So you want to get your ex back and make things right this time around. You know you have it in you and this relationship is worth fighting for. Whether your ex gave you some lame excuse or flat out said they found someone younger and cuter to take your place, just follow these 10 Steps to Winning Your Ex Back… and you really CAN get your ex back… You just believe you can!
WARNING: This article is a bit tongue-in-cheek, but the underlining message/strategy DOES (and has been proven to) work!
How To Get Your Ex Back In 10 Steps Or Less
Step#1 “Tell Them One Last Time”
Before taking the advice commonly passed around and cut off all forms of communication, tell your girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband one last time you truly want this relationship to work. Your last plea or argument is the final case you make to win your ex back.
Your last talk with them MUST consist of:
Preparation: you wouldn’t show up to a job interview with a dirty t-shirt and sweat pants and you also wouldn’t try to get your ex back without at least some idea of what you’re going to say.
Treat your last talk with your ex like a job interview. You’ve got one shot and one shot only at this. Make it impressionable and make it good.
(TIP: NO CRYING, BEGGING, PLEAING, DESPARATE ACTS OF LOVE)
Step #2 “When the Curtain Closes, The Shows Over”
There’s nothing like magic and right now, you’re going to pull out some magic tricks of your own. It’s time to vanish into thin air never to be heard or seen again by your ex.
Just Kidding.
You’re only going to disappear temporarily, and by this I mean limiting contact with your ex.
How long should you wait? Roughly one month but that’s a rough rough estimate. For a more detailed answer, check out some of these proven systems.
Step #3 Say No To No Contact
There’s plenty of No Contact enthusiasts and I’m not bashing the method. On the contrary, that’s what Step #2 is referring to. This method of No Contact is the new and improved… what I mean is once you start limiting contact from your loved one, don’t just cower away into a corner and cry yourself into an alcoholic depression. This is the time to rediscover yourself, your likes, dislikes, your hobbies, your passions! Find fulfilling activities to take up your day and remember your life goals again.
Keep living and progressing! The truth is, ANY progress is good at this point in your life and this will give you the motivation and drive to resist getting depressed, negative and just nasty in general.
These are the things that should make you motivated and feeling good in the morning. Even if you’re feeling crap and missing your ex terribly, thinking of your personal development goals and where you want to be in 10 years should be an uplifting and motivating thing!
Step #4 “Do Something For Someone Else”
You know what makes everyone feel good? It’s when you do something purely for someone else.
Give back to your community. Give a friend a gift or better yet MAKE them a gift. Send a card to your long distance relatives. Think of something that’s outside of your own problems and yourself. You will feel better and you’ll also make someone else feel good too.
Step #5 “The Nagging Ex”
You might find that some Exes just won’t go away no matter how hard you try. If you’re handling no contact well you just might find them calling you up and telling you they miss you. GOOD SIGN!
However, don’t get too excited just yet, this could just mean they’re trying to keep you around as the emergency back up. If they’re calling to want to be friends, be cautious about doing so. This could have double meanings.
To play it safe, act nice and polite, but keep your conversations brief.
Step #6 “The Yo-Yo Ex”
One minute it’s “I love you and miss you”, the next it’s “Please just leave me alone.” In other words, they can’t seem to decide what kind of relationship they want from you. Acting warm and cold is the game of choice by immature and confused exes. Be strong and don’t accept it unless they give you a definite answer they want to get back together.
Step #7 “The Silent Ex”
You don’t hear a peak from your ex after 21 days or perhaps even 80 days. Some Exes remain annoyingly dormant until you do something to shake them awake. It’s ok, it doesn’t mean they’ve forgotten about you or they suddenly got married to another guy on the internet.
A silent ex means:
a). They’ve moved on and they want you to move on too.
b). They’re still not over the break up and want to punish you.
Either way, it’s time to re-appear back in their life and see how they react to the new and improved you.
Step #8 “Reappearing Magic Trick!”
The magic trick never gets old. It’s time to combine all your best qualities into one awesome package and come out with the big guns.
The key is NOT to overwhelm them with this new you and rub it in their faces. It’s time to play Mr or Mrs Mysterious Ex and see if they take the bait. Anyone with eyes and ears will not be able to resist when curiosity bites so make them curious about your new life and the new improved you.
Let them chase you and it doesn’t hurt to suggest you might be out of their league now.
Step #9 “Reunion?”
If your ex wants to get back together, before you start celebrating too soon, have a nice good look at yourself and then have a nice good look at them. How does your life compare to theirs now? Does your value and goals line up? Is there even someone else that might fit into their role better?
Who knows you might end up dumping them if you make a haste decision at this point.
Step #10 “Congratulations Your Ex Wants To Get Back Together!… But…”
Winning your ex back might seem like the best and only option for you at this stage but things change. People change and YOU change. Never-the-less winning them back might be a sign that perhaps you never really lost them after all.
Relationships that fail often develop this habit of breaking up and making up. If you’re smart though and really listen and learn from your mistakes, you can both come out stronger and happier individuals.
Having a plan to get your ex back is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing because you could easily be lead off track… or into the dreaded “friendzone” for life.
Thankfully, there IS a solution…
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This is some GREAT advice.
I think Tip 2 is probably the most important. You need to just disappear for a while after the breakup. This will let your ex emotions cool down so it’s easy to get them back.
Thanks for sharing : )
Its been 7 months that i left my house. I have two children and signed divorce paper one month ago. How do i get my wife back? how do I visit my children without feeling so hurt after i leave? I need a game plan to get me through this, please help. It has been the hardest thing ive ever had to do.
I will let you know what happens weather if we get back together or not.
Soooo I need some help and any advice would be reAlly appreciated. My ex and I broke up 1 month ago and I’m the one who broke up with him because he had been disrespecting me allot and I couldn’t take it anymore so I felt like if I broke up with him then he would change but 2 weeks roles around and we’re still not together. wait I have to mention that after we broke up 2 days later he balled his eyes out to me telling me he changed and he was sorry and I pittied him for the moment but I didn’t take him back because I needed to actually see change. He also told me that we were meant to be and that he wants to marry me on day and all kinds if stuff like that… so then 3 weeks later and me still not wanting to be back with him, I find out he has a new gf. I flipped out and went psycho on him and wanted to beat his butt and the new gf’s but I didn’t but I still said allot of hurtful things. After that my ex stopped calling texting and asking for me back. last week I started textig and calling him allot because I want him back now. But he won’t give in. After crying my eyes out and asking for him back in person he completely shut me down and seemed bitter because I had gone out on 2 dates with a co worker. He said he still loved me but we were no longer meant to be. I’m going crazy without him and I “harass” him by texting and calling him everyday even when he doesn’t respond. Ive sent him a handful of emotional text messages and I’m completely going insane. I don’t understand how someone who you’ve been bestfriends with for 3 years and in a relationship for nearly 2 years could get over me that quickly. I love this guy. I believe we’re meant to be. He told me he still loved me but we were no longer meant to be together and that he’s “having fun being single.” the hard part is that we go to the same college and he’s in one of my lecture classes. I ran into him 2 days ago and I said hello and he smirked and then eventually smiled at me (that cute flirty smile) and then I said bye and ran off. is there still hope or is this a lost cause? I know I should be ignoring him but it seems so hard. I’m completely baffled as to how he seemed to get over me so quick when I’m constantly going insane and crying and a total mess. I usually know the rules on how to make him chase me but with this guy, all rules go out the window… thats how i know we’re meant to be. someone help.
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Hey Karey
I’m going through a break up now myself…2 months. Email me what happen and i can maybe give you an inside look what a guy really means. And I can send what happen to me and maybe you can help too.
What cha think??
keep your head up. =)
sure whats ur email?