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7 Ways to Make Your Ex Fall in Love With You

You might not realize it but you have major advantage over anyone else when it comes to making your ex fall back in love with you. Think about it, you had their heart once and that love for you never dies if it was true. No matter how long it has been, how often you talk, you’ll always have a place in their hearts whether they admit it or not.

But you want to know how to re-ignite those flames and have them burn with passion again.

So here it is: 7 ways to making your ex fall back in love with you.

Become free

If you’re in love with your ex and this is something your ex is aware of, it’s harder to make your ex fall in love because they know you’ll always be there waiting. People only want something they can’t have so by making yourself available to them they will not be as inclined to ‘want’ you in that way.

Make yourself scarce

Don’t allow yourself to be readily available to your ex. You have your own life that is separate from them now. Don’t wait around hoping your ex will contact you. Go out and do things that you enjoy. You’ll be amazed how fast things will start to happen once you’re not ‘waiting’ around for it.

Take care of yourself

Get yourself to feel good again. Do whatever that works for you to get you energized and pumped to face the day everyday. This could be going for a run in the morning, getting a new hair cut, learning some yoga or going camping. It’s amazing but when we feel down, the quickest way to cheer ourselves up is by moving around. So get those juices flowing. When you’re pumped and enjoying life, you pull people towards you.

Become grateful

It’s completely amazing what will happen and how you’ll feel once you are grateful for everything in your life. It’s weird but by simply feeling grateful, everyone around you sense that you ‘have’ something they don’t have. Like I said, people are desperate for things they don’t have. When you appear to HAVE everything, everyone will want what YOU have! It’s weird. You’ll glow inside and out and your ex will be driving themselves crazy thinking about what has changed!

Let go of the past

We tend to want to dwell on past issues. You’ll especially be driving yourself crazy thinking about what went wrong with your relationship and how you want things to be different. I want you to know in order to make your ex fall in love, you need let go of those negative feelings and thoughts. Not only will you make them want you, you’ll feel a huge weight lifted from you and that will show through when they see you.

Embracing change

Let’s admit it, no one is perfect, but what is worse is if we accepted that was the way things were and never welcomed and allowed change. Thing is, change is the only sure thing in the world. If we’re going to change, why not embrace it and try to change for the better. When we set goals for ourselves and take steps to achieve our goals, we’re not only building our self-confidence but you’re letting your ex know that you’re working on your flaws. Action speaks ten fold compared to words, and its actions that will make your ex fall crazy in love with you.

Lastly and most importantly, give love to yourself first

We have all heard the saying ‘you need to love yourself first before you can ever love anyone else’. Once you gain that unconditional love for yourself, you’ll no longer rely on others to validate your sense of worth.

For example if your ex made a comment that might potentially hurt you, you won’t allow it to bother you anymore because no one else’s opinion can mean more to you than your own.

When love is readily available inside you, you won’t seek to others for that love. When you stop needing love from your ex, it is then when your ex will give their love to you.

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164 Responses to “7 Ways to Make Your Ex Fall in Love With You”

  1. Tami Friedman 16 September 2010 at 12:04 pm Permalink

    im going out with this guy for 4 years on and off it doesnt seem to go anywhere i want to marry him eventually. how could i make that happen, or make him want that too? we’re back together now…

    • Tamika H. 22 April 2012 at 1:47 pm Permalink

      Don’t ever try to make a man marry you. If it’s been four years and you two are back together again. I am definitely sure he knows you are the one he wants in life forever. Don’t bring up the conversation, soon he will on his own. My opinion is to bring the spark back in y’all relationship, that was there four years ago. This would bring the idea to his mind, without you even mentioning marriage. And just watch the relationship grow; trust me I was in the same position as you. If you see no change in the relationship still, then maybe he’s not the one for you, even if you really really want him to be.

  2. eva 1 January 2011 at 8:43 am Permalink

    hi, my boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago. he says we werent getting along and we didnt get to see eachother much cos i was in college and it was getting to him. i thought we were in love. ive been going through some stuff and i wasnt myself, i think maybe i was pushing him away and i realised it too late. i apologised but he broke up with me a few days later anyway. i wanted to contact him but dont know if i should or what i should say.

    • sophy 12 August 2011 at 7:02 pm Permalink

      spend some time talking about the future and hear his respond to that. good luck

    • justin b. 5 November 2011 at 5:21 pm Permalink

      i know what all of you guys are feeling. my x broke up with me i thought of ending my life but this site helped me . and now she ask me out again BUT I SAID ” SORRY AM TAKEIN

      • katie b 17 February 2012 at 6:42 am Permalink

        hey, you have the same name as my ex just thought i’d tell you

  3. Kaitlyn 1 January 2011 at 10:16 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I broke up 2 days ago.. And I can’t stop thinking about it and how much I want him back and I want to date him again.. But I don’t know what to do.

    • Ashalyn 17 November 2012 at 12:15 pm Permalink

      My boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago & it still hurts like crazy & he said he wants to be friends and start things all over again .i want to get back together with him sooo much.i need help gettin my boyfriend falling back in love with me& asking me out again. We dated for 8 months.

  4. Nick 23 January 2011 at 9:53 am Permalink

    Hi, my girlfriend broke up with me january 5th, and it was the second time we broke up. A few days ago she told me that i might have another chance with her, but she isnt dating anyone until Valentines day. All the signs were given to me that im in love with her, and i dont know what to do right now.

  5. marie 3 February 2011 at 9:17 am Permalink

    my fiance broke up with me 4 weeks ago, I love him sooo much. I’m an emotional wreck. I know he is the one, the only one I have ever and ever want. my life is nothing without him. He said that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore and that he has fallen out of love with me over time. I couldn’t stand to lose him! I wrote him a song and everything. What do I do??? :(

    • Tommie 16 June 2011 at 12:54 am Permalink

      I know the feeling. I lost my soulmate too. He said we weren’t getting along and fell out of love with me. This website says it loud and clear. But truly you know that a man is closer to God than a woman. Its possible that there is someone else out there greater for you. Your ex fiancee was probably ‘great’ if you get my drift. Just have hope this can go your way or get better. Don’t lose hope. God has a purpose for everything. :-)

    • Anele 18 April 2012 at 12:40 am Permalink

      Have you and you’re fiance fixed things now, or have you learnt to move on??

  6. Bells 6 February 2011 at 4:02 pm Permalink

    Well he dumped me 2 months ago and he said he didnt feel like dating anyone soon, then he asks out my friend. Then im going out with another guy, when i still have feelings for my ex… What do i do?!

    • sydney 11 November 2011 at 12:50 pm Permalink

      You should just live with it…..nothing is wrong with liking 2 people at the same time! just dont try to act cool,because something bad will happen to you most likley…(embarassing!!!)

  7. Briana 12 February 2011 at 8:53 am Permalink

    My boyfriend dumped me a month ago because he goes to a different school and we couldnt always hang out and he didnt think it was working. A few days later he is going out with someone else and i am still inlove with him. but i just act happy for him and dont show my pain. we still talk everyday like when we r dating. what can i do to get him back.

    • Love 27 February 2014 at 3:26 pm Permalink

      I broke up with my boyfriend because he was touching other girls and I still like him and I am in 6 grade

      • Love 27 February 2014 at 3:27 pm Permalink

        Please tell me what to do

  8. heather 14 February 2011 at 1:13 am Permalink

    hi boyfriend and i was together for 8years on and off our relationship wasnt healthy, he wasnt happy with me cause of things i did and he dont trust me any more. he say he loves me but he is not in love with me anymore, we been broken up since 2 months now, the last time i seen him was january 25th our son bda yand the last time i talk to him was january 30th 2011 i havent talk to him since, he would call or text me at times asking how we doing but i never respone back. he say i broke his heart when i told him to move out and go see other people a year ago. the last time i talk to him he told me he dont want it anymore and he is not feeling me no more, he just want to friends with me not a relationship anymore. so i ask him “u not coming back he told me no not now not for a while? whats not for a while? i ask him again the same question” u not ever coming back and he told me, he dont know. i know i mess up and i got many chances and screwed them up, but how can i get that chance again? please give me some serious advice?

  9. Ciel Kennedy 3 April 2011 at 7:44 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me because he feels that we don’t get on well. He broke up with me over a month ago and I still love him and it hurts. I really want him to give me another chance. After the break up I didn’t talk to him for a week and now we talk everyday like before we went out. I’m meeting up with him next week and I don’t know what to tell him and I’m scared what he will think and if i screw up. Please help…

    • Hannah 15 May 2011 at 6:08 am Permalink

      all you got to do is not panic!, stay cool, show him how well you are doing and dazzle him with your looks, make him go WOW!, just chill with him, flirt with him show how much you have changed but still be the person he fell in love with!,

  10. Somebody 24 April 2011 at 6:29 am Permalink

    Well I have a special story. my ex-boyfriend and I broke up a 8 months ago, but the problem is that I dumped him.
    Now after all this months I want him back, and I tried to tell him and he said he’s in love with someone else after all this time that he didn’t felt anything for any girl.
    After 2 days we talked and he told me that it wasn’t something special and he doesn’t love this girl anymore, so now I’m wondering what is the reason he’s not coming back.
    I’d like to hear your opinion about it and what could be the reason.

    • stillinlove 21 May 2011 at 8:28 am Permalink

      possible, your ex bf felt that it is not the girl for him yet, but if he will be in love again,maybe it will be you or not you since you have already a past that he dont want to bring back for the mean time. time will tell if you are really meant to each other.

  11. Leanna 24 April 2011 at 7:27 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me just yesterday, and I’ve been constantly crying, wanting him back. I love him so much it hirts, and I constantly hear in my head “We cannot be together anymore. I love you, but I am not in love with you anymore”. It happened so suddenly. He went trough tough time, right after we became a couple, and I left everything behind to be with him, comfort him, and slept over at his house every night.. And when he finally got back on his feet, I could not let him go and ended up spending every day at his house, almost craving his attention. It pushed him away.. It kept going for way too long, and now he is gone. Is there any posibility that I can make him come back? I truly love him, and he once loved me too. I have alredy read several articles, and I decided to give it a try. I miss his warmth.. I miss him..

    • tyler brianne 27 April 2011 at 7:34 am Permalink

      i think if u just give him time and be friends with him for a while u will get him back…im inna lot of pain also but i trying my best to get over it and still get who i want back…what i am doing is working just give him time and keep in touch….be who u was when u first started dating…and u will have him back

  12. Sam 9 May 2011 at 4:50 pm Permalink

    Me and my ex broke up for 3 months already. We were together for little over 4 years. When he all of sudden told me that he doesn’t have feelings for me and more, and that he lost feelings for me since the second year. So after we broke up we still kept in touch little to min. During these 3 months I’ve trying really hard to go out with friend n try really hard to forget him. But I would cry and cry when I’m alone. I wonder if there is any chances or way to find out if he somewhat still cares or have feeling for me. I know I’m silly. How do I make him fall in love with me again. Thank you.

  13. Miguel 20 May 2011 at 12:25 am Permalink

    My Girlfriend broke up with me because her feelings for me had changed. we have been together for 2 years and have a 1 yr old baby girl. For some time i felt like i loved her more than she loved me, and i guess i was right. She at her parents house in california and me in Texas she was going to work over there bc she couldnt find a job in Tx shes been there for 5 months so far with our baby girl every day we text and some night call each other. She told me at one point that she didnt want to come back to Tx if it meant to live with my parents she wanted a house for us which i agree in so, I finally got the house she liked and started moving our stuff out to the new house on Sunday 5/14/11 and later that night is when she told me that her feelings had changed. Ofcourse i want her back shes my soulmate and its not right that we`re doing this to our baby. She said that she will be comming back for half of june all of july and leave in august during this time she wants to see if we can re-kindle our relationship which i really hope so not only for my sake but for the future of my baby girl i want her to grow up with her family. I need help what should i do to re-kindle our love ?

  14. stillinlove 21 May 2011 at 7:56 am Permalink

    hi, i had this relationship with a gir,.actually we are both like really girl not kind of tomboy look.we are both happy for like 3 yrs and then since i am 23 yrs old that time i got this feeling of having relationship again with a guy, what happen was i cheated her and then the guy and me became bf and gf but then it was not successfull and just broke up after 5 months, the girl accepted me again and we just continued the relationship but all of a sudden i felt that she is not that sweet to me.one of the reasons because i cheated her many times, and most of all i leaved her because of someone before so she cannot bring back the sweetness that we are sharing before but still we are together.Its like i am the one doing extra effort to bring back the old feeling we had, I feel so guilty of what i did to her, because she is the only the person who can understand and loved me for who i am.Then she just broke up with me and i cant take it because i really love her.i did that before because of immaturity.im still in love her and she is not into relationship right now.She is not lesbian, i think i am the one, or i ruther call myself bi. i cant get over, it is already 1 yr. we are still friends and i am doing my best to get her back to me again but still she dont want.she told me that she wants to do the right thing, to have a relationship with a guy but then until now she dont have bf.and i have already but i still love her. i cant understand what i am feeling right now, i love my bf but i love her more.
    what will I do…??? pls comment.

  15. SCARED ME.. 23 May 2011 at 3:33 am Permalink

    well i m madly in love wid a guy i broke up wid 7 months bk…..v bth loved each oder a lottt,everybody thought dey had never seen two ppl completing each other so perfectly……..bt then i told my parentsand dey emotionally blackmailed me to break up…..i live away in hostel…he tried convincing me bt i wanted to try hard enough to gt ovr him…..bt i didnt bt by dt tym he didnt want me bk coz he was sure ill leave him….bt i was serious…hes now been wid anoder gal for 3 months n dey seem perfectly happy….bt the problem is i still love him n its so difficult for every1 around let alone me to accept hes d same guy who loved me soo mucch……..is there ne chance we’ll be back…please please reply..:(

  16. Cassandra 3 June 2011 at 3:44 pm Permalink

    So, I dated this guy for about 8 months. I caused him to break up with me, primarily because I was quite aware I wasn’t ready for a relationship just yet.. and now he’s dating this girl ( WHO USED TO STALK HIM!!) , and they’ve been dating for .. about two months. And, Just Last weekend My Ex’ Threw a Party and I was invited. ( I helped his girlfriend be there.. just so I don’t look like a bitch, and he knows I’m trying to help.) So, at this party.. I pretty much told him I liked him.. and well. He was speechless. OH and at his party, his sister and her boyfriend ( two people he’s supppper close with) confronted me, and explained that they’d prefer myself with him! .. not her!!
    I’ve made it clear to him that I’m not trying to win him back..
    but lately I’ve been having more then 10 dreams about him in the past month.. and I’ve been writing looots of poetry .. and the Last thing I wrote on my tumblr, I gave it to him today.. it left him speechless. So I have noo Idea whether he likes me or not..
    When him and I first Broke up.. he liked me SOSOSOOSOS much . it was unbelievable.. and the feelings weren’t entirely Mutual . Now they are.. and he makes it Seem as though he likes me.. But I can’t entirely Be sure.. I want him. So Badly . and It’s not because I see her with him.. It’s the DREAMS, and everyone telling me so . and How.. How Much Poetry is just pouring out of me… it’s.. how my heart.. feels when he’s near.. My Hands always shake, and I loose all train of thought. He’s all I can think about ..
    His girlfriend only hung out with him like.. 2 times. as I’ve hanged out with him like a MILLION Times.. even while They’re dating….
    The only Truly shitty thing is, his bestfriend Likes me. but eh . oh well. a lot of guys do . idfc. I want him . no one else. Help!?!!?!?!

    • Missy 15 June 2011 at 4:38 pm Permalink

      Its your call, you know. I also have the same situation before but guess what, after we ended up together he broke up with me and blamed me every single thing about the past, im not saying the guys are the same just saying think it over, And over and OVER AGAIN…dreams are those of what we want to have and what we have had… does it make sense? this works though, Pray to God and ask for guidance but do not think anything liKe you are dreaming of something good that will happen between you too, rather clear your mind. ;)

  17. Iris 22 June 2011 at 2:14 am Permalink

    well my storys a bit lonq but ill wrap it up. so me and my qirlfriend were toqether for about a year when iupped and left her because iknew she was cheatinq on mee, it was just constant fiqhtinq and eventually ifound out it was true.its been about two months after ileft our house and althouqh istill think of her sometimes, ithink its best if ijust never talk to her aqain.imean she was the one who was cheatinq throuqhout most of the relationship.ijust dontknoe whats real or fake anymore with her.ihave been datinq and irecently qot into anew relationship with a woman who has been here for me throuqh the worst possible moments.should iforqet my ex? imean its obvious she doesnt deserve me.

    • imisshim 23 December 2011 at 10:48 am Permalink

      you should forget your ex because its clear she is always going to be a cheater. a person that cheats once will cheat again and again and again because if you do try and fix the relationship, they know they can get away with it! it seems as though this new woman is the one you should be focusing on :) trust me move on dont look back! you deserve to be happy :)

  18. Heartbroken 1 July 2011 at 1:23 pm Permalink

    i wish i could write but i just cry

    • Justin 17 May 2014 at 3:29 pm Permalink

      Hi um I had a girlfriend and I was all crazy about her( I’m 12) and then my best freind told her I called her fat cause she has problems with her ribs And they go out not in so she got super mad and dumped and I didn’t even do anything and then she hit my trigger word and said I was a two faced loser and I accidentally called her fat up to her face and now I can’t stop but now I have stopped but she won’t forgive me and then I got dared to hug her randomly and I did so now she hates me more what should I do?

  19. Chris 3 July 2011 at 1:21 pm Permalink

    I was with my girlfriend for 3.5 years before she dumped me. She said she felt like I took her for granted. I felt like she took me for granted also. This happened in October 2011. Then come December we hooked up again to only later in February she dumped me. Then in May we got back together for 3 weeks. I dumped her this time because I didn’t see how we would work out. Then yesterday on her birthday I went to her house and handed her flowers and told her I’m going to miss everything we had. She teared up and said she’ll miss everything. I told her that I still like her A LOT. She said that she still liked me A LOT. I grabbed her hand, she didn’t resist. I said this would be the last time we see each other and she said it would be that we’ll see each other again. I hugged her and gave her a kiss on the cheek. Then I left. While on the break she missed me. She saved the pictures of us on her phone and would look through them when she missed me. We even talked about having kids down the future; this was just 3 weeks ago. I’m moving to get my B.S. I would love to have her back. She can’t get over the bad things that happened during our relationship. The events that took place in 2010 were; my mother’s cancer, her mothers colon test, her sis, a false positive of an infection, then she really got an infection for something else, two suicides in the family, she had two car accidents, my unemployment, and my sister’s divorce. I have more to say later.

  20. Renee Grace Manalo 14 July 2011 at 2:03 am Permalink

    I get broke up with my bf but i don’t know then my friends bf said that my friend tell to my bf that i don’t like my bf anymore then i tell to my bf’s friend to ask him that’s not my fault it’s my friends fault but then he don’t like me anymore :( :’(

  21. Steph 31 July 2011 at 2:17 am Permalink

    my bf’s just recently broke up with me we were together for 4 years and says that he doesnt love me anymore were still friends and still see eachother but i want him back im head over heals for him and duno how to get him to fall back in love with me , everytime i see him i sit and chill with him and go out sometimes , but i always feel like crying :/ i need help on how to win him back can you help me please x

  22. Steph 1 August 2011 at 10:13 pm Permalink

    i couldnt imagine life without him =/ hes the one and only for me , we broke up couple months back and gave it another go but last week when he broke up with me he says that he wasnt happy and that nuthing had changed at all :( he seemed fine and happy when we were with eachother for the past couple months , but i really want him back hes the love of my life please reply and help me !!

  23. JoJo 4 August 2011 at 4:21 am Permalink

    I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. I have broken up with him 3 times and we always ended up back together. This time he will not get back with me though. He says it wasnt the same after the first time i broke up with him. We are friends but he still thinks of me sometimes and i still love him. But I am going off to college and he is not. I dont want a long distance relationship but I still want him to think about me and not get with other girls. I wouldnt mind gettin back with him in a year or so but i need my priorities straight for school. Is there anyway to garauntee he will be there for me when I get back?

  24. me 11 August 2011 at 10:19 pm Permalink

    i run out of love is gonna be 4yrs anniversary, bec he was so immature, played around, every stupidness i forgave. but the clock was ticking, and everythime to be hurt it was emptying me. in 3mnth i met someone one night stand, and felt different, n started relationship, till my ex found, and refused, got me back, but his attitude started to kill me again. so we broke up again. and i got back in touch with same guy again. my ex dont want me to go, dont want me to have another relationship, treats me like i am his property, but what shal i do to love him back? if we broke up like 100 times, he kept coming back, but cannot accept it anymore. this time, i thought is serious, n hes again feeling hurt, he dont understand how many times he hurted me, and sorry it doesnt touch myu heart anymore. i dont even want to have sex with him, he doesnt turn me on, and all i do he hummiliating me, keeps turning up whenever he wants to, he wants my love back, but i fed up, just wanna be happy, keep arguing, we got two lil children. i just feeling like to shoot myself, what a life , feeling hard to work all out, anyone who wrote here, wish he could write , n tell me y hes suffering, but aint giving me right thing. dont wanna waist my time by being emotionally down.

    • Mr 16 February 2012 at 4:23 am Permalink

      I’m in the same position but I’m the guy and I can’t stress enough that I only want my wife to be happy and we have 2 kids and maybe another on the way in the begining I did nothing but cheat and this last time is what caused us to end only because I held my tongue for 2yrs. I 19 and now I’m 21 and we’ve seperated prior for 6 months but when I asked her to come back I was ready to give my wife a life only dreams would allow. But before I could I would have to tell her about the last time and so I did and in doing so she left me again which is why were friends now. I want my wife back so my family can grow as a whole and although statistics and bios say well seperate yourself emotionally and don’t allow yourself to become raveled into the bond that once was there. But this is my wife of four yrd my lover of 5 and my first I lost my virginity to when I was 12. So I can’t detach though I know I could if it wasn’t that much to hold onto. Hell I’ve acomplished my goal for change but she dosent care to look at me openly past my wrongs though she wants to let it go. So help me what do I do now to bring it to homebase?

  25. makoma 12 August 2011 at 7:24 pm Permalink

    my ex and i just got back together 5days back..am soooo inlove with him,but he seemz not sure to trust me again coz i had an affair with sum1 b4 we broke nd he knew abt it.the reason i cheated waz bcoz i was desparate for love and he didnt hav nothing 2do with me dat tym,so i cheated on him thinking he will fil jealous and want me back.am trying so hard to convince him i love him and he says he love me too.but am not sure he really does.he says am de only gal that appreciated him and made him happy. will it work this tym aroud.plz help

  26. Lynn 13 August 2011 at 5:13 pm Permalink

    I was with my ex for 4 years. We had a wonderful 4 years together. We have been separated for 9 years. Throughout those 9 years we both have been in relationship but nothing like what we had. We have always been there for each other because we have become best friends. Now after 9 years we are getting back together again. The love that we shared never died. If you want your ex, don’t give up on them. Whatever went wrong I am pretty sure you can fix it. Try and sit down and talk about it. Lay the cards face up and don’t hold anything back. Good things come to those who wait. Look at me!

    • Jess 11 December 2011 at 8:03 pm Permalink

      What happened that you guys broke up in the first place? if you dont mind me asking? and how are you guys now? I was with my ex boyfriend for 3.5 years and we were so madly in love. Those 3nd a half years were the time of my life, they were amazing. Then one day we just started fighting. We faught for a few weeks nd i decided that since i was still young i wasnt ready to settle down and still wanted time to be a teenager nd enjoy college. Now its 3 years later, ive been with my new boyfriend for 2 years and my ex got his girlfriend pregnant so he married her to take responsibility. He messaged me on July 2nd, my birthday ( as he did every year since we broke up) but this time we actually started having conversations. Now were in november and we talk EVERYDAY. He tells me how much he is sorry for everything that has ever happened, how much he loves me and that he wishes we could take everything back. I love this man so much that i just wish we could run away together like we always talked about when we first met. The problem is, he is married now and has a 2 month old baby girl. He cares about his wife but knows that he will never love her as much as he loves me because we are meant to be together, and he knows she deserves more then to be with someone who truely cant give her their whole heart. He is an amazing father and would be their for his daughter no matter what and i would NEVER ask anything less of him. I have nothing against his wife and if we were to ever be together i would love his daughter like she was my own. He lives in North Carolina and I live in Indiana. I told him i would fly there just to see him for a weekend, to see how we feel when we are actually together, but hes scared, i know he is. Hes scared that when we see eachother we are going to fall in love all over agian and that he will be forced to make the hardest decision of his life. And i know that if we see eachother, that IS whats going to happen. I dont want him to think hes being forced to do anything because if he wants to stay with his wife i told him i would completely respect his wishes and would leave him alone to try and be the happiest he could be with his family. I just dont know what to do anymore. I cant go threw my day without thinking about him and how our lives together used to be and how much i would give anything to have him back. Through the 3 years we werent together i thought about him so much and i tried to stay strong without him in my life but i always knew that no matter what i did or who i met, he was the man i was meant to be with. Right when we started talking again i just knew that the love we had for eachother 3 years ago was still the same love we have for eachother today. I dont know who to talk to or what to even ask, i just dont know what to do. Thanks for listening. – Jess

  27. B. 18 August 2011 at 4:04 am Permalink

    I’ve been liking this boy for A year and a half almost and well thru those times we were on n off, but the last time we got back together things change I didnt felt like he loved me anymore, But i clearly loved him and still dont.. He broke up with me And said he didnt feel the same way for some reason now i am seriously bummed out but so far I am doing okay but miss him alot n what him to love me again. Now am kinda jealous cause of his status he post other girls on facebook. How do i know if he still ove me if he would never talk to me :\. any advice ?

  28. JJ 18 August 2011 at 1:54 pm Permalink

    A few months back my sisters friend was really into me and we got together a couple of times, he had strong feelings for me but i didnt feel it back. He has recently moved to england (im in scotland) and he came back for a visit about 2 weeks ago and i cant stop thinking about him.. Do you think ive missed my chance or what? Advice please!

  29. Katelyn 23 August 2011 at 8:58 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me about 2 and a half weeks ago. We were together for 5 months. He said he broke up with me because we always fought and he only saw me like once a month. We kinda talk a lot and I keep trying to get him back but not he likes another girl. He still says he has feelings for me but I really don’t know what to do. Advice would help.(:

    • irene 28 August 2011 at 10:04 am Permalink

      hey im not sure if this will help!!!
      But a while bck ago me n my boyfriend broke up n he treated me like crap he kept tellin me he ddnt want me n me n him were brokin up 4 like 2 r 3 weeks n he told me he found some1 else n he ddnt want me now tht he had someone else and im close to my bf mom i always tlk to her so i asked her if he did have someone else and she told he dont but she kall him an see wants goin on n a couple hours later he texted my mom an told her i want irene bck tell her ill take her bck n he also asked my mom if he could see him WHEN I SAW HIM I CONFRONTED HIM N ASKED WHY LIED AN TOLD ME HE HAD SOME ONE ELSE N HE SAID WAS TO HURT ME AN MAKE ME JEALOUSE

      im not sure but how can your ex have feeling for a girl n a couple of week maybe his tryin to make you jealouse or some or maybe he didnt care as much as you though but if ya’ll were ment to be he take you bck I WISH YOU THE BEST AND I HOPE YOU GET HIM BACK GOOD LUCK

  30. marcus gilbert 23 August 2011 at 11:29 pm Permalink

    I was with my ex for 4 months, for the first month or 2 it went good then we started 2 drift away coz she always used to make up excuses to why we couldnt make plans i treated her good but she didnt give anythin back hardly she didnt even let me come see her on her own birthday but after that it got worse everytime i went in for a kiss she used to move away or be like theres people there had me thinking like so what were together it shouldnt matter after that we hardly ever had time alone, i said to her maybe should take a break and she was like nooonoo so i was like ok lets see how it goes n a couple of weeks later just before my birthday she broke up with me out of nowhere and said she wants us 2 see each other but again it was me making all the effort and i went cinema with another girl but didnt do anythin and she found out but i apologized sincerely because i knew i was wrong but i told her the truth then after that she used it against me had sex with another guyy then went that went wrong she came running back to me sayin i like u again lets see how it goes so like an idiot i was like okk then she stopped speaking to me and it left me confused then i found out she liked someone else and didnt say anything and said she wants to be friends and now 3 months after that i think shes gotta new guyy n said she was going to tell me but she wasnt and she said she wants to be friends coz i was important in her life and we have the same circle of friends but i said to her i cant be friends coz i care about u 2 much for some stupid reason and i said have a good life and cut her off deleted everything not going to lie it did make me feel bit weird when i heard she was seein someone else but i dont care anymore. i just dont understand why shes so keen on bein friends probably trying to use me again for when things go bad? need help think i did the right thing by cutting her off?

  31. irene 28 August 2011 at 9:52 am Permalink

    i have a boyfriend im still with him but he treats me like crap i messed up a while bakc ago n cheated n flirted around but he did the same thng but he cheated n flirted around way b4 me n now he calls me a slut n stuff n this happened months ago n he acts like he ddnt do it at all but he did like 8 times n ive only cheated on him once n now he doesnt even wanna talk in he says he gunna cheat n talk to othere gurls again cuz i did it n yet again i havent flirted n cheated around 4 like months i regret what i did but how can i prove to him i love him in only him and i wouldnt hurt him again and how can i get him to stop hurting me mentally im only 16 n he’s a 1st to alot of thing i cant live with out him n i know he love me cause me n him been through so much n he nice to me wen i with him n im his 1st everything please help me IM BEGGING YOU i dont wanna lose my bf n i dont want him playing me ive been wid him 4 a year n a half n 2 weeks PLEASE HELP ME

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:36 am Permalink

      You guys should consider counseling. It’ll work wonders trust me. I know you love him though and I wish you all the luck, love and blessings in the world!

  32. Brigette 5 September 2011 at 5:43 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. He’s been out of state working since the beginning of the month. He says its because of trust issues and about problems we’ve had in the past. When he left, he did leave with good terms but 2 weeks later he called and broke up with me. I am so in love with him, what do I do?? :(

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:28 am Permalink

      My break up hit me like a ton of bricks too. He had said I love you :) on Facebook the day before. I was working through my issues, but I made mistakes on our last day.. Listen, for whatever reason he bases it on, accept that you guys broke up. Can you find why he doesn’t trust you without directly begging him? Try to be distant for temporary and remember establish that friendship sometime in a couple months I can’t guarantee anything but I give you all my love and support in all you do!

  33. Josh 5 September 2011 at 2:00 pm Permalink

    Hey my G-f broke up with two weeks ago, we tryed to work things out but she said she wasnt in love with me. Ive been trying to call her and text her but no reply, should i just let her go and then try later?

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:38 am Permalink

      Just keep your distance now. But try to be friends later on. Also keep in mind, do not beg :) there is always hope and I wish you all the luck, love and blessings in the world!

  34. Molly 6 September 2011 at 12:58 pm Permalink

    I dated a guy for about a year and then he told me he lost feelings for me and he broke it off. It’s been about 8 months since and we both are in a relationship. The last time we talked he told me he hated me. I still am crazy in love with him and seeing him everyday makes it even worse. Is there any way I can get what we had back? I haven’t ever been as happy as I was with him.

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:40 am Permalink

      You never can move on from it? It’s been only 3 weeks for me, but it feels like a lifetime. As long as you exert your hardest, that’s all that matters. And your feelings matter as well. Are you guys friends? I know you’re unhappy, but has he seen your good side?

  35. loveless 10 September 2011 at 9:50 am Permalink

    Hey. Me and my boyfriend have broken up like three times now but we keep coming back because I love him deeply and I thought he was too. The last time we broke up, he said he had feelings for another girl and I was just destroyed. I begged and pleaded for him back and he said he’ll give it a month. Then one day he says that this girl asked him out and he didn’t know what to tell her. I told him to tell her no because I still love him and that I’d give up everything for him. But he told me that he said yes to her and so that meant we broke up again. After that night, I didn’t feel anything. I guess it was shock, and the next day I didn’t speak to him at all. The day after he tells me that he misses me and that he wants to work it out. I was confused but I gave in and said yes. Two weeks later, he tells me today that he doesn’t feel like he wants me anymore. That his ex wants him back. I am confused he gave me a week to change his mind. What do I do?

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:24 am Permalink

      Sounds so screwed.
      You love him. And I can’t tell you to get over it because your feelings matter. Girls and guys alike want what they can’t have. Do you seriously see him as a husband and father of kids one day? If you do, yea, there are ways to win his love back. You need to make yourself less needy, or appear less needy. You need some time self improving and loving yourself, before you can go back to him. Never beg. You can be direct by saying I want to do something. Subtly show you care, love him, but don’t get too hopeful. I believe in you though.

  36. Another Guy 10 September 2011 at 4:34 pm Permalink

    So me and my girlfriend broke up like 3 weeks ago. Literally she “changed her mind” in 5 minutes. Texts me the night before begging me to come over to see her in the morning for breakfast among other things ;). Anyways kissing blah blah then she grows distant in like 30 seconds and says I don’t think I love you anymore…we are both in college but our colleges are like 20 miles apart not even….anyways I truly like love this girl. She’s amazing in every aspect and I couldn’t hate her if I tried. I think she’s just afraid idk she just turned cold on me and I said we probably shouldn’t talk to each other/hook up for a while because it was just a bad idea. Anyways the night before I made a letter with a menu to her favorite french resturant along with a picture of us she loved and I want to send it but I don’t know…I mean I archived all the pictures of us on my computer and we agreed to de-friend on facebook (well I did nothing mean I just didn’t want to see her on my news feed everyday)…Idk she’s just driving me nuts. We haven’t talked in 3 weeks and I still can’t stop thinking about her. Of course I’ve been busy as well but nothing changes how I feel about her :/ advice?

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:19 am Permalink

      I’m in the three weeks zone and I’ve been around my ex. It hurts so much. But for you, does it hurt being away? Girls are like that. They will want what they cannot have. I’m like that. I screwed up and that’s my biggest reason. You want to keep your distance, but you want to occasionally say hello. Show her you’re doing better even if you’re not. Try to be friends. Accept the breakup, but don’t throw out your feelings if you believe you love her. People will always tell you their opinion, but honestly, it’s up to you. I screwed up with my ex twice, people tell me it’s never gonna happen again, even my ex said that when I begged for his love again. Don’t give up. There’s a hope in everything. You just have to learn to be without them. Love yourself and know that this is a test. Make her fall in love with you again by being the best person you can be, and even if you can’t win her love back, try to be her friend. Oh and get rid of bitter feelings towards yourself, her and the break up. See this as a learning experience.

  37. Vane 19 September 2011 at 3:59 am Permalink

    Hi all. Thanks for reading my comment. It’s gonna be a bit long but I’ll try my best to make it as brief and clear as possible.

    So I and my boyfriend broke up around 1.5 month ago. We had known each other for couple of months through online dating and seen each other regularly during that period before we decided to start into relationship. Sadly our relationship only lasted for 2 months. It was mainly my mistake though, I was getting frustrated and kind of emotional until I decided to end the relationship. I felt like I couldn’t handle the pressure so I just decided to end it. Now somehow I totally regret it but on the other hand I just stay positive and be grateful. We’ve had so much fun ever since the first time I met him. He’s a gentleman and I know he genuinely loved me and not only obsessed with sex and all those things because we’ve never done it before (we both are Christians so we’re against pre-marital sex)

    The problem was mainly because of trust issue but it’s not about cheating. Anyway, a week after we broke up he messaged me on facebook saying he wants to be friends as long as I want him to then he asked me if I want to hang out again as friends because he said there’s no point of being friends on facebook if we don’t socialize. I replied 15 hours later and he might get a bit impatient (I was so busy on that day so I didn’t check my facebook) and as soon as I logged in I found out he had removed me from his facebook. I was shocked and I replied that if I’m available I don’t mind to hang out (I tried not to bring up the facebook thing as things between us started to calm down a bit). The next morning I found out he’d sent me friend request again but when I wanted to confirm it, it didn’t work. I assumed he cancelled it. But he replied my message saying we’ll get a time and date soon.

    Now it’s been almost a month after his last message. We haven’t contacted each other since then and I don’t have his facebook anymore so I don’t know what he’s doing (I don’t want to add him because he’s the one who removed me so I feel like it just feels right if he’s the one who readds me) I still got his skype account but even when we both are online, we don’t talk on there. I can’t deny the fact that he lingers in my mind every single day even every single second. I pray every night to get back with him and after we broke up I remember he said he just wants us to be friends but if things are going well in the future he wants to be in relationship again

    What should I do? I don’t want to start dating with someone else because the fact that I’m not ready to replace him but I don’t want to wait for him either because this is something uncertain. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:09 am Permalink

      Sounds so bad :/ and I am deeply sorry. It’s been a while. Try to skype with him at least, I mean at least you’re trying. You may love him for a long, long time, but remember if you work at being his friend and always showing him your best side, you’ll find it’d be easier to win him back. I just wish you all the luck in the world. Ihate seeing breakups..over meaningless unnecessary things.

  38. Sickoflovesongs 4 October 2011 at 9:06 am Permalink

    I miss my boyfriend so much! We was together for like 10months and I found out he was cheating on me and its just soo horrible I still love him though! We have been on and off for ages but I was soo in love with him I loved him better then anyone else and tbh I dont think hes gunna ever get back with me!:’(

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:04 am Permalink

      I’m so sorry for you! :(
      As much as the regular thing to say is “he’s wrong for you.” etc. I don’t know your full situation. But, remember, only you can control how you feel. It may seem hopeless, but there’s hope, maybe a little, but there is. Even if he says I don’t love you anymore. I did. We’re never gonna date again. Listen. He might have been angry when he said things. You don’t want him to pity you or even despise you, so hold off on the begging and pleading back. You need time by yourself. Be happy :) and anyways, if you accept the break up as a learning experience and keep your feelings for him, it’ll get easier. Once you’ve done that, become a friend. Show him you’re drama free, that you genuinely care no matter what, that he gets the best side of you all the time, I really hope this works for you and me!

  39. co 15 October 2011 at 1:39 am Permalink

    hey…… me and my girlfriend. we been together for 3 years and now we go break up one year ago but everything that i try to get her back… i try to cut all my contact with several times and talk to her again and it always the same….so i would like to know what else should i do now …please

    • Nicolemae 22 October 2011 at 11:58 pm Permalink

      I feel for you.. I’m so sorry. So you cut off contact with her for a while, correct? Well here’s the thing, you want to be friends with her again. But not show that you’re needy, always show her the best side of you when around her. Talk about how well you’re doing. Ask her about how she’s doing. Don’t beg ever, or bring up wanting her back. Reconnect as friends, let go of all your bitter emotions, be happy, and casually remind her of good times. I believe that 80-90% of relationships can be saved. Just have hope. But don’t think you’re guaranteed that chance. You can either have her as a strong friend or as a lover again. It’s up to them, but you can possibly make them fall in love with you again if you can be that person they first liked, loved. I wish yOu the best! <3

  40. mauricio 19 October 2011 at 1:01 pm Permalink

    hey i broke up with my girlfriend because some guy was flirting with her and now shes with the other guy… anyway i could get her back?

    • Nicolemae 23 October 2011 at 12:13 am Permalink

      Most likely, he is a rebound. Your ex will definitely still think of you. Despite the odds, I think it’s best to leave her be for a while. And then try to be friends again. My ex whom I dated twice. Once for only two months decided to break up with me, and he said I don’t think I like her anymore, but three months later he said I love you with his new phone he got. From then on it was almost two years, and this time he says never again.. Is this true? Or was it just a in the moment kind of thing?

      But really, just be happy. She’ll notice!

  41. Lydia 22 October 2011 at 2:14 am Permalink

    Hey my boyfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. We sometimes still talk but the problem is that he says he wants to be friends but he doesn’t want to meet me. I’m going to the same college as him soon and I want to know why he doesn’t want to meet. He keeps on coming up with different reasons and I have no idea if he’s lying to me. I still love him and I want a second chance with him but he says he doesn’t love me. I also suffer from clinical depression and the break up is tearing me apart. Any advice will be grateful. What do I do?

  42. Mario 22 October 2011 at 8:01 pm Permalink

    Plz help me, I really want my girlfriend back We have been dating for 8months and around that time we hit that stale point which relationships hit. I had seen it coming and I was trying to do something about it but she wasnt trying to do anything. She told me I had to get myself together and then give her a call, turns out she was seeing someone else. So its hard to work on a relationship when shes already started a new one. I was good to her and I never cheated on her or anything, she would tell me about her past bf’s cheated and I never did. She leaves me for another man instead of working on the relationship. She dumped me one day and then was with him on the next,but it wasnt confirmed for me until I seen then a month and half after she broke up with me. I sent out the agreement letter on the break up a week or 2 ago, I havent had any contact and I’ve been praying like crazy..what else is there to do, just wait.I love her and miss her so much I’ve been staying busy and I’m doing alot better. I just feel that the relationship ended way before its time cause it could have been worked out I strongly feel that way. Plz help me when I seen them that day it crushed me I didnt let her see that it did but it hurt so bad, cause all I could think about was I was there were that guy was a couple of months ago.plz help some how you or somebody.

  43. Nicolemae 22 October 2011 at 11:50 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend dumped me a few weeks ago and I did not see it coming. We dated for almost two years, but I felt we were in love with each other. I had this problem though of finding other guys interesting/attractive and obsessing over it, ultimately, I hated that trait about me and I was trying to change that. He also said that he had carried the relationship and that I didn’t care. But I did. He said that I didn’t let him voice his opinions and was scared I’d leave him. But if he did honestly sit me down and tell me how much it had hurt, I’d seriously listen. Anyways, I sort of unknowingly pestered him the lady couple of weeks about getting back together after college. At first he was like yes :) and he hugged me tight and kissed my forehead while I was happily talking to him. However, last Wednesday he utterly refused to talk about it. He said “I’m completely over you. I was in love and now I’m not. I’m never gonna give you another chance. So please stop.” I mean it sounded nicer than that, but does that mean I’ve lost all hope. I still feel he’s the one, and I seriously want to make an effort if I ever get a chance. The thing is, he wants to be friends. We sometimes say hi and chat about small things, I try to be happy around him. I want to become a friend, but should I wait until I fully accept the break up? If he felt I was the one, before, can he feel it again? He’s moving to a diff. town in 2 years. We’ll be going to different colleges. What must I do? I want to respect that he wants no college relationships. I just really want him back. Would it be too late four to five years from now? How will I go about making him fall back in love with the old me? And how can I stay strong and be happier? I’m 17, he’s 16. But believe me, I feel that he’s special. My first love, my true love. I’m sorry, but please I need help!

  44. brandon 27 October 2011 at 12:07 am Permalink

    Hello my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago all coz I didnt work or have a car :-( we was togeather 2years. all I do is sit in thinking about her every day and im always getting upset y she is out with some other lad she says she dont wont him and nothink is gunna happen between them there just mates but there togeather every night :-/ I dunno what to do and after 2years she says she dont love me anymore :-/ I loves her so much I would do anyfink for her :-( . I realy need some help and advice on what I can do

    • brandon 27 October 2011 at 6:46 pm Permalink

      Now found out today she is with him :-/

    • Mario 27 October 2011 at 9:55 pm Permalink

      what up man, your situation is different from mine but I believe you can get her back easier then mine..What you have to do is get up go out and a get a job doing anything I mean anything that is legal. Try to find one that gives you about 40 hours or get 2 part-time jobs if you can get that holiday help is needed in places get 2 of those until you can find a final spot somewhere..Next save up as best as you can to get you a car something decent that can get you from A to B. This will show her that you are trying to do something with yourself and knock out some of those negatice comments she may get from people and friends of hers. Keep the no contact, and send the break up agreement letter to her when your ready…Get the job and work on getting the car…..

      • brandon 28 October 2011 at 12:03 am Permalink

        Thats what ive bin doing mate but there no work out there that I can.find .. Ive got a fulltime job lined up after Christmas with my cuz but she with.this fella and deleted me on Facebook and blocked my number she saying she dont wont nothink to do with me anymore she only left me as I didnt have a job witch is abit money grabing ! But she was saying not long ago that she loves me I mean the world to her she dunno what she would do without me an so on then a month later dose one with someone else and now she dont love or care about me at all :-/ I wonder if she ever
        loved me :-/ she has made me fill so down and upset I just fill like ending It all I dont think there anyfink I can do to get her back :-(

        • Mario 28 October 2011 at 9:09 pm Permalink

          I know how you feel My girl said that same sh*t too about how she loved me and everything. Told me plz dont leave her and how she loved me so much. Then the next week she ended it without a goodbye handshake, and she didnt even want to try to work it out and didnt even give me a reason she just told me she couldnt do it anymore. She didnt want to work on it because she was already starting a new relationship with someone else. Now Ive been working on trying a couple of things that ashley kayers talks about, Ive done about 2 things so far and have a plan coming into effect sometime next month. If i do that and she doesnt come back to me, then I can walk away without feeling guilty,depressed or sad cause that means that I tried everything that I could possible do to try to make the relationship work and stuff..and she cant say the same..What im trying to say is dont end it I know your hurting I know your heart is broken.One of best things to do to get back at her is to prove her wrong.Let her see what she missed out on, go get a job doing anything fast food will do and car. Maybe change somethings about and I mean like change things that can help you for the good present yourself as a blend of the old/new you..All this comes when your ready to take that move forward cause right now your in the emotional stage…me im like 5-10% left of the emotional stage and im about 70% in I could give a rats asset about what shes doing and who she is with..keep your head up

          • brandon 29 October 2011 at 8:34 pm Permalink

            Yer im just gunna have to do that .. Get a job and start my lessons and sort my ways out then try agen then if still nothink then il be upset but time to jog her on and move on … I just keep thinking by the time ive done this she will be bang in love with him and il have no chance but il just have to see… well thank you mairo :-)

  45. nikki 1 November 2011 at 8:22 am Permalink

    hi i m in a luv wdh a guy who is friend of my x. after dat we both start a relation nw he feel dat he is doing wrong if wl marry me his frnd tease him dat his wife is x of his frnd dats y he want to do break up wdh me coz of my past only and use to say he never loved me jst dong tym past wdh me he never loved me. bt i want him. plz tel me what to do how cn i get my boy frnd back……….

  46. marissa 3 November 2011 at 11:24 am Permalink

    I just wanna say im sorry to everyone who’s feeling bad since they broke up w/ their bfs and gfs. But i gotta say, i know you hurt so bad and you cant ever imagine yourself being with anyone else but that person. BUT you”ll get over that person. You’ll go on to find someone who makes you much happier! Just give it some time and soon you wont even care about it. Surround yourself with friends and have a good time being single. its true when they say that the person of your dreams will come to YOU.

  47. nikshata 10 November 2011 at 3:03 am Permalink

    i think i’m in love with my friend’s ex.. i just can’t stop thinking about him.. he’s just friends with me till now.. n he says that he still loves her even though she cheated on him! i just get pissed-off wen he says that he still loves her.. am i wrong if i want him??

  48. Jodie 10 November 2011 at 11:27 am Permalink

    Can I Just Say If It Didnt Work Out First Time Round, Spesh Second Time Round Then What Makes You’s Think By Goin Back It Will Work That Time Round, Let Go Of Them And Move On, If It Was Ment To Be Yas Wouldnt Have Broken Up In The First Place………NEVER LOOK BACK!!! :) xx

  49. wendi 12 November 2011 at 9:19 am Permalink

    Hi.my bf broke.up with me about 3 weeks ago. We had been together and living together for 2 years and 6 mths. Im still in love with him. He.moved in with the neighbor until january till he moves to arizona. 16 hours away. I want him back so bad. I have to see him at work and at home. I went 3 days without speaking to him them he stops me at work and we talked for a few. Then he txted me his new number and we talked outside some.more. he said he’s friends with someone at work and wont.tell me who but they hang out. He says he’s not looking for.anything wither it be sex or relationship. I want him to stay but he’s got oportunity to get property in arizona. Isthere still hope for.me. I really can’t see myself.without him. I don’t see it over yet. He broke up with me once andcame back within 4 hours

  50. Kirti 13 November 2011 at 6:22 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend left me in September because i was too needy and we were fighting because he didnt come to meet me and so on. But now i realise that i lost him. He doesnt want to talk to me nor meet me. I want to show him that am not needy anymore and that i have changed for him. But nothing is working. If i change myself for better he will not know as he does not want to see me. How will he know that and how can i re attract him. I want him back. Please help me.

    Thanks.

  51. Nikki 15 November 2011 at 7:59 pm Permalink

    I just breakup with my boyfriend a month ago? I m not sure when is the EXACT breaking up date… seems like after oct 18th our relationship be into a worst situation, but everything returning to be good as he said he will treat me like his lil sister, and ask me to be his sister forever, so that we won’t breakup anymore…

    We had dated for 4 years.. we have go through alot of sad and happy moments, but now he is leaving Korea and went to LA for his study… (he went there the 2nd weeks and he wanna break with me already)… he said our point of view is different, and he has no more feeling on me…. is really suffer by then… and i keep on texting and calling him until oct 24th i only stop the bad habit… until now, on the 11 11 11, i sent a msg to greet him “happy 11 11 11″ and he replied “same to you” that’s all he replied… i don’t dare to call him as i scared that he will think i m very annoying, and didn’t sms him as well~ just that day a simple msg…

    Me and his family relationship also very good, due to he went to oversea, i still keep in touch with his family… He didn’t tell his family that we already break up, but i do… i told them that we already broke up and went to his house get all my stuff out… because i found out there is another girl right next to him now, he said he haven’t date yet, but i m sure he already have some good feeling for that girl…

    I really need help badly over here, as i really donno what can i do anymore… can anyone rescue me here pls?!?!?!!? T^T… i m totally hopeless…

  52. Makenzie 16 November 2011 at 7:12 am Permalink

    me and my ex broke up 7 months ago. We have a baby boy together who is 8 months old. i just have a question! my ex told me a few weeks ago when we were talking that he wants to be with me but he just knows it wouldnt work out cuz all we did was fight! i really care for him and love him alot he gave me my first child. we would alwasys fight cuz his friends came before our son and it just pissed me off so much. and i guess i never forgave him for cheating on me i was so insecure after it. we dated over a year. He was the first guy i fell in love with. i just need help how can i show him that i love him. how can i get him back an be a family? my son deserves a stable family he is an amazing little boy who desreves so much more than this! i also feel my son will grow up an think its his fault we broke up. it had nothing to do with him. i just want my ex back and to be a family n i need help. we also manily faught cuz are familys kept getting in the way to. plz help me!

  53. Esther 24 November 2011 at 10:01 am Permalink

    My boyfriend broke up with me on 11-11-11. And I really want him back. We are both Freshman in High School. He broke up w/ me because of all the fighting, and how he would lie to me, so I couldn’t trust him. We were dating for 2 years. And I know I drove him farther away from me, because I begged him to take me back. He is telling all his friends that I’m bi-polar and stuff. He made a fool out of me, especially because he took me back for like an hour and then broke up with me again, and he said I forced him to date me again. He keeps looking at me like he likes me still…but I don’t know. He is so important to me, and I don’t want to give up on him. But once my parent found out what he did, I can’t date him anymore unless he talks to my dad about it. I love him with all my heart and our relationship was very serious. Where do I go from here? I need him…

  54. Dulce 30 November 2011 at 6:48 pm Permalink

    Hi my name is dulce and me and my gf where together for almost a year and i thought we where happy and …she seemed fine and happy all the time with me and suddenly two days ago she told me by text that she cant be with me and she doesnt know how she feels toward me ..and she left me with blank ..i dont know where i went wrong ..i keep going back and havent gotten answers :(

  55. gunjan 8 December 2011 at 9:12 pm Permalink

    i luved him so much n i still luv him bt sm1 told him that i hav a 2nd bf..n since then he didnt even talk to me….i want him back n i can do whwtever 4 him

  56. swaroop das 12 December 2011 at 4:20 am Permalink

    hello, my girlfriend broked up with me as it was a long distance relationship, and then got commited to some other guy, now i think they have separated from each other, i talk to her offen but i feel that she doesn’t show that interest she used to do before, but she cares for me she once told me……..and says that i won’t come back to u again as i’m feeling guilty of herself that she did to me….and once said that i won’t repeat the mistake with someone else that did with u……..but i really love her a lot….and i knw that even she also has feelings for me but she doesnot show it to me………plezz help me out of these thing..and give me some tips to get my love back, thanku

  57. Tommie 4 January 2012 at 6:15 am Permalink

    ok … well theres this girl and i really deeply and truly love her but we broke up because i made the mistake of going to spend time with another girl and it was on our anniversary i couldn’t be with my girl because she was mad at me at the time so i spend time with another girl NOTHING happened between us but my girl fount out she confronted me about it and i denied it . its been 5 months since we broke up and ive been trying every single day to show her that i love her and i care about her i even do her laundry, homework, clean her room, do groceries and ect.. she still hasnt taken me back and i have not been talking to no other girls i just want my life back . but just recently she fell in love with a guy she just met that she doesn’t know and hes 28 and shes only 18 she fell in love with him in one day and i constantly try to show her that i love her and i dont want to be with out her but she still wants this guy and im afraid of losing her forever can someone please help me ?

    • Jackie 18 January 2012 at 5:31 am Permalink

      Hi there Tommie, I think the best thing u can do is move on. It’s like the more you show her that you care the more she’ll show you that she doesn’t care at all… I feel like maybe she really fell in love with that guy but it’s a rebound relationship.. If she really do love you , she will realize how much she wants you…. The more you show her that u need her the more she thinks that you will always be waiting and available … Try not to contact her.. Let’s see what’s gonna happen… For sure she’ll miss you… Good luck! :)

  58. Lillian 11 January 2012 at 9:46 am Permalink

    I REAALLYY need help! My case is a very difficult one but I would really appreciate if anyone could help me… This is like a drama…
    The thing is, me and my boyfriend were good, but then suddenly he started saying that he liked another girl besides me… And when we broke up it was because I wanted; because I couldn’t bare the idea that when he was with me, he would think about another girl… The truth is that he said that he liked me very much, but that in his heart I wan’t the only one… So we broke up. As it comes to my bad habit, I didn’t talked to him anymore until one month later I decided that i should try to be friends with him again…
    It has already been almost 6 months since we broke up and we didn’t talk much… But last week he asked me if I could help him with something because of an exam (something that never happened before even when we were dating…), and with that we started talking.
    The conversation went on and on and eventually it came to the part when we admitted to each other that we wouldn’t like to see the other one with another person… And with that conversation we started talking more and guess what? my old flame for him appeared again…
    I would like to know the opinion of you all about this! What should I do??

  59. Chic 18 January 2012 at 5:22 am Permalink

    I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago. We’ve been dating for 3 yrs and 6 months. I broke up with him because he told me that he doesn’t want to have a family someday and he’s not working as well. And then, I met a guy and we start dating. But then we start arguing non sense things. In short we don’t get along. I start talking to my ex and I found out that he’s meeting someone but he said they’re
    Not dating. I’m so hurt but I know it’s my fault. Now I’m trying to
    Get him back but I feel like he’s interested to this other girl and he said that he’s not ready to be my bf yet. What the he’ll is that mean? I don’t know what to do.. I need some serious advice.. :’ (

  60. Jocelyn A. 20 January 2012 at 4:22 pm Permalink

    Ive been with my ex 1 1/2 years and i have a 2 month daughter with him. i love him so much and yet he continues to ignore it and push me away he always starts fights with me for no reason over the most stupid things and we end up fighting. i recently found out he started going out with a girl and he says he doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby. how can i get him back??? please help me im so heartbroken.

  61. Leslie 21 January 2012 at 12:43 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I lived together for 11 years. There’s a lot of issues that I won’t get in to, but our love was very strong. He left, kind of had to (leave it at that), and started seeing someone that he just met the same day he left ( he moved out of state)!! Talk about heartbreaking. I didn’t think I would get through it. I compare this feeling to mourning the loss of a loved one. It’s been almost five months. At first we kept in contact everyday. Now this girl, if she finds out we’ve talked, calls and screams profanity at me, even if he’s the one that initiates the contact. (no telling what he tells her) Anyway, I stopped all contact, it just hurt too much. I was with him 11 years, I should be the one telling women to stop calling my man! So, he text me the other day, then he called the day after. I love him with all my heart, he’s the love of my life, I thought I was his too, (or that’s what we always said). This is by far the hardest thing I’ve ever been through (I’m not a young girl, I have grown kids). I see all these young people on here and I remember being hurt from relationships in my teenage/young adults years, but eleven years is a very long time and it’s different some how. The hurt is too much to put into words. After all this time I still cry every morning when I wake up and he’s not there. I can’t even sleep in our bed. Don’t know if I should just get myself better by not talking to him at all, or answer him. I’m so hurt. I have been doing things for myself. I started a home-based business and I do go out with other men, but don’t sleep with any one, just can’t. I pray all the time, and just want this awful feeling to go away.

    • Debbie 14 February 2012 at 9:38 am Permalink

      Hi Leslie,
      I am also a more mature lady living in England. I too have grown up children. I have just had a 5 year relationship end completely abruptly. I’m devastated!! My love to you and hope things get better for us both. The pain is unbearable…..

      Debbie
      x

  62. pixie 22 January 2012 at 12:23 am Permalink

    If you hate his ex try reading I HATE HIS EX by Alex Cooper. I had loads of problems with my fiance’s ex and I have now resolved them thanks to the advice in this book! You can get it on Amazon! Definitely worth a read! :)

  63. benjamin 28 January 2012 at 3:12 pm Permalink

    hey there everyone, my gf is going overseas to study next year for maybe 3 years and she wants to break up 2 weeks ago becos she wans to heal in time for next year so she doesnt have an emotional baggage.. i understand her point and wonder if i shld still send the letter to her? i mean i would wan her to still love me when she goes overseas and when shes back after 3 years we would be back tgt.. how shld i go abt doing that

  64. some guy 29 January 2012 at 1:44 am Permalink

    So my gf broke up with me after 2 and a half years she is saying there is no way we are getting back together, is there a way to do it? she only sees the stuff i did wrong and not herself, i still really care about her and want her back but i hsvr no idea if there is even a chance let ne know what you think i should do cause no one should just give up after breaking up

  65. Nikki 3 February 2012 at 7:48 am Permalink

    Well my boyfriend broke up with me on sunday through facebook. He then deleted me on their and didnt answer my calls or text me back. We had a massive arguement night before and we have been having a fair few arguements lately. he says im obbessive and smoothering :( All ever wanted was a caring and loving relationship we was together 1year and 7 months. he is slowly texting me back but he doesnt want to met YET! but im hoping if i can meet him i could get him to see me and get him to fall back in love with me. he says my personality has changed. i want to change i want him back. it just he told some one he doesnt want to get back with me just wants to be friends :( i really really like him we spent and done so much together. i really need help. im not ready let go if their is still a chance. i have tried to leave him alone but i just cant do it. Im happy when he texts me. but he keeps asking for space and time. :( Please help me!!

  66. kate 4 February 2012 at 10:51 am Permalink

    my boyfriend broke up with me .. his reasoning was he didnt love me anymore.. this was sudden because only a few days prior we were discussing a future together. i asked for clarification and his response was “because ever since me and you started dating you started treating your friends different”. then a friend told me ex felt i had a ‘do as i say’ attitude. i didnt know i was this way but i the only diffference with friends is spending less time with them because i wanted to make sure i spent time with my guy. I dont know im looking for advice on how i can change and make him love me again, in my heart i feel him saying he doesnt love me cant be fully true.. plz help

  67. Tinaa 6 February 2012 at 5:40 am Permalink

    Hi…i fall in love with one of my english teacher…but he don’t know me and I’m to shy to say him I love you…I made a fake yahoo id and I told him i like you…however…he don’t like me…

  68. Mellisa 8 February 2012 at 1:13 pm Permalink

    My boyfriend of four years just broke up with me. I don’t know what to do. He says that sometimes he feels like he loves but sometimes, he’s confused. I don’t understand where he is coming from. Just the other day, I was joking with him saying that we should do something fun in the summer before I break up with him and the ironic thing was, he was devastated. He asked me the whole night am I leaving him and I told him that I’m not but I know that that was running around in his mind for some times. And then all of a sudden he just broke up with me. He says that it’s not me and it’s not quite him, so who is it? I don’t understand what I did wrong.

  69. lexi 10 February 2012 at 2:02 pm Permalink

    thank you so very much

  70. Mirit 10 February 2012 at 6:36 pm Permalink

    start by telling her the truth, say what you feel put it out there the best you can. She most likely broke up with you before you actually did.

  71. Nicole 11 February 2012 at 4:23 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I had been together for a year before we started fighting a couple of months ago. That year was amazing and everyone we knew envied our relationship. We fell in love fast and it genuinely felt like a fairy tale. He moved in with me after a few months and a few months after that we started looking to buy a house. He talked about wanting to get engaged in the near future and start trying to have kids soon. My life seemed to be going in the perfect direction. It wasn’t until a couple of months ago that I started to feel him pull away. He seemed to look at me differently and something didn’t feel right anymore. Based on this feeling alone, I started looking for evidence of him cheating on me. I just had a feeling his heart was somewhere else if it wasn’t with me. He didn’t want to break up but my “snooping” started to cause us to fight. We argued almost everyday for two months. He convinced me I was nuts for accusing him of cheating but I was sure of it (even with out concrete proof). He wouldn’t fess up so I asked him to move out. I honestly thought he wouldn’t admit it at that point but he left with out a question. A couple weeks after that he admitted to cheating on me. I was so angry that he lied to me but I still loved him. After telling me, he pretty much avoided me. It’s obvious that he has fallen out of love and probably has feelings for someone else. I don’t know what I did to lose him but I want him back. I want him to love me like he used to. I’m trying to understand the cheating. I’ve concluded that he started to stray because his feelings faded for me. He just didnt have the courage to break up with me or probably didn’t want to see me move on. We haven’t talked for a week and I want him back. Is it possible? How? Help!!!

  72. Sean 11 February 2012 at 8:43 am Permalink

    my girlfriend broke up with me last week :’( this is the 4th time… she say she never want to see me again coz i blockeed some guy off fb…anybody know wat i should do coz i really feel things 4 her alotta things that i never felt before 4 a girl :( please help me…

  73. sarah 22 February 2012 at 7:12 am Permalink

    i cant stop crying.

  74. mimi 28 February 2012 at 11:01 am Permalink

    well here is my story…. Ive been with my Bf for over a year now, over the time we went through brake ups fights… the normal stuff. but every time we got back together, moved in together. But for the past 5 months i feel like he lost interest in me, ive done everything for him, been there for him as a friend when he needed but just to get pushed away. I feel like he’s been looking for something else, he’s always whispering on the phone in the bathroom, when i leave the house he calls people soon as i leave. When i try to talk about our relationship he blocks me out. i feel like i hit a wall. i tried to spark things up but he just pushes me away even more, but he still does the things on the side the side that show he cares at least a little. I know he has cheated on me but he would never admit it. he always denys it.honestly i dont know how else to make him see that ive gave my all. i dont have anything else left to give. he doesnt show me affection like he used to. how do i make him see??

  75. chunli 28 February 2012 at 1:18 pm Permalink

    We’ll my relationship i went out with thiz guy nd we went out for a month but he never stays with me but his friends and he even promise me that he’s goin to stay with me at lunch but at lunch we stayed together for only 5 min nd he wanted 2 play football with his friend and i didn’t want 2 be mean and let him want do what he wants and it hurted my feelings that i almost burst out tears so wen we went back 2 our friends i didn’t want 2 be with him at all.. and wen he said he’s gonna let go i thought it was the best way and after he gave me a hug but i din’t want 2 hug him b/c it was hurting me as if i was to fall into a black hole nd will never get out and i was smiling 2 him like its ok but after i walked 5 steps away from him my tears came down and i couldn’t stop cryin wen i got home.. and i want 2 get him back nd give the pain that he gave me back 2 him.. i was so mad nd angry that after skool i went up 2 him and punch him in the chess…wat should i do 2 make fall in love back with me??

  76. Wesss 2 March 2012 at 2:47 am Permalink

    My girlfriend of 3.5 years broke up with me because she said she doesnt feel like god wants us together but she still loves me, and I am sooooo in love with her, what do I do?

  77. renish 5 March 2012 at 12:59 am Permalink

    There was one gal in my life who loved me lot but suddenly one day her parent came to know about our relationship so they shouted at her lot. Then the next day she said that she break up so i asked the reason after 10days she said that she don’t love me now anymore but i love her lot pls suggest something

  78. Alex 11 March 2012 at 7:37 pm Permalink

    Hey, is there hope for my situation? My girlfriend told me she doesn’t love me anymore and that she loves someone else. She dumped me and is now in a relationship with this other person. It hurts and I still love her. I want her back :(.

  79. Elizabeth 12 March 2012 at 11:19 am Permalink

    Me and my boyfriend broke up over 6 months ago. It sounds pathetic and I feel stupid but I don’t know what to do..it sucks so bad. I know it was true but how do I tell him? ..Or do I?

  80. Jonathan 14 March 2012 at 3:28 pm Permalink

    My Ex girlfriend and I started dating 1 1/2 years ago (we are in college). We fell madly in love with each other. Then 5 or 6 months ago she brought up the kids/possible future marriage talk, and seemed excited that I was as enthusiastic as her. Only I kept bringing it up after that… She mentioned wanting to follow me to when I go to med school…
    Our sex life started declining about 7 months ago from everyday to twice a month.
    She has been studying abroad in Spain this semester, I had bought a plane ticket to visit halfway (2 weeks from now).. but last week, she got drunk in a club, went home with a bloody british guy, and cheated on me.
    The next day she confessed, and after that, she said she doesn’t love me anymore and she broke up with me. “Her heart says that I am not the one”.
    I am a wreck. I don’t know how I lost her.
    How could she have been so in love with me, and then lose feelings?
    She said 5 weeks ago that “she was falling so so so deeply in love with me”.
    but now she told me she wasn’t being honest about her feelings…

    who lies about that? is she crazy?
    she is on prozac and the pill, so that messes with her hormones….
    how can i get her back? its not like i will be able to see her for another 2 1/2 months… :( i am so heartbroken

  81. Jonathan 14 March 2012 at 3:29 pm Permalink

    My Ex girlfriend and I started dating 1 1/2 years ago (we are in college). We fell madly in love with each other. Then 5 or 6 months ago she brought up the kids/possible future marriage talk, and seemed excited that I was as enthusiastic as her. Only I kept bringing it up after that… She mentioned wanting to follow me to when I go to med school…
    Our sex life started declining about 7 months ago from everyday to twice a month.
    She has been studying abroad in Spain this semester, I had bought a plane ticket to visit halfway (2 weeks from now).. but last week, she got drunk in a club, went home with a bloody british guy, and cheated on me.
    The next day she confessed, and after that, she said she doesn’t love me anymore and she broke up with me. “Her heart says that I am not the one”.
    I am a wreck. I don’t know how I lost her.
    How could she have been so in love with me, and then lose feelings?
    She said 5 weeks ago that “she was falling so so so deeply in love with me”.
    but now she told me she wasn’t being honest about her feelings…

    who lies about that? is she crazy?
    she is on prozac and the pill, so that messes with her hormones….
    how can i get her back? its not like i will be able to see her for another 2 1/2 months… :( i am so heartbroken. i have cried so much, im trying not to break down because is dont want to turn her off

  82. shona aditya 22 March 2012 at 7:21 am Permalink

    i m 17 y/o frm India..its 2 o’clock here n my love said that we cant b wid eachothr anymre…his age is 27 he is working…so he is unable to get any time for me..in morning he hurries up to go to work..nd i cant call him at that time..but wen he returns to home..then he talks to his mom his family…..i dont knw wat to do…i knw that he loves me alot n i love him as well..but i m quite short tempered..n i fight with him coz he wont give time to me…which i deserve..i dont knw who is wrong…is he wrong or m i wrong?????n if he is right then does it means that in a day we will talk only fr 1 to 20 mins…plz suggest me smething…

  83. josh 23 March 2012 at 5:21 am Permalink

    today is my birthday, my girlfriend broke up with me after 3.5 years of dateing… over text.

  84. Someone who needs help 30 March 2012 at 7:34 am Permalink

    My girlfriend of 5 years says we’re more like friends and I’m constantly trying and nothing seems to work. I go above and beyond for her, what makes it even harder is we aren’t together but because my Job doesn’t pay enough for me to afford my house alone she is here and I don’t know what to do. Some days I feel like if I gave up she would come around but I can’t find myself to do it. She is way more independent than I am… Please please help!!!

  85. Hannah 30 March 2012 at 12:03 pm Permalink

    I dated a guy for over a year, and then I moved 10 hours away. We had the perfect relationship. We never fought or had problems. He was my best friend. We broke up only because of the distance. We stayed in touch here and here, but we told ourselves we had to move on. So we did. But seven months later I moved back. I’ve been back for three weeks and I want to be with him again. He says he will always love me but he doesn’t think we will date again. I’m still in love with him & I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I just want him to see that.

  86. Michelle 31 March 2012 at 1:42 pm Permalink

    These steps really worked on the guy that I had been dating for several years. After we broke up, I was devastated. I cried to sleep, and all I thought about was being with him again. But you wanna know what? By the time I really finished the steps, and my ex wanted me back, I found that I didn’t want him back! I was becoming a better person, therefore needed someone that would better for me.

  87. Emily B. 1 April 2012 at 10:52 pm Permalink

    Okay so i’m 13 I know most people say that this is to young to be in love I have already done some crazy things for my age . Well about last Thursday i wassnt in the right state of mind had been cutting myself and just had been in a bad mood all day so i told my boyfriend Jaysen that i had been dating since New years eve that i wanted to break up so he didnt have to worrie 3 hours later i had realized what i had just done and wanted him back he said he was done and he was tried of me talking to other guys but the only other guy i talk to is my best friend thomas im in despret need of help its young love please tell me is that so wrong ???</3

  88. nicole 2 April 2012 at 8:50 pm Permalink

    hey ive been friends with this guy over the summer and then when i went home he start ignoring me and then he told me he want to be friends with benefits but not commited only for the summer what can i do i unfriended him everywhere and am trying tomake him fall for me but ill see him in the summer and this might make things aqward . what can i do to get him to fall for me ???

  89. hina 3 April 2012 at 9:33 pm Permalink

    last year a boy proposed me.. but i dint accept his proposal.. he tried two or three times but still then i dint accept.. so he left hope.. now that i love him, i want him back.. but he has already fallen in love with his ex.. and he is 150 kilometers away from me so and i don’t know where he lives and i don’t have a single chance to talk with him .. what can i do to make him love me like before..? plzzzzzzzzzz, somebody help plzzzzz….

  90. Sabrina 4 April 2012 at 10:54 am Permalink

    I got to know Kjetil 4 years ago. He had a friend named Andreas. He wanted to put me and Andreas together, and that he did. Andreas fell for me, and I had feelings for him. But then, Kjetil also fell for me. I had no idea what to do. I had to hurt one of them. I chose Kjetil at that time, because their friendship almost tore, and I did not want to be the reason for it. Andreas was hurt, and he withdrew from me for months. Yet I still had feelings for him, I would always walk after him, always try to be close to him. I didn’t understand anything of that which was happening to me. It was my first love, and Kjetil was my first boyfriend. It was a terrible thing for me to do but, I couldn’t help it. I was always drawn to Andreas. I broke up with Kjetil, and then I had sex with Andreas just after it. We went behind Kjetil’s hurt back, after Andreas consulted me, asking me why I had not chosen him back then. I had no answer. It was Andreas I really loved. Kjetil found out about our affair, and Andreas was driven away from me. I was kicked out of the gang, as everyone blamed me for “tempting him”. He rejected me in the harshest and most cowardly way, even worse than sending a message of breakup. He rejected me through Kjetil’s Xbox Live, that Kjetil had to retell to me through MSN. He refused to talk to me alone. I had never been that hurt in my life. I had never experienced heartache. It is the most painful sorrow I have ever experienced, it was worse than the loss of my mother. I lived in solitude for the year to come. Only thinking of Andreas, dreaming of him constantly, waking up disappointed. The sound of his voice now and then, filled me with warm feelings of love, and the sad feelings of lost hope. I cannot sleep at nights when I think of him, and the days where I get to see him, are the happiest days of my life.
    He will still not see me alone, he will not do anything together with me alone, he follows the people in the gang like a shadow, and avoids ending up with me alone no matter what. He is the only person I will ever love. The perfect genes for my future child. Fright is a thing that can be adjusted. I want him back, I have loved him for 4 years. We were like Romeo and Juliet, as the gang and their parents (yes I know lol) always kept us apart. I need him in my life, I cannot live without him. I will always love him. I’m so very tired of living in despair. I’ve tried everything. He used to love me…

  91. Annonymous reply please 5 April 2012 at 12:08 pm Permalink

    My situation is like this:

    Me and my baby mama , 2 year old daughter . We broke up 8 months ago and I’ve been trying to contact her but she ignores me most of the time. I have tried getting back with her but she keeps telling me to move on . When we broke up I told her I needed couple days my own time to clear my head of things going on but she decided to leave And break up for good …so now sometimes she says maybe years later she will get back with me but I think she just wants to see what’s out there and just wants to have me on the side just incase she finds no one idk. All in all she doesn’t talk to me or reply to my text what should I do any opinions?

  92. crazy 5 April 2012 at 8:40 pm Permalink

    OK so here is my storie .i started dating my ex fionsay or how ever you spell it my last year of high school. We dated for a year and everything was great but then she got sick and to be put in the hospital cause she has crones. I would go to her house and hand feed her cause she was to weak to feed her self and to just spend time with her. Well she didnt know it but this scared the hell out of me. So i made a plain to break up with her when she was almost better. So i did but the night befor i broke up with her i kissed her friend. Then we stayed broken up for a week and i hung out with that friend we never did more then kiss but i never could tell my x the hole storie, once we got back together after that week and she held it over my head. After that we was always trying to catch the other one lien. So we dated for 8 months after that. Then she went off to collage. This made things worse cause i would be on the phone while she was doing homework thanking there was another guy there with her. Now dont get me wrong there was good times along with all this. Lol Anyways we were together for a year and 8 months befor i did the most stupidest thing i have ever done. I broke up with her cause her grades were slipping and i figured she would be better off with someone else. That she would find a good guy in collage with alot of money that could take care of her like i never could. Well i did it and was ok for about 3 months. Then she came back to town and i saw her in the pool hall crying over me cause i was there. So i called her and told her i wanted her back and if she would take me back we could get back together. Then out of the blue she said no. So then she went back to collage partying and drinking doing drugs comeing back on the weekends doing the same thing with my friends that she was doing in collage and befor this she was my sweet angle that i loved with all my heart. Well im not going to lie this drove me crazy like i really mentaly ill. Trying to hurt my self staying up days at a time wondering if she was out drinking and driveing or if she was going to overdose. Now granted this was my mind playing tricks makeing it seem worse then it was from lack of sleep. Then i started drinking very heavily and doing drugs just to make my self pass out so i wouldent thank about her going with my friends and strangers.so any ways after a year of both of us doing this i quit every thing got into tec and is slowly pulling my life back to geather and she moved back home and is going to the same tec school. I go during the day and her at night. So its been a year of me drunk calling her cussing her out or begging for her back up till 6 months ago. She always says the same thing i love you but i dont thank i am in love with you anymore. We haven’t hung out since we broke up. Now i have project do that she is going to help me with for tec, cause my aint that helps me normaly had a heartattack. Yet a pic. Of her breaks me down to tears almost. Is there any hope i could ever fix all this back and get my heart back? If you have ever heard of something like this plz tell me what to do cause all i can do now is pray.

  93. ashley 6 April 2012 at 4:13 am Permalink

    Hi,
    I was wondering if you could get me some advice. My girlfriend just broke up with me about a month ago right before our one year anniversary. She used the famous it’s not you it’s me line. I noticed a couple of weeks before that she had been contacting one of her employees who “is in a committed relationship,” yet they have been taking trips together out of the city because they can’t be seen together, and the trips are beginning to become frequent. She swears that they are just friends and that the other is in a committed relationship. Here is the catch. We still live together because we are both on a lease. She sleeps in the same bed as me and cuddles with me every once in a while. Recently she has been kissing me on my forehead, cheek, sometimes lips when she leaves for work in the morning. The lease is up in July but she dropped a comment last night for me to start looking for a cheaper place for us. I am not sure what to think. She has also been guarding her phone and ipad like a mother sea lion guards their cub. One issue she had with me is that she felt that I didn’t trust her and this is an issue that I have worked on and understand better. I discovered the conversation she initiated with her “new friend” and brought it up to her and it made her extremely upset. This was in January and the break up was in February. One minute she is breaking up with me and wanting to run away to New York and the next she is sleeping in our bed as if we are still together? Any advice you can give me will be great!

    • Roland T. 14 April 2012 at 5:19 pm Permalink

      just hang in there dude.. we are in the same situation. Girls, they’re so complicated.. ;) just throw all of the expectations and play it cool.. you still love her don’t you? Just hang in there. things will happen when they do. and it will happen at the right time. Give it all you’ve got so that when you look back, you can say loud – “I did everything. I did it all for love.”

      • Janet 26 April 2012 at 12:32 am Permalink

        Yes this is exactly what I’m doing! :) I’m giving everything I have to the man I love more than my own life. He loves me too! But somehow he’s afraid of getting back together with me, which I have no idea why. He said he’s afraid of hurting me again. He thinks it’ll hurt me even more if we really do get back together and things don’t work out again I’ll be like ‘ I’ve made all these changes and now it doesnt work again?! Fuck this!’ Now I’ve talked to him about getting back together and am waiting for his reply, its been 2 days. I gave my everything these 2 months. This will be the last time I talk to him about getting back together. If he rejects, I’m done. =) I actually feel pretty good because I know at some point later in my life, I won’t look back and think : what if i gave my best shot? will things be different now?

  94. isha 10 April 2012 at 3:31 pm Permalink

    i was in relatnshp with my guy for the last 2 years. Last year he moved to some other place for studies and so started our distance based relationship. Things were really perfect but i couldnt realise , it suffocated him with my increased dEpendEncy upon him amidst his own problems. A weEK back he broke up saying he doesnt love me anymore. The fEelings had died according to him. He termed it to be our imMaturity that we couldnt act like we should have. I miss him alot n i really really love him. ;( The last 2 months ruined everything when he often used to complain aBout giving him space and leaving alone for sometime but i couldnt act wisely. ;(

  95. Roland T. 14 April 2012 at 5:09 pm Permalink

    my ex gf broke up with me about a month ago,, she said she fell out of love for me but didn’t want to lose the friendship. so we kept on seeing each other, going out on a frndly date. but she knows that i love her. we still text and even talk to the phone about our lives. whenever i feel like she feels for me too and started saying that we should get back together cause we’re still happy together.. but keeps rejecting me saying it’s not time yet.. but she’s texting someone else, but not dating, I think. she says she loves me still but not the same as before. She makes me feel needed coz she’s always asking favors to me. Now here goes my question. What should I do about my situation and what should I do about my feelings for her? I really need your help guys.. ;(

    • Drica 22 April 2012 at 8:45 am Permalink

      OK, JUST LIMIT YOUR CALLS. MAKE HER WONDER WHAT ARE YOU DOING. DO SOME EXCITING SUFF IN YOUR LIFE. WRITE HER A LETTER AND MAKE IT A 2 PARAGRAPHS. NOT LONGER THEN THAT. LIKE HI HOW ARE YOU DOING . YOU ARE SORRY ABOUT THINGS AND YOU UNDERSTAND WHY Y’ALL BROKE UP. YOU UNDERSTAND HER AND YOU ACCEPT THE BRAKE UP. CHANGE SOME THINGS IN YOUR LIFE. AND TELL HER ABOUT IT.KEPT MYSTERY. BE EXCITED ABOUT IT. I LEARNED THAT.

  96. jose 20 April 2012 at 8:15 am Permalink

    my wife says she done with me and shes tired of all the lieing i do and never standing up for her agiast her family. and i do lie alot and i cant seem to help it i try to lie to make her happy but the lieing just makes it worse she wants her space right now but im worried about loseing her cuz we have 2kids and i still really love her! if i can get some advice that would be great or someone know a site to help stop lieing.and know im not lieing like cheating im lieing like i took the trash out or i turned in some papers or feed the kids already.

  97. jose 20 April 2012 at 8:18 am Permalink

    weve been together 5years and married for 4 and i dont have a job now she has been working the last 2years while i had worked the preivious years i dont know if that would cause her also be mad at that when she says she doesnt have a problem with it.

  98. Bunny Rabbit 21 April 2012 at 1:44 am Permalink

    So in late November I met this guy, his name is “Freckles” lets say.
    We hungout a while and talked on the phone for hours everyday constantly. We dated for 2months and then he left me, because he was stressed and needed time to himself..and now well he wants me back. He’s asked me to Prom and it’s said by people that he wants me back and that’s all he ever talks about. Should I go to Prom if all the feelings are seriously still there, and we hangout every weekend and stil can stay on the phone for hours, even if we argue about stupid things, and have disagreements?
    I really wish i knew what to do, I also am in love with him but sometimes it seems like he’s trying to control my life9I can’t hug cetain people, he hats when my ex’s are around me, hates my past with guys)

  99. Drica 22 April 2012 at 8:35 am Permalink

    hi my boyfriend is saying that we arguing too much and that the reason why we broke up and the other day day he say this boy talking to me and hug me. i tried to tell him that it was nothing and i think he will not believe me.i sended him a message going off on him, but was i wrong. i tried to tell him how i feel. was i wrong for that. i tried to call him, but he wont answer or call back. are he over me. he says he confused that he don’t know what he wants. what should i do.

  100. DRICA 22 April 2012 at 8:47 am Permalink

    i my boyfriend is saying that we arguing too much and that the reason why we broke up and the other day day he say this boy talking to me and hug me. i tried to tell him that it was nothing and i think he will not believe me.i sended him a message going off on him, but was i wrong. i tried to tell him how i feel. was i wrong for that. i tried to call him, but he wont answer or call back. are he over me. he says he confused that he don’t know what he wants. I DON’T KNOW IF HE IS SEEING ABOUT ELSE. what should i do.

  101. Amber Lee 24 April 2012 at 5:06 pm Permalink

    my name is amber.. im almost 21 and my past bf was 17. i was concerned about age and what people were saying really got to me. also when i deeply thought about it… i was the one doing all the work in the relationship and i was the one spending money to see him and we sorta rushed into things. we were living and talking together for three months. finally we popped the i love you and began dating. we rushed and so i decided to move out so we could have some time apart. i didnt want to leave but we were fighting all the time. so i told him that i wanted to go back to the talking stage and so we did. three days later he was texting me telling me i left him for another guy. deep inside i still very much loved him but after him calling me names and what not, i lost that passion the first week we broke up. but now, 5 months later… not even 5 months more like a month i realized i still love him. He’s with some new girl and she is causing him to go down the wrong path and i want him away from that. i want him back. i texted him last night and he told me i have no feelings for you, i have everything i could ever want without you… i told you once you left to never come back. im afraid those feelings he had so strongly for me or no longer there! what do i do! how do i get him back! if you would like, please email me on my facebook because i think it would be faster that way… so please… help me. :(

  102. Robert 25 April 2012 at 1:21 am Permalink

    My situation is like this:

    Me and my baby mama , 2 year old daughter . We broke up 8 months ago and I’ve been trying to contact her but she ignores me most of the time. I have tried getting back with her but she keeps telling me to move on . When we broke up I told her I needed couple days my own time to clear my head of things going on but she decided to leave And break up for good …so now sometimes she says maybe years later she will get back with me but I think she just wants to see what’s out there and just wants to have me on the side just incase she finds no one idk. All in all she doesn’t talk to me or reply to my text what should I do any opinions?

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  103. Missing Him 25 April 2012 at 1:30 am Permalink

    My boyfriend of five years recently broke up with me saying he just “loved me as a friend” this just happened over night, and I’m still madly in love with him. I’m sure he is the one I want to marry. I mean at some point we were even engaged. I’m pretty sure there isn’t anyone else, but I don’t know what to do to get him to love me again. We were so happy and yet out of nowhere he came out and said that, it really caught me off guard. Yes, we have both done some growing up and changing during the relationship but since we did all this together I felt even closer to him. I feel as if part of me has been ripped out and I’m 100% sure i want to be with him the rest of my life and the thought of that not even happening at all is making me sick. what do i do to get him back, I can’t be friends with the man i love and i told him that during the break up. simply because i know that seeing him move on would have hurt me alot more than me staying away from him. whats your advice? please

    • Janet 26 April 2012 at 12:27 am Permalink

      Maybe you can ask him what happened to your happy relationship and tell him you deserve to know what changed his mind?

  104. ale, 2 May 2012 at 10:49 am Permalink

    i have been with the same guy for 6 years . we were high school sweethearts from 7th grade and we are both 18 now, we have been on and off but i love him a lot and he said he doesn’t feel anything for me anymore. what do i do to get him back? how can i bring the spark back in our relationship???? please help me

  105. Nicolemae 3 May 2012 at 4:12 pm Permalink

    Hi everyone, I posted here about 5 months ago. I managed to get my boyfriend back following all the advice on here :) stay strong in your resolve. Remember to pull instead of push and stay positive; happy people are attractive.

  106. isha 4 May 2012 at 2:15 pm Permalink

    well.. It’s been a month since we broke up. .the thing i cud discover is he CARES ..he still cAres. But days back he texted saying that i cant be wid u coz u cant let me go off even for a sec. He said i neva got space even he though he always complained of ..thats the ONLy Reason beside our split. What shud i do ?

  107. Keneth Billeck 22 May 2012 at 9:08 pm Permalink

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  108. William 27 May 2012 at 5:27 pm Permalink

    Ok thank god and bless if u help . : my situation is my girl broke up with me recently like 2 days ago whe where dating for 5 months goin on 6 and… She told me that she stopped loving me she didn’t love me like she used to… She said there was. No spark in the relation and if there was it was very little…. I asked if there was one thing in the realtionship that she wish I never did. She said idk it’s been like this for a week now she didn’t tell me because she wanted to see if things would hangs for the better. & they didn’t and she said she cried over the things I died in the past… I apologized for everything I gave her my heart when I hurt her. And I in the last week was dating I felt like distant from here…. I didn’t do anything to repair that. Because I didn’t kno what to do…. I miss her so much… She meant the world to me… I don’t kno how to keep a spark going in a realtionship of u barerly see ur loved one outta school . Because of lack of freedom… But I still saw her every week day. I just can’t believe she doesnt love me anymore… Just like that… I hope she comes back to me I’ll give her my all! I promise please help me!

  109. sean 29 May 2012 at 6:58 am Permalink

    My fiancee just broke up with me yesterday, it is not even 24 hours and i am writing this. This is not the first time we have broken up, this would be our 3rd break up in what would be 4 years, june 1st, of dating/engaged. Im 24 and she 20. I think some of it may have to do with age, some dealing with her parents maybe not liking me in the beginning or me being anti social and flawed. Dont know what it is, but i think that this is the final break up for us. I love her to death and all i want is her happiness. I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than to keep someone that wasnt happy especially when i loved them. I dont know if i should try to get her back or if i should just move on in life. I think that if i do get her back, moving on would be the way i would do it. I suppose that if it is meant to be it will be and there is not amount of game playing, or tactics or strategy that can make this right. I suppose time is the only thing that can make this right. I know that this is supposed to be an advice blog, but i guess i just wanted to vent out my feelings. I think that im taking it pretty well, but at times its unbearable and i just feel empty and ready to die. I know i will get pass this feeling as i know the rest of you will and those reading this. It just takes time, and for some a lot of time. the good thing is you can never overdose on too much time.

  110. Claire 29 May 2012 at 7:51 am Permalink

    Well my boyfriend and I broke up a month ago because we got into a fight and I stupidly listened to my friend who told me he danced with another girl, which he didn’t, so I danced with another boy and he saw me and dumped me. We’ve been talking on and off trying to fix things but just when it starts to get better he gets these random outbursts of anger at me. He brings up the past and my flaws and always says he regrets meeting me and he should’ve listened to people when they said walkaway. I’m totally at a loss for what to do . I love him so much and I’d do anything for him, I haven’t given up faith but I’m scared he’ll get over me and us and everything we have . I know it will take time to rekindle what we used to have but I’m willing to work for it , I don’t know if he is However. I don’t know what to do, help.

  111. amy 2 June 2012 at 3:39 pm Permalink

    my bf broke up with me 3 days ago and this would be the 3rd time he has done this to me before.. he tell s we broke up because of drama.. He says this all the time to me and he always comes back.. I try to talk to him but he says we are done for good this time and leave him alone.. the thing is he says the samething to me and he come back.. what should i do???

    • Elizabeth Lucero 4 September 2012 at 5:44 pm Permalink

      I know were u are i’ve been there too , well I think you should just move on its hard trust me but hes done it three times its like hes stepping all over u and basically usin u ! You shouldnt let him do that there will be someone out there for u, you just dont see it

  112. Ashu 22 August 2012 at 2:22 am Permalink

    My BF broke with me 4 months ago He is trying to reach me and gets my updates from my friends. Its really hard to move on and forget the past.But things work out when you start loving evry moment of life instead of dwelling on the past.
    The only reason we broke up is he is not ready to discuss our relationship with his parents. I some time think how could i love some1 who is so courage less.
    I really love him a lot but things wont work in that way.. Waiting for good times to shower in my life

  113. LonelyThenHappyNow 30 August 2012 at 1:47 pm Permalink

    Love/ relationships is/are so over rated… =) Loneliness is too… Friendship/ companionship is the answer to all loneliness and of course, the comfort from believing God…

  114. Elizabeth Lucero 4 September 2012 at 5:39 pm Permalink

    Im going out with this guy but we dont talk we hug and walk away thats it ! I dont know if i should dump him or stay with him Because im talking to this other guy and hes always making me laugh and smile and we talk on the phone for HOURS and do everything we can to talk . And im starting to like this guy and im starting to lose feelings for my boyfriend, i dont know what to do Help Please ?

  115. Adam 1 October 2012 at 12:10 am Permalink

    I been in love With my Ex/first Love for 5years . We broke up years ago because I cheated and she broke up with me and we got back together and she got with my best friend which was a dike. Then it went all bad from there . But when I was younger and went through all that I’ve cried so much that day , and I been talking too her here and there and I chilled with her today and omg I feel like i completely love her and wanna marry her in the future . But I dont know if she feels the same she never shows It. We talk and flirt though . But idk i been feeling like I been needing someone to talk to or I just been really emotionally Hurt. I cried tonight after we chilled . Like I had so many relationships in the past and never felt the same for any girl … Why do I still feel like all this ???!!! I want her back so bad….

  116. Bree 19 November 2012 at 4:45 pm Permalink

    OK …I just broken up with my boyfriend of of two years…toward the end of are relationship i finally started to fix the problems we had before because we have broken up because of them perviously….i asked if he felt the same and he says he doesnt feel the same.. that the changes i did didnt make himout feel more for me…i found out that he has been talking to girls …this was before our brake ups and during.. when we broke up i cried very hard and left the room got my self collected and returned …i agreed with him and said we should be friends and he was happy about that…….after that my friend that i was taking to vented on him and he got mad at me…i said that she missuderstood what i said (wich was true) and he belived me…..this all happed on the same day…. the next day i sent him a long email telling him i regeted the mistakes i made and wanted to be friends and said we should see other people before we had any chance of being together……..the thing is he says he doent love me like that anymore and says we can talk in few weeks and be friends….but how do i find ways to make him feel the same again?

  117. Jay 3 December 2012 at 2:37 am Permalink

    Hi,

    My ex broke up with me about a month ago. We only were together for 3 months but I love her dearly. The reason is that she has issues from the past that need to be solved first (or so she says) but also she thought I was too needy and desperate. And I can see that, I didn’t realise it back then but now I see the mistakes I made. I also made the common mistakes of pleading and begging and I feel awful about it. She asked me for three weeks to give her some more space but all I could think of was: I’m losing her love and I held on to it, I became even more clingy and it led to a breakup. At first she said she left all posibilities of a reunion open but she also said: don’t keep up your hopes because we don’t know how the future will be.. Unfortunatly by acting the way I did I managed to push her even further away and in the end she said: No, I don’t see us coming back together anymore.. I messed up big time I guess. I finally let go of her and broke contact. I hope she misses me and I hope I can get her back some day. Is there still a chance?

  118. Aye 22 December 2012 at 2:24 pm Permalink

    My ex broke up with me last month and we’ve been together for 6 months at the first night I was so desperate and needy fearing of losing him so I nag him text him like crazy but after 3 days I told him I don’t want to be friends with him and his parents/relatives starts to text me on why this is happening and I told him to respect his decision and my decision on staying quiet they even bash my friend (guy) who did nothing wrong :( I didn’t contact him and he text me on my birthday he greeted me and I said thank you and he starts to say how am I doing but I ignored it and didn’t reply.. Okay I still love him and I respect his decision but I really want him back again should I contact him now? it’s been 3 1/2 weeks of no contact at all.. what do I do? I use reverse psychology but I don’t know if he’s missing or still love me do Is there still a chance?

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  120. emily 11 June 2013 at 11:42 am Permalink

    My boyfriend and I have been morbidly waters for the past almost a month but we went to prom and everything was alright again..or so I thought he broke up with me..I need him he is my rock..I’ve done things in the past to break our trust and ik that’s the problem..but we’ve been together for a year and a half and he’s what I need how do I get him back.??please help

  121. hannah 3 July 2013 at 8:05 pm Permalink

    me n my ex broke up the day we made 5 months but we only stoped talking for one week but we also broke up another time pretty much a week we broke up for good bc he thought i was lieing bout smoking a jo when i didnt but we both promised we wouldnt smoke also he quite smoking weed for me for 5 months straight but he has encouraged me to tell him how i feel n i have i told him everything n he dosent treat me any different now its been 4 months of bein broken up but we text all time of the day from when he wakes me up to when he falls asleep on skype, phonecall or texting. but what i dont understand is that the final day we broke up he told me he didnt love me but jus a couple days ago we started saying i love you as frends also keep in mind im only 16 and he is 15 but he means alot to me its honestly hard to explain but im inove with him but anyway we hangout alot almost like 2 or three times a week and i mean i think he is flirting n everybody thinks we are gonna get back togther but i honetly dont no how he feels he is really good at hideing his feelings n its very confusing n i dont no wat to do n just to day we were having tickle fights n everything n we also play fight please please help me does he have feelings for me and is there a chance for us to get back togther thank you please help

  122. Chris 28 July 2014 at 3:08 pm Permalink

    My fiance and I split about 6 months ago after nearly 7 years and one child. She told me that she fell out of love and it’s been the single most painful event of my life. And just a day or two later she started dating a guy she was talking to for some time behind my back. And now she is moving away to be with him. And I’m just destroyed. I’ve poured my feelings out to her time and time again only for her to get annoyed and mad. I’ve done everything I possibly could to no avail. And it’s crazy because I’m still willing to do anything for her, and when she needs anything I rush over to help. It just sucks when the only person you haved cared about in that way just basically uses you, and when you are at your lowest and try to talk to them and they just ignore you or toss you to the side like trash, it makes you realize how alone you how alone I really am. I’ve had months to get over it. The only way I can cope is to become numb. I just hate how pathetic I am, willing to run back in a moments notice. I never thought love would be so difficult.


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