This might be the hardest step but it’s the most important, I want you to do this with as little thinking as possible. Now I don’t expect you to have time to do this today, but as soon as you have a few hours to spare (preferably on a lazy weekend) that’s when you should start.
(You can start anytime, just make sure when you start, to commit to all the steps! Don’t get lazy now!)
So with a few hours to yourself, put on some of your favourite tracks (no sad music!), (just quickly make a playlist and delete all the slow/sad songs).
Get out a small piece of paper and write down your ex’s name, address, phone number and email.
Step 1:
Get out a small piece of paper and write down your ex’s name, address, phone number and email. Now find a big enough box and you probably know what I want you to do, go from room to room or just in your room and collect everything that reminds you of your ex. Take this opportunity to clean your room or your house. Even if you don’t like cleaning, you’re cleaning your ex out of your life, those items, as much as you might want to cling onto some of those things, they are connected to your ex and anything that reminds you of your ex is preventing you from moving on.
Sing along with the music and don’t stop moving until it’s all done.
Now once you have collected everything, place your piece of paper with your ex’s contact at the top.
Step 2:
Now head to your computer, it’s time to do the same on your computer. If yours is anything like mine it’s probably full of junk and running slower than it should. Take this time to clean up, free up disk space, when you come across anything that reminds you of your ex, delete them. This includes emails, photos, letters, instant messaging history etc. Delete and empty your Recycle Bin when you’re all done.
If there’s something that you just can’t delete, like some photos that might have pictures of other people, you can burn them onto a cd if you want.
Take that box of yours and put it somewhere you can’t get to easily. The best thing is to give it to a close friend or relative where you know it will be safe but you won’t be able to get to easily.
Step 3:
Now looking around, your environment and your computer should be ex-free. We need to move on to cleansing your mind of your ex now.
After all that work you deserve to relax and do something fun. Movies are great ways to take your mind off things, some movies I recommend are:
- Lars and the Real Girl
- 40 Year Old Virgin
- Eternal Sunshine of The Spotless Mind
- Ratatouille
- Kill Bill 1 and 2
Go check out your local video store and grab a few; get comedies, thrillers, avoid dramas or sappy movies.
Watch a couple, enjoy with your favourite sneaks and drinks.
When it’s over, give a friend a call, go out, do whatever so you’re not just sitting around at home.
Now you might still think of your ex during this which is normal, the point is you want to absorb yourself in other people’s problems as this will keep the focus off your own.
Even if you think you’re doing ok with the break up, it’s still a good idea to do this, if just to give your room and computer a good cleaning.
Until tomorrow, take care and have fun cleaning your ex out of your life =)
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My girlfriend left me a year ago and we have a 2 year old son. I verbally abused my ex-girlfriend and now I am in anger management classes. I found out I am bi-polar and im on meds for balancing my moods. I was so ignorant on how to treat a woman properly. I want her back, she says she wants to heal. Her healing is to avaid contact from me, and I havent seen her or my child for a month. She told me she hasn’t been with another man in bed since we broke up. I have but I left her and told my ex all i want is to be single and to concentrate on my son. What is my chances on getting her back if any? I know she still loves me but she says she isnt in love with me, which I understand. If I treated her really bad during our 2 year relationship, will she ever be able to believe me that I will not do this again? What should I do to win her back? Should I just leave her alone and pray she will give me another chance and take the chance she could meet someone else, leaving me with no chance? I want to sttle down and have a family with her, I do not want to have to start all over again a third time with someone else. I already have two other children from a divorce and I feel as if I will never be happy as a part time father.