Comments on: Is Your Ex Leading You On? http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/ Articles, Tips and Advice on How To Get Your Ex Back Sat, 20 Feb 2010 15:51:48 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Dan http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-372 Dan Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:43:43 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-372 Oh one of the things I did and this convinced me that I was over her was I went on to my cell phone account and I blocked her number from texting me. That was the day I knew I was done with that chapter in my life. I am grateful to have known her and learned a lot from the relationship and myself. I have dated a few girls since her, nothing serious and I don't want it serious either. I am just enjoying not having a commitment. So we will see what happens. Thanks for asking I appreciate that. Keep me updated on your progress. Oh one of the things I did and this convinced me that I was over her was I went on to my cell phone account and I blocked her number from texting me. That was the day I knew I was done with that chapter in my life.

I am grateful to have known her and learned a lot from the relationship and myself. I have dated a few girls since her, nothing serious and I don’t want it serious either. I am just enjoying not having a commitment. So we will see what happens. Thanks for asking I appreciate that. Keep me updated on your progress.

]]> By: Dan http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-371 Dan Mon, 22 Jun 2009 18:38:01 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-371 Jim I am proud of you!! It sounds like these are positive steps for you! Just take it day by day. You are spot on she needs to leave you alone so you can move on. Ya know that is funny you should ask. I was golfing thursday and she called me. I didn't answer my phone. So she leaves me a massage asking me to help her with her internet connection on her work lap top. She couldn't get the lap top to connect to the router that I put in her house. Anyway a few hours went by and and I sent her a text message saying look I don't want to talk or do anything to help you, the only memory I have of you is a bad one. I was shocked that she had the balls to call me and ask me for help knowing what I went through with her. Obviously we had some good times but in the big picture it was not a relationship I liked. The light of missing her gets dimmer everyday. I just focus on how much better my life is without her and now I can start setting goals again and accomplish more of what I need to do to improve my life. Jim I am proud of you!! It sounds like these are positive steps for you! Just take it day by day. You are spot on she needs to leave you alone so you can move on. Ya know that is funny you should ask. I was golfing thursday and she called me. I didn’t answer my phone. So she leaves me a massage asking me to help her with her internet connection on her work lap top. She couldn’t get the lap top to connect to the router that I put in her house. Anyway a few hours went by and and I sent her a text message saying look I don’t want to talk or do anything to help you, the only memory I have of you is a bad one. I was shocked that she had the balls to call me and ask me for help knowing what I went through with her. Obviously we had some good times but in the big picture it was not a relationship I liked. The light of missing her gets dimmer everyday. I just focus on how much better my life is without her and now I can start setting goals again and accomplish more of what I need to do to improve my life.

]]> By: jim http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-370 jim Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:57:27 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-370 Dan, do you still miss your ex? WHat ever happened with your situation? Dan, do you still miss your ex? WHat ever happened with your situation?

]]> By: jim http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-369 jim Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:51:53 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-369 I believe I am. When I went up there. I did not try to see her or contact her. I just hope she would leave me alone. That is the only I can truly move on I beleive. I believe I am. When I went up there. I did not try to see her or contact her. I just hope she would leave me alone. That is the only I can truly move on I beleive.

]]> By: Dan http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-368 Dan Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:29:51 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-368 Jim you have your answer right there! I told you she would make herself unavailable. You need to move on.... She is doing to you what E's ex boyfriend is doing to her. These two people are dangling a carrot in front of you to see how far your going to chase it. I hate to sound so harsh, but stop wasting your time and move on and feel good about yourself for making the decision to do so. At some point you have to say to yourself she is not in my life except when she wants to be and that is not a positive in your life. Like I told you before look at yourself and figure out the learning in this relationship and try to develop and grow from the mistakes you have made with this last one. Jim you have your answer right there! I told you she would make herself unavailable. You need to move on…. She is doing to you what E’s ex boyfriend is doing to her. These two people are dangling a carrot in front of you to see how far your going to chase it. I hate to sound so harsh, but stop wasting your time and move on and feel good about yourself for making the decision to do so. At some point you have to say to yourself she is not in my life except when she wants to be and that is not a positive in your life. Like I told you before look at yourself and figure out the learning in this relationship and try to develop and grow from the mistakes you have made with this last one.

]]> By: Dan http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-367 Dan Mon, 22 Jun 2009 17:20:29 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-367 I would say this. It sounds like to me he is stringing you along, which I think he is a jerk for doing that to you. I know you have deep emotions about him, but you have to get control over those emotions. I agree with Jim with the no contact rule. The more you don't need him the better. Once he figures that out it may attract him back to you. You truly need to move on and get yourself mentally to a point where you choose to have him in your life, not depend on him being in your life. It is a very difficult process, specially if you don't keep your mind occupied. If you think about what he is doing to you now that might give you a push to move on. Because if he loved you he would be with you, that is the bottom line. If you focus on all the good times you had it will make it that much harder to move on, if you think about the not so good times that may help you gain control over your emotions. I know I wrote a list of good and bad and the bad out weighed the good. I didn't realize how bad it was till I wrote it all out. That may help you as well. I would say work on you and only you. If you were to go back to him right now what would be different in 3 months. Neither one of you have made changes the get a different result. I would say this. It sounds like to me he is stringing you along, which I think he is a jerk for doing that to you. I know you have deep emotions about him, but you have to get control over those emotions. I agree with Jim with the no contact rule. The more you don’t need him the better. Once he figures that out it may attract him back to you. You truly need to move on and get yourself mentally to a point where you choose to have him in your life, not depend on him being in your life. It is a very difficult process, specially if you don’t keep your mind occupied. If you think about what he is doing to you now that might give you a push to move on. Because if he loved you he would be with you, that is the bottom line. If you focus on all the good times you had it will make it that much harder to move on, if you think about the not so good times that may help you gain control over your emotions. I know I wrote a list of good and bad and the bad out weighed the good. I didn’t realize how bad it was till I wrote it all out. That may help you as well. I would say work on you and only you. If you were to go back to him right now what would be different in 3 months. Neither one of you have made changes the get a different result.

]]> By: jim http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-366 jim Mon, 22 Jun 2009 16:25:51 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-366 Well, to help I need a few questions answered. You two were together for seven years. Were you guys engaged? Were you two talking about engagement. If it is no to those two quetions, why not? He seems he is not sure what he wants. The old saying goes He wants his cake and eats it to. He seems like he doesn't exactly know what he wants. I would not look to much into him calling you and telling him he misses you and such. He left you. You do not need him. I know it is tough. It has been seven years. That is understandable. While he is with someone else, you have to give him his space. How old his he. He seems very immature to me. Take this time to enjoy life. Hang out with friends, go to the movies etc... The main idea is to just keep busy. I heard a saying recently. If you truly love someone, not only will they love you at your best, but they will love you at your worst. Remember, he gave up on you. DO NOT GO CRAWLING BACK TO HIM. Just give it time. Keep the no contact. HE wont forget about you. I still think of my ex everyday. For me after seven months, I still think of her everyday. He won't forget about you either. He needs ttime to realize that you don't need him and to miss you. Well, to help I need a few questions answered. You two were together for seven years. Were you guys engaged? Were you two talking about engagement. If it is no to those two quetions, why not? He seems he is not sure what he wants. The old saying goes He wants his cake and eats it to. He seems like he doesn’t exactly know what he wants. I would not look to much into him calling you and telling him he misses you and such. He left you. You do not need him. I know it is tough. It has been seven years. That is understandable. While he is with someone else, you have to give him his space. How old his he. He seems very immature to me. Take this time to enjoy life. Hang out with friends, go to the movies etc… The main idea is to just keep busy. I heard a saying recently. If you truly love someone, not only will they love you at your best, but they will love you at your worst. Remember, he gave up on you. DO NOT GO CRAWLING BACK TO HIM. Just give it time. Keep the no contact. HE wont forget about you. I still think of my ex everyday. For me after seven months, I still think of her everyday. He won’t forget about you either. He needs ttime to realize that you don’t need him and to miss you.

]]> By: E http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-365 E Sat, 20 Jun 2009 16:30:32 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-365 so my boyfriend broke up with me after 7 years for someone else.. he told me that he wasnt looking for a relationship and that he just wants to have fun with this girl and not be exclusive..that hes not looking for love cause he has it with me... well come to find out they are now offiicial.. its been 3 months - 1 month of completely no talking and now he started calling me talking about how he misses me and wants my friendship.. blah blah blah... he tells me he loves me, and that he would cheat on her with is me.. like thats supposed to make me feel good.. loser.. didnt he leave me for her in the first place?? he tells me he wants to take me to dinner and yet never makes the time cause he spends it with her... anyways i cant seem to let go.. i feel like i need him in my life even if he's not my boyfriend.. i dont know what to do..i just keep praying that either i will move on or he will come back to me... i dont know what his deal is.. ANY ADVICE??? so my boyfriend broke up with me after 7 years for someone else.. he told me that he wasnt looking for a relationship and that he just wants to have fun with this girl and not be exclusive..that hes not looking for love cause he has it with me… well come to find out they are now offiicial.. its been 3 months – 1 month of completely no talking and now he started calling me talking about how he misses me and wants my friendship.. blah blah blah… he tells me he loves me, and that he would cheat on her with is me.. like thats supposed to make me feel good.. loser.. didnt he leave me for her in the first place?? he tells me he wants to take me to dinner and yet never makes the time cause he spends it with her… anyways i cant seem to let go.. i feel like i need him in my life even if he’s not my boyfriend.. i dont know what to do..i just keep praying that either i will move on or he will come back to me… i dont know what his deal is.. ANY ADVICE???

]]> By: Jim http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-363 Jim Thu, 18 Jun 2009 13:19:34 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-363 So I came up with a plan. I wanted her to know I was coming up there, but I did not want her to know from me. I had my buddy invite her out one night while I was up there. HE sent her this: Hope all is well. How has work been? I am sure not as enjoyable at the times at Temple. I am trying to get a big group to go out on Friday night for when Jim arrives.. He is coming in to visit us and I know you two used to date and I am not sure if you guys still keep in touch, but he did speak very highly of you when I asked during our cruise so I assumed you two are on good terms. So I thought I would invite you. I was afraid that Jim might only know Jason and I so I thought it would be nice if he knew other people. She responded with this: Matt- I hope all is well with you too! To tell you the truth, I'm not sure what the status is between me and Jim is these days. I haven't spoken to him in at least a month, but he's never said anything bad of or to me. Either way, I am not going to be in town this weekend. I am driving home to Baltimore Friday morning and then heading to Tampa Saturday morning. I certainly do appreciate the invite. Keep me in mind for the future when you are getting a group together. -k How should I interpret this. To me this message is very confusing. How does she not know our status. I have made it clear we cant be friends and that I would like to get back together. SHe knows the last time we talked. What do you think? So I came up with a plan. I wanted her to know I was coming up there, but I did not want her to know from me. I had my buddy invite her out one night while I was up there.
HE sent her this:
Hope all is well. How has work been? I am sure not as enjoyable at the times at Temple. I am trying to get a big group to go out on Friday night for when Jim arrives.. He is coming in to visit us and I know you two used to date and I am not sure if you guys still keep in touch, but he did speak very highly of you when I asked during our cruise so I assumed you two are on good terms. So I thought I would invite you. I was afraid that Jim might only know Jason and I so I thought it would be nice if he knew other people.

She responded with this:
Matt-

I hope all is well with you too!

To tell you the truth, I’m not sure what the status is between me and Jim is these days. I haven’t spoken to him in at least a month, but he’s never said anything bad of or to me.

Either way, I am not going to be in town this weekend. I am driving home to Baltimore Friday morning and then heading to Tampa Saturday morning. I certainly do appreciate the invite. Keep me in mind for the future when you are getting a group together.

-k

How should I interpret this. To me this message is very confusing. How does she not know our status. I have made it clear we cant be friends and that I would like to get back together. SHe knows the last time we talked. What do you think?

]]> By: Jim http://www.getexback.net/brokenhearts/relationshipproblems/is-your-ex-leading-you-on/comment-page-1/#comment-360 Jim Wed, 10 Jun 2009 16:09:38 +0000 http://getexback.net/?p=56#comment-360 Ok thanks, I will keep you posted. Ok thanks, I will keep you posted.

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