A few years ago, I was in a relationship with a man I really loved and cared about. Our relationship was far from perfect and we argued all the time, but we loved each other and for a long time, I thought that was enough. I believed the rest would just work itself out.

Consciously, I thought things were going fine. We had issues but we were “working” on them.

Subconsciously however, a lot of underlying tension was brewing. This soon would erupt and cause fatal melt down to our relationship.

One unsuspecting day, we had another one of our arguments. There was nothing out of the ordinary about it. I was complaining about how he never wanted to do things with me, and never thought of me. Basically, I felt unappreciated.

I wanted him to talk to me and make me feel better.

He didn’t.

At first, I was calm. I wanted to just talk. Get the issue out in the open and not just sit on it.

He refused.

I got a little more upset. I couldn’t understand his reasoning here. What’s wrong with just talking about things?

I started calling him on the phone. He wouldn’t pick up. I tried 3 more times. He had disappeared.

That’s when something inside me clicked. I realized for the first time, that I didn’t deserve this. I didn’t want to be with someone who would rather run away and hide than deal with our problems.

This was the first time I seriously considered breaking up. Immediately after that, I thought about leaving the relationship for good.

At first, this made me feel empowered. I started recounting every argument we’d had, collecting justification for this newfound decision of mine. This made me feel good. I wasn’t hurting anymore.

My newfound strength lasted about 4 hours.

By the 5^th hour, I was missing him terribly again, asking myself why he was such an idiot and why I still loved him so much.

At this point, my decision had changed from being certain I wanted out – to saying things like… “If he calls me now and apologizes, I’ll forgive him.” Or “I’ll give him another day or so to make it up to me.” Or “I was being a little unreasonable, maybe I should call him and apologize. I do miss him.”

In the end I decided that I would wait for him to contact me. After all, I was the one who reached out to him last, and he had to know I was waiting for him to call me. Right?

He didn’t call the next day.

Or the day after that.

By Day 3, I was starting to think he was the one breaking up with ME.

On Day 4, he sent me an email.

It was long, but the gist of the email was basically him defending himself and how he did no wrong in the whole ordeal.

He had a knack for conjuring up excuses that removed him from taking responsibility for anything.

I guess he made up my mind for me. I knew I wasn’t too smart, but I wasn’t THAT dumb either.

The shocking part wasn’t that I broke up with him after this letter (all clues were pointing that way), but what happened AFTER I broke up with him.

Apparently, when someone breaks up with you (whether the relationship was good or not), a chemical reaction in your brain is trigger, called the “DESPERATE and NEEDY” chemical – this new chemical in your system gives you a sudden new purpose in life..

“ to chase your ex as hard as you can until they give in!”

This was what my ex did, and let me warn you now. 95% of you will have it after a break up! Even if you don’t act on this impulse to chase your ex, you will still feel it in your bones.

Learn from my ex, what NOT to do if you want to get your ex back (there are better ways, trust me).

Don’t let this happen to you!

Mistake #1 – Remaining in Constant Contact

Reason you may want to do this: I don’t want my ex to forget about me or think I don’t care.

I run a popular email newsletter and this is the most common thing I get emailed about (after “How do I get my ex back?” and “Do you think I have a chance?”).

Most people don’t like the idea of stopping all contact. It’s out of their comfort zone and deathly intimidating.

The terribly real fear is that your ex may forget about you and find someone else – younger and better than you.

So I guess you counteract this fear by keeping a lock-tight eye on them – calling, emailing, txting or randomly popping up at their place.

After all, having a friendly relationship is better than no relationship at all, and that means you still have some power over their decision to date, not date and maybe, even get back together with you.

This couldn’t be more wrong.

You must fight AGAINST your natural instinct to chase after a rejection because it does nothing but make you look weak and desperate.

Case in point.

What is your natural reaction to someone running full force at you, arms outstretched, tongue hanging out, and a sure desperation in their eyes?

Counter that with your reaction to the majestic sculpture of Michelangelo’s statue of David. Which would make you stare at in awe and which would make you run?

Humans are repelled by the weak, drawn to the powerful.

So if you find yourself calling your ex over and over, stalking them all over social media sites, sending a string of emails with ILOVEYOUILOVEILOVEYOU all over them, it’s maybe time to step back and observe the disasterpiece you’ve created for yourself.

Just like any horrendous painting, you CAN wipe the slate clean and start anew.

Mistake #2 – Using Reason and Logic

Reason you may want to do this: If I make a good argument why breaking up is not the solution, then my ex will see my logic and come back.

Logic has no place in a break up. We are driven by irrational wants and irrational emotions. Your argument may be sound but if your ex doesn’t believe you then it won’t matter what you say.

No one wants to be convinced they’re wrong, and that’s what you’re essentially saying when you try to reason your ex this way.

Here’s the truth. Your ex has their external reasons for breaking up and then there’s their internal reasons. Down to the core, we’re driven by our internal wants and desires. It’s hard to change someone’s mind if you’re not sure what is motivating them in the first place.

The mistake is to assume that you know what’s best for them when you only know what they’ve allowed you to know.

To get through to your ex, you must show them through your actions the qualities they desire, as well as giving them time to come to their own conclusion.

Your ex will want you back when they realize it’s far more rewarding to be with you than without you.

Mistake #3 – Being Extra Nice and Loving or Changing Behaviour Too Quickly

Reason you may want to do this: If I’m extra nice, sweet and loving around my ex then they’ll see I’ve changed and come back.

Most of us have learned through experience that if something seems too good to be true, it usually is.

The downside to changing too quickly after a break up, is the unbelievably factor.

It’s just not believable that your new change is sustainable over a long period of time. If your ex doesn’t believe you, they won’t trust you enough to come back.

Slow and gradual progress works much better here.

Mistake #4 – Taking No Contact to the Extreme

Reason you may want to do this: If I just ignore my ex, they’ll see they can’t live without me and come back.

Ignoring someone – or in other words – pretending they don’t exist and not worth your time, will not get you in the good books with anyone. It may catch their attention, but eventually you’ll have to stop ignoring them.

Once you go back on contact, that’s when you get hit with the consequences.

Case in point. My ex may have waited too long for an apology. And when the apology came (was there one?) it wasn’t even sincere.

Put aside the idea that there has to be someone right and someone wrong. If the only reason you’re holding back contact is so you can avoid admitting defeat, then ask yourself this:

“Would I rather be right or in love?”

Mistake #5 – Deliberately Doing Things to Piss Your Ex Off

Reason you may want to do this: If I just make their life miserable, they’ll see they’re better off with me than without me.

Sometimes we’re so hurt and frustrated by someone that instead of doing what we know to win them back, we direct our anger at them instead.

You may want to hurt your ex to get back at them. You may want to yell, blame, name-call and lay on the guilt-trip because you don’t know what else to do. But doing so will hurt you ten times more than it will hurt your ex.

Key point to remember: “The secret to getting what you want is to give whatever it is you wish to receive.”

If you give out abuse, expect abuse back. If you only give out kindness and love, that’s what you’ll receive as well.

The trick is to prepare for outbursts beforehand. If you know a part of you hate your ex for doing what they did, do NOT seek contact with them until that emotion has subsided.

I won’t go into the details of how my ex made these mistakes, but he did. At one point, I thought to myself: “Who is this person?” It made me question whether I really knew him at all.

The point is break ups bring out the WORST in people. IE. all your insecurities, fears and weaknesses come floating up to the surface and it can make you do crazy things that create lasting damage to your relationship.

What To Do If You’re Making These Mistakes Now?

So if you’ve realize that you’re no angel either and you have made one or all of these mistakes, do not fret just yet.

Chances are, your ex expected some type of resistance to the break up.  At least it shows you care and give a shit after all.

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In previous articles, I’d written about actual signs an ex is still interested in you and common pitfalls to watch out for (you can read those here: Sure Signs Your Ex Wants You Back and Signs Your Ex Wants You Back – Sneaky Signs Your Ex Still Cares ). With this article I wanted to take a different angle.

When you’re looking for signs your ex wants you back, you may find a few telltale signs that do not quite add up.

For instance,

• Does your ex call you at weird hours of the day?
• Does your ex regularly confess that they miss you?
• Does your ex tell you they love you and you’re the one, but then completely ignore you?
• Does your ex break up with you and then continue to call and ask to hang out like nothing is wrong?

If you’re finding a lot of these signs poking into your relationship, be warned! You’re dealing with an Emotional Tease and possibly an ex lover who is taking advantage of you.

People who display these behaviours are generally emotion-dependent on their former partners (you).

They do it for one or more of the following reasons:

• To get over the guilt
• To get over feeling lonely
• To feel wanted, needed and loved
• To feel as if everything is “back to normal” and that means, everything is OK
• To not commit to anything that may ultimately hurt them

They tap into a weakness of yours, which is the part of you that wants them to want you, and uses that to get their own needs met.

Now, the part that you may be interested in… would they ever consider getting back together seriously?

Yes and no.

See, it depends on how you behave to counteract your ex’s behaviour as well as how much the bad weighs against the good in your partner’s eyes.

Your ex girlfriend or boyfriend need to feel:

• They can trust you again
• You’ve seriously changed and really truly love them
• You’re willing to work on the relationship
• They see a possibly renewed, refreshed and exciting relationship that is everlasting
• They are happier with you and in your company than without you

I cover many of these aspects in my book, The Ex Recovery System and The Ex Recovery System’s 12 Week Bootcamp.

How you behave has a lot to do with mindset and what you’re doing to be happy with yourself and your own conscious growth.

It’s also important you do not fall into the friendship trap. Many people fall for this as they believe being friends mean that being extremely nice to the ex and doing everything for them will eventually make them come back.

Not always true!

If you’re currently stuck in this position and scrambling to find sure signs your ex wants you back, you are missing an important piece of the puzzle!

The piece is NOT whether your ex shows you signs, because like I have said above, your ex could be begging to sleep with you but that doesn’t mean they want to get back together. The thing you’re missing is HOW you can take back control and power over the relationship, so YOU are the one calling the shots.

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• What to do if your ex is showing signs that they do have feelings but won’t commit to anything. How to turn the situation around so they’re begging YOU to come back.
• How to regain control over your emotions, yourself and your relationship once and for all. Hint: the power comes from an easily accessible place that rarely anyone take advantage of.
• How to get yourself out of the friendzone with your ex and STAY out of it.
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Here’s a guest article from Veronica I thought I’d share =)…

There are a number of things you can do now that you find yourself suddenly single. This time your world is no longer filled with all-things-“(name of your ex)” but it’s easy to fall into that self-pity mode.  It won’t be easy to get over the break up, but here are some tips on what to do after a break up you can try.

1. Find a hobby or revive an old one

Remember how you won the art competition in fourth grade? Or how you directed a play in your junior year that had everyone sniffing on their hankies? That was what you liked doing before and it could be something you’d like to do now. You may view it as a waste of time at first (which is quite ironic because now that you’re free, you’ve got plenty of time to waste), since you aren’t going to make money out of it but its value would be in a form of healing for you, which is more than money can buy.

So, find a hobby or revive an old one. Do it not to please anyone, but to occupy yourself. Do it because at one point in your life, holding that brush made you feel you are worthy of something and that you can do something great, which you can.

2. Shop

Malls and markets are a great way to spend time shopping and finding things that can inspire you for some arts and crafts. Whether you find vegetables that could inspire you to cook the chopsuey recipe your mother left you as a legacy, or a trash-to-treasure cabinet that can use some repainting with your special brush, you will have spent a rewarding day outside enjoying the exploration.

3.  Read

Reading is the best method of escape for most people. If you read, your mind is taken off all the memories of the break up. Reading also enriches the mind and enlivens the spirit. So, bury yourself in a good book and get to know the characters in a story. You will not only find yourself being transported into a new world but you’ll also realize that there’s a bigger world out there for you.

There are plenty of good books to flip through. A good list is The Modern Library’s 100 Best Novels of the Century from Random House Publishing. When you get yourself hooked in these books, you will never again ask what to do after a break up.

4.  Reconnect with friends

It’s about time you write to your old friends for a catch up. Remember your classmate from sixth grade who always shared her lunch with you? How about your cousin in the Salvation Army? Writing them would let them know that you’re thinking about them and they would certainly appreciate your thoughtfulness.

Combine all of the above and not only will you have a great time connecting with people and with yourself – you’ll start to see your relationship from a different perspective. Standing back from the situation will help you easily spot the problem areas in your relationship. That is when you empower yourself with what is clearly in front of you.

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Relationships doesn’t appear as fragile as they actually are. We tend to want to push and push our loved ones.. to test the boundaries, until we go too far and it’s too late once we realized what we have done. Relationship break ups are the result of pushing our partner’s beyond their limit.

Trust and attraction is not always lost in an instant, some people have a stronger tolerance to it than others. But eventually it WILL be lost. A relationship built on lies is doomed to fail…

Have you kept things from your partner?

Withholding information is just another form of lying – the next time you have a thought in your head… something like “Oh I just won’t say this in case I get in trouble.” or “He doesn’t need to know, it’ll only be more trouble than it’s worth.”

BE CAREFUL!

What are you really doing when you withhold information? You’re shutting a part of yourself off from your partner. A part of you that you feel you can’t reveal for one reason or another. On the surface it seems harmless.. but eventually that little lie will come up again.

In one way or another. If not by them finding out about it, it’s by YOU commiting more and more lies to be “consistent” with what you have started.

One lie after another, they start off small, but they grow big fast, until you find yourself hiding a big chunk of yourself/your life from your “loved one”, someone who USED to share everything with you, suddenly doesn’t anymore.

And YOU get upset.

Arguments start. They quickly escalate to once a week, then once a day. And then before you know it, the relationship is over.

Now you realize when you try to reconnect like before, your Ex doesn’t respond the same way anymore. They’re sick of the lies, sick of you hiding yourself. And no matter what you say seem to be able to convince them.

You grow desperate and end up making more mistakes that push them further away. Oh no…

When trust is GONE, it is so much harder to do simple things like be friends, make casual conversation, go out for a drink etc…

More often than not, there are NO communication at all because your face is now a vision of pain and hurt to your Ex.

Is there any hope left to salvage your relationship?

Yes, but it takes W-O-R-K… something many of us dread! In fact, if you ask for help on this point, most people will say to MOVE ON and learn from your mistakes for NEXT TIME.

Sure, that helps, but it’s not “really” a solution.

If you’re serious about getting your relationship back and you’ve made every mistake in the book… remember…

“Your past does NOT equal the future”.

You can start changing right now… if you decide you will and MUST.

Here’s what you need:

• Patience
• Consistence
• New mindset about yourself and your relationships

Understand WHY you chose to lie in the past, associate that it’s MORE PAINFUL to lie than not to lie. That being HONEST is the most liberating and freeing thing you can feel. Lie is long-term pain, Honesty might be short-term pain but long-term PLEASURE.

You’ll need patience for the people who believed the old you to have time to get used to the “new” you, and the only way you can do that is to PROVE your new self to them, over and over again.

You don’t have to do it with BIG actions and changes. The SMALL things are just as effective. Start by being honest with YOURSELF first. Start keeping your own word about what you’re going to do.

Then branch out to others.

Little-by-little if you stick with it, your Ex or your loved one will start to trust you again.

The biggest problem is STICKING with it. Start now and don’t look back.

Understand the WHY, HOW and What to Do Now to Get Your Ex Lover Back – You CAN Save Your Relationship

Are you finding that the reasons your ex gave you for the break up don’t seem to be the real reasons for it and you can’t get these real reasons out of them?

Leaving you all confused and unable to repair the relationship as you don’t know why it’s really broken?

Well the first big thing for you and us all to understand is this…  Unless there is a particular event or a buildup of them, this won’t have been easy for them to do.

With no event to blame the break up on, the true reasons for it are harder to come up with for these reasons:

• They don’t want to hurt you by saying what’s wrong with you.
• They really don’t know why, it’s just a feeling that they want out.
• They don’t want it to be messy and are avoiding the argument that would follow.
• They just don’t know how to tell you.

The hardest thing for you to do now is to just except the reasons that they have said, this doesn’t mean that what they said is all there is, this means you need to reflect on the relationship and see if you can come up with the reasons for it ending.

One of the best tricks is to place yourself in their shoes is….  you know their likes/ dislikes and all the issues you have worked through before. Take some time to see it through their eyes to see if you can find some reasons of your own.

The best advice for you at this point is:

• Don’t keep asking why!
• Except their reason and work out all the other ones yourself.
• Work on any flaws or bad habits you find.
• Think of this as an opportunity for them to fall in love you again!

I hope this has helped you today and don’t dwell on the past.

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Have you heard this line before? What does it mean? If your ex gave you this line, be warned because you might not want to read this!

Here’s a translation of what the line “It’s not you, it’s me” really mean…

“It IS you and I now realized I can’t change you, so I’m moving on.”

Harsh but true. Someone giving you an excuse for the break up won’t want to place all the blame on you. They will hold some of the blame to make you feel somewhat “better” about the break up.

It doesn’t always work but you got to give it to them for trying.

So what does it mean when there’s something wrong with YOU to make them leave?

Well sometimes, it’s not something wrong with you but something wrong with the relationship.

When two people in a relationship fail to make things work, one will want to place blame on the other instead.

“He’s not supportive enough.”

“She nags all the time.”

“He won’t give me any space.”

“If only she was [x], then we’d have the perfect relationship.”

Another common case of people who use the line “It’s not you, it’s me” is that they won’t usually give any warning signs that something is wrong. They’ll keep it inside and “try” to change you on their own accord without coming right out and discussing things with you.

This clearly makes things really difficult because when they do leave, you’re left completely shattered and utterly confused! You’ll have questions like, “What did I do wrong? Why did they really leave?”

It’s brutal for the dumpee as it’s unlikely the dumper will explain the real reasons.

The only thing you can do is understand why this happens and ask yourself whether the relationship is worth salvaging.

Here’s some Do and Donts When Your Ex Gives You An Unsatisfying Reason For The Break Up:

Do

• Accept their reason, even if you don’t understand it.
• Wish them well for the future.
• Leave them alone post break up.

Don’t

• Ask over and over why they want to break up.
• Ask why they won’t give you another chance.
• Say that you’ll change.
• Apologize over and over.
• Start sentences with “Yea but…”

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If you find yourself asking this question after you break up, “How Did The Break Up Happen? How Could This Have Happened?” it seems clear to me that you were not communicating throughout your relationship. Not honestly with each other anyway.

When you’re intimate with someone, the natural thing would be to reveal deeper and more personal aspects of yourself the more involved you are in the relationship. With that, it would seem one would naturally communicate the “smaller” wants and needs of an individual during the relationship.

Clearly couples are missing that key ingredient when they think they land themselves their “dream” or “ideal” relationship.

Do you bring up issues as they arise and willingly discuss them with your partner?

Or do you tend to sit on something, brushing it aside with the excuse “it’s just a small thing, there is no need to cause a fuss.” In other words, holding your tongue and letting your partner get away with things you really should have talked to him about?

It’s all too easy to not open your mouth when the moment comes and goes, but please realize that these things accumulate over time and eventually resentment is built upon. All of a sudden you’ll wake up arguing and you don’t even know why.

If your partner just packed up and left, I’m not saying the blame is on you. It’s probably due to mistakes and bad choices on both your parts, but pointing fingers isn’t going to get you anywhere.

Start by realizing there were communication issues and because of this, you may not know your ex as well as you thought you did.

Honestly ask yourself, “Are I a good listener?” To become good at communicating you need to good at listening first. Your ex might have felt like they were talking to a brick wall and eventually just gave up.

Once you do realize where the problem lie, do the thing you should have done ages ago! Tell your ex! Try to talk about the problems (if they are still willing) and get the truth out and really listen with new ears.

Sometimes you are just not given a second chance and in these cases you must must MUST learn from this mistake and go into your next relationship realizing communication, being OPEN, being HONEST is deadly important to all relationships and little lies BUILD UP to create gigantic avalanches of trouble.

I hope this helped you today.

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It’s funny when you break up with someone, suddenly you get dilemmas like what to do during Chistmases, Valentines Day, Birthdays etc. Do you still give them something in good spirit or would that come off as being needy, desperate or just creepy?

I feel it doesn’t hurt to send your ex something simple like a card with a brief message on it. Don’t go extravagant and use this as a chance to impress your ex with romantic gifts or a long love letter that’s full of apologies for the break up. Don’t Do it!

I’d even avoid flowers, chocolates and the usual things that are only reserved for LOVERS.

Pick a fairly neutral card that you would send to a friend, nothing romantic or suggestive. Write a brief note that shows you still care about him or her but keep it friendly. Don’t talk about the break up or your relationship or try to apologize.

Make it light and even poke fun if you can.

The real key is to send the card LATE. Preferrably send it on the DAY of the special holiday so it gives the impression you almost “forgot”. You wouldn’t have of course, you still did remember the date, but since you sent it on the day, it will arrive a few days late, which is the effect you want to have.

As if to say:

I’m thinking about you, but I’m not obsessively thinking about you. I still have a life but I still care enough to spend 5 minutes to send you a card out of kindness.

Remember don’t spend hours upon hours crafting your message, just write it without over-analyzing it. It will sound more natural and give off the impression you thought of it last minute.

One key bonus this will have is that, on the day, your ex will expecting something. Even if out of curiosity. Once they realize they didn’t receive anything on the day, this will make them wonder why they even cared to begin with and might even get emotional about the whole thing.

Sometimes, this will even prompt an ex to call YOU!

The biggest misconception is believing an ex has suddenly dropped all feelings for you post break up and they’re happily over you. Moved on as if you never existed. This is what your ex WANTS you to think, because that gives them all the more power. But it’s not at all the truth underneath the surface.

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One of the most sought after questions by the suddenly single crowd (you) is whether your ex still has feelings for you and if you still have a chance of getting them back. So if you’ve been pulling your hair out, wondering “Does my ex still have feelings for me? and Does my ex still love me?” You’ll want to pay close attention to this article…

I believe you only get the things you want when you are READY to receive it.

That means a few things:

1. Sometimes what you want comes to you via OTHER MEANs to how you originally intended.
2. When you do get what you want, it’s usually when you least expect it.

I think there’s a reason why there is a delay on getting the things we want. It’s so we can really APPRECIATE IT when it’s really ours.

But getting what you want means you MUST go through certain amount of changes and you MUST learn from those changes.

That’s the key to it.

I mean, if you wanted to pick up a glass off a tabletop but you were standing on the other side of the room. What is the first thing you have to do? You must MOVE first.

Change = Moving.

If you want something… eg. getting an ex back, getting a new job, being more confident. whatever it is, you need to build up momentum first and start changing/moving yourself emotionally and physically to get to where you want to be.

But I bet you already knew that didn’t you.

Sure-Fire Signs Your Ex Still Loves You

Don’t take this to heart and don’t quote me on this, but there are signs that will reveal an Exes TRUE feelings for you.

• Keeping SOME type of contact with you (or initiating contact)
• Loves you one minute and Hates you the next. This is typical of Exes who wants you but doesn’t quite want you BAD enough to get back in a relationship with you.
• Deliberate avoidance – examples are Ex partners who go “out of their way” to avoid seeing or talking to you. The big COLD shoulder is a huge clue they’re not over you.
• Trying to make you JEALOUS – when you want to make someone jealous, it’s because “for some reason” you CARE what they think of you. Why would they care if they’re over you? That’s because they’re NOT over you.

These are just a few of the tell-tale signs you should watch out for, but I should WARN YOU!

WARNING!

Once upon a time I would give the advice that if you should “ASK” your ex what they really think if you want the truth… now I believe that is the wrong way to go about it. It is not INSANE or UNCOMMON for them to LIE about their feelings because they have agreed to breaking up with you. There are more psychological reasons for lying to you, and it’s not just because they’re compulsive liars.

What do you do once you have this knowledge?

It’s not going to help unless you DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.

That’s why, having a PLAN to get your ex back is SO important!

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There are a few reasons you may want to contact your ex after a break up. One, you want to see how they’re doing and to re-develop a friendship with them. Two, you want to see if you could convince them to get back together. Three, you want to talk to them about the break up, to possibly ‘explain’ yourself. Either way, it’s either to get closure or to develop/maintain your relationship with them.

Should You Contact Your Ex After A Break up?

If your break up was recent and you still feel some unresolved issues, perhaps you do want to get them back into a relationship, then I would wait a little while before you contact. How long? The time will depend on how long since you have last spoken, but generally if your ex has ended things and you haven’t heard from them since, I would wait at least a month before contacting them again.

If you feel there has been a lot of misunderstandings and you’re unsure whether to contact because you want your ex to have their space, send them an email or a note to let them know what is on your mind. Their response (or lack of) will be your answer. It’s better not to keep bombarding them with email and messages. When they’re ready to talk to you, they will contact.

If you were the one to break up with your ex and now you’re feeling extremely guilty about it, it’s time to put your pride aside and contact your ex with an apology. Don’t dwell on whether they have contacted you or not yet, just call them because if you broke things off with them, or said a bunch of things you didn’t mean, the ball is in your court to make the first contact.

What if they don’t want to talk to you? It might happen that when you do try to contact, they will either be cold, distant or will even be angry for your contact. This might be fairly normal if there were a lot of hostility around your break up. If your ex doesn’t respond straight away, DON’T contact them again until about a week or two. You don’t want to appear desperate by calling too much, but just in case they didn’t get your message, you should try again after a certain amount of time.

The best thing to do is not try to play games with your ex at this stage. Deliberately holding off contact might only signal to them that you never cared much in the first place. On the other hand, contacting too soon might not appeal to them at this time either. Either way, use your best judgement and be honest about your feelings and intentions.

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