21 September 2011 ~ 18 Comments

How to Escalate Attraction With Your Ex When In Limited Contact

18 Responses to “How to Escalate Attraction With Your Ex When In Limited Contact”

  1. nasiruddin chowdhury 15 October 2011 at 11:17 am Permalink

    this ps important for me

  2. bikha timung 16 October 2011 at 1:00 pm Permalink

    we love other very much.she love as i love her and that too she reveal when we separate…and she cry alot on that night. and said she felt sorry for leaving me alone.the main reason is that her elder sister are allowed the relation.they dont the relationship going on with me..si plz hlp.

  3. bikha timung 16 October 2011 at 1:05 pm Permalink

    we each other very much.she said she felt sorry for leaving me alone but her elder sister are not allowed about the relationship.so, she left me alone.i knpw she still love me.she will come back when her sister will agreed.

    • Ashley Kay 17 October 2011 at 9:27 am Permalink

      That’s odd. Why would she need to seek her elder sister’s approval to be with you? If that’s the case, befriend her elder sister.

  4. bikha timung 16 October 2011 at 1:16 pm Permalink

    i need her back in my life as we love each other very much.i need her by my side.i want to she her face smiling all the time.i am very hurt.i cnt sleep, eat , concentrate my study.i only dreaming about her..so plz help

    • Ashley Kay 17 October 2011 at 9:26 am Permalink

      I suggest strict NC and get your life and your emotions back in order right now.

      • Kristi 8 February 2012 at 4:27 am Permalink

        Ashley KAY , You ‘re awesome!!!! lol. “right now ! “

  5. bikha timung 17 October 2011 at 3:03 pm Permalink

    her elder sister hate me.i dnt know what i did wrong.will i be able to convice my gf.i m very worried and affaired.if she might get new bf.will she remember the fond memories that we share together.plz help i am very hurt.

    • Axle 23 October 2011 at 4:04 pm Permalink

      Dude man , nothing is guaranteed in here, obviously you searched this too which means your desperate to get this girl back… Its either ou do or you dont. I dont see why itd be your fault anyway, but this big sister thing sounded like an excuse..go out with your mates, have fun and say hi to girls…. Always help

  6. Axle 23 October 2011 at 3:59 pm Permalink

    I am in love with this girl… But i have been put into this beta- man structure. At the same time, i feel helpless. We had a good run, but after finland, she had decided to end things up. And she basically tried to come up with every reason possible… At the end she just said, you and me isnt right…. Wht do u think i should do

  7. Jessica 23 November 2011 at 8:14 am Permalink

    My boyfriend, Matt, moved to Korea to teach English at Daegu Elementary School in mid-August. He was there for about two months and decided that he “could not reciprocate” his feelings for me. We were together for three years and we had extensive talks about him going to Korea. At first, I was very against it because my boyfriend would be moving away to the other side of the world. He started talking about these plans a year ago, and all I could do was cry. I couldn’t figure out any other emotion other sadness the man I love wouldn’t just be a phone call away. I was so proud Matt got into the program to teach and was doing what he wanted, even though he was all the way across the world. But before he left he said “if we survive Korea, we would get engaged.” Every girl wants to know that there is a man for her. Matt knew everything about me, and now he’s broken up with me I feel lost. I know having a boyfriend doesn’t define me, but a three year relationship with talks about how we would raise our children, where we would live, and what types of plans we had out future does kind of take a toll on you when all of a sudden your partner doesn’t want you.

    He broke up with me on October 15, eleven days before out anniversary. I was so mad at him he never told me anything about how he was feeling. I always told him my insecurities about girls hitting on him and him possibly leaving me for another girl. I have been cheated on before, so I do occasionally need reassurance that it won’t happen. I started needing that reassurance when he went to Korea. I knew there was something going on before he broke up with me, but I didn’t know it was his feelings for me. In the beginning of our relationship, if I got upset with our relationship I either wouldn’t talk to him or I’d threaten to break up with him. I learned to talk about how I feel with him. I was so upset he never told me anything. Anything about his insecurities or his feelings at all. A week before he broke up with me, he went on a camping trip and got sick. Then he was very irritated by his co workers not relaying messages to him such as when the superintendent would be coming in to check up on the school. I thought he was in his mood because of that. A week after he dumped me, I asked him if we could chat, which we did. He said he still wants to be friendly so last week I emailed him. He emailed me back and I responded, but I haven’t gotten anything since. He is the type of guy who “wants his space, but also wants to feel inseparable-ness.” His words not mine. I knew from the beginning of our relationship, distance is a problem for him in a relationship. Maybe it’s because of the life I’ve led, but I don’t want to be alone when I’m upset, I don’t feel like I need a lot of space. But Matt is 2000 miles away from me. How much more space can I give him?

    Every time I see him on gchat, I just want to message him I love him and I miss him. I literally go to bed and wake up thinking about him. I have my emails forwarded to my phone, so every time I get a text in the middle of the night, I’m scrambling and hoping it’s Matt. I am trying to figure out how I will further my education, so it’s not like I’m sitting at home wallowing in my tears. Unfortunately, everything I do to try to better myself seems to just backfire. I tried to go to therapy because my friend was worried about me and in her nursing opinion she thought I had a chemically imbalanced. I took all the necessary precautions to not have a paper trail so my parents wouldn’t find out I went to therapy, but the insurance company still sent something in the mail. My very strict Asian parents look down on therapy as a sign of weakness. I long to talk to my parents to get comfort from my mom, but my mom puts down others to try to make me feel better, and that doesn’t help me at all. Matt was the only who’s wanted to be with me for me. The four boys I took interest in before Matt all had a wife, a fiance, or a girlfriend they decided not to tell me about. Matt stuck by me when one wife was threatening me a subpoena. Being with him and his family made me feel normal and people wanted me.

    I just want him back and for him to know how much I miss him and love him. What do I do? If I could go to Korea, I would’ve been doing it already, but this plan is not tangible in my current situation. I don’t want our three year relationship to just go down the drain. I just don’t believe that there is a switch in a person to turn off their love for someone.

    Any advice for my situation would be greatly appreciated,


  8. Shari 2 January 2012 at 8:47 am Permalink

    I’ve known this guy for almost 3 years now…and, perhaps foolishly, when I knew he loved me, I started dating someone else because I told him I didn’t want to do a long distance relationship. We didn’t talk for a couple weeks. Then, when we did start talking again, he told me that he was dating another girl. This obviously made me doubt my decision and we decided to see each other right away. We met and had the time of our lives, and eventually broke from our respective relationships. We called and talked every day. Eventually, we moved to the same town for school, but I resisted jumping into a relationship because I was still afraid of being hurt, and also because I was still having a hard time letting go of my ex. I wanted to take things slowly.
    He eventually said that he had started talking to his ex again and wanted to go meet her (this was actually going to be the first time they met) but said that he saw her only as a friend and that nothing was going to happen. Low and behold he returns, and says that he hooked up with her. In the coming month or 2, we still grew closer and closer (we saw each other every day) and really ACTED like we were dating (I said that I would date him), despite the fact that he told me was going to get back with her most likely. She then went to visit him over New Years and he stopped talking to me, even though he had told me that he would still talk to me all the time.
    Then on New Years Day his FB status changed and I found out that he asked her…once again, after telling me that he didn’t think I had much to worry about, that he didn’t know if he was going to even hook up with her during the visit. I’m completely heart-broken and it sucks that is is a taste of my own medicine. But we have been in love for almost 3 years now and it’s like our timing just SUCKS! When one person is ready to date, the other one isn’t!

    I just want to be with him so badly! It will be almost impossible for me to do the NC so I’m going to try the LC strategy…I’m just hoping that she sabotages herself and make him want to end the relationship…but I feel like that will be hard since 1) their relationship started on New Years and so they will have this romantic notion of wanting to keep things going, 2) V-day and her birthday are coming up, both dates that no one wants to break up before, and 3) she is very good at manipulating him.

    I just afraid that he will do what I did: if he sees that I am available and have no other prospects, he’ll think he can take his time…but I don’t want to blow my chances by making it obvious I’m trying to move on and see other people or w/e.

    The bottom line is: I want him to think that he’s losing me and that he can’t stand for that; that he must know if we could have something. What’s the best way to accomplish that?

  9. Lucy 25 January 2012 at 7:21 am Permalink

    Me and my boyfriend were together for nearly and year and hes left me nearly a week ago. I did the whole calling him on the day after he left me but then I completely stopped. I texted him on one occasion but his phone was off but I thought he wasn’t replying, The next day he texted me back and texted my friend to say his phone was on and to tell me I could text him. We texted once more and he put a kiss on the ends which I know he never does to people he hates or isn’t really fond of . We go to the same school though and he pretends Im not there when he’s around me. What’s going on??? He said he doesnt love me anymore when he left me and he said he doesnt think he would ever love me again. (we fought a lot near the end of our relationship) Is it possible that he still does though because to be honest the argument we ended on was ridiculous.Am I falling into the friends zone? Is he REALLY not in love with me anymore? Is he never coming back? HELP!!!!!

  10. Snaz 9 February 2012 at 9:00 am Permalink

    Hi Ashley,
    I’ve had limited contact with my ex and tbh I’ve genuinely been happier doing other things and just getting on with life. The limited contact has been initiated by me just to say hi and be my jolly happy self. I’ve never raised the past with my ex, just very casual convo. Somehow, he always tends to slip a remark on the past in the convo (usually regarding sex!) but Ive just been playing oblivious to them and even on one occasion told him to ‘shuush coz that’s not relevant’ in a nice jokey way so I’m not offending him. Recently though, he texted me only to ask the name of my faviorite diamond hat I had ‘always gone on about’ in the past. He is ‘in love’ with his current partner so I assumed it was for her so I casually told him the name of it with an ‘I bett be getting one too lol’ and he just replied with a ‘I’ll think about it, thanks’. Later that day we spoke on the phone and the subject came up- he tells me the diamond is for work (to cut raw material with) . Eccentric as I am, I told him that is a waste of a great diamond and laughed about it together..until I told him ‘I thought it was for his partner and that’s why I told him the name of it silly’. He then muttered under his breath that it wasn’t really for work and when I asked him what he muttered, he said he had to go…I played oblivious to his last comment you see and he ended the conversation. What is he Trying to say/prove?

  11. Robert 30 March 2013 at 6:41 am Permalink

    Hey Ashley look I’m in 10th grade of high school and my ex is in 9th we go to the same school and it has been almost 3 weeks since we broke up she said she didn’t love me anymore and I want to get her back I love her a lot and if I get her back I believe we can really be something special in a relationship, she doesn’t live me right now, we have talked once since our breakup and that didn’t go well because she didn’t even want to be friends, anyway we were together for 4 months and I’m in my last quarter of school and want to get her back before summer starts or get her back in the summer, we loved each other a lot we did a lot of stuff for each other, my question to you is do I still have a chance at getting her back if I use your program “The Ex Recovery System”?

  12. Barbora Mátyás 18 November 2013 at 9:30 pm Permalink

    My whole life i ve never had a stable relationship all men come get want they and go.As a matter of fact i saw myself as tool for all men.I don’t no its like i was just not loveable no matter how i give my all to them they end up living me with nothing but a broken heart.All these bad relationship i had experienced led to a psychological breake down thank my star that i got through that.Finding a man was never hard for me they just all wanted sex with me and once they get it, they all live but for the first time i found one that was willing to stay.I had never felt whole in my entire life but with him i kept floating in the sky.Yes he was married and unhappy he only married his wife cos they had a child together.One thing was for sure, as he made me whole i also did to him.We where in love as much as i cud tell he was willing to divorce his wife to be with me but she wudn’t let go like she owned his life and wanted him to me miserable 4 life.I don’t no but something made her too dangerous for him to get out of the marriage.For the first time in my life i found a man that was not willing to go anyway he was willing to fight for our love ven if it kills him.2 year passed and she wouldn’t let go so i just felt i should do something about it.I seeked advice and help if they could i even checked the internet for solution which ended up being a waste of time.However, i saw articles or rather comments of a lot of persons who used spell casting to fix their relationship and some it get those who they loved to see how much they loved them.And they all kept referring to a particular spell caster mutton osun.At first i just ignored it but my lover came across those article also.After we talked about it we decided to contact him and asked if he cud in any way help us.He just and only asked us to provide some really weird materials that just thinking if it made me scared not like they were harmful its just that i was not used to this things.We ie me and my lover decided that we should asked him to get them with what we sent to him ie, money.We asked him to cast a spell to make ,y lover wife set him free and he did as we asked and it walked i know cos 12 hours before he said he has completed the spell, she was still very much not going to sign any divorce paper but after the spell was completed all we did was give her the paper and without a fight he signed it.I know its hard to belief only the people close to us know how true this is.lets just say you want to contact use this email address godsofosunx@rockemail. com

  13. harsh 20 January 2015 at 4:36 am Permalink

    I can’t express my self, feeling depressed. After a 1 year relationship my girlfriend not feel well with me, she says she wants to be free, no any kind of burden blaa blaa blaa. I love her lot, I can’t live without her. I made following mistacks in rrrelationshi, I feel jealous when she talk too much with another guy, I was want to control herself, but now I rrealis. I want to get her again, she told me I don’t iinterested but we can be friends. I don’t want to be a friend plz somebody explain what I should do?

    • Ashley Kay 21 January 2015 at 10:26 pm Permalink

      if your ex thinks you are to controlling you have to change that way of yours first and prove to her the changes you are taking to make that wrong right.

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