sweety thats the best you can do at this point, my ex was a retard i was just so blind to see it i mean he cheated on me all the time plus i worked with him and if you read the posts from last year you will see me asking for help if only I knew what he really was. and i still work with him and i have to hear the office talk about his baby. so i know how you feel been through it all. all at the age of 23. so give it time and keep busy with friends and family, do something exciting! build yourself so the next time you see each other he will think he was a fool for even leaving you!

  164. Noodle 6 May 2012 at 10:50 am Permalink

    So i had a boyfriend and i like him so so much but it got weird because when we were alone he was nice and sweet but when i saw him at school we never talked so we decided to broke up then the next day he invited me out and he was really nice and it was like if we were in a relationship like for a month but he was cold and he didnt show his feelinqs that much but then one day we just stop talkinq and we havent talk since that day its like if we just broke up i dont know what to do i need help

    • NICOLA 8 May 2012 at 12:01 am Permalink

      Good Afternoon Noodle, firstly he couldn’t show public affection or show you that he was interested, which I think is utter crap. If A GUY REALLY LIKES YOU THAT SHOULDN’T BE A PROBLEM weather his a shy guy or not he would have had his way of showing it. The truth is his not interested anymore. if it was so easy for him to cut off contact, I suggest you do the same! If you choose to run after him his probably gonna get annoyed and think you the clingy type and treat you worse but ignoring the hole thing and pretending like it doesn’t bother you, he will see you as a strong person and wonder how you could let go so easily, that way you give him the impression that you mature and you think you better and have better things in your life! and ten he will chase after you! butfor now play it cool and go with the flow! I know its not easy but think how it will pay off, and if he doesn’t come back then seriously he was never interested! anyway Good Luck on what ever you decide to do

  165. Brittany 10 May 2012 at 9:20 am Permalink

    My boyfriend just left me a week ago today. We broke up before in December and got back together exactly two months later. Before I literally called him and texted him every 5 seconds. I’d constantly ask him to hang out and would always beg for him back. This time around.. I’ve learned from before. I’ve hardly texted him, haven’t called him, and I only asked him to talk once. We were together for almost a year and a half before this current break up if you don’t count the last one. Before we met I dated quite a few people and he hadn’t. I was his first serious girlfriend. I knew that he cared though. He’d bring up marriage a lot to be honest. When we talked a few days ago he said he is still in love with me but he needs to “play the field” to see if I’m what he wants or not. He’s been hanging out with this girl recently and I heard him say how he wanted to kiss her and all this stuff. He did say to me though that even if they dated it wouldn’t be long.. mainly because she’s a virgin. I know that makes him sound like a pig but he’s actually a great guy, very family oriented. I’m truly in love with him and he knows I’ve been seeing a counselor every other day and I’m going to be tested to see if I’m bipolar. He knew I always thought I was and my mood swings were a huge reason why we fought. I don’t have any money so I can’t buy the recovery system.. but I was wondering what I could do.. graduation is soon and I’m just kind of scared that he’ll disappear. I wouldn’t see him much this summer anyways.. I’m so scared of him moving on. I’ve been giving him more space than I did before and he even said he could really tell. I want him back so bad.. I just found out about this website today. Help? ): this has been extremely hard since I see him every day and I’ve been trying to focus on graduation coming up but it’s hard when we have a lot of classes together too. I don’t know what to do at this point I get so nervous that I puke ): I have nightmares each night..

    • NICOLA 10 May 2012 at 9:48 pm Permalink

      Hi Brittany,Ok so I understand take this as a good thing every time you doubt he still cares remember he said he still loves you, so focus on the positive forget the negative, stay cool and calm and be yourself no funny business like trying to get his attention.and if his hanging out with this new girl pretend it doesn’t bother you, you dont wanna come off as jealous or clingy. by being your own awesome self you will radiate and seem more appealing. then no one will be able to compete, try and be the girl he first fell in love with. and if he doesn’t come back , he never loved you and then you need to move on. good luck

  166. Joey 17 May 2012 at 10:14 pm Permalink


    Just broken up with my boyfriend a week ago. He is e one who initiated e break up after a quarrel. It was my fault, I threw into a tantrum. Nevertheless i apologized yet within a week of the quarrel, he initiated e breakup citing we not compatible.

    I stopped contact him for a week, till yesterday. Usual habit, I texted him of the rain and asked Jim to drive careful. He did replied with just noted and thanks. Then mentioned something about the massive traffic jam. But I did not reply & just deleted the whole conversation. This morning rained again. I had difficulty to go office, hence I texted him whether ok to get a lift from him. He did text back ok for e litf. During the journey, I tried to keep the conversation light and mostly talked about work. Afterwards, I texted him a thank you and appreciated for the lift. He just replied ok. Again, I just deleted the whole conversation and no reply back.

    Thinking what is in his mind at this moment? Do we still stand a chance to be back?

  167. kates 7 June 2012 at 2:18 am Permalink

    hi so people seem to be very helpful so heres my story:
    So my boyfriend and I had been dating for a little over a year and a half. We “broke up” two weeks ago because he had a concussion in march and since then we’d been having a lot of problems and fighting a lot we weren’t speaking for 5 out of 6 weeks because he “needed time”. He would overreact over tiny little things that would become huge problems for us. Bur the main thing was that his sister was attacking me because i wasn’t comfortable with him going to the junior prom with her friend. He told me he didn’t want to go and wasn’t comfortable about it either. He’s a senior and wouldn’t know anyone (I’m a freshmen in college but we’re very close to each other distance wise) In the end after we broke up his parents made him go because they felt bad for the girl. His family is really involved in his life and our relationship as well!

    The doctor and his parents we’re telling him to not make any rash and permanent decisions while he goes through therapy and everything. His mom lets me know how he’s doing and she says he seems happier and she said he said he hasnt and doesnt want to hook up with anyone else. He found out we were talking though (something that really used to bother him, and even started the fight that broke us up) and when he saw I was calling, he smiled and even tred to pick up and say hi to me. But anyways he wants to talk at the end of June because he hopes he will want to fix things because right now our relationship is a “crumpled ball of paper that can’t be fixed” but he doesn’t know if it’s the concussion speaking or not. He says there’s a part of him that wants to be with me and part of him that thinks he shouldn’t. He hopes he will want to fix things and try again but he can’t make any promises. He said he still loves and he even said when we said goodbye and everything. He just gave me so much hope and so much to believe in that we will end up back together. We even had break up sex (cause im a dumb ho) and he said it like made him want to be with me at that moment. And that like even being around me made him almost change his mind and that he can’t stay mad at me when I’m there.

    My issue is just not knowing what to do with myself right now. I don’t know if I should still have hope for him and us but at the same time I don’t want to get my feelings hurt. I don’t know what to do or what to really prepare myself for when we go to talk. We agreed to not talk for the time being I was thinking about sending him a text just to say hi and that I’m still here and just kind of remind him that I’m here. The smiling when I called and other things like that make me really want to have hope and really want to be with him but I don’t want to get hurt again. He was sincere when he said he wanted to try and fix things or well at least hope he will want to try and fix things. I really don’t think he’s playing games with me and I know his feelings for me aren’t gone, he cried when we said goodbye, he said i love you as well. Its hard I just want to be happy with him and I’m trying to work on myself too, but it’s hard and I really miss him in a big way!

    People are telling me a lot of different things but I want some non-biased opinions and some help please! I’d really appreciate any advice you could give me!

  168. ERK 8 June 2012 at 1:50 am Permalink

    I’m 26 and my ex broke up with me around 3 years ago. We tried to be friends after, but I couldn’t handle it, so I cut him completely out of my life. He started dating someone new and they recently broke up. He friended me on Facebook yesterday and I want to reach back out to him. He is the only guy I’ve ever loved and I’m not even sure if he feels the same way. What should I do?

  169. Ally 18 October 2012 at 10:24 am Permalink

    Hi. I am 15 and went through a very strange break-up. My ex and me loved each other very much. We would hang out rarely due to his schedule because of work and him loving to hang with his friends, but then things took a turn for the worse. My mother asked me to ask him (because she was worried that he wasn’t good enough for me because he rarely saw me and was always busy, but I never minded it) “Do you think the relationship is worth it?” and it all went to hell. After 4 months……the best 4 months of my life…….went down the drain within 5 minuets. I bawled and was hysterical. I didn’t know what to do with myself. I was desperate to talk to him, but it drove him away obviously. I have seen “signs” that he likes me, but I’m not sure if they are right or not. What I have witnessed was:
    ~He still talks to me at lunch. I always go to see my friend Sara and he will talk to me and laugh and joke with me.
    ~He gives me eye-to-eye contact. When we are conversing, he will look me DIRECTLY in the eyes.
    ~When my friend, Ozzy, was being slightly hands on, (putting his arm around me, ect.) he got a slightly stern look and told him to Knock it off.
    ~When Ozzy told him that he apparently took my “V-card”, when I asked Ozzy what he said, my ex called me over and told me, as if to want to know if he actually DID.
    ~He is acting like he did when he told me he liked me. Although he acts like this towards his friends, he acted like this towards me all the time before he admitted he loved me.
    I am wanting to get back with him immensely, I just don’t know what to do. I’ve looked up as much as I can, and I want to ask him, but I’m too scared to ruin the friendship or get rejected because he wants to pass school. Like I said, I wouldn’t mind his schedule, I just don’t want to mess it up. Can anyone help me out with this?

  170. Jane 14 November 2012 at 10:17 pm Permalink

    Hi. I have this guy with me for 9 months. He really loves me with all his heart, effort and hardwork.. I took it for granted, I didn’t let him go out with his friends, so his life revolves around me for 9months. I broke up with him because he asked me if he can go out with his friends. I said “no”. He insisted. I got mad and told him that “This is over! I don’t wanna see your fucking face anymore!” Prior to that, He promised me that he’ll be fetching me to work. I don’t wanna let him to be with his friends that night because he kept me a promise. I immediatey turned off my phone and changed my number for a couple of days. He wasn’t able to contact me.
    After that, I was totally depressed and totally missed him. I inserted my old sim again and tried to get in touch with him. I failed. He told me that it’s all over. He doesn’t want me anymore, he insisted. He also said that it hurts him so much.. He followed all my do’s and dont’s for 9 months, he felt like he’s my dog.
    I felt guilty.. I love him so much.. :( I want him back! i chased him! but it doesn’t work.. I’ve waited for him outside his out from 9pm til 2am. I’ve got nothing.. :(((

    I wanna blame myself from being so selfish and immatured. :( I’ve lost the most important guy in my life.. If i cud turned back time. it’s killing me.. waking up everyday without txt/call from him. I want his comfort, his care, and most especially his love.. :( I’ve been so rude.. I’ve been so close minded.. Now, I’m pathetically chasing him.. I don’t know what to do now.. It’s been 3 weeks ago since we broke up.. :'( I can’t live without him..

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  173. Lisa 3 May 2013 at 8:09 am Permalink

    My Name is Mrs Lisa, I was married to my husband for 14years and we were both bless with two children, living together as one love, until 2012 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 9 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave him the job. since that day, when i called him, he don’t longer pick up my calls and nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the new girl friend till Dr Igbodo cast a spell for me,now is with me and me only.And i am happy with my family

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  175. Mae 20 June 2013 at 12:37 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I broke up last May 9, 2013 it was just a mistake I broke up with him I did not mean it, it was just a words. I love him so much. The next day I went to his place to take him back but he refused he wants me to be out of his place. Then May 15 he left for a month vacation. I have not text him while he is in vacation. he came back last June 12, I called him we talked about his vacation we fine. The next day I text him if we can talked but he don’t want to. We been together for two years. He said that I killed the love that he has for me. He also said we can be friends but he needs time to heal. I love him and I want him back. Now I’m on 5 day of no contact with him. I don’t know what to do now. My question is, it is possible for a man to just walked away to a relationship after two years? why suddenly he doesn’t love me anymore. During the two years we were okay we had small fights but that’s it.

  176. marisa 28 May 2014 at 2:04 pm Permalink

    ok so there is this boy I used to date long story but I went to be a car rider cause I got kicked off the bus and I went to it with my friend and there he was on crutches and the next day my friend handed me a note he said “are we dating do u want to go out” I asked my other friend she said yea so I took her advice and after that a day later he acted to immature so I broke up with him he called me drwelling y I said people say u wanna break up and u ac immature he said no and sorry he has adhd and I felt bad and told him to be good and stop getting in trouble he fnally stoped then that’s when I took a move and broke up with him and a year later (this year) he really changed I want him back I am really sorry bout it and he talked to me for a day like we were friends now he wont and he is dating my cousins friend whitch I don’t like that much and I need some advice to get him back as soon as you can thank you!!

  177. marisa 28 May 2014 at 2:08 pm Permalink

    also one more thing he picks on me only around his friends and his friends is always aound so I never get a chance to talk to im alone unless I call or text but he never answers un less I say I have a question and he will reply what thanks agian

  178. kim 8 January 2016 at 2:14 am Permalink

    I have a question about my breakup

    my boyfriend and I broke up 3months ago

    the reason of this break up was

    1 he might go to military soon
    2.I need to study
    3.he is going to be busy with work
    but after we talked about this he told me
    “if you and I stay the same after I come back from military do you want to get back together?”

    and Im like thinking what the heck? then what is the point of this breakup?

    if anyone knows what my real reason of the breakup is please please tell me!!!! I feel messed up :(

    • Ashley Kay 29 February 2016 at 11:49 am Permalink

      Sounds like he just wants a security net to fall back on in case he doesn’t meet anyone else. If he was really into you, he would stay with you no matter what.

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