Get Your Ex Back

Do you find your relationships keep failing time and time again? The truth is far from the fairytale we’ve grown up to know. The fact is, people who stay in love are the ones who work HARD at staying in love on a DAILY BASIS.

That’s right, it’s not exactly “easy” to stay in love.. at least not after the initial honeymoon period is over.

And you know what? That’s why a “loss of attraction” occurs so commonly in relationships. You know when your partner tells you, “I just don’t love you anymore”, or “I’m just not feeling that spark” or “I’m not attracted to you like I used to be.”

They think this is a sign they’re meant to be with someone else, or to find someone else. But you know what, the truth is, MOST people who get together have a great chance to staying together and being in LOVE together for a long long time. It’s just that they forget that they need to work hard at staying in love!

That being in love feeling won’t always be there! Or won’t come as easily as it used to.

But you CAN get it back. It takes some work and it takes some FOCUS, but it’s definitely possible!

One of the techniques I talk about in the ERS is Emotional Programming. This is a great example of how your relationship can become HARDER to maintain and what you need to do to “cure” those issues.

But be warned, it’s easy to read it and understand the concept, but it’s much more difficult in practice… especially if your partner is unwilling to work on this with you.

So if you know you have some reoccuring problems with your partner, or you’re having a hard time convincing your partner that you’ve changed for the BETTER, then you’ll want to try this technique.

Emotional Programming is one of the techniques within The Ex Recovery System. It is:

• A long term strategy.
• Trains or programs your partner to think a certain way about you.
• Reprograms the negative “patterns” developed throughout the course of your relationship.

Here are examples of the type of negative patterns which need to be changed in your relationship if it isn’t working:

• Every time the subject of money or spending money gets brought up, your partner starts an argument or turns negative.
• Every time the phone rings on a Saturday night, your partner thinks it’s another girl calling you, and they start an argument about how you can’t be trusted.
• Every time you show up late for something, your partner accuses you of being “inconsiderate”, “selfish” and “disrespectful”.

Here’s the thing. Your partner ONLY exists in your mind, and a VERSION of you exist in your partner’s mind, but this is not the REAL you, it’s their version of you. Overtime you each develop a set of personality trait conclusions called schemas for the other person. Negative Schemas are thinking your partner is or being known as:

• Lazy
• Stupid
• Pigheaded
• Cruel
• Hard
• Selfish
• Crazy

You can also develop schemas about your partner’s motivation and intentions: “She’s trying to control me…” “It’s all ego; trying to build himself up by tearing me down…” “He’s only nice to me because he wants to have sex…” These schemas are developed by a great deal of MIND-READING! That is why OPEN and CLEAR communication is a MUST! Here’s the steps to reprogramming negative schemas:

1. Identify negative patterns in your relationship. (These should be factors associated to the break up).
2. Tell your partner you have stopped that certain behaviour they disliked.
3. SHOW your partner a new pattern associated with that behaviour – reprogramming aspect.
4. Show them AGAIN under different circumstances.
5. Show them ONE LAST TIME.
6. NEVER repeat an old pattern.

Example: “Every time the subject of money or spending money gets brought up, your partner starts an argument or turns negative.”

1. Identify the negative pattern – Understand the REAL reason for your partner running this negative pattern. (She doesn’t feel any security from you financially.)

2. Stopping the association – taking action to become more financially secure in your OWN life. Let her know what you are doing (looking for another job, found another job etc)

3. Show your partner a new pattern – talk about money in a POSITIVE manner and alter your behaviour about money. (Be generous if you’re a scrooge, start saving if you spend too carelessly.)

4. Show them AGAIN under different circumstances. (When the discussion of money is brought up, STOP the pattern by mentioning that is the past and things are different now).

5. Show them ONE LAST TIME.

6. NEVER repeat an old pattern.

Sometimes due to the severity of the old pattern, you may have to repeat it more than 3 times, but 3 times is usually enough to replace the old pattern with the new.

Now, can you identify one main issue that is the course of negative associations or schemas, and work on how you are going to use Emotional Programming to replace that pattern with a new and much more attractive one?

This is only ONE of the techniques you can use within The Ex Recovery System, and of course it’s going to be 10x easier if your partner is a willing participant and understands what you’re trying to do. This will yield you much greater results.

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Are you convinced that it’s too late to get your ex back?

I know how it feels, when all evidence points to the sign that they are just OVER you, you just feel like giving up.

Giving up is necessary sometimes, and I certainly don’t want you to keep chasing after someone who really IS over you.

There are some rare situations though where an ex will ACT as if they’re over you BUT they still DO things that makes you wonder

“Why does he still do this if he doesn’t care anymore?”

or

“Why is she still calling me for no reason at all?”

You know that feeling? When your ex’s actions don’t quite seem to make sense!?

There is more going on than you may think and it may even SHOCK you when you find out the truth.

Here I explain exactly what are the SIGNS to watch out for when an ex is still not over you, still CARES and may even WANT YOU BACK.

If you’re not recognizing any of these signs, don’t worry, it could be anything from being TOO soon after the break up OR your ex is busy with other things!

Yes, people do have lives and some people just have a better way of keeping themselves busy.

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Still find yourself in love with your ex? This is the toughest thing to deal with; loving someone in the past who may or may not have forgotten about you. So what can you do? Stay loving them, missing them and crying about them?

Wanting and loving someone you don’t have or can’t have is the ultimate torture-chamber. At the same time you feel you can’t help it either. So if you can’t help it and you still love your ex and want them back, is there some better way to cope with this?

You start by acknowledging the fact that you still have feelings, but realizing that although you can’t help how you feel, you can help how you deal with it.

Instead of saying to yourself:

“Oh god I miss and love my ex so much!”

Say:

“I still have feelings for my ex, it’s just going to take some time for me to get over this.”

The language you use with yourself is very important in changing the way you feel about something.

Remember you love someone who you still have issues with. Next time you start missing and thinking about your ex, think about why you broke up in the first place and all the problems the two of you faced. Does the good outweigh the bad?

Also ask yourself why you are still want your ex back? Are you lonely? Can you not find anyone compares to your ex? Can you just not be bothered to go out there and look? Are you just stuck wanting to do the same thing you always did?

There’s some things to think about.

If you still love your ex and want to know a proven plan to get your ex back, take 2 minutes to check out the next page. I go into more detail about the psychological factors involved in winning an ex partner back and what you should do to get an ex begging to come back.. The Ex Recovery System.

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What are some proven methods on how to keep your boyfriend in love with you? Women of the past came up with strategies for keeping their men at home, and it’s still important for today’s woman to know these strategies.

1. Keep your appearances up.

You want to maintain a look that your boyfriend will really be proud of. A man wants other men to admire him for how great his woman looks. It’s nice for a man to be able to introduce his girl to other people and receive praise for his choice. Of course, men also want to hear that other woman admire his girlfriend.

2.  Be supportive of your man, and understanding of him.

Be active in your boyfriend’s favorite activities. If he’s into sports, take an interest in his teams and maybe catch a game or two with him. If he is active in a certain sport, attend his practices and games and be supportive of him. Always encourage him in all that he does and try to provide inspiration. Men are moody also, and it’s important to understand his moods. This does not mean that you have to agree to everything he says or does.

3. Let him know that he is important.

When it comes to your spare time, your boyfriend should be your priority. You should also arrange your activities so that you can be available to spend time with him when he is free. Again though, you are still your own person with your own life; you will have time for yourself. However, a man will always be happier knowing who is girlfriend is out with and where she is. In turn, he will extend the same courtesy to you.

4. Give him your tender loving care at all times.

Let him know that you love him and care about him. Find out what his favorite food are, and then cook him up a treat. You can also take care of daily needs. When he has appointments outside of work, give him a reminder to show that you really care. A night out or a day for just the two of you is another great way to show you care. Your gratitude for your relationship can be shown in many small ways. And flowers aren’t just for women, you can give your man flowers, too.

These are just a few of the ways that you can hold on to the man you love, and be sure that he will continue loving you. Then let the love you share carry you through the rest. However, it is critical to let him have some space. Smothering him with your love can be just as devastating to the relationship as neglecting him.

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Cheating or being cheated on in a relationship can be one of the most devastating things to happen in a relationship. It not only pains you emotionally but can have long term damaging effects on your relationship in the future.

This is especially true amongst young couples as the early trauma of infidelity can scar you for a lifetime.

Many cheaters will put the blame on anything else BUT themself. That’s because they often only care about themself and not looking “bad” to others.

If you’re the victim of a cheater, and you still find yourself clinging onto the relationship, you may be wondering if there’s any hope of trusting a cheater.

The odds are against you that a cheater won’t cheat again, however with that said, people DO have the ability to change, but ONLY if they want to. And this must be something they want to do for them, and not for anyone else.

So, can you trust a cheater?

The only way you can trust a cheater is if they prove themself as trustworthy again and again. If they can’t PROVE it with action (not words), then you’re once again going off empty promises.

I’d move slowly with any notorious cheaters, and most of all, consider moving on for good. Like I said, statistically it doesn’t look good. Most cheaters don’t just cheat, they lie about other things too.

Ask yourself how often the cheating has occured, whether this is the first time or the second, third or 10th time. How many times do you have to make the same mistake before learning from it?

One thing to note is that, you can’t EVER “change” a cheater or hope to “fix” them. Don’t fall into the trap of believing that you can or that they’ll change because you’re supporting them. If they can’t demonstrate their change of ways on their own, it’s probably not going to happen with your help.

Dos and Don’ts:

• If starting a new relationship with a cheater, put the past behind you! Don’t continue to bring up your partner’s old cheating habits.
• If you’re going to give someone a 2nd chance, REALLY give them a second chance.
• Don’t assume just because you’ve been hurt before, that every new guy or girl will hurt you just the same.

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If you’re in a long distance relationship and you’re going through a terrible break up, you’ll know that unlike conventional relationships, yours feel so much worse! So if you’re asking “Can I get my girlfriend back?” especially if you’re in a long distance relationship, I’m here to give you some pointers that may help you.

Believe it or not, distance is hardly ever the real reason long distance relationships fail to work out, so although you may believe you’re at a disadvantage… the only disadvantage is that you may get over your girlfriend sooner rather than later.

In a typical relationship break up, it’s most adviced to practice a bit of no contact directly after a break up. This is the same for long distance couples.

Don’t stare at your phone wondering when she’s going to call. Don’t call her whenever you get the urge, and definitely don’t stay on the phone to beg and plead for forgiveness.

Emailing, text messaging and pmming over MSN/AIM or Facebook goes along the same lines as calling. Any type of communicate right now is really redundant and not going to help while you’re both raw over the break up.

Resist those urges, instead write your thoughts or emotions onto paper. Write down everything you feel is wrong and all the emotions that is screaming to come out. Once you’re done, set it aside.

Another thing you can do is write a handwritten letter to your girlfriend. Make it as long as you want. Poor your soul out to her and dump everything you want to say into it.

Just DON’T SEND IT.

I don’t suggest writing an email, in case you do accidently hit send!

Now given that enough time has passed, you’ll want to open the lines of communication SLOWLY. A short email, a casual hello on AIM/Skype/MSN. A greeting over Facebook. Something small and harmless.

If you get nothing in return, shrug it off and try again later (not too soon though! Wait at least another week!)

If you primarily chatted over Email during your relationship, now’s the time to send a mid-length email to her letting her know what you’ve been up to and how you are. Don’t ramble on too long and don’t mention the break up!

Same goes, if you mostly chatted over the phone. Call her up and start a casual conversation. You’ll know how she feels when you talk to her.

Getting your girlfriend to feel attraction towards you again can be done the same way as in conventional relationships, you just need to build it up slowly!

This is just the beginning… a complete step-by-step guide to winning back your girlfriend’s heart awaits on the next page.. do you think your relationship is worth fighting for?

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Have you been going crazy over an ex boyfriend? Perhaps you want to know how to make your ex boyfriend miss you like crazy. It might feel hopeless or you just want to know if it’s still possible to have any effect over your boyfriend, but I’m about to reveal my secret to driving a man crazy over you.

The tips I’m about to share are extremely powerful but also simple. However, people overlook them because they are so simple!

Tip #1 – Don’t call him or answer his calls immediately.

You need to show your ex boyfriend that you’re not readily available anymore, because the more available he perceives you to be, the less he will miss you or want to talk to you. Anything that is seen as rare or scarce is valuable! And that’s what you have to do to get him missing you like crazy!

Tip #2 – Value yourself and show it off to the world.

The more rare someone is, the more value is placed on it. BUT, if you don’t believe you are valuable, how can you act as if you are? This step goes hand in hand with Tip 1 because in order to KEEP his interest for you as high as possible (and keep him missing you for as long as possible), you need to show him you’re VALUABLE.

You do this by taking care of your physical appearances. Go all out and improve on the way you look and not only will you FEEL 10x more confident, you’ll appear 10x more valuable to anyone who lays eyes on you.

Tip #3 – Turn yourself into a social butterfly.

The most beautiful thing in the world means nothing if no one is there to see it. So you MUST go out and go out often! Not only will you become exposed to a lot of new people and new experiences, you will gain confidence the more you do it. We as human beings, strive on human interaction, so the more you communicate and put yourself out there, the more alive you will feel.

I hope you won’t take these tips too lightly. They all revolve around the concept of scarcity. The more rare something is, the more others will do to obtain it.

Become that rare diamond that your ex boyfriend is just DYING to get his hands on. Remember in order to make your ex boyfriend miss you, you must remove availability and work on appearing valuable to him.

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I have something serious to ask you today…

Have you ever suspected a guy was keeping something from you?

Like a secret?

If a guy is keeping something from you, he must feel it’s going to hurt you somehow. Then wouldn’t you rather find out the truth?

The problem is, confronting them directly never works. You don’t have any solid evidence or proof, and by the end of it, he’s the one who makes YOU feel bad for accusing him. But deep down, you still feel there’s more he isn’t tell you.

Don’t get caught up living a lie if you suspect your man is keeping secrets or seeing someone else behind your back!

Thankfully, a very clever man by the name of Dean Cortez have decided to share the most guarded secrets that “private investigators” use to catch cheating and lying husbands or boyfriends.

Watch this EYE-OPENING video that literally freaked me out!

Inside, you’re learn:

• How to turn quickly yourself into a human lie detector so that you’ll instantly know whenever your partner is lying to you. (These are actual methods & test results researched by psychologists in identifying uncontrollable  and subconscious movements humans  make when they lie — this is advanced FBI stuff you CANNOT afford to miss!).
• Signs (and these are scarily easy to miss) that your guy is possibly cheating on you right now!
• 9 crucial errors that everybody who is having an affair makes, learn what these are (I never would have thought of these) and catch them red-handed!
• … and much, much more!

Once again, BEWARE! This information could CHANGE EVERYTHING!

This freaked me out, see what you think…

P.S.

I’m in the progress of revamping this site once again. This layout is just not working for me anymore, and I feel for the most part, it’s a little too cluttered.

The new layout is in the works and I’m expecting that to go up within the next day or two. I’ll also be organizing my content a little better as well.

Keep an eye out!

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Alright, I guess I’m going to go against the grain here by claiming that it is OK to beg and plead for an ex back. If you’ve been searching information for longer than 5 mins on “How to Get Your Ex Back” then you’ll find a lot of people preaching that you should NEVER beg or plead an ex to come back… in fact it is one of the deadly SINS to getting an ex back.

Well, it’s not quite that tramatic. The fact is, it is the NORM to be amongst the beggers and pleaders. In fact, if you were one of the few who DIDN’T beg or plead at all for an ex after your break up, I’d seriously be questioning whether you cared enough for your ex to begin with.

That’s right, the reason why I’m giving the GREEN for beggers and pleaders is the fact it’s NOT the devil, but in fact a sincere sign that you genuine CARE VERY DEEPLY for the person who is breaking up with you. And you as someone who cares and loves, have an intrinsic NEED to express those emotions when stakes are this HIGH.

People NEED to be and feel loved, it is a SURVIVAL mechanism for most, and if you take it away, people will do ANYTHING to hold onto it. That is human nature… LOVE sits at the center of our core and drives us through our daily lives… there’s no use trying to hold back on how you really feel because suppressing it will only cause those feelings to manifest elsewhere equally as unpleasant and uncontrollable.

Now I’m not saying you should CONTINUE to beg or plead if that has been your sole strategy to win your ex back. By all means, it has destructive tendencies if your Ex in question tells you repeatedly to “leave them alone”.

However, interestingly enough, begging and pleading (as the main strategy to get someone back) does and has worked for many hundreds of couples out there, you just don’t hear about them that much because these people end up “back together” so quickly, they don’t get the same opportunity to moan and bitch about it on Forums and Message boards.

The problem is for those less fortunate, when someone breaks up with you, in their mind it is for an indefinite amount of time. If that’s the case, continuing to beg and plead for an ex’s forgiveness will only grate on their nerves more than anything else. For these types of break ups, you really need to get smarter and learn the psychological triggers that will work even on those exes who appear to have “moved on”.

I’ve written a book that delves more deeply into the psychological tactics of gaining back an ex, but the point of this rant is to give you the OK for those worrying about already making the mistakes of begging and pleading an ex back.

It is OK, it happens to EVERYONE (just about), it means you CARE and want to fight for your relationship. Nothing wrong with that!

For those for didn’t beg or plead, you have to ask yourself, did you care enough in the first place? Why did you react differently? Has it helped, made worse or had zero impact on your currently relationship situation?

Feel free to discuss this.

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