The common thing to do when you want an ex back is to start out by “being friends” first. This isn’t because you want to be just friends, but because that’s what your ex may want or force upon you.
It’s important to understand that “friends” is worlds apart from “being together”. Women -especially- may have a ton of guy friends but would NEVER consider being with them sexually. Yea I know, it’s not fair, but that’s the unfortunate fate for many men out there.
So are you in this predicament? Stuck being friends when you’d really want much more?
First it’s important you know that you should not LEAD an ex on to believing you just want to be friends when that’s not what you really want. HONESTY is crucial here. Now clearly, sometimes you’re in this place because you have “no choice”.
Either you have contact with an ex and hope for some progress or there is NO contact. I’d rather choose the contact over no contact… even if you have to be friends to achieve this.
Always remember what your desired outcome is when you’re choosing to be friends with an ex. The goal is to remain in constant communication to be able to “develop into more”… that is all. The friends label is temporary and more of a “safety net” term to keep both of you happy.
Build Attraction, Sexual Tension and Emotional Connection
The key to turning into MORE is developing that communication you currently have and edging it closer towards “attraction, sexual tension and emotional connection”.
The only difference between friendship and relationship is ATTRACTION.
This is why you MUST focus on building attraction even under the illusion of friendship.
You can do this by:
- Flirting/teasing with your ex.
- Developing stronger bond/connection through common interests, activities that you can do with your ex.
- Open up about your feelings about personal issues (that is OUTSIDE of your break up).
It takes a little bit of time to rebuild the attraction but if you think back to how a typical relationship begins. You usually start off by being friends/acquaintances first.
Get Feedback and React Accordingly
You must also learn to READ your ex’s signals and body language, going too far and too soon will have a negative effect and they’ll more likely retreat away from you.
An example of rebuilding attraction is to CONFIDE in your ex about something very personal. Something you normally wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing with anyone! People love secrets and secrets have the effect to bond two people closer together instantly!
If you have tried certain advantages only to fail, take things slowly and build your attraction through conversation before getting into heavy flirting or anything of the sort.
This is one of the tactics discussed in greater detail within the Ex Recovery System. This is a POWERFUL strategy that is extremely flexible. Use it properly and you’ll be able to attract your ex back even in the most impossible of situations.
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