Cheating or being cheated on in a relationship can be one of the most devastating things to happen in a relationship. It not only pains you emotionally but can have long term damaging effects on your relationship in the future.
This is especially true amongst young couples as the early trauma of infidelity can scar you for a lifetime.
Many cheaters will put the blame on anything else BUT themself. That’s because they often only care about themself and not looking “bad” to others.
If you’re the victim of a cheater, and you still find yourself clinging onto the relationship, you may be wondering if there’s any hope of trusting a cheater.
The odds are against you that a cheater won’t cheat again, however with that said, people DO have the ability to change, but ONLY if they want to. And this must be something they want to do for them, and not for anyone else.
So, can you trust a cheater?
The only way you can trust a cheater is if they prove themself as trustworthy again and again. If they can’t PROVE it with action (not words), then you’re once again going off empty promises.
I’d move slowly with any notorious cheaters, and most of all, consider moving on for good. Like I said, statistically it doesn’t look good. Most cheaters don’t just cheat, they lie about other things too.
Ask yourself how often the cheating has occured, whether this is the first time or the second, third or 10th time. How many times do you have to make the same mistake before learning from it?
One thing to note is that, you can’t EVER “change” a cheater or hope to “fix” them. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that you can or that they’ll change because you’re supporting them. If they can’t demonstrate their change of ways on their own, it’s probably not going to happen with your help.
Dos and Don’ts:
- If starting a new relationship with a cheater, put the past behind you! Don’t continue to bring up your partner’s old cheating habits.
- If you’re going to give someone a 2nd chance, REALLY give them a second chance.
- Don’t assume just because you’ve been hurt before, that every new guy or girl will hurt you just the same.
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I have been cheated on before and it is not an experience anyone should go through. My bff was also cheated on, but the thing about that is she and him cheated on their significant others when they started dating. It was too bad that he cheated on her now they are in the middle of a divorce. So that is a good question can you trust a cheater?
i have cheated on my boyfriend four times abd something has really happen im now pregnet and he knows the thing that am saying is i want him back i told him taht i would not do it again i have tried everything please dont jugde me im trying
@ stephanie…was it worth it? if he’s smart he wont take u back ok 1 maybe but 4 he’d have to have rocks in his head to take u back…r u that insecure and low on self esteem? seems to be the case…what i sugeest to u save ure b.f the heartache and get counselling on ureself untill u r totally commited to not lying again and carrying baggage to the nxt 1…ask ureself did the cheating satisfy ure needs. seems it made it worst at least ure remoresful theres hope for u:-)